She Was "Raised" To Be This?!

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-07-08T16:05:54+00:00

Funny how you could replace wife with mother and it would be the exact same.

Partnerofaddict00 · 2020-07-08T16:19:42+00:00

And when it's time for bed she'll tuck him in and read him a storybook 🙄

Maisiebr · 2020-07-08T16:18:04+00:00

Groomed.

seraphinelysion · 2020-07-08T16:43:10+00:00

Ok, cool. So what was he raised to do for you? That's the real question here.

RadarFemef · 2020-07-08T16:23:52+00:00

So many women are proud to be a servant. No thanks!

_wannaseemedisco · 2020-07-08T16:32:03+00:00

call me new fashioned! I take care of myself, cook healthy meals for myself, wash my own clothes, mostly make it to work on time (the commute from my bed to my home office can be brutal), and tidy as I go in my small, perfectly appointed apartment that is 100% to my own taste. That's just the kind of woman I am I guess!

IAmGoingToBeBetter · 2020-07-08T15:58:10+00:00

So a slave. She was raised to be a slave.

amiranda00 · 2020-07-08T18:21:00+00:00

Pick me! Pick me!

dntbfllikeidid · 2020-07-08T15:53:37+00:00

One word: EW

clemsworld · 2020-07-08T16:11:07+00:00

I swear to God if my daughter says this shit I'll drop kick her to the moon.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-07-08T16:30:08+00:00

Is she doing all this while also working full time and doing the same things for children? That's where I get stuck. I didn't mind doing more around the house and cooking, when I couldn't work, but I still expected him to get his own damn self up for work and remember his own appointments. He wasn't allowed to make extra messes for me to clean up. And ultimately he was so helpless with basic life things and being a parent that I yeeted his ass. I'm much happier divorced.

Jasmineof-Agrabah · 2020-07-08T18:56:31+00:00

I prefer adopting and actual child

sbrooks0709 · 2020-07-08T18:45:00+00:00

I was raised by a woman who did all of this and even from a young age, it disgusted me that my stepdad couldn't boil water without nearly burning down the house (no joke) and she was in a "marriage" that was more like a roommate situation because he wanted to, and I quote, "get a divorce eventually in case her medical bills got too high so I wouldn't be held financially responsible".

So I found a man who, despite him being raised to expect this from a wife (and despite having a mother that expects me to continue raising the son she spoiled), knows that I will never be that woman. He helps me raise our kids, helps cook, is better at cleaning than I am, and covers his junk when he makes a "make me a sammich" joke because he knows that's where I'm going to hit him (not really, but I like that he flinches, lol).

Being "raised" a certain way doesn't mean you, as a grown-ass woman, have to behave that way. Time to evolve, ladies.

yggiwtmiih · 2020-07-08T20:26:57+00:00

No lie, I was actually trained to be this way. Since I was a child (I'm talking at 7 years old, every week, scrubbing the bathrooms, kitchen, mopping the house, polishing wood and leather furniture, cleaning windows, vacuuming, not a dime in allowance), I was raised to clean up after my family, including my mother, brother who was older by 3 years, and father.

In my teens, a friend lived with us for about a month, and told me my family treated me "like a maid." I was so used to the treatment that at the time I was confused to hear that.

When I finally left at 21, I would go back to see them sometimes, and the house had become filthy. It only occurred to me then that I was the reason the entire house stayed clean at all, even though my parents gaslit me by always calling me "a pig" and blamed me for any little mess even though my brother would literally cook something, leave the countertop disgusting and grimey, leave his dirty plates and bowls everywhere, leave out all the ingredients, then they would rally together and collectively bully ME to clean it up because they wanted me to "stop fighting with everyone and just do it!"

They ended up paying a relative weekly to clean the house because three grown adults would rather live in filth than clean up after themselves.

They're all awful for many more reasons and I happily no longer talk to them.

whatevertoton · 2020-07-08T17:40:55+00:00

So many women have this shit programmed into them as the ideal. They sacrifice their own educations, desires, and opportunities only to be left behind with kids seven years in when dudechild wants some strange. Then they end up scraping by on low wage jobs as single moms. Then they find another scrote who helps pay the way but treats them like dirt.

giftofnocondemnation · 2020-07-08T19:57:39+00:00

She grew up watching her mom be abused by her dad. I grew up watching my mom put men before her children. She taught me to be a pickme. This woman suffered the same.

sadcello · 2020-07-08T18:43:27+00:00

I was raised to be like this too so I promised myself I'll never get married.

shakethat_milkshake · 2020-07-08T20:08:41+00:00

Isn't it interesting how tons of women are raised this way but men are never raised to be grateful for women or be top notch providers and protectors? It's almost like...it's all a scam.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-07-08T17:37:44+00:00

What is he, a child? Omg I would be embarrassed as a man to have a wife do this for me. And I would be embarrassed for her to be bragging about this. I mean, is she happy that she’s married an incompetent lazy man baby? Does she like bragging about how he apparently can’t even get up for work on time...? I’m confused.

manisfestationqueen · 2020-07-08T17:20:29+00:00

Everyone has their breaking point, or they eventually go insane ignoring the reality.

tamarisauce · 2020-07-08T16:35:19+00:00

This is a Twitter meme/copypasta used by both genders responding to pictures of attractive people. I understand the response, but its meant to be satirical or a joke.

4E4ME · 2020-07-08T19:50:12+00:00

I'd ask this woman who raised her to believe that these things indicate a good wife, her mother or her father? Her grandmother or her grandfather? Her pastor?

We have to remember that times are different and especially for older folks the women had less opportunities to support themselves, and both men and women were raised to believe that women had to do all of these things in order to survive. I doubt very many of those women would romanticize their experience like this, but we shouldn't shame them for getting by as best as they knew how.

Older folks need to recognize that women have been fighting for decades in order to have more choices rather than just being domestic servants, and they shouldn't shame us for wanting more.

When we know better we do better. We just have to keep lifting each other up.

2020-07-08T19:54:23+00:00

sounds like someone in her family groomed her for abuse

whenthecagedbirdsing · 2020-07-08T16:27:38+00:00

I’m curious. What’s this in reply to?

2020-07-08T21:50:48+00:00

Um good luck being a (unpaid) maid for your husband, sis. He'd still cheat with a woman who makes him hand wash her panties. I have actually seen this happen. 🤣🤣🤣

jeanneeebeanneee · 2020-07-08T21:53:21+00:00

Honestly, if this is the kind of wife you want to be, then go for it. But don't be shocked when your man does not reciprocate, and DEFINITELY don't be shocked when he disrespects you, cheats, or is otherwise worthless. Because when you do every menial little chore for your man, you're sending the message that his wants and needs are the only ones that matter. It becomes an expectation, not a blessing. He will feel entitled to it, not grateful.

This is the shit that leads to men divorcing their wives when they get sick or become otherwise unable to keep waiting on him hand and foot. So, good luck with all that.

nutshit · 2020-07-08T19:35:23+00:00

Lol this is a copy pasted joke on twitter. Girls comment it ironically under a mans picture they find attractive

Lady__stoneheart · 2020-07-08T19:38:20+00:00

This is just sad..... No life outside of a man? I'd rather sew my pussy shut.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-07-08T18:51:51+00:00

Just add to this the sexual services she's going to be expected to provide whether she wants it or not...😳

DunRuther · 2020-07-08T21:59:58+00:00

make sure he’s up for work the next morning

This is the exact opposite of what my mom taught me. I remember two things she’s taught me, that she said her mother taught her: 1) find a man who loves you more than you love him, and 2) make sure he joyfully provides for you and happily gets up to go to work—don’t be with a lazy man you have to beg and plead to go to work.

My sister did not take this advice, and I see her busting her behind to provide for her family while her husband can’t keep a job for longer than two weeks and spends all her money on literal toys (comic books, action figures etc)

hyacinthgirl95 · 2020-07-08T16:25:20+00:00

So her future goals are to be a housewife? Some people really are less ambitious it seems.

darling89 · 2020-07-08T23:25:19+00:00

🤢🤮

miwamus · 2020-07-10T01:53:03+00:00

Omg! I just remembered that I dated a manboy that said he was the youngest son and used to being spoiled by his mom and sisters and he wanted a woman to "make his plate." So at the next "opportunity" he looked at me and then he looked at the plate, and then he looked at me and then he looked at the plate...

... it went on until I walked out of the room.

I also remember that he invited me to dinner (split bill because I offered - he knew I always offered and he always took the offer) and afterwards he drove us to his place, turned on basketball, turned off the lights, and went to asleep. I got up and left. He ran after and wondered what was wrong and I explained that my Saturdays do not end at 9 pm. I got in my car and left. He kept calling and calling. I picked up when I got home and after making poor excuses he said "FINE, we do what YOU want to do."

Oh, now's the time to give a shit about what I want? I ended it there.

PlumbersArePeopleToo · 2020-07-08T19:06:58+00:00

..... chew his food for him, wipe his arse for him, got to prison for him. Where do you draw the line sis? The only man worth doing any of that for, would do it for himself in the first place!

aTrueJuliette · 2020-07-08T20:06:28+00:00

Disgusting!

AntWillFortune15 · 2020-07-09T01:38:15+00:00

Lol my stepmom does this for my dad. I mean I guess it works for them since she doesn’t work and my dad works 12 hour shifts 6 days a week I guess. Idk...is she planning to be a housewife and why is she advertising herself? Is she for sale? 😂

bey124 · 2020-07-09T05:50:04+00:00

He is not her child, wtf. What does he do for her?

Moonlight2883 · 2020-07-09T07:17:17+00:00

Wife, mother, maid, cook, slave. Disgusting.

Reminds me of my cousin who was raised the same way. From a very very young age, she used to constantly fantasise about her future husband and children. Cooking for them, and cleaning up after them.

I remember this one instance where she (then 17f) made lunch, and my aunt complimented her saying her by saying that her future husband is a very lucky man.

Some girls are raised to be this way by their own mothers, fathers and family members. It's truly sad.

Lavender_flow · 2020-07-09T08:28:12+00:00

loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool.

And then he cheats on this clown.

blkchxrry · 2020-07-11T09:42:12+00:00

excuse me i hate to be that girl but this is an ironic twitter meme. she probably didn't mean it.

Title	She Was "Raised" To Be This?!
Author	clemsworld
Upvotes	306
Comments	69
Date	July 8, 2020 3:44 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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