People who have happy relationships or a satisfactory dating life in general, how is it?

TheChemist158 · 2017-07-30T21:47:13+00:00

It's good. All those cheesy lines, "he's my best friend" and 'life partner' are true. He's a guy that I can always go to after a hard day or to have a fun conversation with, or just chill with. I can enjoy a sense of physical and emotional intimacy with him that I can't with anyone else. Because we live together my problems end up being his problems and vice versa. He really is my other half.

the_calibre_cat · 2017-07-30T21:50:46+00:00

I'm quite happily married. My wife is amazing, she makes my life better in every way, she's gorgeous, she's a great mother, but I have always had very high expectations for her and every other woman I've dated. On the flip side of that I knew that the only way I could have high expectations was to bring a lot myself. So I bring a lot.

GinSmokeLies · 2017-07-31T06:02:01+00:00

It is great. We've been together a little over five years and are getting married on September 30. We read each other really well and play off each other's strengths. I keep him from getting too caught up in his head and he keeps me from getting down on myself. He gives me tough love when I need it and I give him space when he needs it. We have fun together, we flirt and make each other laugh every day.

I've been recovering from surgery this last week and a half and he has been such a blessing. The first couple days I couldn't even get out of bed or use the bathroom or take a shower by myself. He has been so helpful and patient and the whole experience has served as a reminder of what a good guy I chose. I am grateful for him.

jonascf · 2017-07-30T22:09:42+00:00

I'm in an open relationship with my girlfriend since 4 years and so far it's only getting better. We're very similar in the ways that matter and unsimilar in other ways to make things fun and interesting.

Being in an open relationship also let's me have the fun of dating wich I enjoy sometimes, so far it's mostly resulted in a series of fwb's.

darla10 · 2017-07-30T21:55:30+00:00

I'm in love with my partner and I've worked hard to keep it that way. The right alchemy of passion and safety is a delicate dance and I'm staying on the dance floor as long as possible. So far it's been 7 years. We both work out. We both read a lot. We both have careers and we both flirt and try not to blame each other, ever. And....I am vocal with my admiration and compliments, even if I feel cheesy about it sometimes: "omg you look like Superman today!" Men each up that shit, no matter how intellectual they are. :))

ClarityofDisaster · 2017-07-30T22:31:56+00:00

It's been more than I ever hoped for, honestly. When I was younger, I'd always assumed I'd be a "virgin" forever and basically came to accept that relationships weren't for me by the time I was 19.

But my fwb is just something else. He's kind, safe, sexually open and adventurous, patient, caring, not alpha/overtly masculine...all the traits I've ever wanted in a lover. We share the same hobbies and sense of humor too, and it literally gives me a thrill whenever I make him laugh, because the light in his eyes puts starlight to shame. And I know this will probably sound weird, but his personal scent is just so...comforting and sensual. He smells like "home" if that makes any sense.

All I know is, he's a great person and I'm so incredibly happy any time we get to be together, whether it's for a quickie before work or an entire night out. Of course, I do my absolute best to spoil him whenever I can! 😙

uto-uto · 2017-07-31T06:09:05+00:00

it's nice, comfortable, peaceful. we still encounter challenges sometimes and it's not effortlessly great, but having someone to care for and care for you is really the best. it's much better than dating in that we know each other and our boundaries/needs well, so we're prepared to work together to solve problems if they come up or adequately help one another if we fall down (so to speak).

it's also exciting to be with someone that wants to try new things, learn new things, a couple that encourages each other to work hard and succeed.

[deleted] · 2017-07-31T03:15:25+00:00

I got really lucky with my current boyfriend. He is the best part of my life and the only example of NAMALT I've ever found. Somehow I stumbled upon a unicorn and I'm pretty grateful.

Willow-girl · 2017-07-30T21:35:54+00:00

so far, its fabulous. i'm super comfortable and i love him and i believe he loves me. i'm happy.

that SAID, i do think if you're a woman and in love, 'happy' means satisfied. its not really a successful relationship if you aren't feeling a passive undercurrent of anxiety or dread on a regular basis or in my case, all the time.

BellaScarletta · 2017-07-30T22:38:51+00:00

It's calm and fun. We have the motions that serve as a blueprint for the day to day, and the exciting things that make each week slightly different than the last. We have our close friends - my best friend from childhood and her husband share a fence with his best friend from childhood and his wife (you can't make these things up) - and we spend time with them, and their children. There's nothing that makes me happier than bringing over dinner and hearing their little girl yell "Uncle R!" and run for a hug when my SO arrives.

We look at houses and plan our future, we just got a dog, we have our problems and we work through them like adults. We respect one another, love one another. I don't presume to think there's much unique about us that we don't share in common with any other happy and functional couple.

[deleted] · 2017-07-31T01:23:18+00:00

Delightful! Been together 12 years- married 6. We travel. Eat good food. Drink good drinks. Take fun pills (responsibly). We make art together. I think he's dreamy and he has heart eyes for me. I got too much sun and he has been going crazy over my tan lines. He built us a saltwater pool in the back yard and we spend as much time in it as possible. He's very good at his work and I spend much of my time being proud of him. We have a very happy life 😊

i_have_a_semicolon · 2017-07-31T01:37:45+00:00

It's fucking amazing to have a life partner you love , spend all your time with, fuck, laugh together omg. I can't even

[deleted] · 2017-07-31T10:01:52+00:00

Most people here have no idea what a "happy relationship" or "satisfactory dating life" is, so good luck with that question.

Butt-Factory · 2017-07-30T22:05:34+00:00

Things are great. This is the first relationship I've had that feels totally comfortable and exciting at the same time. Even though we've been together for almost 7 years, we still court each other like a new couple. I've never felt so free to be vulnerable around another person in my life.

That said, I had to wade through a river of horseshit to get to something good. Dating can be a discouraging process, but it has all been worth it.

Lyanina · 2017-07-30T22:09:38+00:00

It's a young relationship so there's not much to say beyond I love him, he loves me, and we want to make it work.

dating life in general

I never gave dating much thought until I happened across TRP and then PPD. It happened or it didn't, like the friendships in my life. That's nice.

wuboo · 2017-07-31T01:28:49+00:00

It is amazing and it keeps getting better. We explore life together, support each other, and I can't wait to find out what is next for us.

philomexa · 2017-07-31T02:36:36+00:00

12 years together after a whirlwind "courtship" (slept together, got married a month later), thing are good. We still crave fucking reach other, we still laugh together and have interesting conversations. But now life stuff is putting all that vow shit to the test and so far we're holding strong.

2 years ago (shortly after the birth of our son) I was diagnosed with a degenerative ear condition that comes with permanent tinnitus and crippling bouts of vertigo (2-4 hours of vomiting and invalidity). Eventually I'll be completely deaf in one ear (if I'm lucky and it doesn't spread to my other ear). There is no cure, just a slow and at times painful degradation. My husband has been a champ throughout of all this. An oak, if you will.

Years prior my husband came down with acute pancreatitis (right after recovering from a torn ACL/MCL). I'd like to think his steadfastness during my health troubles are payback for my Florence Nightengale schtick during his health problems.

Regardless, I'm confident and happy that we're in it for the long haul. Plus we have a kid now which is just a whole other level of awesome and terrible, but I wouldn't want to do this with anyone else but him.

Thetasigma88 · 2017-07-31T04:43:04+00:00

It's everything.

Even years in, we are still continuously amazed in all the ways in which we complement each other perfectly.

It's an amazing privilege to watch her grow to her fullest potential. It's also a tremendous responsibility to be there for her so it's honestly making me hustle harder and more successfully than I've ever hustled before.

She gave my life a profound sense of peace, warmth, and comfort while also lighting a fire under me that makes me want to give her everything. All the cliches suddenly make sense.

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slavicgypsygirl · 2017-07-30T23:33:28+00:00

I only date.

Its exciting, fun, interesting & always an education.

IIHotelYorba · 2017-07-31T02:36:22+00:00

They are all fine. Nice girls. No static I can't handle. I don't want a girlfriend. I like LTRs but I don't want to have a girl pretend she's ok with me fucking as many girls as possible, for like as long as she can take it.

Dominic_Badguy · 2017-07-31T04:39:48+00:00

I'm not in a "relationship" (although some chick seems to think so). But I'm dating somewhere between 3-6 girls, the last 3 are flakyish.

I'm pretty happy overall. I fuck when I want and play Xbox when I'm tired of fucking.

Thanks for asking Greece 😝

BookwormJane · 2017-07-31T04:53:18+00:00

I'm single and it's quite satisfactory as well.

Tell_them_to_shrug · 2017-07-31T16:35:29+00:00

I don't date. So it's great.

[deleted] · 2017-08-01T02:08:06+00:00

My husband makes me glad to wake up in the morning because I get to see his goofy early-morning yawn.

I love the weirdest things about him. He has perfect feet, his legs are perfectly long for his frame, and he has a large bush of chest hair that smells like a blend of his sweat and that Evergreen body wash I bought him for our first dating anniversary. It has now become His Scent, and for weird mental health reasons I can no longer sleep if I don't smell it.

I can never figure out what color his eyes are. Are they blue or green? I don't know, but I love them. (Mine are brown. Much less ambiguous, or appealing.)

He has a pot belly that he got while I was pregnant. It was all sympathy weight. I love it even though I know he needs to lose it.

He's not particularly intellectual (I really am, like it's a problem), but makes up for it tenfold by being intensely hardworking and sentimental.

He's terrified of spiders, so when one inevitably comes in the house, I have to kill it. One time he ran out of the house naked because a cricket came in. I love him for it.

He always falls asleep with me if I'm napping. Always. I don't know why.

He chases our cat around and sings, "I'm gonna catch a Lucy~" at the top of his lungs. I love it, but will never tell him that because I worry that Lucy will castrate him one day.

He always wears a pair of old cargo shorts. I don't know why he won't let me fix them, but there's a hole in the leg and it's driving me nuts.

When he wakes up in the morning, he does two things. The first: he looks into my eyes with a gooey smile on his face. The second: he raspberries my belly button. I will never tell him this, but I love that mischievous side of his, the one that can switch from "i luv u" to "YOUR NAVEL IS MINE AND I MUST HAVE IT".

Basically, every day I fall more in love with him than I was before. I'm sure he has stories to tell about me.

Title	People who have happy relationships or a satisfactory dating life in general, how is it?
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