Bullet points for clarity:

My wife asked for a divorce on Feb 20th. We agreed on one thing, not to bring our dates home. Our home was natural territory. She agreed.

1 week later she’s accidentally texts me that Dave was going to be late . I confront here about this. She insists he was “just a friend”. She doesn’t come home and She lies to me saying she was at a friend’s house. I have proof she wasn’t, but I fact at a hotel that same night.

I look over our ATT bill and noticed she started having an affair with him 3 weeks before she asked for the divorce.

A few weeks later, she spends the night out again.

I asked her when she got home where she was. She was honest and said she went to a movie and then got a hotel. I asked her if Dave was there and she said yes. Mind you, this is LESS than a month after asking for the divorce. She continues to claim they are just friends, and I call her in her BS. Even as “just friends” he’s a FWB so that’s a relationship. After some back and forth she apologized for lying and agreed to be 100% truthful going forward if I asked a question.

She goes out last night, gets drunk and he drives her home also drunk. She goes to the garage, opens the door and covers the smart garage camera. She comes inside and closes the garage. This Dave guy walks past her (this is why she covered the camera) through the bushes as to not be in view of the garage camera and whispers “hurry up” as he walk to my front door—-which also has a camera.

She lets him in and closes the door.

I can see part of his car parked in front of the house.

I’m on a business trip literally across the county when I get notice there was someone at the door.

I look at the footage and call her. I asked if Dave was there. She lies to me and said he was just dropping her off and he left, but left through the backyard to avoid the cameras. I call her on her BS and said I can still see his car parked in front of the house. She tried to deflect again when I told her that was BS because if he was just dropping her off to make sure she got home ok, he would have driven off once she closed the garage instead of walking to the front door where she let him in, and he never left.

She finally admits she lied and he spent the night. She said “you’re not home, why does it matter?”. I reminded her of our agreement. I told her he needs to leave NOW and never come back. She said he was just about to leave anyway. 45 mins later I see him leave through the front door.

I’m beyond livid. She threw away our marriage for some pot belly nerd who looks like he just won the lottery because my wife is good looking and has a good job. I don’t blame him, I blame her.

When I get home today I’m kicking her off all my credit cards ( I had agreed to keep her on there because it really helps her credit), I’m separating our money into a different account she doesn’t have access to (we pay into our joint account still to cover bills), and I’m filling for divorce (she hasn’t yet so we can pay off the bills first).