I recently came across an article in the news sub stating that an estranged ex-husband just killed his 3 daughters inside a church. He killed 2 others who aren't identified yet. He then took his own life. The mother wasn't present.

This is painful in many ways. 3 beautiful girls are gone, the mother is probably in the deepest pits of depression and mourning (jfc I can't even imagine and frankly don't want to), the murderer will never see true justice through the hands of the law, and it's another reminder that cops are not here to protect you, really. I don't want to get political in the comments because this post isn't about that so, please, just save it.

First, know the difference between a protective order and a restraining order. I'm doing my own research for the state I live in. If FDS has any divorce lawyers, please share any knowledge about this in the comments.

You can also lookup:

  • domestic violence protection orders
  • no-contact orders
  • civil antiharassment protection orders

Now, family annihilators (FA). The first name you may think of is Chris Watts.

For a long time, I never knew that there was a term for these types of people. Both men and women can be FA but largely and overwhelmingly, it's the former.

I found this article by Wired VERY helpful. This thesis done on the subject done in May 2020 is also enlightening as well as this Rolling Stones article on Chris Watts.

"So-called ordinary men who were loving husbands and fathers could do quite extraordinarily appalling things to their partners, ex-partners and their children. Family break-up -- including related issues, such as access to children -- as the most common cause of family murders, followed by financial troubles, honour killings and mental illness."

Family breakups followed by financial troubles, honor killings and mental illness. The profile of the LVM that we discuss in this sub could be the ending of your entire family. If he comes off as histrionic and controlling (making a scene), he's more likely to kill your children. Has he threatened to kill himself or you or both of you? He's not playing around, he'll kill your current or future kids. Ask him what a family should look like to him. Is he traditional? How strict is he on having a trad-wife? Ask him what he would do if you two were to break up. It might seem strange but his gut reaction to that question should tell you all you need to know.

LVM can become FA. FAs are everyday working men. FAs are usually domestic violence offenders already. If FAs are in financial distress, they're more likely to kill.

Some interesting points in the Wired article and thesis:

  1. Men are most likely to commit these acts during August, with 20 percent of cases occurring within this period.
  2. There are 4 types of family annihilators: Self-righteous, anomic, disappointed and paranoid.
  3. Shooting was the most common method of murder across familicide cases (79%).
    1. How many of you ladies know a man who owns a gun and uses it regularly? Is it your romantic partner or husband?
  4. After the crime, 87% of offenders either completed or attempted suicide.
    1. The Wired article had a similar statistic.
  5. Reasons can also include, jealousy, wife affair, offender affair (as in he cheated, I can't even believe this one), unemployment, ill children, substance abuse, legal history (as in he's already been arrested and/or convicted).
  6. Illnesses that should be most seriously considered as risk factors to the commission of familicide are serious psychotic disorders, bipolar disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorders, and personality disorders (so basically if he has an SMI but not always).

This is serious. It's survival at this point.

I can go on and on about this but I'm tired and need a mental break from the research so if there are errors, my bad, correct me in the comments. I hope we can start a dialogue about this in the comments. Men won't save us, we need to protect ourselves. No one is talking about this seriously but people will watch true crimes about it all day thinking it won't be them.

Vet the absolute fuck out of these men! No mercy. No prisoners. Block and delete without hesitation. I want you all to live, with your kids, in peace. Be safe out there.