Dear Lord…

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2021-12-08T04:02:21+00:00

What a vile, deceitful POS that man is. I hope his girlfriend leaves him asap.

thb_fds · 2021-12-08T04:00:47+00:00

Basically says hey man it's ok we're all like that, men are WiReD to have a high sex drive and wandering eye... It's like they have to keep telling each other this evopsych bs even though it's not true so they won't have to sit with that uncomfortable feeling of guilt for a few minutes. I mean it's not like other men can be faithful and hold a conversation with their girlfriend without loathing her, nope. But hey man at least she's hot! Because that's what's most important.

edwardianemerald · 2021-12-08T04:08:11+00:00

I actually don't think this is Madonna/ whore because she's NEVER on a pedestal for him. She's always a whore to him.

SMH at the advice the columnist gives: "you don't want to sound like a sex hound who only dates girls to bang them" but that's what this so-called man is! Goodness forbid there's some honesty and accountability, right? Goodness forbid the woman is told what is actually going on? If there is no accountability, there will be no change. If men can't keep each other accountable then what....

Aromatic-Owl8808 · 2021-12-08T08:23:12+00:00

"You don’t want to sound like a sex hound who only dates girls to bang them. So, address the issue as a case of misinterpreted signals. Tell her that you really like her, but you don’t think there’s much compatibility."

This is scrotespeak. He knows he is shit, but he doesn't want to sound like it. He doesn't want to "sound" like a sex hound. So he rewords it to hide the issue and gaslight and confuse and blame her. Scrotes all around. I hope she finds her way out. Or just reads this letter.

No_Fig2938 · 2021-12-08T06:05:11+00:00

Isn't a slave is what this man basically want? and we're gonna treat that as completely normal "many men wind up in a similar situation!!"🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

discoveringliberty · 2021-12-08T07:39:28+00:00

Honestly, men need to get over themselves. Stop writing questions in to advice columns when you already know the answer: you are using her for sex, you are treating her poorly and you are a bad person. It really didn't need that long-winded, wax poetic response about bIolOGy.

KindredMaximus · 2021-12-08T06:00:05+00:00

Wow, that answer was so long, when they could have just replied ""You're a nasty, shallow POS and you need to tell her that and then get into therapy, so you don't use any other person on this earth, who is doing their best - when your best is a turd in the toilet''.

modernmedusaa · 2021-12-08T07:28:31+00:00

It’s okay she was probably planning on leaving him anyway

Men love gloating about this shit like they’re so in demand till they get left

Then it’s panic wahhhhhh rage wut do you mean you’re seriously leaving me? 😢

This is a problem men have with women they find very physically attractive

Because the patriarchy values womens looks so much

When they get a very attractive woman they often feel insecure and constantly threatened bc they’re not nice or interesting people deep down

They are perhaps a bit afraid of her ability to attract many men

So they have to mentally neg and dismiss the woman’s personality to feel better than her and knock her down

When in most cases they are entirely average and boring across the board but this is the only way they can feel they ‘beat her’ by changing goalposts

Oh you’re really hot? Yeah well actually I’m not into your personality that much tbh….start picking apart her personality

Okay - then leave scrote. What’s stopping you?

So they want the bro points and status from getting her without being attached & called a ‘cuck’

Sometimes the woman is interesting and layered but they’re not interested in that part- too busy playing mind games avoiding intimacy

Men get bro points from sleeping with attractive women and dismissing them as useless airheads they don’t have feelings for

Because if they were to find her attractive AND develop deep feelings for her character….they might feel shock horror….vulnerable! Or in love!

Then they might be in some real shit as they can’t replace her so easily as they formed an actual bond!

And then omg what if she left him? This attractive smart woman who’s kind inside, how embaressing for him!

Then he would feel so powerless & might miss her

So it’s best to just mute her personality and see her as a sex robot to use - detach all feelings and make zero effort to connect or get to know her

Not to mention he’s likely a porn addict which shortcuts the brain & shrinks it….literally

So he’s the only shallow brain here

But oh no now I don’t feel connected…I’m so bored, need to change goal posts again, though I made no effort to bond with this one

These men are emotionally shallow and immature- they’re never satisfied and never actually open to bonding in the first place

The fact he’s bragging? Lol cope .

I guarantee he’s got a boring personality and unattractive too but simped to get her, since 95% of men are like this- mediocre and wildly arrogant.

But he wants to be seen as ‘above’ her to quell his insecurity about keeping her

This is the male brain people….it’s like a rat running round a maze . Despite the large exit sign…they keep missing it.

They compartmentalize her as ‘dumb hoe who look good’ instead to save their feelings getting hurt

And even if he doesn’t like her personality- his fault for being shallow

So they claim to desire attraction and genuine bonds

But actually fear the bond and the attraction bc the patriarchy mocks men having feelings for women but values them having sex with and using attractive women

In fact it’s triple bro points if you belittle an attractive woman and ‘show her who’s boss’ by dismissing her

pinsandtucks · 2021-12-08T10:47:47+00:00

Scrote: I only date this girl for sex, she's so annoying.

Columnist: AlL MeN ArE AnNoYeD especially afTeR sEx by their girlfriends because BioLogY (huh? 🧐), but if you have tHe SeX, that's the most part of the relationshiiiip, sooo have you considered you might grow to love her?

Aaaand, that's why you never chase a man. Just vile. They have zero standards and happily date women they utterly despise. I'll keep saying it: scrotes don't even understand what love is because they are incapable of love.

Silly me, who thought that mutual appreciation was the most important part of a relationship! 😂

MsWriteNow07 · 2021-12-08T15:11:02+00:00

Both of the writer of the letter and the advice columnist are absolutely disgusting, but there was this one kernel in the pile of crap, where the columnist calls the guy for wanting to be FWB: “But you’ve got to understand that even as friends, you still won’t like this girl. Friends hang out and help each other. If you only want sex, then you need to take the “friends” part out of the equation.” Truer words were never spoken. Men definitely need to stop using that friends term in vain.

jupitaur9 · 2021-12-08T15:32:32+00:00

“Your girl is a giver and it sounds like she takes good care of herself.”

If she really wants to take good care of herself, not just in having a fuckable body but actually caring about herself, she will drop him like a hot potato.

Unfit_Needleworker · 2021-12-08T17:53:09+00:00

“ItS oNe Of ThOsE eVoLuTioNaRy TrAiTs Of BeInG a MaLe.”

pinksamosa · 2021-12-08T14:21:03+00:00

Omg the advice is pure garbage.

2021-12-08T17:46:21+00:00

Only together for 3 months? See, this is why we have the three months rule. He wouldn’t have stuck around that long if it weren’t for sex. This woman is a “giver if you know what I mean” so she is invested and in for a whole world of hurt. The advice is horrible and unethical. Basically telling him to stick it out a little longer to see if he can develop feelings. Pepper in some evolutionary psychology bullshit about “wandering eye”, suggest eating a sandwich or taking a nap, and if that doesn’t work she ain’t it. fist bump *explodes into toxic masculinity mushroom cloud 💥

womaninprogressfor7 · 2021-12-08T12:14:20+00:00

This is a man who is too weak to say no because free sex. He will cheat on her and stay with her until he gets caught or finds her replacement.

Men don't care if they like you or not! They are happy to fuck you, zero feelings involved, if you let them!

ceramicunicorn · 2021-12-08T15:37:59+00:00

Look at this dating advice, where someone who is objectively crap who should just leave his girlfriend is still treated with empathy and guided on strategy as to how to maximize his benefits.

Where’s VICE magazine on THIS outfit to criticize them on how awful they are for instructing a man on what is most advantageous for him??

CatSweets · 2021-12-08T17:02:54+00:00

"Ask yourself – do I simply dislike her company after sex, or do I dislike her company all the time?"

Yikes

YoureAliveYoureOk · 2021-12-08T16:39:05+00:00

Believe it or not, many men wind up in a similar situation

And there it is.

Men will be in a relationship / have sex with women they absolutely hate, and then feel absolutely zero percent bad about it.

rightsun__ · 2021-12-08T05:02:57+00:00

“Your girl is a pleaser”......... YUCK. Where’s that FDS post on having sex where men don’t orgasm, we need to start focusing on ourselves ladies 🤧

pukubr · 2021-12-08T20:24:13+00:00

Men like that do not deserve to be having sex, period. If he cannot respect the human being giving him this service, he shouldn't be having it to begin with. Thinking "women are only used for sex" is backwards thinking. Sex is something men need to earn after building trust and intimacy, not them casually taking it from women and then wondering what's wrong with the rest of their personality. If he just wants sex he should use a sex toy.

DecisivelyDrained · 2021-12-08T17:13:41+00:00

The amount of bro-science in the reply, attempting to justify this man's trash behavior, just ugh

kinkardine · 2021-12-08T18:05:44+00:00

I am more scared reading the advice, the guy was being honest self, but that Jack brought a whole level of manipulation in the drama- so suffocating.

MollyBMcGee · 2021-12-08T11:15:53+00:00

“So, don’t make this about her. It’s really about you choosing a partner solely on the basis of physical attraction.” The columnist came so close to holding the writer accountable, so close to calling for real introspection… after giving him props for having such a hot girlfriend 🙄

throwawayalecto · 2021-12-08T13:54:07+00:00

Am I the only one who thought the response was almost more disgusting than the original question?

Thesseli · 2021-12-09T16:56:01+00:00

Isn't this most men? I've found most men don't actually like women, they just want sex.

Elena1684 · 2021-12-08T13:07:49+00:00

The good news is this men like this are communicating just not with words. The bad news is when pick me’s receive this message the men gaslight and future fake them. He’s just stressed, tired, his boss is a jerk, he will feel better when (insert anything) but the truth is he hates you.

Educational_Sorbet_3 · 2021-12-08T16:02:24+00:00

Is anyone going to actually send a message to the columnist and call him out on his BS of advice?

bioqueen53 · 2021-12-08T22:46:09+00:00

If she's talking after sex, you didn't make her c*m lmao

jijitsu-princess · 2021-12-09T00:18:39+00:00

He’s not into her but he’ll keep stringing her along for the good (for him) sex.

frostetvindu · 2021-12-08T15:03:57+00:00

That is one cursed wall of drivel from the expert's side.

Get-in-the-llama · 2021-12-08T08:38:38+00:00

Evolution. Of course that’s his answer.

Title	Dear Lord…
Author	vforvendetta87
Upvotes	272
Comments	55
Date	December 8, 2021 3:28 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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