Heartbreaking

anadreamy2 · 2022-02-19T23:33:27+00:00

Reading this made me so sick and disturbed. The amount of distress this younger women may be feeling and the potential trauma she is going to develop because of this abusive dynamic is very sad.

alkahina_ · 2022-02-20T00:19:29+00:00

Did you see the other post from the perspective of the “girlfriend”? One of her comments she asked what grooming means, she doesn’t even understand what’s happpening to her and probably thinks this is how a normal relationship works. The wife is also a victim, she had been in the relationship for 5 years, so it started when she was 21 when he was 29. My heart hurts for these women.

whiskey_and_oreos · 2022-02-19T23:21:45+00:00

The age gaps, the girlfriend being "willing to deal with" what amounts to SA, the abuser leaving the room and his wife to do the "aftercare" aka completing the trauma bonding cycle. Nothing about this isn't a glaring red flag. How can she even look at her husband knowing this is really what he's like? And what is she going to do when he renders the girlfriend unconscious or with physical injuries that need immediate medical attention?

FUBARfromLSA · 2022-02-20T00:39:31+00:00

Wtf did I just read?

“Our” girlfriend is getting violently raped by this individual’s husband full stop.

There is no advice I can give, or words to use that can make this ok

Throw the whole relationship away.

I need to go play with some kittens now- this is seriously disturbing.

skadiiis · 2022-02-19T23:51:56+00:00

I am really struggling with not being bitter lately. Maybe I need time off of reddit. This is so heartbreaking. I'm sad for the wife but I'm also angry at her. Men are not going to protect us. We have to protect each other. And we fail to do that so often.

I'm only 24 and I'm so tired. There's so much pressure to allow a man to degrade us and hurt us during sex. Sex! Something that is supposed to unite us and form a soul body connection. I have never been aroused by even the thought of being rough with my partners in the bedroom. But it has come so easily to some of the men I've been with. And I know so many us have shared this experience.

I just want things to be better.

ooeygooeylane · 2022-02-19T23:45:32+00:00

That dynamic seems very child abusive in a way.

Rayne2522 · 2022-02-19T23:17:13+00:00

I just came across this and am so upset for this poor woman. Her husband is sick!

myheartisfulloflove · 2022-02-19T23:38:27+00:00

That poor girl. I'm upset with the wife, but seeing her 26F thing makes me also see her as a victim to this entire mess, also. Isn't it funny that the 8 year gap between the wife and her husband is still not enough for him that he had to go to a 22 year old to feel satisfied? Men are never satisfied and always go out of their way to push what they want until it becomes illegal. (and still step over the legal lines anyway)

Another thing also is how bisexual women are propositioned to accept super abusive situations like this. The bi wife probably got egged on to get another woman to become their triad partner, even if the wife is not too happy about it.. and then the bi triad partner has to deal with the super rough sex, just to be able to get a relationship. This young woman needs to find a good counselor to help her and whatever is ailing her so that she doesn't have to continue seeing these people for companionship. And the wife needs to get a divorce before the husband turns around gets rough with her, if he has not already.

That's why whenever I get a couple trying to get with me, I am always sick to my stomach, precisely because of toxic dynamics that goes on in these weird poly communities.

SupremeDearLeader · 2022-02-20T00:44:51+00:00

This is 10 levels of fd up evil. I blame sex posi " feminism " for making women think it's OK to get used sexually like a toddler stomping on a Lego house. These women need therapy , lots of it , and he needs jail.

TripleMoonMorrigan · 2022-02-19T23:46:44+00:00

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Audderpop270 · 2022-02-20T00:31:19+00:00

This is nightmare fuel. These women are delusional.

I am horrified.

Kimpractical · 2022-02-20T00:56:21+00:00

I wonder if she is crying because she is ashamed of getting sexual pleasure from being abused. She obviously has some past trauma she hasn’t dealt with and this is her way of ‘coping’. Trauma is just one of the many ways this society oppresses women. To hell with these crusty ass psycho dudes

levelitradically · 2022-02-19T23:54:16+00:00

This is how it starts. Women end up killed in situations like this if they stay for too long. Pray that both ladies get out of there soon.

These-Ad-5925 · 2022-02-20T00:08:07+00:00

Yeah no, I don’t fucking like this. As someone who has dealt with men like this, this is an absolute FUCK NO for me. This is disgusting, and not only that but THEIR girlfriend ? I personally am not for the whole open relationship thing as it only seems to benefit the man. I would never stand by and let something like that happen to another woman

SakuraGirl88 · 2022-02-20T00:50:42+00:00

Um wtf did I just read? This is beyond messed up. As far as I'm concerned the "husband" need to be in jail. This is sick and disgusting. How low does your self esteem need to be to condone this type of madness.

queenofswordsxxx · 2022-02-20T00:24:44+00:00

This is what happens when pickmeishas act as psyops/ serena joys for the patriarchy

saragc92 · 2022-02-20T00:58:24+00:00

Another reason why not to trust men, even your husbands….

Venting venting vetting is a must…

This made my heart sink,

And I’m hoping it’s Fake, but with soo many depraveties around I can see it being real too

shutup201 · 2022-02-20T01:05:21+00:00

The sh*t men get away with is not cool. They've pretty much taken full advantage of consent. I bet he asked for it and she relented. Consent is just relent for vulnerable women who, unfortunately, don't care enough about themselves for whatever unfortunate reason to take care of themselves. These guys take advantage and they know it.

ifhewantedtohewould · 2022-02-20T01:51:28+00:00

All I can think about is the trauma this young woman will endure throughout the rest of her life because of the abuse this piece of shit is causing. Yeah “our girlfriend” is being raped by your husband.

VanessaViews · 2022-02-20T00:38:44+00:00

I bet all the comments on this post are from abusive scrotes and pick mes talking about how a good dom does "after care". As though cuddling after abuse makes it okay

seekingcodingjedi · 2022-02-20T02:38:44+00:00

Why would any woman let themselves be abused like this. This isn't being liberal it's just letting yourself be used and oppressed. Posts like this make me hate men.

celeloriel · 2022-02-20T00:32:58+00:00

Fucking YIKES

MsXxSelfDestructxX · 2022-02-20T01:58:46+00:00

well that is about the most fucked up evil thing I've read today.

seekingcodingjedi · 2022-02-20T02:38:52+00:00

Why would any woman let themselves be abused like this. This isn't being liberal it's just letting yourself be used and oppressed. Posts like this make me hate men.

PollyannaPenny · 2022-02-20T05:18:37+00:00

This is how most "poly" relationships end up. The dude gets a harem. And Woman#1 is tasked with the aftercare for Woman#2.

Resident-Ad7131 · 2022-02-19T23:40:04+00:00

I hope the girls begin dating and dump him out on the street, but I highly doubt that will happen. This is just too sad

2022-02-19T23:55:45+00:00

Maybe the wife and girlfriend need to start treating him the same way and see how he likes it

t3ddi · 2022-02-20T02:02:14+00:00

Imagine being a psychopath almost on the level of Katherine and David Birnie and not even realizing it.

wonkyeyes8877 · 2022-02-20T03:22:45+00:00

Clowns, idiots, and rapists.

One_Growth331 · 2022-02-20T00:29:52+00:00

That doesn't sound like consent at all.

The lack of empathy in men...seriously...

I cried at work and the person who works directly with me never once asked me how I was. He kept on talking about himself and his 'culture', etc. Blah blah blah.

Also how did this arrangement even come about? Did the wife want it or the husband? Sounds like he's just getting what he can't get from his wife. If the wife didn't allow this, would he have cheated?

I don't understand how people can handle these relationships.

whydenny · 2022-02-20T07:43:02+00:00

The f*ck did I just read!

YouLoveYouLoose · 2022-02-19T23:30:20+00:00

No safe word is a big red flag.

Gologic34 · 2022-02-20T12:46:58+00:00

Leave.

SupermarketObvious92 · 2022-02-20T08:56:34+00:00

Reading this feels like I’ve entered a portal into another world. In a very bad, bad way. It sounds like the wife is the only sane person in the story, but then you realize she’s actually married to the abuser and is in no way questioning this.

Title	Heartbreaking
Author	Rayne2522
Upvotes	396
Comments	76
Date	February 19, 2022 11:16 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/swmp1v/heartbreaking/
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