I’ve found over the years that if a woman won’t put effort and equal amounts of time and money into the dating process she is won’t do any different into the relationship.

I recently read where women are asking men to court or date them for several months before sex for the men to prove their intentions are honest and really want a relationship.

When I’ve met these women I asked them since they want me to prove my intentions they need to do the same with theirs by paying half for the dates and what ever entertainment we do. When I ask this they go ballistic and get furious.

I try and explain to them they want me to take all the risk, put in all the effort planning dates and such, and put in all the money but they have zero risk.

After two months they can just say I’m not feeling it and walk off and you are out your time and money.

Honestly I feel this is just a reboot of the classic “friends first” way women have used men in the past.

I’ve heard women try and say value is different for women and it shouldn’t be about the money. But at the end of the day it is.

Money is the universal way for both sides to show they are serious and their intentions are honest.

Too many woman want a man to put in all risk effort and work and that won’t ever change. As soon as you stop she will give classics I want a divorce because you are not making me happy anymore.

So guys if you want to save yourself sometime and money you need to tell them upfront you want them to put in the same amount of effort.

If they won’t -pay half on dates -talk on the phone before y’all meet (voice not text) - plan some of the dates - ask questions and keep the conversation going.

Don’t waste your time on them.