CMV: Men are not insecure they are just jealous of experienced women

this-is-very · 2025-12-07T20:46:59+00:00

Women do not want financially stable men because they're "good husband material that can provide security needed for a family", they're insecure that they're too financially incompetent to make enough and not having to worry about money.

I mean, it's easy to make bullshit arguments like that for the sake of it, do you have anything better to say?

autistic_cool_kid · 2025-12-07T19:41:48+00:00

I thought it was obvious that they were jealous cause they'd have sex with 1000 Stacey's in a heartbeat, which makes it also hypocritical

But the insecurity comes with the jealousy, you can't separate them.

corey____trevor · 2025-12-07T19:41:27+00:00

Jealousy and insecurity are pretty related concepts lol

Purge639ruler · 2025-12-07T20:29:22+00:00

Bro what??? What's the problem with men wanting someone who has the same experiences as him or lower???

Lift_and_Lurk · 2025-12-07T20:09:06+00:00

Bruh jealousy is a sign of insecurity. FFS!

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-12-07T21:55:14+00:00

Nope, it’s about “use”

Men use the word “disgusting” and compare it to cars and candy wrapping

eluusive · 2025-12-07T21:03:15+00:00

Not sure what this is about precisely. In my own life, I decided to ignore the advice to avoid experienced women and it only caused problems in my life. They thought very little about the significance of sex, and eventually started using it as a weapon in the relationship.

There are logical reasons to avoid women with a high body count.

Fan_Service_3703 · 2025-12-07T19:40:30+00:00

My GF's body count is higher than mine, maybe even twice as high. Never been a problem.

She still thinks me and my little todger are the best she's ever had.

This is only a problem if you make it such.

Darth-Hakujou · 2025-12-07T20:39:26+00:00

I don't have to marry a promiscuous woman. Periodt.

All actions has consequences.

PerfectInAllThings · 2025-12-07T19:44:29+00:00

Just don't want to deal with the trauma baggage she carries.

GGMcThroway · 2025-12-07T19:43:12+00:00

Men aren't insecure. They just think that they're the main characters of reality, and want the status trophy that is a partner who has never been with anyone else. How else could a man expect to be regarded as special? (Well- besides hard work; but that's soooooo difficuuuuult.)

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szclimber · 2025-12-07T20:08:25+00:00

Anecdotally, only 1 man in my entire social circle wanted a virgin gf/wife and he is very religious. All the other guys don't care unless her sexual experiences number is extremely high. Even then some guys don't mind this either. Most men want to be desired more sexually and are envious that women have this experience with little to no effort required.

MarioWilson122 · 2025-12-07T23:33:13+00:00

I wouldn’t say jealous, because it’s not like it takes skill for women to get experience in this area. Just moreso they might not want to be with a woman that has been around. Some men do indeed like taking women for a ride, that hasn’t had many others do the same already. Nothing wrong with that if that man has a preference. Same way that women do, for the million or so ones that they may have.

OkOutlandishness6370 · 2025-12-07T23:53:56+00:00

the type of person that goes and accrues a massive amount of experience... why? my average relationship duration is 10 years at this point. maybe i'm like TOO devoted a person or something, but i don't think the polar opposite of me is necessarily the best when it comes to the serious work of making a long term relationship work out.

i mean just mathematically speaking it's unlikely she was just unlucky and landed a bad partner dozens of times or whatever. and if she's just fundamentally unserious about relationships to the point of accruing dozens or hundreds of them then we're too different to be happy together.

No-Rough-7390 · 2025-12-08T00:10:00+00:00

I’m sure that’s the case for some men, but it’s also likely if a woman has a lot of experience and is still single that she doesn’t have the skills to keep a man.

The_Forgotten001 · 2025-12-08T00:13:57+00:00

You can’t ascribe insecurity to the collective when insecurity is measured by the subjective perception of the person.

But let’s go with your argument. What is insecurity? What is making them insecure specifically? And which men are you referring to? Your father?

Jealous and fear have to be defined. Jealous of what? What do they want but can’t get? Experience is intangible yet can still be learned from others. Define what you mean by experience especially experienced women. What do they experience or have experienced that would make a man jealous? Unless he’s gay it’s not the dick.

Independent-Mail-227 · 2025-12-08T00:16:36+00:00

What evidence do you have that is insecurity or jealousy?

DGenerationMC · 2025-12-08T01:35:46+00:00

...............is jealousy not a symptom of insecurity?

Interesting_Ant9947 · 2025-12-08T04:20:36+00:00

It’s not body count per se. It’s wanting a long term partner who shows discernment and self respect in whom they have sex with. Since it’s impossible to know all of dynamics of someone’s past relationships the number of partners serves as a proxy in the same way an interviewer would look skeptically at someone who had lots of jobs with very short employment periods.
It’s a valid concern.

Axis_Control · 2025-12-08T08:35:43+00:00

Men need to stop obsessing about "being the best sex" shes ever had

BanditNoble · 2025-12-08T11:40:01+00:00

If that was the case, you wouldn't have experienced men also saying they prefer someone with no experience, with lines like "a key that opens many locks is a master key, but a lock opened by many keys is a bad lock".

OffTheRedSand · 2025-12-07T20:20:02+00:00

then they should stop hating on them so much because it make them look insecure.

as a man if i went off on henry cavil and called him ugly and stupid and good for nothing, it's pretty clear im jealouse of him and moreover, probably *insecure* in my own skin.

it's totally justified for women to think men who don't like high n count women are insecure in some way at least in themselves.

KayRay1994 · 2025-12-07T20:29:45+00:00

“Also jealous and fear because of their own lack of experience” - this is literally insecurity lol

Feeling_Ad_1034 · 2025-12-07T20:04:43+00:00

Question: What is the significant distinction between these 2 reasons? Jealous of other dudes vs Insecure? They seem basically the same to me.

Unhappy_Offer_1822 · 2025-12-07T20:06:43+00:00

i mean it could be either but it is generally driven by a need to feel significant and fear

Title	CMV: Men are not insecure they are just jealous of experienced women
Author	birju1996
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Comments	86
Date	December 7, 2025 7:34 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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