Left him at the cafe

aclumsygirl · 2020-03-19T21:20:47+00:00

Unreal. What really gets me is that he ASKED you if you wanted anything, and then just continued to sit on his ass!

If this happens again, when he asks you if you want anything, you SIT and say "sure, I'll have a xxxx, thanks!" and give him a big smile. They should be forced to vocalize and fully own their low value cheapassery.

throwahweigh3521 · 2020-03-19T21:47:41+00:00

After reading all the anti FDS comments on the “unpopular opinion” post about FDS cross posted here- this!

This is why FDS advocates men pay.

This destroys all the “equality” and “investment” whiney bs arguments about mutual efforts only make a relationship viable.

What the fuck happened to hospitality? Manners? What the living fuck?

Imagine inviting anyone else that you wish to know and make a favorable impression- a client, friend of a friend or a prospective whatever at minimum you’d get up off your ass and go inside.

And!!!! You would buy something to drink for yourself. Water? The impression is you don’t want to be there for long and that you are too cheap etc to support the business. Fucking embarrassing!

This guy has zero skin in the game. Dating and relationships are an economic choice and exchange- especially all you guys playing the fuck fuck “numbers game” method of “dating”- a mindset that is based on consumerism and consumption. Men lie about “equal” to be rude, low value and inhospitable and then like this dude call it a date.

How much men spend/plan/show the fuck up is directly correlated to exactly what value they’ve assessed to you in their numbers game.

Water, first arrival and no hospitality by not getting up and going inside = zero interest and investment. Imagine if this was a first meeting to assess doing business, an introduction to a workplace,relatives, friends or other significant people - this shit ain’t it!

Good for you for getting a drink and leaving!

djfrankenjuice · 2020-03-19T21:39:02+00:00

Any guy who is trying to start a relationship right now is LVM.

A HVM is not putting themselves, their housemates, other people at risk by going out and socializing in any capacity.

Stop trying to date right now.

ldnsurvival · 2020-03-19T22:03:18+00:00

That tea was to go, and it was HOT! Congrats on this outstanding response to such disrespect. We can all aim for this.

Cobmobster21 · 2020-03-19T21:12:41+00:00

I wouldn’t had even said anything on the way out lol

modernmedusaa · 2020-03-20T01:00:47+00:00

Going to get downvoted here but lets be real

I understand the corona lockdown got everyone bored and you guys might want some company....but why are you going on a date with a strange man during a viral pandemic? You have no idea who he's been in touch with. Literally. He could of been in touch with various people - any one of them being a carrier. You also don't really know his hygiene habits like that. A week of chatting online isn't knowing somebody that well.

He wasn't ever going to take you seriously, and probs assumed you're a bit desperate if you were willing to be infected just for some company during the lockdown. LVM are still gonna sling their shot during corona season- nobody made you go risk your life and meet him. You took the bait & stooped to his level so he took you for Pickmeisha. You're basically ignoring common sense advice to stay indoors. This is why it keeps spreading. People are not taking it seriously.

I had a guy from OLD want to meet up this week and I rejected, because I'm already a bit sensitive respiratory wise and don't want to take my chances. Plus it seemed a bit thirsty he was willing to risk possible infection to see me, a stranger, like tf. No I don’t wanna risk my lungs for you, fool 🙄 I'm avoiding human contact as much as possible bc how am I going to offend scrotes on Reddit if I die 😉. They're dropping like flies in Italy. Social distancing is the anti-dote to that- so it doesn’t spread to anymore vulnerable people. It is not essential you date right now. And let’s be honest they’re probably not going to be worth the effort anyway - so why risk your health for a rando scrote? Can’t it wait?

throwaway64857 · 2020-03-20T00:19:46+00:00

Honestly i would just stop trying to date if everything is shut down. It will be difficult to tell the men who are going to put 0 effort in and the ones who will put more. Also, you never know where theyve been or what you could get from them. Even if they are HV, dont risk it. No male is so HV you need to risk it.

modernmedusaa · 2020-03-19T22:12:14+00:00

[deleted]

FodderFigureIllushun · 2020-03-19T21:42:35+00:00

This was a good move. He was testing you to see if you'd be ok with paying your way. A man trying to make a good first impression on a woman he's interested in wouldn't do this. I've even had dates that weren't going well pay for my dinner! This guy was bad news from the start and he showed you what he was made of early on.

plutunic · 2020-03-19T21:13:18+00:00

lmaoooo 👑

i wanna see more posts like this, y'all!

byeclown · 2020-03-19T23:15:54+00:00

As I go to sit he said “oh would you like anything?” I said “sure” and he proceeds to gesture me towards the register as he remains seated.

I actually did, literally, LOL at this. Oh my god. Now I'm shaking my head...

willget_better · 2020-03-19T21:38:00+00:00

Did you really feel a date was more important than the collective health of your community? This was pretty low value of you.

chokeychokey · 2020-03-19T21:30:39+00:00

What a low value asshole. Good for you, sis.

coloneldjmustard · 2020-03-19T21:52:52+00:00

So you ignored a government issued shut down order to meet a LVM for a coffee date.

Literally everything this sub stands against and then some.

This is pick me behavior.

You get what you put out.

surviveIIthrive · 2020-03-19T22:15:39+00:00

Hold up sis, you had initial plans for dinner that fell through because of what now? Because his sister’s ride from the airport fell through? I’m confusion! What does his sister’s ride from the airport have to do with anything?

So to be clear, you’ve never met this guy before in your life but you risked it all during a global pandemic? For a total stranger off of OLD!?

Also, if we want to split hairs. A lot of restaurants have switched to take out so there’s no excuse for coffee dates even in pandemic times. A little picnic date at the park with good takeout food could’ve been planned. Instead he showed up with water!

Queen shit? Where?

I don’t support this sub being overly critical of mistakes - we’ve all been there! Repeatedly! No one is following FDS perfectly. But we’re not gonna call anything queen shit either. You have to earn that title! This was pick me behavior. You wasted your time the whole way there and the whole way back! Treat yourself to some nice take out food and chill with a glass of wine/Netflix and dust it off!

MACMUA · 2020-03-19T21:48:05+00:00

I am proud of you. I’m still learning how to be that girl Who is a savage to this fuck boys

WildTenderness · 2020-03-20T02:39:27+00:00

How do you have the guts to do that? Doing that would be so out of character for me, but there have been times that I should've walked.

2020-03-20T10:29:05+00:00

Why would he even offer you something if he knew he wasn’t going to pay three bucks for a drink?? I had to laugh

Saitschik · 2020-03-20T10:45:51+00:00

That you just walked past with your tea and drove away is pure gold 😂😂😂

CuriousCatNYC777 · 2020-03-19T23:32:46+00:00

You did not need to say anything to him when you got your tea and walked out.

Everything else was well executed! 👍

2020-03-20T00:11:03+00:00

I LIVE FOR THIS. Good on you for walking away. I wouldn't have even said anything, just walked past him to your car without a word.

Sewud · 2020-03-20T00:04:08+00:00

Amazing! I love that hopefully he won't understand what he did wrong and hopefully he'll think you found him ugly. Ghosting needs to happen more.

VikingPug · 2020-03-19T23:04:13+00:00

Holy shit you are amazing!

Alexamaria · 2020-03-24T03:15:03+00:00

👑👑👑

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-03-20T02:12:35+00:00

Hahaha!!! I loved your response!!! Go you. This brightened my day

Title	Left him at the cafe
Author	coloneldjmustard
Upvotes	314
Comments	71
Date	March 19, 2020 8:53 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/flhlqk/left_him_at_the_cafe/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/left-him-at-the-cafe.679909 https://theredarchive.com/post/679909

Comments