My Pickme past thoughts 🤦‍♀️ The shaaaammmmmme.

shelballama · 2021-06-02T10:50:51+00:00

ESPECIALLY not a baby, that'll just tie you to them for the rest of your life/ put more stress on your plate

Have never ever ever understood why anyone would even begin to think it's a good idea to have a baby in a rocky relationship

SqueaksScreech · 2021-06-02T12:35:44+00:00

I worked on a team mostly made up of men majority of them had children with several different women.

One had children with 6 different women while a couple had one 1.

My favourite out if all of them would visit his child everyday and just hang out at the mother's house. They seemed to have a really good co-parenting relationship while the other guys would see their children like once a week or a month.

betsybasset · 2021-06-02T10:05:07+00:00

And travel, luxury items, house etc...

Good to have those, but don't kid yourself that those things pay off his absence / bad treatment to you.

😑

throwaway30928437 · 2021-06-02T09:58:18+00:00

Yes. If he doesn't appreciate you and expects all these extras, it's because he doesn't value you.

namasdating · 2021-06-02T12:33:17+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 In reality it’s the order of descent into Pick Me Madness

Blackrose_ · 2021-06-02T12:53:49+00:00

Yep that's some words of wisdom right there.

Also - if you look back and cringe at something? Don't beat yourself up about it. You learned from this experience and moved on. Don't recriminate yourself for past mistakes, just don't repeat them.

greatcathy · 2021-06-02T13:36:47+00:00

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YVGNY · 2021-06-02T13:59:23+00:00

If anyone's boyfriend wants an FFM threesome, it is an excuse for him to cheat while still being in a relationship. I will die on this hill.

AJLake80 · 2021-06-02T14:24:27+00:00

This is one thing I can thank my crazy mother for. She drilled this into my head. A baby is innocent and will never fix things.

thighvalue · 2021-06-02T14:19:44+00:00

Those things are just bribes of NVM to manipulate women to stay in shitty relationships

spicyspa · 2021-06-02T13:47:28+00:00

A threesome. Sigh. I had never heard of the idea of a threesome saving a marriage until after 2010. The other two factors have been around for eons.

Back in my day, only rock stars, hippie cult leaders and Hugh Hefner had threesomes. At least married rock stars would usually hide this from their wives not make her a part of it. Not that this was good, it at least points to the shame of it.

SpiritualPlan5 · 2021-06-02T17:34:17+00:00

Babies can break a relationship I don’t understand how anyone would think they would fix one.

breadandbunny · 2021-06-02T18:04:06+00:00

Do women really believe these things will save their relationships? Men do not care if they have a baby with you, they will walk away. This should be common sense, but common sense isn't really real, unfortunately.

Reporter_Complex · 2021-06-02T14:09:37+00:00

I've been spouting this to whoever needs it for years 😂

One of my favourite sayings, next to "not your zoo, not your monkeys"

and

"the three Fs - if you're not feeding me, fucking me, or financing me, then your opinion doesn't matter".

Good things to live by 🙂

alphasquish · 2021-06-02T18:51:53+00:00

Neither will lending him money, being his unpaid therapist, handling his ex-wife for him, trying to be the perfect stepparent, or constantly trying to be this amazing version of yourself that’s being sucked away because of the black hole of your relationship with him.

The next time I try to be the most amazing me to anyone...it will be to myself and for myself.

abby_ch238 · 2021-06-02T15:47:25+00:00

Relevant tiktok about babies saving marriages: https://m.tiktok.com/v/6953858906468781317

justforfds · 2021-06-02T22:19:40+00:00

Men withold all the things they generalise as women's desires in a relationship to use as bait for day to day operational manipulations, or as get out of jail free cards to make her feel he has done something for her after he has shat on her and pushed the boundary to the point of losing his pocket pussy / substitute whatever non-reciprocal benefits he leaches from her. Smarter men mine individual women's needs early on in their acquaintance to better manipulate her by passing off personal knowledge as caring for her.

ShondaGives · 2021-06-02T14:45:51+00:00

FACTS!!!!!!

HumanAdhesiveness360 · 2021-06-02T17:34:30+00:00

Check, check. Check. It didn't

pennynotrcutt · 2021-06-02T13:29:27+00:00

Apparently Demi Moore didn’t get the memo.

theoho · 2021-06-02T16:17:34+00:00

Speak on it 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😍

mscristalconnors · 2021-06-02T20:36:12+00:00

The threesome💀💀💀

Title	My Pickme past thoughts 🤦‍♀️ The shaaaammmmmme.
Author	DirtyStereotype
Upvotes	3050
Comments	72
Date	June 2, 2021 9:42 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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