Block and Delete Him, Sis. Otherwise he will suck you back in or try to gaslight you.

ChemicalCobbler · 2021-03-09T23:12:11+00:00

Ugh so much time and energy wasted on exes thinking that the right combination of words would somehow magically make them give a shit. Never again

hakunnamatatamfs · 2021-03-09T23:11:24+00:00

Exactly. Sometimes it's difficult to let go of that need of saying the last word, but closure is something you get from your own grieving process, not something someone can give to you.

LuckyCharmsLass · 2021-03-10T03:22:05+00:00

Not only does he not care, it will make his dick hard.

Just don't do it.

InterviewImaginary46 · 2021-03-10T00:17:09+00:00

Everyone tells me to “talk to him” and to “give him a piece of my mind”. Well blocking and deleting his number gives me peace of mind.

sunset_sunshine30 · 2021-03-10T12:25:15+00:00

I did that with my ex. Calmly explained why he hurt me and how his actions were hurtful.

Dude didn't give a fuck. He blocked me and I didn't hear from him again.

These men do not care. They just don't. My ex wanted to get his dick wet and that was all it came down to in the end.

Now, no more walls of text. I simply don't reply and don't give them the satisfaction of a reaction

terrn1981 · 2021-03-10T02:32:00+00:00

Telling them how much they hurt you, just gives them an ego boost. They love it. They do not have empathy for your feelings.

satans-sugarbaby · 2021-03-10T00:18:51+00:00

So true. They always come crawling back, even if they don't actually want you. Usually they are bored and just want some kind of attention or a stroke of ego. Or they're horny and want to keep tabs to see if you're still single and if there might be a chance to sleep with you again. They hide behind the facade of pretending to care. They don't actually care about how you're doing or what's new in your life. Literally no point in entertaining the idea of talking to them.

Blocking them eliminates any potential risk of getting sucked back in. Face it, we are human and we are influenced by emotions, and shit can happen in times of weakness. Your time, emotions and energy are ESSENTIAL to your mental health and wellbeing. By engaging a simple block and delete, you are taking care of yourself and preserving your health and sanity.

orchid447 · 2021-03-09T23:48:49+00:00

I get wanting closure, it seems easier than reading a whole-ass "Why Does He Do That" book.

But that's exactly why that book exists.

Cristinky420 · 2021-03-10T06:03:21+00:00

He doesn't care and will never apologize.

luxrayne_ · 2021-03-10T11:10:16+00:00

I remember sending the dreaded paragraph. Kinda in a venting style, just letting him know what he did was f’d up and he’s full of it. I honestly expected no reply or some crappy one word response. well to my surprise.. I got a very sassy, elaborate paragraph back, breaking down bit by bit everything i said and essentially telling me to take my own advice. He used everything I said against me even though he was the one pulling some two timing scheme w/ multiple women. This came from a guy that could barely put two words together in a sentence any other time we’d talk, then I got that?? I didn’t even know how to process his response to me other than crying. 😂😂

Not my best moment, but ngl.. Getting it off my chest made me get over it easier. Definitely not for the faint of hearts

MrsJohnMarston__ · 2021-03-09T23:54:40+00:00

100% this though.

I had an emotionally stunted 1st bf, who broke up with me on FB messenger (should have just blocked then and there). I felt like things were going south weeks before but he (falsely) reassured me. I’m sure we had sex after this point. I was fxcking livid.

But because I didn’t delete and block, I ended up going on his Tumblr because he kept writing pseudo-cryptic bull about how he couldn’t explain why he hurt me. In all honesty it never helped. It didn’t even get him to return my CDs he borrowed any faster.

What did help massively was “Vietnam” by John Grant.

The silence can feel like gaslighting, which just hurts you more in the end. If they cared enough they wouldn’t hurt you that way.

Mysterious_Midnight7 · 2021-03-10T13:10:05+00:00

Not just that he doesn't care, but don't even give him that satisfaction. It's an absolute ego boost for LVM to know that they hurt you and got you in your feelings. Loads of them even set out to intentionally do that. Cut them off cold.

DumahDie · 2021-03-10T06:09:35+00:00

One dude I dated kept treating me like a taxi since he didn’t have a car (he was 18), and I told him to stop. Then while I was working late, he texted me asking if I could pick him up from his friends’. I said no. You got there somehow, ask the people who picked you up to take you home. I wish I had blocked him right then and there, but I felt bad because I knew he was leaving for the Army the next day, and he could get in big trouble if he didn’t show up. Stupid me texts him fine, what’s the address. I drove like fucking half an hour to find him, and it was complete silence on the way back. Then he just said “thanks” and got out. I screamed at myself and him in the car on the way home, blocked him on everything that night, and never spoke to him again. He knows what the fuck he did.

I was 20 or 21 then and if I had known he was a god damned teenager I would have turned him down. Worse, he was a coworker. Ugh. Kicking myself over that bullshit.

spicyspa · 2021-03-10T04:42:25+00:00

B & D not WOT (wall o'text)

TropicalPrairie · 2021-03-10T14:50:24+00:00

Years ago and during a time of diminished confidence, I was in a toxic relationship that I left after we got in an argument. When he reached out a few weeks later, I did write the paragraphs of text back to him, letting him know how I felt and how he hurt me. He ended by saying a few lines including "I didn't mean to hurt you" and "You need to understand that I'm not good at explaining myself or texting". lol That was IT. That then angered me even more. I wasn't even deserving of a proper apology.

In retrospect, it did feel good to let it all out at the time ... but I often wonder the psychological effects it would have had on me (and him) if I just ghosted, never to be seen or heard from again.

cdndeen · 2021-03-10T15:26:22+00:00

Happened to me after 10 years of being together, 5 years married. They’re all the same.

_boring_daven_ · 2021-03-10T16:36:18+00:00

It’s important to forgive yourself for accepting that treatment

Extreme-Vermicelli · 2021-03-11T04:25:06+00:00

I'm practising this, but struggle with it. I know that my words will fall on deaf ears and that he doesn't care. Nothing I say can change what a person thinks. But at the same time, I want to call him out and unleash such a torrent on him. I want him to hear what a shit he is, I want him to experience accountability, instead of thinking he has got away with it. I want him to suffer and hurt. No, that's not healthy either. But it's the bloody truth.

Sampad123 · 2021-03-10T03:34:22+00:00

I don’t necessarily believe in this. I think speaking your truth helps you move on. Made the mistake of acting like I was too cool after a break up years ago and never got to express my true hurt. Held on to it for years - was awful.

MsBingoBronson · 2021-03-10T07:58:54+00:00

The last time I tried to get closure I got pulled into someone's suicide attempt so sometimes you really want to leave that door closed

Substantial-Win-7612 · 2021-03-10T16:20:16+00:00

What if you just want to let them know that no matter what they did not break you? Is that legit?

breadandbunny · 2021-03-13T02:26:17+00:00

The block button needs to become your best friend. The less you see or hear from someone, the less problems they can cause you.

Title	Block and Delete Him, Sis. Otherwise he will suck you back in or try to gaslight you.
Author	warinmymind94
Upvotes	3082
Comments	47
Date	March 9, 2021 11:03 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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