What do men misunderstand about women the most? What do women misunderstand about men the most?

DareyFathom · 2018-05-04T23:12:45+00:00

Men don't understand how many options women have. Women don't understand how taxing it is on men to be forced to initiate everything with women.

hammerhaunts · 2018-05-04T22:45:30+00:00

Women don't understand that having another man's child is a turn off

wtknight · 2018-05-05T00:55:19+00:00

I think that both genders misunderstand how much their individual personalities can vary. I see it from both men and women. Men tend to think these days that either all women actually want casual sex with Chads, or that all women are wonderful beings that would never mistreat them. Women tend to think that all men are either potential sex criminals, or that all men are just like them and want to settle down into monogamous dream relationships. Instead, both men and women vary greatly and should be judged on an individual basis without having to use some template to prejudge them.

mistercheeez-o____O- · 2018-05-04T22:55:22+00:00

What do men misunderstand about women the most?

Women are less fragile than we think.

What do women misunderstand about men the most?

Men speak better (more openly) side to side than face to face.

wub1234 · 2018-05-05T00:54:22+00:00

Women don't understand how much men get rejected, particularly nowadays.

Women also don't tend to understand IMO that various signifiers of status have a massive impact on how women perceive you.

It would be easier to list what men understand about women, which is basically nothing.

Equalina · 2018-05-05T06:39:46+00:00

Men misunderstand the way attraction works for women, judging by many comments around here. They seem to believe it works the same as it does for men, which I think is generally not the case.

Women misunderstand men’s difficulty in approaching and initiating romantic relationships and/or sex. We see it too much from our perspective at times where it is relatively easy. We misunderstand how much men genuinely want to be desired - as much as women do.

I also think both men and women view men as more emotionally tough than they really here. The most die hard romantics I know and know of are male - they may project less insecurity and fragility than women, but when relationships end, generally I see men take it harder and get more emotionally torn up by it. Conversely, men think women are more emotionally fragile than they really are - which is why they seem so genuinely shocked and hurt when the ‘women are wonderful’ myth is shattered for them.

Electra_Cute · 2018-05-04T22:46:17+00:00

I think men mostly misunderstand how women's "sexuality" works so to speak, and they often project their own sexuality onto women. I think a lot of the time women misunderstand how men view them and they think men(and other women sometimes) look at them the way look at themselves. I just hyper-focus on all of my physical imperfections(my eyes are a bit uneven and I dislike the shape of my nose), and I do not think men do that to that extent.

cxj · 2018-05-05T06:02:48+00:00

Women misunderstand, or underestimate, how heavily men’s romantic interest revolves around the sex act itself as its own reward, and how much attraction really is physical. Relationships very heavily revolve arou d men wanting a physically attractive female body to fuck.

So many times I hear or read shit like “ugh they just like young girls to manipulate them/Show off to their friends” and that may be true but is dwarfed in comparison to raw physical urges

carefreevermillion · 2018-05-05T13:42:27+00:00

Women misunderstand how important sex is to men, and that men have more moods than desperate for sex. Perhaps they would notice the latter if they were more satisfying when it comes to the former.

rainisthelife · 2018-05-05T01:11:50+00:00

If my balls are empty and my belly is full, there's not much more I need from a relationship.

quicklogaccount · 2018-05-05T02:30:17+00:00

One doesn't understand that some virtues they have in high account are absolutely worthless or neutral for the other.

It's hard to change lens when I need to.

HossMcDank · 2018-05-05T09:00:30+00:00

Men don't understand that a given woman has no interest in 99%+ of men.

Women don't understand that men being attracted to them is not seeing them as an object.

WolfgangBreitweit · 2018-05-05T14:09:46+00:00

Women and men think, that they should understand each other.

This is a misconception. There is no need for mutual understanding. We had 3 million years of time. Didn’t work out. If understanding would be vital to our species, we would long be extinct.

Men and women don’t function in the same way. Everything aside from sex should be handled within gender groups.

ganso_bum · 2018-05-05T16:40:03+00:00

Women think most men have the exact same sexual options they do and don't understand that most men actually don't have a lot of orbiters knocking at the door waiting to give them free shit in exchange for it.

Men misunderstand that women don't really mean what they say, they're just saying what's socially acceptable because they're programmed to be more socially minded. Taking women literally is a huge mistake.

Five_Decades · 2018-05-06T13:34:33+00:00

I think women overestimate how much we think about sex. The myth that we think about it every 7 seconds isn't true. Even among teenage boys it isn't that intense.

Plus the older you get, the less important it becomes. We still think about it, but usually only a few times a day.

reluctantly_red · 2018-05-05T00:15:07+00:00

That women don't actually understand themselves. That when a woman says she's loyal and will be there for the people she loves she doesn't understand that this is not actually true. With regard to her man this is only true so long as he remains her best option. If his star fades (or her's rises) she won't be loyal and she won't be there for him (or more accurately he'll have been excised from her life).

When men buy into the women are wonderful myth and actually think they can rely on a woman's promises of loyalty, fidelity, and commitment they have completely misunderstood the female of the species.

AutoModerator · 2018-05-04T22:41:17+00:00

Attention!

You can post off topic/jokes/puns as a comment to this Automoderator message.
For "CMV" and "Question for X" Threads: Parent comments that aren't from the target group will be removed, along with their child replies.
If you want to agree with OP instead of challenging their view or if the question is not targeted at you, post it as an answer to this comment.
OP you can choose your own flair according to these guidelines., just press Flair under your post!

Thanks for your cooperation and enjoy the discussion!

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

decoy88 · 2018-05-05T01:07:17+00:00

For a long long time I did not understand how they got pee all over the toilet. Then a few years ago a male friend explained that the hole in the penis does not open without a spurt of pee spraying everywhere. I did not know that.

PPD-Angel · 2018-05-06T01:24:20+00:00

[removed]

[deleted] · 2018-05-08T20:29:40+00:00

most men and women assume the opposite sex values in them what they value in the opposite sex, and they advertise themselves accordingly

e.g. men focus way more on their looks than they need to and women focus way too much on looking driven and successful and witty than they need to

[deleted] · 2018-05-05T16:03:01+00:00

[deleted]

Title	What do men misunderstand about women the most? What do women misunderstand about men the most?
Author	solorathain
Upvotes	14
Comments	237
Date	May 4, 2018 10:41 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/8h38xb/what_do_men_misunderstand_about_women_the_most/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/PurplePillDebate/what-do-men-misunderstand-about-women-the-most.262614 https://theredarchive.com/post/262614

Comments