Did you file or did she?

Adventurous_Fact2083 · 2024-01-11T00:51:42+00:00

That was the best $9k retainer fee I’ve ever had. I said where do I sign. When she received the divorce complaint she said you’re ripping my kids away from me and you hate me. Damn straight I do and you’re a shitty mom. Those kids deserve better.

Wassp868 · 2024-01-10T23:03:20+00:00

I filed. she moved out and the things she was doing made me realize she was done. So to avoid complications, I filed about 6 months after

Ok-Barracuda-8970 · 2024-01-10T22:35:27+00:00

Her. Worst day of my life.

greatinven2161 · 2024-01-10T20:21:21+00:00

I filed. Best move that took me too long to do.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-01-10T19:20:33+00:00

She filed. I cried so fucking hard that day. She cheated and left and told me she never loved me after ten years together.

ActiveShooter696969 · 2024-01-10T18:54:00+00:00

I filed. Almost at the finish line. Thank God.

Classic_Dill · 2024-01-10T14:54:22+00:00

I knew that the divorce was coming, but she filed a few weeks before the agreed arrangement, this is not abnormal, women in America file about 80% of the time.

ciscopimp2 · 2024-01-10T13:50:02+00:00

I filed first. Her first ex-husband also got tired of her and filed, too. My guess is that her new man will eventually get tired of her and leave as well.

You can not announce intentions with a narcissist. By doing so, you only give them time to prepare. After my ex-wife did what she did on April 19, she knew it was done, but she didn't think I would pull the trigger.

She found out that I filed for divorce when she tried to hire my law firm. Since they had her on the phone (on a Friday), they told her that she would be served that Monday and collected contact information from her at that point to serve her.

I moved out and took everything I brought to the marriage with me while she was on vacation with her sister. I told her the day before she came home that I was leaving. That way, there are no police drama and false accusations. I also didn't tell her where I was either until I had to disclose to the court for legal purposes two months later.

Furthermore, I forced the sale of the house by moving out and forcing her to pay the utilities. I still paid my half of the mortgage for the two months she stayed in the house. Since I paid the utilities, I simply took them out of my name and gave her three days' notice to get the utilities put in her name. Instead of doing what I told her, she told me she would discuss it with her attorney. She didn't take me seriously and on day three, as I told her, she came home to a dark house (no lights, no water, no electricity, no gas, no television, and no internet). She quickly found out that paying the extra bills she took for granted was going to be an untenable situation. I also made her pay her own car insurance as i was covering that, too. I took her off my Costco membership as well. I can't imagine the look on her face when she tried to use her card, and the machine said it wasn't valid. She wasted, according to my lawyer, in communication with hers, about $1400 in legal fees trying to fight what I did, to no avail, and it didn't cost me a cent. I had an ethical lawyer who saw through her garbage.

CaliDude75 · 2024-01-10T12:33:53+00:00

I petitioned and filed.

dnbndnb · 2024-01-10T06:30:05+00:00

She wanted it, I filed. Waited for her to wait weeks for a video consult with a lawyer during the ‘rona. I talked to another guy who gave me his lawyer & I saw him the next day. She was never good at anything like this.

whiskey_piker · 2024-01-10T04:15:53+00:00

Filing first is strategy just like choosing kickoff or return in Football.

I filed first. Happily. If my Ex filed first she could have slow rolled and delayed the process even further.

justme4556 · 2024-01-10T02:15:03+00:00

I filed after years of her bpd ass I just couldn't take it. Almost there got one apioment to error check the docs and the off to the judge they go for signing. Light at the end of the tunnel. Planning a vacation to Thailand in the fall.

NotUsedUsernameYet · 2024-01-10T01:25:40+00:00

I filed after caught her cheating. It was important for me psychologically that I was the one initiating divorce.

Embarrassed-Safe-670 · 2024-01-10T01:01:17+00:00

I filed. She wanted an " amicable " divorce. I bet. She wanted everything !

Pinnerforever · 2024-01-10T01:00:27+00:00

She said she is going to file. That was last June when she threw away our marriage. Now the funny part is her married boyfriend and her are raising his newborn and five year old. In the state they are in she can never legally adopt the baby while still married. She would have to get my permission. So part of me says make her pay for it and file like she said she was going to. Then part of me is going to do it next June on the day she cheated on me. Try and have her served on that day. I left her cheating ass behind and moved far away from her. It will cost me $450 to file where I am at now also the state we were married in. In the end she got what she wanted.

Mountain_Collar_7620 · 2024-01-10T00:34:20+00:00

I filed. Freedom from psychotic tyranny is Priceless. Never Live on Your Knees brothers. ✌️

Flimsy-Ad-1959 · 2024-01-10T00:32:16+00:00

Neither yet. I think we are both hoping it’ll be easy with no kids and 50/50 down the middle of everything. Not saying it’ll be perfect. But all I can is hope and try to stay positive and not get into fights and arguments.

soontobesolo · 2024-01-10T00:17:08+00:00

I filed. I had enough misery and poor treatment, to say nothing of poor treatment of our kid. Best thing I ever did.

New-Amoeba9042 · 2024-01-09T23:38:11+00:00

She filed, cheated while overseas, when she got back moved out and said she would think about things. Said they up until she found some other guy, and served me when they got engaged

internallydeluded · 2024-01-09T23:30:58+00:00

I filed. Lots of issues over the years on both ends, but ultimately financial infidelity was the last straw. It’s weird because I feel like I can’t find many similar stories of people going through the same thing as me. I guess I should be happy there was no cheating, but I feel like I can’t trust anything I know about her now. And I constantly wonder if I did the right thing.

lettheflamedie · 2024-01-09T23:04:16+00:00

She filed for divorce.

lettheflamedie · 2024-01-09T23:04:08+00:00

You filed for divorce.

Title	Did you file or did she?
Author	lettheflamedie
Upvotes	13
Comments	49
Date	January 9, 2024 11:03 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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