Doing my best to internalize this when reminiscing of how 'nice' they are in the beginning.

MommaGypsy · 2020-05-24T06:24:50+00:00

Lol, I dunno.... All my exes are Super Nice when they pop back up hoping to fuck me again.

featherflowers · 2020-05-24T04:07:05+00:00

Oof yup

diflorus · 2020-05-24T12:47:31+00:00

The first guy I was with wasn’t even nice to me ☹️ I asked if we could light a candle for my first time and he replied “Wow, you really want to go all out?”

He also texted me a picture of a stain on his bedsheet after I had left, with the caption “marked my sheets :/“ yeah he was the fucking worst. Glad I know better now.

idiay · 2020-05-24T04:02:59+00:00

True.

ScrappleSandwiches · 2020-05-24T07:31:36+00:00

And the sex is all downhill from there

lavyebel · 2020-05-24T07:56:30+00:00

So true it hurts 😂

ayykayyy47 · 2020-05-24T14:05:14+00:00

Oo I remember when a “friend” of 2yrs said “I just want you to fuck me” out of nowhere and then tried to say it was a joke when I told him off

eyeroll

laylamiller · 2020-05-24T15:02:27+00:00

I was just thinking about this because with the Rona street harassment has mysteriously vanished. It's all just, "Good Morning." "How are you doing?" with friendly smiles and not leers or anything inappropriate being said(at least around my way and I live in NYC.) I was surprised by this...until I realised a lot of these men have probably not gotten laid in maybe two months. Possibly longer than that. And while some violent sexual attacks have happened (like an older special needs woman getting raped by a man who stopped to make casual conversation with her first, which is why for better or worse I just give men the stank look when they say anything to me out in the street.) not nearly as many as you would expect for such a large population of men who aren't able to get casual sex as easily as before. At least not yet.

I was walking around yesterday like, "When TF did men get so friendly and polite all of the sudden?"(this is a city where men PROUDLY sit down on the bus while a woman stands and the other day in a crowded bus a man actually let me sit with my bag of groceries. Just to give you an idea.) And then I was like, "Oh right! They're not getting laid because of Covid-19."

skyerippa · 2020-05-24T08:41:19+00:00

I went through a traumatic and abusive breakup. A new friend went above and beyond to help me through it. First night we hung out in real life not just text. He raped me.

OrchidLion · 2020-05-24T05:31:41+00:00

Literally.

InayahDaneen · 2020-05-24T16:13:20+00:00

And when you refuse, that nice guy facade falls apart fast.

thowawaywookie · 2020-05-24T14:49:07+00:00

Exactly. They're all nice at first.

When a friend tells me about someone she's talked to online or a guy she's just met and she says he's so nice. I say of course they're nice. You wouldn't be talking to them if they weren't.

I mention that all men lie and you have to assume 100% of them are lying to you until they show you different.

They've had practice saying the things a woman would like to hear, to get her panties off as quick as possible. "you're different from all the other girls" "I can see a future with us" "Yeah, I'm ready to settle down. You'd be a great mother" or whatever he thinks will work.

noavocadoshere · 2020-05-24T12:43:48+00:00

no one will be as nice to you as a straight guy trying to fuck you. ~~for the first time~~

meezapizza · 2020-05-24T11:17:11+00:00

Exactly

throwawayitst · 2020-05-24T13:29:14+00:00

UpbeatIncubator · 2020-05-24T11:33:59+00:00

*Minus yourself when you tap into proper self care and love!

alina_314 · 2020-05-24T12:00:25+00:00

So how can you tell if they’re being genuine?

2020-05-24T15:06:15+00:00

It makes me vomit to think my ex of 4.5 years probably did everything to just get in my pants. He was so, so nice. Ugh.

CyberJen · 2020-05-24T05:26:43+00:00

True

Cobmobster21 · 2020-05-25T02:53:50+00:00

I hate when guys only cuddle before sex. Afterwards they just roll over and pass out. Like it’s so obvious you’re doing it for sex.

bey124 · 2020-05-24T20:25:57+00:00

Hahaha this is so true

ms_monquis · 2020-05-26T21:19:25+00:00

"It was so good in the beginning!"

No shit. Ted Bundy was real charming, too.

zombieballerinajen · 2020-05-24T16:36:22+00:00

Ick! It's so true.

crashmeifyoucan · 2020-05-24T08:43:13+00:00

so none of it is real if they are nice to you?

TheBewilderedBadger · 2020-05-24T09:07:40+00:00

Oh god. This is so accurate, it hurts.

Oilll27 · 2020-05-24T09:48:38+00:00

Then they act like you did something wrong and try to find bullshit dirt on you and shame you in order to get rid of you. Fuck you Tristan, fuck you Mike, fuck you Albert

TankGirl1997 · 2020-05-24T10:19:24+00:00

As a single lesbian, weirdly even I have experienced that insanely lovely man who stopped being lovely the moment he realised he couldn't have me lol I wish more people could just be friendly for the sake of being friendly

DaneShook · 2020-05-25T02:03:40+00:00

OMG... this is so true. 🤣

Theblackswordsman87 · 2020-05-28T04:04:14+00:00

That's why the bad boy is irresistible, at least he's not fake.

Title	Doing my best to internalize this when reminiscing of how 'nice' they are in the beginning.
Author	xoladybugxo
Upvotes	2271
Comments	75
Date	May 24, 2020 3:40 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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