Men, how do you want to get seduced by a woman?

XxBigPimpJuniorxX · 2025-09-13T23:04:45+00:00

I knew this woman back in college where we clearly had tension, If I was ever at the bar with my friends and she arrived to the same one(with her own friend group) she would walk past me but run her nails softly across my lower back as she walked by. She never looked back at me even when I would turn to look at her, but she knew she made herself known. She did this enough that if I ever felt nails run across my back when I was out I just knew it was her. Shit like that if you know the guy in your circle will drive them nuts. We did wind up getting together years later so it definitely worked for me.

fifty50flip · 2025-09-13T22:41:35+00:00

I took a girl to a work party once. She gave me road head on the way home.

Nothing beats that.

Altruistic-Patient-8 · 2025-09-13T23:56:48+00:00

Please just be blunt. We dont like hints.

OrlandoLasso · 2025-09-13T23:12:51+00:00

Super direct if you're talking sexual. A girl asked me to feel her up, and it was really hot.
Also direct if it's for a relationship. "Hey, are you busy this weekend? We should go for supper."

jaymessim · 2025-09-13T23:11:51+00:00

If you’re talking winning a man over. Appreciate him, give him attention, support his dreams, complement him (men don’t get lots of compliments)

If you are asking about getting into his bed. The others are giving you examples.

smuttygio · 2025-09-14T01:59:19+00:00

Be direct and no mind games

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2025-09-14T01:16:40+00:00

Talk to me slowly in a low voice. Look me deep in the eye. Touch my arm. Give me a hug that lasts too long. Sit too close to me. After all that, and you feel the vibe sizzling, invite me to go somewhere. Could be anywhere, even just outside the door for a kiss in the dark...

SalamanderNo3872 · 2025-09-14T00:31:26+00:00

Tell him you will keep his belly full, his balls empty, and you will be his peace.

DreamShort3109 · 2025-09-13T23:19:39+00:00

I want to be appreciated and valued. Most women look down on men so if a woman appreciated and valued me It’d be hard not to fall for them.

IvanTheTerrible69 · 2025-09-13T23:50:22+00:00

Preferably, physical touch, whether that be grabbing my hand or putting their hand on my leg

knowone1313 · 2025-09-14T01:49:30+00:00

You should be playful. Sexy yet innocent. Do little things like drop something and bend over to pick it up looking back as you do so you can watch him notice you.

Men take attention when you call them by their name, especially if they're focused on something else. They also take attention when you touch them anywhere. It doesn't have to be sexual it could or maybe should be suggestive.

If your goal is to get him to ask you out, then maybe ask him if he's single.

I think these are the things you're looking for.

TorontoGuyinToronto · 2025-09-13T23:14:40+00:00

Depends on the guy. Me? Slap me on the face, then full tongue kiss my while putting your knee above my groin. Growl and say "you're not going to have a choice tonight."

Bonus point if you have goth-like makeup on. Then tie me up in a dungeon and spank me like a good boy.

That's, that's about it.

Setanta95 · 2025-09-14T01:22:07+00:00

Love bombing and tell me I'm beautiful and handsome

leitmotive · 2025-09-14T05:56:53+00:00

Green lights I look for:

Shows genuine interest in me as a person -- hobbies, plans, values, etc.
Breaks touch barrier, or reciprocates when it is broken. Men are touched so infrequently by women outside of hugs that repeated touch is a big, flashing green light. If a woman is repeatedly touching my arms or back or hands she is sending a very clear signal
Initiates or is receptive to the idea of seeing more of each other

There's nuance of course but generally two out of three is not enough. It can read as:

She's kind / touchy / trying to be inclusive
She likes attention but not you
She likes the idea of you but doesn't see the actual you

The other advice I would give women trying to seduce men is that most men want to take the lead, they just don't want to come across as predatory or pushy for trying. So, give them clear opportunities to take the lead.

Hyperto · 2025-09-14T08:04:34+00:00

You a woman, right?

Depends on the man, I suppose.

Myself, just be yourself and care at least a bit about actually getting to know me.

bravebreaker · 2025-09-13T23:45:50+00:00

This girl one time said “I love your big lips, they look so kissable”

Somehow I didn’t take that as a direct invitation to go in for a kiss. Luckily, I made up for it by making a move on her a day later so it all worked out after all. She was a coworker and we were working some event outside the office when she said that but ever since then I’ve tried to be more attentive when women drop hints like this where they don’t explicitly say what they want to do.

VelvetSinclair · 2025-09-14T08:09:44+00:00

Just be straightforward

Let us know how interested you are

Not with a secret language of eye contact and body language and bullshit

Like, just say it

OmenDamien · 2025-09-13T22:56:10+00:00

Bravely, funny and in a creative ways.

LxftHand · 2025-09-13T23:16:16+00:00

Support and intentionality fold me.

DDDqp · 2025-09-13T23:37:13+00:00

Frankly, being able to communicate. I am also from the Balkans, talking with someone from eastern Europe.

Right now i am thinking of just moving on, simply because of lack of communication (she is shy) and not happy with the level of effort.

So don't be shy to text first, put effort in communication. You are going to shit test without being aware, with limits it's fine, but too much results in loss of interest. Don't be shy to say what you want, if you aren't aligned, the sooner it's understood the better for both.

Show passion, show that you want them. Be supportive and try to actively know more about them.

AimlesslWander · 2025-09-13T23:38:03+00:00

Ask for a dance ask for a favorite foods and then offer to cook them, could ask if they think you look attractive in a certain outfit, talk about your interest with them such as art or music and ask for opinions and when you do so ask if they would like to listen to some of your music or see some of your art that's more slow build seduction but it works

Rhino3750ss · 2025-09-14T00:08:38+00:00

Offer to help him clean his house and show up in a French maid outfit. Simple yet effective.

franck_lapidus · 2025-09-13T23:10:02+00:00

Just ask me out

thenuttyhazlenut · 2025-09-14T00:28:54+00:00

Watch Orion Taraban's video 'drop the handkerchief '

Virtual_Ad_4817 · 2025-09-14T00:33:46+00:00

Mystery is always attractive. Depends on who you're going for though. Some men are more easily wooed than others.

AdministrativeCan139 · 2025-09-14T07:28:47+00:00

As long as you are clear that you are interested in me and like me that's seduction enough for me.

What does liking me mean? Same as it does for women (I think). You are interested in me as a person, you respect and value my opinion and decision, you try as well to make it work.

Too many women I met act like men should treat her as the centre of their world. Priorities her needs, her schedule and so on. That's so often that for most men that is the norm and they are even happy if they date a girl like that. So the bar is very low 😅

MrBubblepopper · 2025-09-14T08:38:14+00:00

Aks questions that matter to you. Id say that in the beginning you have to be a little blunt that you are into him. Many are really bad with hints and some of these will not engage unless they are quite sure since the wave of short content that made fun of men for approaching "wrong".

You can just say that you sre flirting with him in a side sentence like: XXX, well if I hadnt com over to flirt with you I wouldve never known YYY. Thats like the last resort when he doesnt get your hints

Dandys3107 · 2025-09-14T10:00:49+00:00

Be kind, stay cheerful, do your hair, wear good clothes, smell good, stay fit, make eye contact, talk to us, don't play unavailable.

ncolon2393 · 2025-09-14T11:12:07+00:00

At this point I don’t trust a woman until she’s comfortable enough to pass some gas around me.

Fair_Entrepreneur686 · 2025-09-14T08:59:53+00:00

Why would a woman need tips and tricks? It's extremely easy for women lmao.

Horneal · 2025-09-13T23:19:02+00:00

Actually almost like man seduce woman, just be confident, show initiative, be in the flow and most important be yourself. It's easy way, hard way is seduction not from attack or initiative, but from defense by building an active strategy for creating attraction in which the other person feels an irresistible urge to take the initiative

Cornichonsale · 2025-09-14T00:54:11+00:00

Have you tried to give men in friendzone a chance ?

Accomplished_Loss922 · 2025-09-14T02:39:51+00:00

Women are so out of touch it’s hilarious

theKnightWatchman44 · 2025-09-14T09:20:38+00:00

When she gives that submissive look then puts her hands down my trousers

Juiceb0ckz · 2025-09-14T13:21:27+00:00

i dont actually care how its done. i just wanna notice the effort and I wanna be able to feel the desire.

thisisnotme__-- · 2025-09-14T14:32:50+00:00

Tease me, play hard to get, while ensuring me that the chase will pay off.

Boring-Drawer-5173 · 2025-09-14T14:35:57+00:00

She just needs to come to me and start taking my clothes off.

jwcole1956 · 2025-09-14T15:44:54+00:00

With their eyes.

Single-Toe-1099 · 2025-09-14T15:53:29+00:00

Theres no way lmao sorry. Unless you want a pushover as a husband that u can totally control and he be oblivious to any of it, actually good and strong men wont go for you if your old, not that good looking and/or have a shitty personality

Kylearean · 2025-09-14T16:38:50+00:00

Things that have got me seduced:

(1) Sat at a hotel bar, ordering a beer: "I'll have the Blonde." (referring to a Guinness Blonde). Without missing a beat, a milf two seats down says "I'm a blonde." That was a fun night.

(2) A girl telling me about her Lord of the Rings fan theory, she was passionate and really into the details.

(3) Genuine compliments go a long way.

(4) A woman sitting next to me on the plane, with subtle but intentional physical contact. Legs touching, her hand on her leg, but also touching mine.

(5) Her: "Hey, we should hang out more."

(6) After admitting I hadn't had sex for a year or two: "I know I'm your doctor, but if you ever need anything, you can call me."

The7thRustySpoon · 2025-09-14T17:28:23+00:00

Just be direct. The same way a guy would be direct or bold with women

GrimSqueezer · 2025-09-14T19:22:49+00:00

Be sweet*, eye contact, big smile, lingering hugs. If all else fails, grab his hand and put it on your tits.

*edit: compliments, food gifts, pet name (e.g.“stud”, “handsome”)

Namelessence · 2025-09-14T19:22:52+00:00

34/M here. Most of the men that I assume you're looking for may be at a point in their life to where they have options. They are likely in solid financial standing and can support themselves and their lifestyle. If they are in their 30s or 40s and still single, then they have likely created a life for themselves to where they have achieved peace and low stress since they only have themselves to look after. They are mature enough to not fall for silly seductive tricks and will actually be very skeptical about you right out of the gate.

To make it extremely simple for you. I think it's a waste of time for you to pursue if they aren't already attracted to you physically. It's possible for you to pull off, but why waste your time on a maybe? If a guy is attracted to you, then all you need to do is prove to him that you're a net positive to his life and not a net negative. Forget "seduction." That's the type of stuff that works on younger men.

average___student · 2025-09-15T00:46:10+00:00

I’m a women here….and I need to know how to ride my man without my legs and thighs killing me so soon into it. I love riding him but I need better tips!😭😭

oldtimeyfol · 2025-09-15T07:37:55+00:00

Be yourself. That way the man knows who you are/what to expect from the jump. It helps YOU tremendously because men who wouldn't have an interest vet themselves.

habbo311 · 2025-09-15T14:23:55+00:00

Meet me at a bar, touch me a lot and whisper exactly you want to do sexually - in detail in my ear.

The worst is to be indirect and expect me to take the lead after dropping subtle hints

JazzleRazzle · 2025-09-18T14:50:53+00:00

Bring me food and a big smile.

PUA19124 · 2025-09-19T11:57:08+00:00

Have a net worth of 6 million dollars

Actual_Gap_2686 · 2025-09-14T01:11:51+00:00

Dated a Balkan girl who started following me halfway home from a weekly social thing (subway transit). She texted with real interest and eventually I came around. It was nice until I ended it and she told everyone I was mean, c’est la vie. Still, being pursued like that is a welcome change of pace for a man, and it puts you ahead of the competition.

AintGoinNEWhere · 2025-09-13T23:11:14+00:00

I’ve had a series of FWB’s and I always liked it when they wore something sexy, naughty and revealing for me whenever i was invited over to their house. The women i stuck with were the ones who knew. how to turn me on.

Another thing that drove me wild was maintaining a casual conversation with a woman while she wore something revealing because it tested my ability of remaining a gentleman even though im talking to an FWB with huge boobs & showing off her long cleavage line lol

AlastairXXL · 2025-09-14T06:52:52+00:00

Strip naked in public and start blowing him

BearScience8019 · 2025-09-15T08:08:40+00:00

As a woman I'd also like to know. Dear men, tell us more what is really important for you. Everything and everyone around was telling me since childhood that the men are chasers, hunters and I shouldn't do more than a smile and an eye contact. Only I'm still single in my 30s and reading the answers here have a feeling, the whole chasing thing is a myth.

ResentCourtship2099 · 2025-09-14T02:01:13+00:00

doesn't matter because women will never ever hit on guys or make advances on guys

BrainPlasticity · 2025-09-13T23:26:00+00:00

Be submissive and low maintenance, master the role of a housewife (learn to cook his favorite meals, keep the house clean and orderly etc) and be his exclusive personal high end escort (first guy is right about road heads).

ChallengeSilly2170 · 2025-09-14T04:15:11+00:00

First it "clicks". Second if her hudsband is away and she has a chance... well, that is the recipe....

Title	Men, how do you want to get seduced by a woman?
Author	Fluffy-Promotion6633
Upvotes	177
Comments	135
Date	September 13, 2025 10:39 PM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1ngawir/men_how_do_you_want_to_get_seduced_by_a_woman/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/men-how-do-you-want-to-get-seduced-by-a-woman.1561916 https://theredarchive.com/post/1561916

Comments