Amazon Video Series: Catastrophe: A Realistic Portrayal of a Couple's Sex Life

mgtow_1 · 2018-06-20T07:11:49+00:00

I wouldn't want maintenance sex if it was given. Rather take care of it myself.

Aaren_Augustine · 2018-06-20T06:41:43+00:00

Most women think or work this way and if the feelz aren' there...its a chore. With my three kids, this happened nearly every time. Newborns are a shit deal all around. And how a couple get back on the saddle says a lot more of a woman's mindset than a mans; being exhausted gatekeepers and whatnot

But I get why TRP dudes wouldn't touch this with a ten foot pole.

Is maintenance sex so wrong to women?

I think it's up to the guy in what he's willing to put up with. Look at his options - either he's a asshole for pointing out she's not keeping up with his libido or he's the beta shmuck who lets her take rain check after raincheck.

That's why I say this whole feminist thing of 'its my body' is so ridiculous. Of course it is, but you've just locked down a dude who's supposed to be fucking just you and now you are shutting that shit down.

philomexa · 2018-06-20T12:17:53+00:00

There are several things that can get in the way of a regular sex life (small children, hormones, body/mental issues) but I think for most average couples it boils down to low key resentment (not enough to blow up a marriage, but enough to turn off the vulnerability aspect of intimacy) and the woman doing the math and concluding its not worth her time to lay back and let some blob shape of an average man joylessly rut at her for 15-20 minutes; he comes, but she's left dry, sore, and annoyed.

She could be folding laundry, catching up on Instagram, food prepping for the week, applying a clay mask, give her self a pedicure, tidying up clutter, balancing the checkbook, snapchatting the dog, reading, etc.

All these activities probably give her a bigger dopamine hit than subjecting herself to being an ejaculate depository for a whiny mediocre man.

That's why she wants to feel like having sex; she wants to be turned on enough that the mental math, resentment, chores, children, bills, nagging aches, whatever, cease to exist. But most men don't care or want to be physically attractive and emotionally in tune to turn her on beyond the basic requirements (and even then most skimp out and reach for the lube), they just want to nut and get on with their day.

So here we are; wives who can't be bothered and men pouting on the internet with their impotent dicks in their hands.

washington_breadstix · 2018-06-20T07:49:12+00:00

Is maintenance sex so wrong to women?

Why would you want to have sex with someone who clearly isn't into it? In those situations, it seems like lack of sex isn't the problem. It's lack of desire. He doesn't just want his wife to fuck him. He wants his wife to want to fuck him.

PuleaSpataru69 · 2018-06-20T07:42:24+00:00

It has nothing to do with having babies or not. My ex brother in law and his wife have been together for 12 years and dont have kids. In the beginning she trapped him by giving him sex all the time, paying for hotels and all that. After 2 years together she started cheating on him and cheats on him constantly. She rarely has sex with him, and I am sure it's shit when she does. I am sure all the Chads she has on the side get amazing sex.

These women trap betas with sex because these guys never experienced it and once they're trapped they have no reason to have sex with them anymore.

I have sex with my husband everyday because I think he is ridiculously hot. I am extremly attracted to him. I desire him because I see him as a prize, and not some loser I settled for that is lucky to have me.

goatismycopilot · 2018-06-20T18:55:35+00:00

A couple of years ago on an unusually quiet day a colleague gave me this spontaneous marital confession regarding struggles. I actually lied to her about when and where I was eating lunch I wanted some peace and quiet. I was not in the mood to offer free goat therapy. The curse of looking like a bland soccer mom is everybody gets this weird idea I want to hear their shit. She said blah blah blah blah. I said are you still having sex? She was all no because blah blah blah. I said wait so when did you guys last XYZ. When she told me I was like girl you go git you one of them deeevorce lawyers because your marriage is dead. She busted away crying got divorced a year later fired six months later for being sketchy never spoke to me again after that.

newName543456 · 2018-06-20T22:50:50+00:00

If woman wants to be left alone, respect her wish and leave her alone. For good actually.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2018-06-20T15:17:32+00:00

Is maintenance sex so wrong to women?

no, it is wrong to men now. if men dont get screaming hysterical brazzers porn sex every single time they want to commit suicide and go to MRP

PennnyLame · 2018-06-20T08:03:02+00:00

I love that show!!

We had a thread about avoiding dead bedrooms awhile back.

I think it’s tough to prioritize time for sex when you have small children and I think it’s compounded by the characters lacking regular physical affection. While I laugh at their banter, I have a much gentler and kinder relationship with more hugs and kisses which helps me feel more connected to my husband outside sex. I don’t feel the urge to bat away his advances because he is affectionate and touching is the norm.

I am repulsed by “maintenance sex” as a knee jerk reaction and because I think it would be painful. If I really am not feeling sex but wanna love him up or know we’ll be apart for some time, I’ll just give him a blowjob. Maybe I’ll get in the mood, if not he’ll give me compliments.

azngirl7689 · 2018-06-20T11:54:37+00:00

The first year after a baby is born is such a shit show hormonally and otherwise. Any man who actually did their research would leave their wife alone and let her come to him.

killallthenarcs · 2018-06-20T13:08:53+00:00

If I use sex to show my man that everything is OK in our relationship and my life, then I'm never going to get what I need. He will ignore everything I say to him and pay attention to what he feels my actions are showing him. Better he have a wank and a grumble, at least then we're on the same page.

LowCreddit · 2018-06-20T21:03:46+00:00

It's because women have little to no empathy for men that aren't their children or the man they are currently lusting after.

Bear-With-Bit · 2018-06-20T10:48:25+00:00

I envy women because when they're experiencing something intense, they are fucking feeling it (number here greater than 100)%. Sex, food, puppies, babies, family, etc. I don't think I've ever been half as consumed with emotion as some women I've seen eating a piece of dark chocolate.

My point is maintenance sex for women can be worse than Hitler because emotion is truth, emotion is reality, emotion is everything for women. If she's not feeling it but I'm still pumping inside her, that nanosecond difference in emotion just made me a rapist.

This is why I will never marry nor never live with a woman. Fuck maintenance sex. It's horrible for everyone.

LewisCross · 2018-06-20T14:19:28+00:00

Women are marrying men they are not sexually attracted to, or lose attraction to (can't decide which one this is). This is just art imitating life.

And then after the kid(s) is/are born, she loses interest.

When this happens, wife, you have three choices:

1) Fuck him anyway. That's your job. DO IT. Fucking DO YOUR JOB.

2) Don't complain when he has sex with other women.

3) Divorce him.

As we are so often reminded here at PPD, historically, it was marriage, have kids, then wife says no more sex. Husband either puts up with it, goes to hookers, or gets a sidepiece. Wife suspects or knows this, but doesn't say anything. An "understanding" develops.

Fast forward to present day. Husband/wife marry; unattracted or not very attracted wife lures, tricks and harasses beta bux into marriage with frequent sex. Immediately after marriage/childbirth, wife shuts off sex. Yet at the same time, says "I am your WIFE. I am the ONLY person you get to fuck."

Wives, once again, working to have it both ways.

No. Fuck that bullshit.

If you are going to insist on being your husband's sole sexual outlet, then you need to take care of that need. And if you can't or wont, then do not complain when he goes out and gets it elsewhere. Period. End of discussion. Full stop.

You don't get to have it both ways. Either you take care of his sexual need, or he gets it somewhere else or divorces your ass. Take your pick.

I don't give a quantum of a fuck that you're not attracted to him now, or that you don't feel like it, or that you're depressed, or that any number of other things is going on. You made promises. You took vows. You have obligations. Carry out your obligations, or relieve him of his. The end, Amen. Either do your job, or stand aside and let someone else do it.

says_harsh_things · 2018-06-20T08:42:39+00:00

A woman does not have any obligation to a man, no matter how desperate he is. Yes, this is coming from a red piller. Having said that, I do empathize with a man, but it is his personal responsibility to be an attractive man.

A woman has no obligation to satisfy a man's needs. A man has no obligation to satisfy a woman's needs. This is the core principle of liberalism.

[deleted] · 2018-06-20T10:36:57+00:00

The unloved feeling he must have.

Tedesche · 2018-06-20T13:52:42+00:00

maintenance sex

I think that’s a horrible term and I’m not much a fan of the concept either. No one should feel obligated to have sex if they don’t feel like it.

That being said, sex is a reasonable thing for anyone to expect in reasonable quantities from a spouse or significant other. I understand how many things can conspire to reduce a person’s libido, but denying your partner sex for a long time will frustrate your partner, and it’s unreasonable to expect them to stay with you if you refuse to put out.

The only exception I can think of would be sexual disorders, like erectile dysfunction or female orgasmic disorder. In those cases, the cause of the disinterest is theoretically biological in nature, and does not represent an actual loss of sexual interest in one’s partner, because the afflicted still wishes they could enjoy sex, they just can’t.

kelpie_mayo · 2018-06-20T09:00:41+00:00

Much of the time, I don't feel like cooking meals for my family, but I do it anyway AND make an effort. Some of those times I even begin to enjoy the process.

I wouldn't say preparing meals and sex are equivalent; one is a duty to the family, a duty the family wouldn't survive without. The other is an act that both parties taking part are supposed to enjoy.

Often both the man and woman contribute to household duties, and even today, women tend to contribute more. Nobody likes housework; I promise you no woman 'feels like' doing housework, but they do it anyway because it's something that needs to be done. Sex is at the back of a woman's mind because nobody's survival hinges on it - at least, that's what it seems like to her.

I'm not saying it's not disappointing for the husband when the wife doesn't 'feel like it', or that he doesn't deserve sex; I'm saying that when the wife is too tired to have sex, it's not something that's really within her control, so it's not something to hold against her.

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Gamer_Jack_Gameson · 2018-06-20T09:57:57+00:00

If your wife/girlfriend isn't feeling it then that's on you. You have to elicit desire in her. Part of the problem lies with her, but it's not a part of the problem she has any control over. Asking her to have sex to fulfill your need is wrong. If things aren't going well then step your game up. Sometimes the attraction just isn't there, but that's a different discussion.

Traz_Onmale · 2018-06-20T15:12:50+00:00

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Title	Amazon Video Series: Catastrophe: A Realistic Portrayal of a Couple's Sex Life
Author	EducationalDentist
Upvotes	21
Comments	349
Date	June 20, 2018 6:08 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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