My boyfriend told me to shut up during sex the second time last night. He’s not my boyfriend as of ten minutes ago. My heart is racing, I’m sobbing. The first time he did it, he said “stfu” several times while covering my mouth. I told him “if this happens again there will be no discussion.” It happened again. It wasn’t STFU, just shut up. But as far as I’m concerned they’re the same- it speaks of a level of disrespect and lack of care for my heart and spirit. I have cptsd from a traumatic abusive upbringing. In the moment when he said it, it’s worse bc I said nothing, and continued having sex with him. But inwardly I got mad and hurt and I shut down and froze emotionally. I confronted him after a couple hours. I was terrified to even say anything. He took responsibility right away and apologized but I can’t be with someone capable of cruelty. I woke up this morning after a fitful night sleep and just said I couldn’t talk to him anymore. Am I overreacting? I’m hurting so much sisters please help me out.