Reminder: The Wall is a lie men desperately try to project onto women to disguise their own pathetically lackluster lives.

Gardrothard · 2021-01-27T16:22:03+00:00

Because men are taught their worth is more than JUST their body. Where as women are taught that our worth first and foremost is our looks. Hence why even the “business boss have it all” woman must also be good looking attractive etc. that even with all our successes-it doesn’t matter if you’re not good looking.

Don’t believe me? Look at all the most successful men on this planet: they are old wrinkly and overweight. In fact all my supervisors and CEO’s in various fields and industries have all been beer belly droopy faced old men.

You cannot make money off of men because they do not have the insecurities engrained in them like women because men do not have the “well I can’t truly be successful until I look good” the way women do.

Insecurity is the life force of capitalism.

Source: I work in marketing all of our decisions are based on who buys what and women buy the most stuff. They have the largest buying power on this planet.

repurposedschleem · 2021-01-27T17:13:11+00:00

Ugh this reminds me of the brunch I begged my Nex to take me on to celebrate the huge promotion I got. It was the first nice spring day of 2019, and my first day off in WEEKS. I was 25 and kicking ASS professionally in a male dominated industry.

I decided to go fresh faced, hair natural in waves with a little braid pinned to the side of my head to keep my bangs off my forehead. I thought I looked really cute and casual. I had been working on my skin and hair and tbh I was TIRED and just wanted to get a bagel and celebrate my first leadership role with the man I loved more than he ever dreamed of loving me.

The first things he said when we arrived, after having been quiet all morning, were to point out a stray eyebrow hair that was “distracting” to him. I said that was weird. He went on to talk about how his mother would never dare to leave the house looking so “unkempt” and that he was kind of embarrassed to be seen with me in public without my hair curled or straightened.

I excused myself to the bathroom to cry. He couldn’t just be happy for me. He didn’t love me. He saw me as a reflection of himself like a true narc and couldn’t handle that someone else might judge me (&him?) negatively for not having mascara on at 9am on Saturday.

It took me another year to leave him but I look back on that morning as the first time I decided it wasn’t me that was the problem in the marriage, it was the marriage partner who cared more about what outsiders may think more than what their spouse thinks.

MakeURegret · 2021-01-27T13:59:56+00:00

I never realized this wtf. 🤯

At most they get advertisements for dye to reduce gray hair.

I’m going to be thinking about that all day.

Amy3e13 · 2021-01-27T14:10:15+00:00

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TheSuspiciousChard · 2021-01-27T15:20:46+00:00

Maybe we should start a petition to boycott companies that don’t market their anti-aging skin products to men as well.

misszazie · 2021-01-27T14:04:41+00:00

I know we're not supposed to change men, but once married my daily face lotion with spf will be "ours".

But fr, those of you with HVM partners, aren't they free from toxic masculinity and more ok with skin care, basic hygiene, etc? Society might still be resisting but I think there are individuals who rise above it, and it should be something to check for.

zombiessalad · 2021-01-27T17:20:53+00:00

Ok while i disagree with how marketing has always made a point to push women to look younger and hotter I cannot stress enough the importance of taking care of your skin. Everyone should be wearing spf, cleansing at least once a day, and moisturizing. Skin cancer is so real and so scary. I’m glad to see more skincare brands coming out with non gender specific packaging intended for all genders and identities like paulas choice, cerave, the ordinary, etc.. because self care should be a priority for everyone honestly.

cassabell1894 · 2021-01-27T20:57:35+00:00

The wall is a myth and another way to neg women. Many males will have sex with literally anyone, so the wall is null and void. I'm 38 and get approached my males way more than when I was in my 20's.

shoo_coworker · 2021-01-27T14:52:34+00:00

I do skincare as a form of self-care and meditation, and it's been paying off massively. I can't rewire my brain to undo the years of conditioning that my worth is tied to my looks, but I've come a long way in getting out of that mindset. Now, my confidence is boosted when I know I look my best, but on my own terms. I don't wear makeup or do my hair, but I have nice skin and that's enough for me!

That being said, all the guys my age and sometimes younger look like total shit. I'm 25, and I always get carded when going out to drinks with friends, but my male friends never do because they look a good 2-5 years older than they are. Nasty!

academinx · 2021-01-27T16:38:37+00:00

I literally cannot WAIT to get old! I’m 24, but ever since I was a teenager I loved getting older. It breaks my heart when I see women so afraid or ashamed of aging. I admittedly have the benefit of having “good genes”, so I do know that as long as I take care of myself that I will look great, but regardless, getting older always signified getting wiser and more independent, too great things!

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-01-27T16:09:51+00:00

It's like getting old and showing it on your face is a major sin.

2021-01-27T16:18:35+00:00

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thegenuinedarkfly · 2021-01-27T18:51:35+00:00

I recently turned 50 and have yet to find this mysterious wall, much less run into it.

Proper skincare doesn’t have to be complicated. Stay hydrated, wear sunscreen, use a daily moisturizer (don’t forget your neck!) and a decent night cream. Get a proper night’s sleep every night. Stay away from the Botox and fillers.

My sons are 10 and are discovering the value of a basic skin routine for the first time and are really into it. I hope it becomes a lifelong habit (along with a love for fresh, quality bed linens).

My grandmother always considered each year an achievement and I love that she instilled that value in me also. I remember feeling apprehensive about turning 30, but looking back my 30s were a fantastic decade. So were my 40s. And at 50, I got this.

You will too.

Warm_Ad6994 · 2021-01-27T18:24:07+00:00

Also just saw a Botox commercial the other day. Not one man to be seen in the entire thing and it was long. A bunch of gorgeous 40 year old women and even younger tho. Really pathetic bc I didn’t know aging and wrinkles only applied if you were a woman.

seekindivid · 2021-01-27T16:42:13+00:00

When I first started FDS, I realized that every time I had a date with someone very interesting, I would blow $200-$500 on a new outfit, makeup, haircut, etc. In most cases, I never saw the guy again.

But that’s where the majority of my luxury items and expensive grooming habits originated... a LTR with a guy who would nitpick my clothes, my hair, my body, my belongings, etc. until I gave in to make him want me. While I’m glad to have higher standards for my personal appearance now, it’s tough to overcome the urge to spend excessively for basic approval from men.

4E4ME · 2021-01-28T01:29:36+00:00

I am convinced that anti-aging products don't have any true long-term benefits (though I will concede that they may yield short-term results) and therefore they are just another cash grab by companies owned by men in order to take cash away from women.

I am completely over buying layer upon layer of good smelling hygiene products, which are supposed to make me desirable to men that I find undesirable. I switched completely to generic products, and address my skin and health via my nutrition instead. I invest the money that I save.

2021-01-27T18:01:09+00:00

This absolutely is a case projection. I don't remember where I read or heard this but I could've sworn Ive seen something saying young women make old men feel young again. So older women remind them that they're aging and they don't like it.

Flappy44 · 2021-01-28T07:27:21+00:00

I’m turning 56 today and I’m not even close to hitting this alleged wall. Respect and care for your body, refuse to let lvms judge you or waste your time, and I promise you’ll realize that the wall is mythical bullshit that doesn’t exist.

Important_Page_6846 · 2021-01-27T19:01:45+00:00

It’s not just projection(there’s definitely hella projection going on), manipulation is used to continue to keep women down (will get worse before it ever gets better) Otherwise how will ALL these N/LVM gain access to women? Occupying the mind is textbook when you want control. Think about it, most men are trash, ever wonder why it’s so normalized? They’re all related to the subjugation of women and that’s why “consent” and “settling” is pushed the hardest. Because the mind occupation is the strongest form of manipulation. What’s that saying, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink? Something like that, point is horses are stupid so simple techniques can be used to get them to drink but they have to actually change the flavor of the water or something to get them to drink. Stupid people are more stubborn, I won’t go into why I believe that on a chromosomal level women are biologically made to be more intelligent than men but just take a look at violence statistics and you’ll notice a pattern with males and some of the least intelligent animal species... which happen to also run in their own “patriarchy” vs more intelligent species which have better outcomes for the females of said species.

I believe Mother Nature specifically puts males at an advantage physically and women mentally. Unfortunately however the more intelligent means more open minded and that in turn means easier to manipulate. Whereas more stupid means more likely to be stubborn, angry, violent and well, does that sound familiar? I’m tired, rushing on mobile and not much of a writer but I think I’ve explained it well enough. I can give a few sources if anyone’s interested when I get home from work but I think a point was made at least?

TDLR: L/NVM men stupid, violent and power hungry use brain washing techniques (along with fear) on the more intelligent women to occupy our minds and entire lives dedicated to useless garbage so they can continue to keep their foot on our necks. And no not all men are stupid and not all women are intelligent before any pick me wants to comment something along those lines. 🙄✌️

ReignOnYou95 · 2021-01-28T03:32:50+00:00

I dont know why they dont. I mean theyd make more money

kycake · 2021-01-28T03:17:47+00:00

i love this!😌💛

smaller_ang · 2021-01-28T17:29:20+00:00

"women hit the wall, men just get mOrE rUgGeD" squints cowboyly (At least in America)

2021-01-27T18:01:07+00:00

This absolutely is a case projection. I don't remember where I read or heard this but I could've sworn Ive seen something saying young women make old men feel young again. So older women remind them that they're aging and they don't like it.

CumbersomeOak · 2021-01-27T16:17:11+00:00

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Title	Reminder: The Wall is a lie men desperately try to project onto women to disguise their own pathetically lackluster lives.
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Date	January 27, 2021 1:36 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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