Q4W: Would you have casual sex with a virgin man?

RockinSocksII · 2018-10-11T00:38:34+00:00

If he's randomly disclosing this information, then he's obviously expecting some sort of guidance / experience, so no. Otherwise, if he just happens to be a virgin, then sure.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2018-10-10T23:46:47+00:00

why is he TELLING me hes a virgin?
if hes fuckable hes fuckable, i cant see how a man id find fuckable stayed a virgin that long

TheChemist158 · 2018-10-10T23:47:42+00:00

I wouldn't want to have casual sex with anyone, but I'm not put off by virgins at all.

Wobbles8steve · 2018-10-11T04:01:18+00:00

I would. Always had a lot of sympathy for guys who were a bit older and virgins. Though i know a lot of the time its due to the guy having something going on with him that prevents it, (social awkwardness, not conventionally attractive, overweight etc) i still think its unfair for them to not get to experience it yet and would find it fun to provide someone their first time. As long as there's not something really wrong like he's an ass or unclean, anything like that.

I've been with 2 virgins and while its quick and unsatisfying for me, their reaction is worth it. Also their willingness to learn.

BUT, it may just be a thing for me. Always found nerdy guys really attractive and the thought of taking a guy like that and showing him the ropes turns me on. So personally yes, but definitely not speaking on behalf of most women.

Also think itd be nicer to have known the person for a little bit rather than a random pick up.

SpaceWhiskey · 2018-10-11T00:11:15+00:00

Possibly? It really depends on the guy and other factors. Also how much of a big deal the virginity thing is to him. If he’s not making it a big deal and has at least some kind of clue, probably, especially if he’s good looking and there’s chemistry there.

If it’s something he saw as a big deal however I’d be hesitant to do it in a casual situation, just because it’s potentially a scenario where the you can easily get suckered into being this stranger’s unpaid therapist. If it’s something super important to him that he wants to talk about and stuff I’d be more open to that in a relationship, but probably not with some guy I’m just trying to get some good dick from lol. Who knows, it could be hot. Really depends on the guy and the vibe.

edit: Somewhere between serious relationship and ONS with a stranger, I would be open to having sex with a virgin guy friend who just wants to lose the damn thing already with someone he trusts. It would have to be a really specific aligning of the stars though, he’d need to be mature enough to not get weird afterwards. Someone who ticks all those boxes (attracted to each other, cool and well adjusted, on the same page with all the conditions) would probably be relationship material, so if he wasn’t interested in that we’d also both need to be okay with doing something that was a big deal for him that wouldn’t turn into anything. There are countless ways it could go bad. But in an ideal situation, yes, I’d do that.

RadChadswell · 2018-10-11T00:37:27+00:00

Why casual sex specifically? What if I am in love with him and want a relationship?

Nodoxxintoxin · 2018-10-11T02:14:56+00:00

First of all, almost every time I have first had sex with someone, it’s been casual sex. My 7 year relationship was with a 21 year old Virgin, and the first time we had sex it was “casual sex”.

Fwiw, I didn’t find out until later and honestly couldn’t tell. But from what I read on here, I am probably more comfortable being sexually dominant than most women anyway.

Yeah, sex with a Virgin is nbd. If he gets to be late twenties, early thirties it wouldn’t specifically be a lack of experience but more WHY he was still a Virgin that would make me wonder

321PK · 2018-10-10T23:44:21+00:00

If I was single and he was hot and fun and not a stranger and smelled great and most importantly I did not know he was a virgin, then yes.

[deleted] · 2018-10-11T01:48:44+00:00

If he is pausing mid hook up (before sex) that he is a virgin, I am no longer interested.

If I find out after the fact? Eh, whatever, don't care.

KikiYuyu · 2018-10-11T00:03:50+00:00

I wouldn't with anyone, period. lol

shoup88 · 2018-10-11T01:34:24+00:00

I would rather not know. I’m having a hard time envisioning a scenario where I would say yes to a virgin at my age. No thank you.

immaculacy · 2018-10-11T03:57:50+00:00

Virgin men are husband material. Not for one night stands or short relationships.

monsterhug · 2018-10-11T04:58:31+00:00

Of course I would. Assuming he was like not repulsive.

[deleted] · 2018-10-11T08:37:04+00:00

I would never have casual sex with any man.

Sophiatab · 2018-10-11T13:35:45+00:00

No, I'm religious. I wouldn't have casual sex with anybody. Back when I was single and looking for a partner I would have married a virgin man If I could have found one.

a_vanillae · 2018-10-11T14:40:55+00:00

In a different situation, yes, I could absolutely see myself being Captain Save-An-Incel. Probably not for healthiest reasons either. As for the situation, it would probably start off casual and evolve (or devolve) into me catching feels.

Feyra · 2018-10-11T16:37:39+00:00

Yes, of course.

The whole concept of virginity saying something other than "hasn't yet had sex" is stupid. I enjoy teaching dudes how to please me, and virgins are easier to teach. Initially it's awkward, as is expected, but the result is overall more pleasing than two randos bumping uglies because there's more of a personal connection.

WhatIsTheMeaningHere · 2018-10-11T00:25:56+00:00

No dear God no. You never know who the pussy is too powerful for and then you're left with anything from a pathetic puppy begging for more sex to a nutty stalker. I'm guessing it's too powerful for a 23yr old virgin, hard pass.

Eartherry · 2018-10-11T01:50:10+00:00

I have, actually. It made me feel like crap. It just seemed wrong. His first time should be with someone that sees him for more than a penis with legs.

Shakturi101 · 2018-10-11T04:05:50+00:00

As a 23 year old virgin/incel male, this is making me want to go fuck a hooker a couple of times before even trying for sex. Seems like it'd probably be a better option to get a little experience as most girls are going to be expecting a lot at this point.

azngirl7689 · 2018-10-11T00:01:13+00:00

I mean I would but I’m also a late bloomer. We would be on the same level experience wise basically...

Pleasant-ryy · 2018-10-11T02:23:43+00:00

Not if he's insecure about it, which I'd guess he might be if he felt the need to tell me. If he seems distressed about it, I'd worry that he's just trying to hook up with me to lose his virginity and that it's not as much about feeling a connection (as temporary as it is when having casual sex)

Young_Oryx · 2018-10-11T03:09:38+00:00

For the autists in the crowd: we're going to assume this hypothetical man is attractive for the duration of my reply.

Depends on his personality. If it's a goody-goody who's innocent and shy about sex things, then yes. I always liked the idea of corrupting those door-to-door Mormon types.

[deleted] · 2018-10-11T05:09:37+00:00

When I think of “virgin” of either gender, I think of someone who is timid, shy, and very awkward. This is more unattractive in men than what is in women but it’s still unattractive across the board. For me, the “virgin” label is not unattractive in itself; it’s the behaviors that virgins are presumed to have that are.

It’s deeply unattractive when I feel that I am more dominant than a man. Assuming that a virgin was not crippling with anxiety and that I was physically attracted to him and liked him, it would be no different to me considering casual sex with any other guy.

killallthenarcs · 2018-10-11T10:03:29+00:00

I'm not one for casual sex. I especially would never make a casual approach to someone who I think has emotional needs that are greater than usual.

[deleted] · 2018-10-11T13:36:59+00:00

Yes of course!

Why? Because I want to blow his mind and watch his face :) I think it’s hot. Even if it’s casual he’ll remember me his whole life. I’m very happy to lead him through it too because I love being on top.

lalabats · 2018-10-11T01:13:09+00:00

I would never have casual sex with anyone. Interestingly, I do have a male friend who is 24, with a good professional career and is still a virgin.

[deleted] · 2018-10-11T06:05:10+00:00

This actually happened to me lol. Right as we were getting undressed this guy told me "by the way, this is my first time". We were both about 22 I guess. It was a total turn off and things stopped right there. I felt kinda bad rejecting him at the last minute, but I didn't want to be his teacher.

[deleted] · 2018-10-11T07:07:39+00:00

No. I would not interested in any guy in my age range that is still a virgin.

CatchPhraze · 2018-10-11T02:37:43+00:00

Not probably. The only upside to casual sex is good sex. A virgin guy is a poor bet for great sex.

praisethesun799 · 2018-10-12T20:27:44+00:00

I meant you're too young and too inexperienced to know what you're talking about , and you're claims about biology and "high value "people are complete hogwash. Now shoo shoo , go outside a bit

philomexa · 2018-10-11T01:56:41+00:00

The only way I could see this working is if I had a radically different attitude towards casual sex, ands I was doing it as a favour for an extremely well vetted close, personal friend (like grew up together kinda friend).

Otherwise hell to the no.

yasee · 2018-10-11T01:57:30+00:00

is he hot?

meomeowmeoww · 2018-10-11T02:37:52+00:00

Why on Earth would i have confirmed shit sex over a dildo/vibrator at home?

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Title	Q4W: Would you have casual sex with a virgin man?
Author	RadChadswell
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Date	October 10, 2018 11:41 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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