Q4M: Would you feel you were sexually harassed in the following scenario?

alreadyredschool · 2017-12-05T17:43:42+00:00

Would this scenario, make you feel sex~~uall~~y ~~harassed, violated, or uncomfortable~~ in anyway?

Yes.

Scarlet is a tiny women, I guess I could manage to defeat 100 of her in a thunderdome. You know if a guy locks the door there is some implication of "resistance is futile and just leads to unnecessary harm" if a women locks the door on me that implication is not there. Surprise surprise, men are not women the same scenario does not have the same implications.

SkookumTree · 2017-12-05T18:25:55+00:00

1) I'd feel fairly uncomfortable, and I'd ask for the door to be opened again. If she refused, I'd find a way to get the hell out of there.

2) No way in hell I'd accept. Too many ways that can go wrong, from being pressured into sex to suspicions of inappropriate conduct on my part.

3) Yes, I'd feel damned uncomfortable. As a man, not much chance of reporting that and having it go anywhere, but I wouldn't want to work with her.

decoy88 · 2017-12-05T17:50:28+00:00

Would this scenario, make you feel sexually harassed, violated, or uncomfortable in anyway?

Yes.

Would it compel you to not want to work with this actress or woman?

Depends if I thought it was gonna continue to be this way. If a one-time thing with a proper warning, then it's cool.

Would it urge you to report her for sexual misconduct?

Depends if I thought it was gonna continue to be this way. If a one-time thing with a proper warning, then it's cool.

Unwanted attention is unwanted. If I wanted to fuck them it's different. Either way they wouldn't know for sure until they offered. And that would be the wrong way to offer.

abaxeron · 2017-12-05T17:42:49+00:00

Would this scenario, make you feel sexually harassed, violated, or uncomfortable in anyway?

Yes.

Would it compel you to not want to work with this actress or woman?

Yes, it would.

Would it urge you to report her for sexual misconduct?

50/50. Maybe I'd limit myself to one warning if it is the first time. After all, women's abundance mentality makes them rarely seek the same victim twice.

eliechallita · 2017-12-05T18:08:32+00:00

It really depends on the following:

1- Do I have any interest in this person, within that setting, and have I expressed that interest or consented to theirs? If No, then I would feel harassed or uncomfortable.

2- Are there going to be negative repercussions for me if I say no, whether physical, social professional, etc.? If yes, than I would feel pressured or harassed.

3- Have I already told this person that I am not interested in previous interactions? If yes, then I would feel violated.

I think that the question boils down to: Do I find this person attractive, and do I feel like have the freedom to accept or reject their attention without negative consequences? Many men might fantasize about Scarlett Johansen tearing their clothes off, but few would feel the same way if she threatened to kill them or ruin their careers if they had the slightest hesitation.

Salty-Bastard · 2017-12-05T18:29:51+00:00

ScarJo and Portman, No. Kardashian, Yes.

[deleted] · 2017-12-05T18:56:43+00:00

Yes, it could.

I'd find it a weird way of coming onto someone even if I was interested but I could be taken for example. In that case, I'd feel uncomfortable by them locking the door and touching me unwantedly. I'd probably avoid them and if they didn't react immediately to my rejection I'd have no problem reporting them for sexual misconduct.

Taipanshimshon · 2017-12-05T21:18:26+00:00

Kim kardashian- I might be afraid of what would happen if that ass landed on me.

Other than that, I am good.

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de_ja_pon · 2017-12-05T17:57:30+00:00

I wouldn't feel sexually harrassed at all. No women give me attention or bother me like that, so it'd probably feel amazing.

I'd probably be wondering if they were setting me up to be murdered or something too, because no woman of that status would give them time of day.

Neoprime · 2017-12-05T18:03:18+00:00

Hell no it ain't Sexual Harassment, because I except the advances.

Dubslav_von_Chekem · 2017-12-05T18:35:44+00:00

If married, politely inform her I am not interested.

If single, I am worst flattered. At best, this could be the start of something.

[deleted] · 2017-12-05T18:49:08+00:00

Would this scenario, make you feel sexually harassed, violated, or uncomfortable in anyway? Would it compel you to not want to work with this actress or woman? Would it urge you to report her for sexual misconduct?

I would feel somewhat uncomfortable. But it would not bother me because physically those women are not very imposing.

Merger-Arbitrage · 2017-12-05T18:56:26+00:00

If I were single I wouldn't feel uncomfortable at all. Or sexually harassed or violated, for that matter. Mostly curious if not a excited at the possibilities.

If I were "taken" or married I'd feel a little uncomfortable, knowing I'd have to reject them sooner rather than later.

wtknight · 2017-12-05T19:00:47+00:00

Only 3 would make me feel harassed. 1 would make me feel threatened enough to avoid that person if I wasn’t attracted to her or if I were unavailable (which I am), but I don't think I'd report it unless it happened repeatedly. 2 would not be a big deal but to me if I were available, but I can see how women would feel threatened due to the strength difference between most women and most women and due to some men taking that opportunity to sexually predate upon a woman without her consent.

[deleted] · 2017-12-05T19:06:06+00:00

The third one yes, the rest just sound like flirting and would only be sexual harassment if they persisted after I expressed disinterest.

wekacuck · 2017-12-05T19:13:45+00:00

It depends. In this hypothetical scenario where a hollywood smokeshow is pinching my rear or feeling my chest unironically, I'd probably also imagine I wasn't in a relationship. Because if I were in a relationship I'm not sure I would even end up in her office/room in the first place particularly if I don't report to her. And if I did then well, it's potentially awkward. But otherwise if I'm not attached I'm not sure I'd particularly care. Sort of feel like I'm a big boy and not particularly scared a hollywood smokeshow who is pinching my rear or feeling my chest unironically is going to overpower me or spermjack my lowly ass. I suppose I'd just ask her to stop if it was bothering me in this complete fantasy where a hollywood smokeshow is pinching my rear or feeling my chest unironically. So really I'd only care if I was in a relationship or if she didn't respect any boundaries.

larrythetomato · 2017-12-05T20:03:20+00:00

Is weird and creepy.
Is fine, that is an invitation.
If this is the first touch interaction this is weird, if we have been flirting without rebuff for a while that is okay.

------__------------ · 2017-12-05T20:41:26+00:00

I wouldnt say anything at the time and be genrally receptive and then kick up as much fuss as i could after in the press and courts for some sweet sweet settlement money, but also just to drag her name through the mud out of spite.

roleplaying a woman is fun

cholomite · 2017-12-05T20:43:33+00:00

No, I wouldn't feel harassed because I'm physically stronger than all of those women, so if they wanted to force themselves on me, they wouldn't be able to anyway.

Plus being chased by such a high value and attractive woman would only help boost my smv. If I told my gf that scarlet Johanson wanted my dick, I'd have to worry about my gf trying to rip my pants off too hard.

Plus if I tried to press charges or make it a big deal being approached by these women like this, it would make me look like a pussy in the eyes of my woman. Women want a stud who knows how to handle his shit, feeling threatened enough to press charges against an attractive woman is pretty lame in the eyes of women, even if they won't admit it.

The only way I would feel threatened or like I was being assaulted is if the woman is bigger than me or had a weapon and implied she would use it.

says_harsh_things · 2017-12-05T21:00:17+00:00

Wait, does Scarlett Johansen know about Natalie Portman? Because I would not want my activities with one to torpedo my chances with the other.

[deleted] · 2017-12-05T21:02:15+00:00

No , this my dream situations. And thats cause no woman touch me.

Pls Scarlett, let' s watch all the films you want tonight.

Nu_Guy · 2017-12-05T21:18:39+00:00

I think a lot of people are looking for PC points here....If the woman was hot I would likely be thrilled.

If she was not hot, I'd at least want to be seen with some sort of favor, or get a promotion if I do the deed.

If she says "have sex with me or ill tell them you raped me" that is where the uncomfortability would stem from. That is an indicator of a psychopath.

Edit: Just wanted to point out that this is a highly unlikely scenario for an average guy like me.

Uncommon_Greed_Trump · 2017-12-05T21:25:38+00:00

I believe that this is the "Betty White" conundrum.

oneprettycoolcat · 2017-12-05T22:37:21+00:00

If I thought I could get a lawsuit out of it and make tons of money, I'd definitely pursue it.

despisedlove2 · 2017-12-06T00:39:33+00:00

The last bit is clear sexual harassment. On the first two, opinions can vary. I would be willing to give her the benefit of the doubt. She could simply be playing with me to get something out of me. In that case, you have to uncover her real game plan instead of crying sexual harassment and losing the opportunity to figure out a sociopath.

Women at work often use light flirting and borderline behavior to get stuff out of men.

[deleted] · 2017-12-06T02:27:41+00:00

Would this scenario, make you feel sexually harassed, violated, or uncomfortable in anyway?

No, your proposed scenario would not make me feel harassed or violated or uncomfortable in anyway.

Would it urge you to report her for sexual misconduct?

No, I would not have an urge to report her for sexual misconduct.

Frankly, I would be so dumbstruck that I wouldn't know what to say, and I probably would not have an erection.

My first reaction would be to be suspicious about what was going on, and try to quickly discern of I was being setup for a false rape accusation or not.

The other thing is this, I wouldn't try to play victim after the fact, pretending I didn't know I was being invited for sexual purposes. I agree with Pamela Anderson who stated those women knew what they were doing and what was happening. Those women were not going up there to study spread sheets, they were going up there to suck cock.

Scarlett Johansen, Natalie Portman, Kim Kardashian

I am not attracted to any of those women.

Hellothere_1 · 2017-12-06T04:11:33+00:00

Me? No.

However this would be different if

This happens routinely even though I already am in a relationship or just don't want it.
I felt that refusing might affect my career negatively

Eastuss · 2017-12-06T08:51:00+00:00

Uncomfortable

Yes.

Harassed

Only if it happens way too often despite my firm refusals (if any). Because that's what harassed means.

Violated?

No.

I'm insecure and lacking validation/attention, women throwing attention and validation at me, especially if they're good looking, and even if it means unwanted physical contact, will make me happy embarrassed more than anything.

Would it compel you to not want to work with this actress or woman? Would it urge you to report her for sexual misconduct?

Only in case of actual harassment.

I can get angry extremely quickly if I smell manipulative gestures though.

Entropy-7 · 2017-12-06T10:37:48+00:00

Yes but no, unless she threatened my career.

[deleted] · 2017-12-06T11:43:37+00:00

Was weinstein goid looking at all ever? You try to compare apples to avocados.

SoupTyrant · 2017-12-06T16:20:47+00:00

1) No

2) No, 1. that sounds awesome and 2. everyone on earth knows that that situation more than likely means sexual intent.

3) Yes for the ass pinching. I've had women touch my chest before as part of flirting and it didn't make me uncomfortable, i've gotten the ass pinching/slapping a couple times as well and that crosses the line from flirting to making me uncomfortable.

Centurion53 · 2017-12-07T11:20:15+00:00

I would not feel sexually harassed, but I would avoid her.

Butt-Factory · 2017-12-05T17:55:36+00:00

No, it would not make me feel any of these things.

Now, if Kathy Bates or Conchata Ferrell did any of these things, I would feel assaulted and battered.

Because the truth of it is, if you're hot, it's not sexual harassment. On both sides of that coin.

Title	Q4M: Would you feel you were sexually harassed in the following scenario?
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Date	December 5, 2017 5:30 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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