If it’s socially acceptable for women to put “Sorry, no short men” as a requirement in online dating profiles, then it should also be acceptable for men to say “Sorry, no flat-chested women”, or “no overweight women” in theirs.

Lethn · 2018-10-26T12:45:12+00:00

lol I love how on the very same thread you have people in total denial about this even being an issue and then when you scroll down just a little bit you see these very women posting in the comments page about how awful it is to judge for these characteristics.

MidWestMind · 2018-10-26T15:40:25+00:00

This reminds me back about 10 years ago when I was on a dating site, I got tired of women showing off their clevage and in the bio being all prudish. So I uploaded a pic (not as my main) of me with a foot on a chair showing off my package. Which I stuffed a maglite in my pants. I thought I laid the satire pretty damn thick as the bulge ran down my thigh to damn near my knee.

It was reported and deleted within an hour or two.

lonewolfhistory · 2018-10-26T14:38:03+00:00

The difference is that, for the most part, you can lose weight, you can’t grow taller. So it would make more sense to say “sorry no women with less than a D cup “ or something to that extent

AutisticCyborg · 2018-10-26T15:59:58+00:00

I did this a while ago it's well worth the hassle just for the outrage mail lol

theAnalepticAlzabo · 2018-10-26T18:32:20+00:00

Or even 'No Borderline Personality chicks, please'.

Razorbladekandyfan · 2018-10-26T16:25:58+00:00

That is an interesting one. I would say yes it is acceptable, i wouldn't want to date someone for whom height is such an issue. The interesting thing for me - its one thing when you are a tall woman, and short guys dont do it for you. But women be 5'5" shitting on men who are 5'9" just because they are technically not 6 feet tall. Bitch is you dumb?

Merit_based_only · 2018-10-26T17:17:36+00:00

Its not socially acceptable, but it does weed out the people who you don't want to date.... in a number of different ways.

First, you automatically get rid of the fatties or whatever you aren't into because you made a firm declaration that they should choose an easier target. Second, you eliminate the outraged freaks who are angered by you having standards.

Yes, you are going to get some hate mail, but have fun with it.

Example: "you are a terrible person for saying that you won't date a REAL women. REAL women have curves."

"Curves, yes, but not prodigious front-butts like you have."

LooCid36 · 2018-10-26T13:26:39+00:00

I just like to remind them that our choices most of the time are Single mother, or LandWhale.

vwolf800 · 2018-10-26T19:59:08+00:00

This is one of many things that I could never understand about society, even when I was little. I see women laughing at men for their appearance, or their physical attributes and we're supposed to go along with it like if it's perfectly fine, but nobody can ever say anything "rude" to a woman. Well, I fucking hate small-breasted women and I don't care if it's rude or not. You want me to respect you, start respecting me in return.

hixidom · 2018-10-26T16:57:23+00:00

You're allowed to put whatever you want. Please do actually. Society is putting up with their waling less and less. Might as well accelerate things at this point.

Electroverted · 2018-10-26T17:39:58+00:00

I agree, but it's all about who controls the market. Women control the dating market. They're the job post, while men are the applicants, and dates are an interview. Therefore they get to call the shots of what they want. It is what it is.

sphinx2626 · 2018-10-26T15:42:37+00:00

It isn't socially acceptable. Thess people who are often not part of Society, they're part of their own Echo chambers. (At least online). I wouldn't care if my daughter preferred taller men. But there are ways to be classy about that type of thing and not a jackass. Just like I'm sure a father would be fine if his son did have a preference in female body type, we do have preferences after all. A person can choose to be a dick and post that on a public dating venue. Overall I feel there's nothing wrong with liking what you like, females in high volume not having tact simply shows their character and allows you to swipe the proper direction. It's a free red flag, that shows the attuned Observer very obvious undesirable characteristics. Many of these types who lack such social awareness are cult feminists anyways so absolutely nothing wasted.

Felarhin · 2018-10-26T18:46:53+00:00

I'm 6'1 and still don't have any luck on dating websites. If they list "no short men", then there are usually many other deal breakers too that they don't list. I feel like these sorts of folks usually don't actually date much and just want to feel validated.

MagicTire · 2018-10-26T17:13:29+00:00

"But...but...but...that's difffffferennnnntttt!!" /s

I_Love_BB8 · 2018-10-26T15:54:54+00:00

Sorry, chicks with dicks only.

YoubigdumbSOB · 2018-10-26T18:29:12+00:00

As a fat woman I have no issue with this. I'd rather know in advance that I'm not someones type. And my profile stipulates no kids, must have job, must not be over 30 and live with mom and dad. Men and women who don't meet those requirements message me to bitch and moan about how unfair I am, so you just have to be prepared for people who think they are entitled to you.

2018-10-27T03:32:44+00:00

yea, the left and feminists wanna eliminate every "gender role" except the one where a man MUST be taller than a woman. As a short man, this is a big reason I oppose feminism in its current form.

It's also horseshit that some compare being a short man to a fat woman. Weight is controllable and thus reflects willpower and personality traits; height is uncontrollable and reflects no personality traits. But since feminism has allowed women to be more selective on looks, guys like me get fucked.

-Alfa- · 2018-10-26T18:36:01+00:00

Sure.

I think anyone can have any preference without it being an issue, don't want a black partner? Ok. Don't want a white one? Neat. Don't want a fat partner? Makes sense. No short people? Go for it.

Anyone who complains about this shit is fucking stupid.

BarefootUnicorn · 2018-10-26T17:55:37+00:00

Women have politicized "obesity". (And so have many on the "Left" in general). I am not attracted to fat people. I have a right to an "affectional preference" just as a gay man, or a furry, or a Anime porn-addict does. For some reason many Progressive people don't think having an affectional preference for fit, healthy people is morally correct.

No fatty-fats for me!

And if someone doesn't like shorties, so be it. That's fine, too.

HierEncore · 2018-10-26T17:06:35+00:00

Could not agree more.

Texas_Rangers · 2018-10-26T18:31:00+00:00

Or no women over 28.

Ricotta_Elmar · 2018-10-26T16:08:58+00:00

Flat is justice.

KalebMW99 · 2018-10-26T20:47:46+00:00

No, it shouldn't. Being short is not equivalent to being flat chested or overweight. Why should being short have anything to do with your attractiveness?

Gilgamesh107 · 2018-10-26T21:16:00+00:00

Flat is justice

GuyWithTheStalker · 2018-10-26T22:24:15+00:00

On a lighter and more universally relevant note...

It should be the norm for men AND women to present themselves on those sites like they just rolled out of bed, left work, arrived at the gym, or picked out a shopping cart.

Who the fuck do people (men and women) think they are? Let's be real here...

chambertlo · 2018-10-26T23:38:25+00:00

Only feminists have a problem with this. “Rules for thee, none for me”.

in_the_no_know · 2018-10-27T01:52:30+00:00

Nothing wrong with having preferences...

No fatties

SilverGryphon · 2018-10-26T20:17:09+00:00

Yeah I agree with the op. I am also glad that this "mens rights" sub is slowly becomming red pilled.

ShadowBanThisCucks · 2018-10-26T13:26:32+00:00

Eh. You could put it in your dating profile. Maybe you'd get less dates, but maybe you'd get more. Chicks dig ass holes.

PacoBedejo · 2018-10-26T18:02:45+00:00

As a fat guy, I'll say that you should absolutely discriminate against overweight dates. There are a host of genetic, character, and financial reasons to do so.

I'd leave weight out of the height and tits argument to keep it closer to apples:apples.

ThatOneJack · 2018-10-26T20:26:23+00:00

Just want to say thanks to everyone showing support to the topic and my crosspost. I didnt think it would get top of the front page of r/mensrights but it did so thank you all.

michaelmalak · 2018-10-26T17:54:01+00:00

You mean it's not?

It has been many, many years since I was dating. Back in those days, the newspaper ones, HWP was a common requirement.

teamwaterwings · 2018-10-26T18:48:09+00:00

Honestly it's not socially acceptable for a woman to do that either, and besides it's an instant left swipe if they do. Instantly shows you what kind of person they are

Moral of the story, it's socially acceptable to be shallow, but not to SAY that you're shallow I guess?

Abiogeneralization · 2018-10-26T19:00:53+00:00

This is sort of a non-argument. Women can put that in their profile without limiting their dating pool. Very, very attractive men could probably put the other part in their dating profile without limiting their dating pool.

Men and women are different.

isperfectlycromulent · 2018-10-26T20:03:27+00:00

This screed isn't about mens rights, it's more about bitching because you can't say "no fatties" without getting shit upon.

Chocolat3City · 2018-10-26T20:21:47+00:00

It's online dating. People are shallow. Why post about it here?

grandmasbroach · 2018-10-26T21:52:58+00:00

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thrway_1000 · 2018-10-26T22:50:20+00:00

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2018-10-26T22:59:57+00:00

There are so many double standards it's not worth talking about.

Beltox2pointO · 2018-10-26T23:05:00+00:00

It's clearly not acceptable, as whenever you see it. The very first comment is always, always bringing up the double standard.

bhavv · 2018-10-26T23:05:55+00:00

'No overused loose roastie Arby's meaty flippy floppy flap flaps'.

Sweetest_Jesus · 2018-10-26T23:09:07+00:00

“No fat bitches”

skellious · 2018-10-26T23:13:51+00:00

It is acceptable, isn't it? I mean, personally I find a wide variety of women attractive so such a notice would be superfluous but if you want to do that, you certainly can. some people will take offence to it, sure, but some people take offence to the ones about men too.

Of course, since women tend to contact men far less than the other way around, it may have limited impact as you simply wont contact women you don't find attractive.

sumfacilispuella · 2018-10-26T23:28:40+00:00

lol when this post from r/badwomensanatomy https://imgur.com/XvDrQFO was right before this one

NoxHexaDraconis · 2018-10-26T23:37:14+00:00

All depends on your appearance, the better looking you are, the more you can get away with. Even then, women tend to have an edge over men

Reverserer · 2018-10-26T23:55:29+00:00

girl here - you're right. I don't feel there is a difference - it's preference. Perhaps it is seen as more acceptable due to the fact that breasts are sexualized and it is maybe being seen as appreciating women only for her sexual attribute - but if we are going to say that then wouldn't we say that the man's height is being sexualized as well?

I would say, all things being equal, that there are probably more women who would not date a man due to his height than men that would not date a woman based on her breast size - this is complete 100% conjecture, but a woman might reject a man outright for his height whereas a man would probably not on breast size? am I completely off on that?

muchachomalo · 2018-10-27T00:09:00+00:00

Men don't need to do that on dating sites because we are usually the pursuers. But we still place the same restrictions. Yes it is politically incorrect for both parties to say it.

degustibus · 2018-10-27T00:16:05+00:00

Rights vs. customs. Your 1st Amendment rights protect you, but if you're on someone else's website then they have a right to dictate terms. Customs, good luck changing those. Life is not fair. Never was, never will be. My advice, try to find a woman you can love who shares enough values. Trying to change the entire dating discourse, wow, that's going to flame out and you'll be bitter and alone.

What might be profitable is putting together a dating site from the perspective of this site's values. Instead of changing match.com or whatever, just go your own way.

2018-10-27T01:11:56+00:00

Women can be judgmental against men, have preferences and bias. But if a man does it suddenly it’s a problem. He’s an asshole, a pig and ever other slanderous name. How dare he say that about women!

Neko404 · 2018-10-27T01:12:29+00:00

I avoid women who put that kind of shit in their profile. I am not even short, I am just not attracted to judgmental women.

Wafflebot17 · 2018-10-27T12:37:32+00:00

Honestly I have 0 issues with people putting what they like on their profile, it let's me know not to message if I'm not what you want. It's also 100% ok to not like a particular type, I don't date white or Asian women and I don't see why that should be a problem.

2018-10-27T19:19:24+00:00

Those who have the power can set the rules.

What can men do?

Fuck them! Fuc the powerful!

That didn't come out right. :P

DrewFlan · 2018-10-26T17:06:43+00:00

It's not socially acceptable for women to do that though?

They do it and some men and women give them shit for it. Similarly, if men put "no flat chested women" some men and women would give us shit for it.

Me_ADC_Me_SMASH · 2018-10-26T17:51:44+00:00

it is acceptable.

You don't have to accept people's bitching.

jmkiii · 2018-10-26T15:37:44+00:00

Make a dating app with this feature and the users will be drowning in dick...

Also, this has absolutely nothing to do with men's rights

holader · 2018-10-26T19:15:35+00:00

remember when this sub was about mens rights rather than a bunch of incel virgins bitching about women

road_warrior_1 · 2018-10-26T12:43:37+00:00

Women (generally speaking) have intrinsic value. From a biological perspective this makes sense simply because the cost of reproduction for women is much longer and more difficult. Thus a woman must be more selective when choosing mates.

Men are expendable to society. This is why men are evaluated based on their accomplishments moreso than women. So it makes perfect sense, when you think about it, that a society would frown moreso on a man limiting his potential dating pool than a woman trying to select for better mate.

anillop · 2018-10-26T17:26:01+00:00

How about we just say you're an asshole for saying any of those kind of things and leave it at that. It's like people around here can't wait to stoop to the shitty level and sometimes go even further like one groups bad behavior will excuse their own bad behavior.

tomowudi · 2018-10-26T20:13:38+00:00

*sigh*

I disagree with the framing of this post - not the reality of the circumstances being discussed.

I don't think it's socially acceptable for women to post "no short men" any more than it is for men to post "no flat chested women". I think both of those actions are fairly anti-social and indicative of the maturity of the poster.

The difference is that while men tend to orient themselves differently regarding their appearance (for a wide variety of reasons), than women - and so there's a bigger REACTION because there is a bigger IMPACT on that specific population.

But, if you think it's more positive than negative to use language which makes something like height or chest size a high enough priority that you can't frame it more compassionately/less abrasively (e.g. I tend to be attracted to these traits vs No X traits, so don't ask), you're kind of an asshole, because the definition of an asshole is someone who is self-centered enough to justify their anti-social/abrasive engagement with the world around them.

So, no, I don't think it's a double-standard. I think it's normal for people with different experiences to have different expectations around what qualifies as "anti-social" or not, and some folks on both sides are assholes - so each side sees the assholes on the other side more easily than the ones on their side because, in general... we don't fuck the people on our side of the aisle.

Which, incidentally, is one of the reasons that homosexual experiences are so incredibly valuable, because the remind us that whomever you prefer to fuck... some of those people are going to be assholes.

Murakami8000 · 2018-10-26T18:05:56+00:00

Honestly, the women who post that are shitty, jut as the men who posted what OP is suggesting are their equals.

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