Girl who friendzoned me nearly 10 years ago slammed into the wall and recently messaged me.

Ratcliff01 · 2013-12-28T16:18:04+00:00

Just remember man. She thinks she has you around her finger. "Oh no! All those hot loser guys I fucked before don't want me! I need someone to take care of me... OH YEAH there was that guy 10 years ago who orbited me, I can just throw him the bone I know he always wanted and Ill get him!"

Fuck her and leave her man. Free yourself.

EDIT: Thanks for the gold :)

zyk0s · 2013-12-28T16:07:13+00:00

This is the retribution fantasy every guy who's ever been thrown aside dreams of. Looks like you've carried it out perfectly, good on you man!

Ethylparaben · 2013-12-28T16:10:42+00:00

Don't slip and end up marrying her, OP.

Otherwise, GREAT JOB. HIGH FIVES.

EeeeeeevilMan · 2013-12-28T17:27:43+00:00

Now tell her about the hot chick you fucked last night whose perfect tits make you come so hard.

Do it.

AllYouCanEatRedPills · 2013-12-28T16:13:40+00:00

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Ormild · 2013-12-28T16:31:25+00:00

MSN? My God how time flies.

UnimpressedAsshole · 2013-12-28T18:03:12+00:00

It's profound how utterly romantic most men are compared to how completely not most women are.

Women realize this and use it to their advantage. A woman creates and feeds a man's hearty imagination and romanticism not to build a reciprocal sense of unity, joy, and magic but to engineer or at least facilitate an emotional tether in the man's heart to herself.

You can see it with this girl as she tries to build your ego about you being a "good guy" and her not recognizing it all along because she was so misguided. She was once misguided, lost, and ignorant but now she has seen the light and you shine as a beacon of nobility in her world. You can be her Prince Charming in her "almost fairy-tale". You can save her OP, with you two riding into the sunset together...

semigod__ · 2013-12-28T16:18:20+00:00

sometimes i wonder: will this pile of unmarried 40 year old spinsters in 10-15 years serve the younger generation as a cautionary tale?

blowlinesfuckdimes · 2013-12-28T16:56:25+00:00

Please please please don't give her the commitment she wants. I know you used to be super into her or whatever and that'll probably sway your opinion, but if you're as truly TRP-knowledgable as you claim to be you know exactly what'll happen if you marry this chick.

pcadrian · 2013-12-28T16:45:10+00:00

She apologized for the way she treated me, said she's a changed woman

That's what they all say bro. They are all changed people.

Listen dude. People don't change. It's very rare that they do. Why? Because change takes continuous, constant EFFORT. It takes willpower. It takes intent. And it takes time. A LOT of time. Most people just don't have the mental discipline do to all that and change who they are.

Think about it. Let's say I'm a woman who has spend the last 10 years following an unhealthy, but emotionally reinforced behaviour pattern (sleeping with a ton of guys, drinking, partying and shit). How long do you think it takes for me to override that 10-year imprinted behaviour when I'm 30? Is it even possible at that point? It's a well known fact that after about 25 years of age, brain plasticity decreases. This means it's HARDER to learn new things, and harder to change behaviour patterns.

I've been shoving red pills down my throat DAILY in LARGE doses for the past YEAR or so, and I STILL have a LOT of work to do, even with all my consistent daily effort. So when someone comes to me and say they changed, I say they are full of shit.

Edit: I got carried away when I read the "she's a changed woman" and didn't read the rest of the post until now. Great fucking job. You're the man.

2013-12-28T17:21:18+00:00

I didn't see anyone else say it, so I'll say it for them. Next her for another so you don't risk getting attached.

CornFedConscience · 2013-12-28T16:29:18+00:00

Whatever you do, do NOT commit to her anything more than a plate.

And DO NOT get her pregnant. Keep track of your used condoms afterwards, even consider white tabasco sauce. She's not dumb. After she realizes you're not falling for her, that she's just a toy for you, she might go into panic mode, get desperate, and start digging in the trash can after sex.

Edit: shit I can't spell today.

jmikolash · 2013-12-28T16:50:43+00:00

I actually feel bad for these chicks. Society tells them this is the thing to do: YOLO without giving a single fuck. Then FWHAP! The wall. They are fucked, with nothing but a future of misery ahead of themselves.

This is what happens when you get weak beta fathers supplicating to their little princess' every desire. Delusional entitlement to the extreme without an ounce of discipline or self respect.

The general sentiment seems to be let them burn and warm yourself by the fire of their agony, but if that was your little girl I don't think it would be a proud fatherly moment when you watch her punch her ticket to the cock carousel for the first time.

There has to be a better fate than this.

IllimitableMan · 2013-12-28T16:32:13+00:00

I have a score to settle myself but unless she offers herself on a plate like yours did I'll live with it.

LMS_THEORY_ · 2013-12-28T16:15:52+00:00

The wall takes no prisoners. It is indiscriminate, just, and the law of nature. We should have more stories of the women slamming into the wall.

We need more stories like this on r/TRP.

2013-12-28T17:14:57+00:00

Pump and dump.

Sometimes you just gotta do it.

2013-12-28T20:00:52+00:00

Incoming text: trapper33, I missed my period last month

PerniciousOne · 2013-12-28T19:58:35+00:00

She is at the wall, and she is going to be looking at you in a provider set of eyes. She will do everything and anything to try locking you down.

She may try to trap you into a relationship by saying she has or becoming pregnant.

Ensure that you use condoms 100% with her, and do not believe her if she says she is on the pill, as women near the wall will try to do anything to lock you down.

2013-12-28T17:34:10+00:00

Hope you wrapped that shit.

mydarkmeatrises · 2013-12-28T18:07:52+00:00

Yeah, stories like this are par for the course, but realistically do you have any type of feelings for her?

If her antics are more of a turnoff than spending time is enjoyable, then you should pump and dump. If not, bygones, proceed with caution, enjoy your new leverage in this relationship and use it to your full advantage.

Edit: Oh and don't allow her to con you with the ' I'm in my 30's, don't waste my time" She didn't seem to mind wasting your time when she friendzoned you.

TXGeck · 2013-12-28T18:30:47+00:00

So now this clinger knows where you live.

Only flaw in your tale I see.

Don't slip up, but don't make her psycho either.

"I am not interested in reliving the past, so I'm going to have to decline."

I wouldn't fuck her again either. That would build up attachment you don't need.

Bisuboy · 2013-12-28T17:18:53+00:00

Just subscribed to this sub because of you.

vaker · 2013-12-28T17:02:54+00:00

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2013-12-28T17:09:01+00:00

Cum on her face, and then walk out. Never look back

sliqwilly · 2013-12-28T17:23:26+00:00

Awesome, purely. "It's like a fairy tale almost", lol, yup, almost.

Calbruin · 2013-12-28T19:34:27+00:00

I think I just got a little teary eyed.

Fsicx · 2013-12-28T18:55:34+00:00

I would say don't reply...actually NEVER do...she is still what she used to be...you are much worthier than her friendship...these ACTs of repentance are ridiculous...just imagine how many guys she tried to contact before you... you have set up a life now...think about that

youruglyside · 2013-12-28T16:31:35+00:00

Awesome work. Next time blow that load all over her face and take pictures for yourself.

hamstercide · 2013-12-28T16:55:27+00:00

The best thing you can do in this scenario is fuck her non-commitally for as long as possible, so that when you eventually do have to dump her her looks will have faded even more. Keep pulling her by the string.

2013-12-28T19:37:58+00:00

Nice job, made me smile. Fuck her hard, but don't give her anything in return. And keep the condoms. Desperate women do desperate shit.

bassivemalls · 2013-12-28T20:45:47+00:00

Looks like her psychology degree didn't work out too well...

Grinned so fucking big here and kept it until the end.

PrisonerOfLife · 2013-12-28T22:00:21+00:00

Do unto others as they do unto you.

She used you as an emotional tampon, you used her as a cum receptacle. Epic justice.

2013-12-29T02:03:16+00:00

Tell her the truth:

When you liked her you were a misguided young guy that didn't know who the real good girls were. Now that you've grown up a bit and seen the world, you've fallen for a cute young 18/yo chick that hangs out at the library and is a virgin.

2013-12-28T17:17:06+00:00

Everyone is saying next her. But I say have some fun. She thinks she can manipulate the little beta boy she was with 10 yrs ago. Use this to your advantage and use her for her body only. Remember to keep safe (condom).

10J18R1A · 2013-12-28T17:36:27+00:00

It's the equivalent of former sex symbols signing up to do playboy fifteen years after anybody would have given a fuck.

johnnight · 2013-12-28T16:20:31+00:00

I can feel your revenge justice satisfaction and at the same time I despair for a society, which made this necessary to feel closure. The slut is broken and you are somewhat broken too, OP.

Sorry guys, I want back into my 19th century Victorian morals Matrix.

2013-12-28T16:28:02+00:00

Sluts don't deserve to be loved.

Atleticomadrid · 2013-12-28T16:02:17+00:00

Good read, well done.

I feel great pleasure when situations which confirm TRP arise in everyday life. I chalk it up as a small victory and use it as motivation to obtain more RP knowledge and better myself.

vaker · 2013-12-28T16:25:31+00:00

If I were you, I'd string her along for awhile, do some beta stuff and see how far you can push her in the bedroom. Turnabout is fair play

One_Mat_Army · 2013-12-28T18:00:29+00:00

I haven't responded yet, don't know if I will at all.

Just fucking don't. What more can you get out of a woman who is desperate to find someone now that she's not who used to be?

You got the shag, now move along with you life.

niceguy_gone_cad · 2013-12-28T19:21:48+00:00

I haven't responded yet, don't know if I will at all. Haha.

She badly needs your sperm in her face.

CMOS222 · 2013-12-29T01:41:46+00:00

I did something similar with a woman I knew in college...was 200% beta, put her on a pedestal, orbited her for the longest time, etc. It didn't work out, obviously...and IN FAIRNESS, I didn't really know her, I only had this idealized image of her.

I am trying these days to be more TRP, and succeeding...but on the other hand, part of me can't help but feel some...compassion, sympathy, understanding, whatever - for both 20something beta males and women who act like the woman you describe. I'm not saying that the behavior is justified, but just that, after all, part of this just boils down to being 20something and simply not knowing enough about how a woman's mind works, and how your own mind works.

Of course, 20something alphas exist, and more power to them. And I agree with the other comments, don't let her popping up into your life result in slipping back into beta mode. I guess I'm just starting to accept that this is how some people's minds (male and female) work, and how to deal with it, TRP-wise.

Boss_Monkey · 2013-12-28T16:50:20+00:00

Ditch her by text, then screen shot it so we can all have a good chuckle.

30303030303030 · 2013-12-28T19:13:37+00:00

regular scenario

Time for a beta provider, don't be that sucker.

2013-12-28T16:49:08+00:00

I would keep her around for the sex, other than that you know what you're dealing with.

KublerRossWasWrong · 2013-12-28T20:39:34+00:00

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Dishmayhem · 2013-12-28T21:45:24+00:00

I vote don't be deliberately mean to her. Keep her around as long as she is fun. If becomes a burden, then you can be mean.

beeker629 · 2013-12-29T02:03:06+00:00

pumpity dumpity.. brings a tear to the eye. so proud.

Arkanj3l · 2013-12-28T16:35:14+00:00

I don't consider this a win because it seems like it didn't take much effort on your part to change or run game. I think the people who are applauding this "success" are reinforcing the wrong concept.

I mean, yeah, congrats on the lay, but based on your narrative of things - she went to you because she made a bet on you having low enough standards or as being hot enough for her even when she "hit the wall". Not because you were her first choice.

BooksofMagic · 2013-12-28T17:00:19+00:00

"seems almost fairy-tale"

It is only because men believe in that Disney princess/fate garbage, that women continue clinging to these "fairy tale" shit.

Men are, by nature, more innocent then women, so we believe what we're told. I mean, we have to. Evolutionarily, if we're lied to, it means death, you get me.

This bitch is making herself look like a foolish innocent little girl, just to get you into the bag. When she's got you, she's gonna go out and fuck some alpha guy. Probably a new 21 year old.

She's just telling you what you want to hear. Manipulation comes natural to women [I find it hillllllaaaaaarious that you have man in the word manipulation, almost like a millenia old linguistic joke].

2013-12-28T16:28:42+00:00

Sometimes regret is a helluva thing, you know

2013-12-28T18:02:46+00:00

That ain't no small victory bro - that's awesome.

2014-01-04T16:09:36+00:00

That is definitely a case of a woman wanting to be "saved". she now sees you as her contingency for the life she fucked up. Don't give in to the tactic she's trying to bait you with by talking fairy tale shit. I hope its obvious to you whats she's up to.

TRPsubmitter · 2013-12-28T17:52:17+00:00

You should just keep her as a plate. No reason not to get sex out of her for all it's worth.

Just be sure to set the tone right away: Just get her to come over to your house for cheap movie/sex nights. No dates unless you enjoy her company, but keep it fun for you. No provider behavior of any kind.

Gypsy__ · 2013-12-28T18:50:55+00:00

good fucking job dude

Gypsy__ · 2013-12-28T18:51:36+00:00

and dont bother contacting

watersign · 2013-12-28T22:11:51+00:00

id just string her along for as long as possible. just dont appear to be too needy

The_smartest_man_evr · 2013-12-29T18:52:05+00:00

If you ever spend a penny on her, I'll cut your fucking nuts off.

BooksofMagic · 2013-12-28T17:02:02+00:00

Good on you. If I were you, after the way she twisted that knife in school, I would be tempted to send her a text:

"Hey Babe! You wanted assholes when I wanted you. Now you want me but I'm an asshole. Thanks for reminiscing with me ;)"

Rectal_Spelunker · 2013-12-28T19:06:54+00:00

I wouldn't contemplate it for too long man. Just my opinion on it, but it just seems too...soon. She's not doing well for herself, and here you are doing well. I hate to sound cynical, but could it not be a trap for some financial entanglement in the form of a child?

Jaereth · 2013-12-28T19:45:46+00:00

This is all well and good, and I would continue sleeping with her. However, don't for a single second give her any idea that you would be in a relationship with her. Also, don't buy her shit.

Your mantra with her is "I don't want to be in a relationship with anyone at this point in my life" It's like you are standing on top of the wall, dangling the rope down to her jjuuuuusssttt out of her reach.

Good job OP

coyotefleas · 2013-12-29T07:04:05+00:00

The odds that she does NOT have a viral STI, namely HSV 2 or one of the genital HPV varietals, are slim to none. Regardless of gender, promiscuous people will get one or more of these, even with diligent condom usage. Just a reality check, can be interpreted any way you like. I shudder to think of the shite I've been exposed to over the past few years...

zephyrprime · 2014-05-09T18:15:00+00:00

"who couldn't see who the "real good guys" were."

She could see them alright and she wanted nothing to do with them.

moorethanafeeling · 2013-12-28T16:52:26+00:00

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vengefully_yours · 2013-12-28T20:33:21+00:00

I have done that too, banged chicks who friend zoned me. Most were when I was in my 20s, right after my first war. I still have two left to fuck, but haven't seen them in almost fifteen years, they might be quite nasty by now. There weren't too many because early on if I heard her call me a friend she never saw me again.

Aaron565 · 2013-12-28T22:21:37+00:00

Hahaha! This is the perfect example of TRP. Good on you man, good on you.

schizoiddude · 2013-12-28T23:29:40+00:00

Nice. Next time she asks you out, you should tell her you have a date that night. "Maybe next week?"

AlCapown3d · 2013-12-29T02:24:41+00:00

Pump and dump.

turncoat_ewok · 2013-12-28T19:05:23+00:00

Good job holding that grudge for so long, that's commitment.

mordanus · 2013-12-28T22:25:38+00:00

Don't set up another date. Remember that this woman never wanted you until her value was too low to get anything else. She finally sunk to the point where she thought that her value equaled yours. She saw how much you had gained and thinks "huzzah I have my beta bux now" and that's all you are going to be to her. This woman thinks that you couldn't do better than her washed up old ass.

link5057 · 2013-12-28T23:13:24+00:00

Never talk to this bitch again. Good job OP. Hit em where it hurts

boogalooshrimp1103 · 2013-12-28T23:22:17+00:00

keep banging her until someone younger and hotter comes along.

DrRectangle · 2013-12-29T03:57:21+00:00

I like it

2013-12-29T04:28:02+00:00

Don't answer her. Don't.

General_Fear · 2013-12-29T05:07:33+00:00

I say keep her around. Keep banging her. She will be your steady supply of sex while you go out and find more tail. Let her at some point she will realize that there is no future with you and she will move on. Meanwhile you will get several months of sex.

DancinDan · 2013-12-28T20:11:40+00:00

In the long history of things that have ever happened, this is not one of them.

rickaboy · 2013-12-29T10:48:47+00:00

This story reminds me of the film Young Adult.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ar_-v7dEEoo

WeAreAllSheep · 2013-12-28T22:47:27+00:00

Thank god you blew your load into her mouth and made her swallow. If you had made the mistake of using a condom, she would have used a turkey baster and you'd be a dad now.

watersign · 2013-12-28T22:17:40+00:00

who wants to bet OP comes back in a week after spending a few nights in the clink for "rape" ??

FortunateBum · 2013-12-28T22:28:09+00:00

This might help other orbiters out there:

How was the sex? Was it everything you ever dreamed of?

Dragontitz · 2013-12-29T02:05:50+00:00

so how do i bang young hotties before they hit the wall? Be rich and shit?

jagrmeister721 · 2013-12-29T06:32:20+00:00

That was truly awesome. I have no advice to share.

2013-12-28T21:10:39+00:00

You are the guy that cock-carousel-riding chicks deserves, but not the one it needs right now. So they'll friendzone him. Because he can take it. Because he is not an Alpha male. He's a silent orbiter. A watchful eye. A Beta male.

Edit: You guys really can't take jokes, can you?

2013-12-29T00:24:50+00:00

Everything about this story is depressing.

_makura · 2014-01-04T11:37:55+00:00

/r/thathappened

PlusGoody · 2013-12-29T06:17:15+00:00

Um, revenge -- for what? OP wasn't forced to be a beta orbiter ten years ago. He chose that. It's a heck of lot more likely he had the insight to know it was ridiculous, but ignored that, than she had the insight he was making a fool of himself and cutting him off out of pity.

TRP is not about being a cruel to any woman, to say the least of a woman who never did you any wrong. To the extent it is about dating at all it is about recognizing the biological reality of attraction.

The Wall is not a punishment for women who deserve to hit it, it is the culmination of a social tragedy to which those women are victim -- a collapse of traditional values which leaves many women unguided and unable to recognize that they are best able to attract suitable husbands when they are younger.

niceguy_gone_cad · 2013-12-28T18:46:32+00:00

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2013-12-28T22:49:02+00:00

good job!

SuperNinKenDo · 2013-12-29T04:35:26+00:00

Careful OP, it's extremely easy to fall into old patterns with old flames. I say move on straight away, not even one more fuck. You might get attached.

Luckyluke23 · 2013-12-29T05:21:49+00:00

It was comical.

I laughed pretty hard at this... dose it make me a bad person?

2013-12-29T22:44:16+00:00

Next her, obviously, like everyone says. Take joy out of the scenario that has played out, but there's no need to be a cunt. She's finished, you win. Throw your hands up in victory and then move on. I understand why a lot of guys are so bitter, but ultimately it's no more her fault than yours. You swallowed the blue pill shoved down your throat, just as she did. She played her cards wrong and best case scenario, she finds a beta provider to be miserable together with. You played your cards just as wrongly, but fortunately the natural order gives men considerably more time to turn it around. Call me a big softie, I just don't see any reason to twist the knife as others are calling for. It's like knocking out some loud mouth looking-for-a-fight knucklehead - that's enough - there's no reason to take his wallet and piss on him while his eyes are rolled back and he's blowing snot bubbles. You cunt punched her - flawless victory - walk away.

HiVLTAGE · 2013-12-30T04:13:07+00:00

/r/thathappened

AVeryMadFish · 2013-12-29T01:06:06+00:00

Everybody here is telling you not to take anything seriously with her, but fuck it man yea she hit the wall and she's crawling back to what she may or may not perceive as an easy lay, but I don't think that you should totally dismiss what you recently experienced with her as some kind of "high-five revenge lay," unless she still is an absolute total bitch.

If you did enjoy your time with her recently, there's no reason you shouldn't go out with her again. OF COURSE play the field, and by no means engage in any oneitis with this chick, but at the same time be open to the possibility that maybe she HAS matured a bit since her no good whorin' days (we all grow up.) Hell, you two might really click and end up finding an actual, real deep connection. Just be sure to assert yourself as a man and use what you've learned to recognize any fuckery afoot, and next that bitch if she tries any funny stuff.

deville05 · 2013-12-28T23:03:24+00:00

Hmm.. While i agree that girls play games like this.. But isnt it possible that she geniuely feels like she made mistakes in her past?! (ok maybe not her in particular, but say any woman for that matter). Im a dude n i know that 10 years ago i could have done things differently and treated some people differently. To assume that all women play games is to assume that they are all self aware and know exactly what they are doing... N i know i didnt know what the fuck i was doing 10 years ago. Should we always assume the worst? Probably best to be cautious i suppose

Spore2012 · 2013-12-28T22:30:08+00:00

It's up to you man. Maybe she has changed, we can't tell and it's up to you to find out.

theragingwalrus · 2013-12-28T17:12:37+00:00

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2013-12-29T05:02:15+00:00

I get the bit about closure but it seems a little insane to say that this interaction provided a sense of "justice". Nobody owes you their attention though you may crave it.

real-boethius · 2013-12-29T08:27:15+00:00

"his body is incredible, it makes the sex so fucking hot, the way he bends me over"

She told you what she wanted and you ignored her. The fact is women want the alpha/beta mix. You could have given her that.

devilabit · 2013-12-28T22:02:34+00:00

Dude Ive been there with women putting me into friendzone. I'm delighted you feel great about yourself but here are a few questions. 1) Are you sure ...she knows how much you liked her. I think thats important to consider before you go ignoring her. Maybe she didn't get how strong you felt. 2) is it fair to say that hot chicks get loads of guys throwing themselves at them, maybe you were shite at 'the game' and didn't make the right impression on her. If you looked like a sweaty sack back then, could you blame her?. 3) Man, if she is as hot as you say, maybe you have something good, maybe she's the hottest bird you'll ever score.

Can I say I was in a scarily similar situation but over a two year period. I practically blanked the girl when she tried to get into my life. I didn't even do the date. I don't know maybe I should have, but I was satisfied enough knowing she was after me.

Title	Girl who friendzoned me nearly 10 years ago slammed into the wall and recently messaged me.
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Date	December 28, 2013 3:49 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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