Do you Hate single mothers?

squidracer · 2017-04-11T00:38:23+00:00

I don't hate them, but I sure as fuck wouldn't seriously date them or live with one.

They are ok for hookups I guess

prodigy2throw · 2017-04-11T00:07:11+00:00

Pretty irresponsible to bring a child into the world without a father figure and a stable household.

francisfitzgerald · 2017-04-11T07:12:56+00:00

I thought he was a good guy. He said he was ready to be a father. I know he had 5 kids by 3 other girls but, I thought he'd be different with me.

brewmastermonk · 2017-04-11T05:23:30+00:00

I feel more pity than hate. They made a terrible decision and they can't give me what I want. Namely, I want to be chosen as a quality man by a woman that I think is awesome. A single mom can't do that because she is more invested in her existing children to be able to not lie to herself about a dude's value in the hopes that he helps her raise her existing children or at the very least gives her resources she can use for her existing children.

NalkaNalka · 2017-04-11T00:01:26+00:00

Only the ones that got that way by spermjacking a guy or having an "accident" with the BC that was not really an accident.

Charmingaxelotl · 2017-04-11T06:23:53+00:00

I don't hate them I just avoid them.

ddiogenesofsinope · 2017-04-11T06:44:03+00:00

Not at all. Not always their fault...

Sometimes I'm disgusted by the men that won't stick around for the kids. They are half the problem and it's just weakness on their part

That said, I am totally disgusted by women that use having children to 'trap' the man, which does happen quite a bit.

lbspredh · 2017-04-11T09:26:28+00:00

Well it just occurs that someone is paying the bill for the baby, in a lot of cases it's me as a taxpayer. I don't hate them but should we encourage people to be a drain on society?

SetConsumes · 2017-04-10T23:53:16+00:00

I hate that they exist, but to no fault of their own really. Shitty society creates shitty situations.

GroovyEFS · 2017-04-11T10:49:51+00:00

Don't care enough to hate them. But definitely wouldn't date one.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2017-04-11T00:07:22+00:00

to be very clear, to ME "single" mother means a woman who deliberately has an out of wedlock child.
i dont hate them as individuals, i find the PHENOMENON of single motherhood to be the chief cause of poverty and dysfunction in the west, and i revile the cultural ramifications of single motherhood

alreadyredschool · 2017-04-11T00:04:36+00:00

No but I would not date one.

Alth12 · 2017-04-11T13:08:04+00:00

I don't hate them in general. I know three and each is different. Two are cousins of mine, one had twins with an ex when she was young, her ex and her broke up amicably and he's still really active in the kids lives. Those kids are actually really well adjusted, polite, good grades in school etc.

My other cousin had a baby with a guy who already had a kid from a ONS, but he's really good with his kids. However she has become somewhat bitter, and demanding of people around her. So much so that even friends of mine who were close with her are distancing themselves.

The other I know is an evil bitch. Was in a relationship with a guy who didn't want kids. She did so she stopped the pill without telling him and poked holes in his condoms. When she got pregnant he dumped her thinking she must have cheated. Turned out nope, was his kid and he got boned for child support. She works with me and openly bragged about doing it too. Now she constantly bitches about her ex for not wanting to spend time with the kid, going to the courts to overturn support etc. Don't think any guy or gal who knows those circumstances has any sympathy.

GuitarsAreGettingOld · 2017-04-11T00:03:36+00:00

Depends. Not by default.

slothsenpai · 2017-04-11T02:53:16+00:00

It depends entirely. I had single mum plates though you can classify them closer to MILFs since they're older, previously married and they have good stable jobs. Single mums on the other hand are those who get knocked up by Chad or some random thug and drain up the Welfare system. Milfs, I can respect. Single mums, not so much and defo not LTR worthy.

FairlyNaive · 2017-04-11T11:13:03+00:00

I couldnt care less.

theiamsamurai · 2017-04-11T14:21:44+00:00

I've never dated or fucked one, because they don't show interest in me, so maybe I do a good job of pushing them away before they can take advantage of me. Why pursue someone who's not interested in me? On their profiles they always say that their child comes first, which I guess is a given, but even given that, I still think they don't show enough enthusiasm for the men they date compared to childless women.

stonepimpletilists · 2017-04-11T18:59:54+00:00

I don't hate tigers, I also don't go into their cage and fuck with them.

Because they are delinquent, child abusers, and poor decision making people. She either can't pick a baby daddy (was your only job from 1,000,000BC - 1945) or decided to nuke one for no good reason.

Regardless of the douche status of the dad, she is a ticking time bomb.

cept widows, all 150 of them in north america

Ultramegasaurus · 2017-04-11T07:21:30+00:00

Most single mothers are not widows or victims of two-faced men who ran out of the blue. Most either tried to lockdown or tame a man via a unilateral pregnancy or were simply too stupid to use contraception*. Oh and there are also single mothers who separate from the father for petty reasons, just like in regular divorce nowadays. I find this deplorable as it not only hurts society, it hurts the child, the father and herself.

Yes, the man can and should use contraception too. And we always tell men. However, women have way, way higher level of reproductional control and thus a higher degree of responsibility. Of course he can wear condoms, but she can also insist he wears condoms. In addition to the pill, plan B, diaphragms and so on. Then she also has abortion, adoption and Safe Haven Baby Boxes.

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procrastinator789 · 2017-04-11T08:26:21+00:00

IIHotelYorba · 2017-04-11T10:19:19+00:00

No.

Next question.

hardlifeman · 2017-04-12T17:29:30+00:00

I don't hate them, I will just never date one again, and I will never again give them the benefit of the doubt or assume the male to be at fault in the split. This is wrought from my experience with my own mother and what she did to my father via family court, and from countless other experiences I've observed with other children of single mothers.

If you really want to understand the disdain, read the article linked at the bottom of Illimitable Man's post (the first link, above):

https://illimitablemen.com/2014/05/08/the-suffering-of-the-lost-boys/

DupreeMcJones · 2017-04-12T18:49:45+00:00

No. I am skeptical of them until I know their story, and they are not dating material.

aanarchist · 2017-04-13T06:51:39+00:00

they are a big reason of why we can't have nice things yes. single motherhood is child abuse.

kick6 · 2017-04-11T12:53:33+00:00

Sometimes, single moms happen (widows, etc), HOWEVER....it's not good for the fucking kids, and we should never...ever...celebrate it. Do I hate single moms? No, I hate the culture that thinks they're fucking heros for abusing their children by depriving them of a 2 parent household.

daveofmars · 2017-04-11T13:10:32+00:00

Yeah, I hate them, but that's not a hate based out of ignorance. I was raised by a single mother from ~age 8 up until I got my driver's license. Once I had the capacity to leave, I left.

Now, I love my mom, dearly. We still stay in contact and every time I'm on the east coast I see her.

My mom was a "single mom" because my mom and dad divorced after 11 years. I wasn't born out of wedlock. Both my parents had above average intelligence, both were civilian contractors working for the federal government. My mom even has an advanced degree in computer science. Even with all that privilege, the situation we were placed in, being raised by a single mom, was extremely difficult.

My mom had no choice but to neglect us, because there wasn't enough hours in the day to do what needed to be done. As a kid, being raised by a single mom isn't like being raised by a single parent, it's being raised by no parent. She's constantly exhausted, you're constantly alone. There is no love or guidance in the critical years.

Do I want to see any other kid in that situation? No, absolutely not. So when a woman either purposefully creates that situation or doesn't care enough to prevent it from happening, I see it as negligence, selfishness, incompetence, and even child abuse. And I absolutely hate child abuse.

Manospherian · 2017-04-11T13:26:34+00:00

No. I just think they are cancer for society.

Kind of off topic, but I find it amusing to note that single moms generally raise beta males, but the better the mother is the more beta the male is. They seem to have an entirely destructive influence on the son in terms of his manliness, without a male figure for guidance.

LewisCross · 2017-04-11T13:56:38+00:00

I don't hate them. Most people at TRP don't hate them, despite Illimitable Man's famous post that Blues love to run up the flagpole. Which isn't even really a hate piece. Calling someone subhuman scum isn't hate, if the persons being called subhuman scum truly are subhuman scum. It's also not hatred to exhort men not to date single mothers, nor to report what's true of single moms generally.

dicklord_airplane · 2017-04-11T14:23:47+00:00

I think its fucked up that so many women choose to force men into parenthood without their consent. Women have all the power to choose whether a child is born, and they bear the responsibility for those decisions. Men cant take birth control, cant take plan b, cant get abortions, and they certainly cant force a woman to prevent child birth with these methods, either. With power comes responsibility.

Mostly, im just disappointed in the single moms ive met because their choice to have kids in a bad situation put their children at a huge disadvantage. The vast majority of single moms arent victims of evil men who deceived them and ditched them after the child was born. Most single moms ive met chose to have children with men who didnt want to have kids with them, or with men who were clearly bad candidates as good fathers.

Perhaps we should teach women that they need to get a mans enthusiastic consent to procreate before forcing him to become a father. That would solve a lot of social ills in a single generation.

Title	Do you Hate single mothers?
Author	Gorgatron1968
Upvotes	4
Comments	274
Date	April 10, 2017 11:50 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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