Red-pill men, is it wrong for a woman to dress sexily to attract more potential partners?

wtknight · 2026-04-04T16:46:57+00:00

Removed. No advice posts.

ViolentShallot · 2026-04-04T11:34:14+00:00

So... let's take a bit of a deeper look at what you're saying. Rephrase it a bit.

You are asking if it's a good idea to spend time, emotional energy, ETC, on the kind of men that only see you as a potential sexual partner when you dress slutty and you signal you're easy -whether you are or not-

Morally, you're in the clear.

Now, whether that's a good idea...

Again. You are aiming for the men whose decision hinges on "how easy she looks". Then you add on top of it that you use it to be "more choosy". So you filter in those whose motivation is "easy" and then you pick the ones that you consider the most attractive (further filtering in those who have better looking options).

If your intention is to get fucked by the hottest possible man you can get, your approach is great.

If your intention is to find someone that will commit to you, or treat you good, you're filtering for the wrong traits.

The only moment where you'd cross a moral line is if you optimize your strategy for fuckboys, and then complain about the lack of good men willing to be sincere with you, and remain faithful to you. That would be like a man flashing his money to get dates and then saying all women are gold diggers.

Popeoath · 2026-04-04T09:45:50+00:00

My only issue is don't do this then act surprised about pump and dumps.

Heavily marketed sexuality + high standards = you'll mainly be dealing with popular guys who just want to bang.

No-Rough-7390 · 2026-04-04T09:53:08+00:00

If they’re doing it for me, it’s all good.

anonymousppd123123 · 2026-04-04T11:49:07+00:00

I've been fat (but not obese) since the end of COVID

Its wrong for you to do it

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Barely-moral · 2026-04-04T10:36:52+00:00

I believe you have only one life so use any tool you want to get what you want from it.

That being said, since you only have one life be careful about the consequences of your actions. You will have to deal with them.

If a course of action leads you to a life you won't regret in your death bed go ahead. If a course of action leads you astray from that, avoid it.

DzejSiDi · 2026-04-04T11:05:15+00:00

We're not talibans.

if I only try to charm men through my wits, humour and intelligence (that are, no doubt, amazing!), most men will friend-zone me and those who approach me tend to be okay but not very interesting.

Indeed, personality is crucial in the long run, but you need to "bait the hook" first.

Guys influenced by the Red Pill react very negatively to that, they'll tell me that I shouldn't be dressed like a slut

They shouldn't react very negatively. At the same time, you're being judged by how you look/dress (we all are) and you should not go full trashy/prostitute when it comes to outfit. Yes, it is possible to be "tastefully sexy", that's your sweet spot.

SeemedGood · 2026-04-04T15:55:31+00:00

It’s not wrong at all if you’re just looking for casual sex partners. It will almost certainly help with that.

If you’re looking for LTR partners it is a very poor strategy indeed.

Sounds a bit like you’re Ferrari shopping on a Hyundai budget - perhaps with the idea that if you can find dealer who’ll allow you to test drive a Ferrari, you’ll get lucky enough to win the lottery on that same day. You may well eventually find a Ferrari for the price of a new Hyundai, but at best you’ll end up with an older less desirable and very problematic Ferrari that never runs correctly and costs you your annual income to run at all.

When I was a teenager, I desperately wanted a Ferrari as well. I had posters of them on my wall. I worked very hard to put myself in a position where I could buy pretty much any car I wanted, but in doing so discovered that I actually didn’t really want a Ferrari at all. After test driving a couple and watching friends buy them it became clear to me that they were more about flash than substance, massively impractical, no more (and sometimes less) fun to drive than a nice Porsche, and generally a waste of money unless you need the ego boost from being seen in one. I bought a nice Porsche, and ultimately two of my friends with Ferraris did too.

If you are looking for something other than a series of casual sex partners a better strategy would be to simultaneously eliminate your desire to drive a Ferrari while earning enough to comfortably buy a nice used Lexus instead. This will require you to be introspective, objectively self observant, and objectively self critical in order to garner control over and eliminate your silly subconscious desires that are ultimately quite hollow and unfulfilling (for example my desire to be seen driving a Ferrari).

abaxeron · 2026-04-04T08:07:18+00:00

I am against Sharia in all forms; just don't cosplay a clicky fruity traffic light at my workplace. I try to work there.

throwaway73737828 · 2026-04-04T08:18:01+00:00

Dont do it, if you cant get attention without showing a lot of skin, you dont have a high tier body fat - weight - body yet. First you gotta aim to get at minimum 58 kg. If you aint 58 kgs dont even think abt getting attention and shit. First you need to fix your body. Its better for you this way, bcuz in the end you dont need to try hard or change what you wear to get attention.

Dont get used to showing a lot of skin as well, if you get lucky and get married one day, and you still wear shit like that, it aint good for marriage. You are conditioning yourself to “Im not enough till I get x amount of attention”. If you still try hard to get attention from other men thats not a good sign. If you are seeking to get attention while you are married its wrong, lf the attention comes naturally, without doing shit, then thats okay.

Title	Red-pill men, is it wrong for a woman to dress sexily to attract more potential partners?
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Date	April 4, 2026 7:33 AM UTC (3 months ago)
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