This guy literally took notes about me while we were talking.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-06-17T13:15:03+00:00

I would like to remind everybody that this sub is reality based. We aren't here to speculate all the possible legitimate reasons some dude is being creepy.

The answer is he's a creep who's dating multiple women and he's trying to keep them all straight. He's also so stupid he brings out his little chart tracking his multiple women right in front of his date because he just assumes you're going to give him the benefit of the doubt. I bet if you do ask him he has a stupid lie all lined up.

Here at FDS we don't give the benefit of the doubt and we don't give men opportunities to lie to us and use our sympathy and empathy against us.

Guyincognito9876 · 2021-06-17T12:41:23+00:00

I would find that totally bizarre.

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-06-17T13:32:27+00:00

You commented that he already talked about having children and letting you move in with him. On the first date.

Ya, no, he wants to move it to fast. Nope.

Talking about the list only: Even if he had a legitimate issue like memory loss, he went about it the wrong way from the beginning. You don't owe him a date and you were put off, so it wouldn't even make sense to go for another date.

It could've been bad communication about his possible medical condition on his part. It could be he is a lazy serial dater who needs to take notes about all the women immediately to distinguish them plus trying to confuse you so much that you don't question what he is doing. Maybe it is both.

On top of that he is creepy as he wants to move the relationship too fast. Clear red flag here.

Now you don't have to deal with any of it.

jupitarianrise · 2021-06-17T13:18:34+00:00

Please run. I dated a guy like this, he ended up being a master manipulator and not a (genuinely) caring man at all. Someone who really cares about you won’t need a list to remember stuff that matters to you, or even what would bring you joy (hiking, a gift…)

monch-bred · 2021-06-17T16:50:32+00:00

Don’t forget: if you were put off by his behavior, you don’t need to find an “acceptable” reason to end things. The fact that you didn’t really like it is a good enough reason not to see him again!

sruslywhytho · 2021-06-17T14:42:23+00:00

I had a date with a guy who took notes a few years ago. Turned out that he did it because he had substance abuse issues that ruined his memory. It's a red flag.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-06-17T14:54:20+00:00

He took actual physical notes…. On your date…. That’s so weird.

dollymyfolly · 2021-06-17T15:09:00+00:00

It’s creepy and it feels like being commodified. God I’d leave in the middle of the date.

purasangria · 2021-06-17T12:28:53+00:00

He's seeing many women. That's why he has to take notes. And I bet you met him on an OLD site, right?

He's using OLD to find women to fuck.

MulticoloredCatMug · 2021-06-17T13:40:16+00:00

I’m picturing that scene from the office where Andy interviews Dwight for Cornell and the two of them are furiously taking notes about each other.

Personally I wouldn’t dare someone taking notes about me in front of me, it seems disrespectful

Junior-Lion7893 · 2021-06-17T12:30:49+00:00

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the-worst- · 2021-06-17T15:05:13+00:00

This just means he was trying to keep multiple women's info at a time and he thought you'd assume he has some sort of mental issue.

This also means he assumed you two would be in some form of relationship for quite some time. If it was a "I want sex tonight and will never see her again" type of thing, he wouldn't have bothered writing anything down.

Dates aren't interviews. I don't trust ANYONE who asks me about my romatic/sex/dating history and is literally writing it all down. You have a RIGHT to feel uncomfortable in that situation.

Block and delete sis. Block and delete.

modernmedusaa · 2021-06-17T22:07:49+00:00

No sis he is not a poor innocent misunderstood guy. He’s a creep. I would laugh in this scrotes face and leave. Wtf seems like a pick up artist trying to neg/examine you and learn how to ‘date’ better Aka score more women. If he had some disability he should of said that upfront but I think it’s more likely he’s a budding pick up artist- a bad one at that .

Here’s a tip ladies... RUN at the sign of a man using you as a dating experiment - asking you inappropriate weird things like your thoughts on their ex situation, asking you if you like x y z ‘do you like romance?’ etc (what kind of fucking question is that) these men are seasoned or amateur budding pick up artists asking you to do the work for them and give them the cheat sheet. They like to scan you for info and to find out what works and doesn’t on x y z type of women- then they miraculously become that . You will most often find these creeps on dating apps- their main playground where they can try their ‘game’ on multiple randomers.

Men are so lost, objectifying and voyeuristic these days. What the actual fuck . I would of written ‘fuck you, you fucking creep’ on his notepad & bounced.

IndigoTR · 2021-06-17T13:45:34+00:00

Extremely bizarre and dare I say rude. You are a human not one of his classes. If he was genuinely there for connection and interest he would listen at full attention and ask you to remind of things he forgot. Guys think they can make excuses for literally everything.

Ok-Editor-647 · 2021-06-17T20:56:13+00:00

It would have been very funny if you also whipped out a pen and started taking notes.

Subject taking notes. Subject confused as I observe it. Subject sits there staring as I walk out the door... Surprising since it was not apparent that subject had critical thinking skills! 😂

_electrafire · 2021-06-17T23:20:16+00:00

Sounds like an autistic PUA

Condom-Ad-Don-Draper · 2021-06-18T03:09:17+00:00

He thinks dates are like job interviews. You should have asked how much the position pays and if the insurance covers birth control or breast reduction for back pain.

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Need_wine · 2021-06-17T13:41:05+00:00

Assuming he doesn’t have some type of mental problem, he lacks any type of awareness which is never good.

Maude2010 · 2021-06-18T02:41:31+00:00

That’s weird AF. I would have left.

thecrazywitch31 · 2021-06-18T05:33:52+00:00

Ohhh I could never do this without you ladies seriously! My rosy glasses told me "awww how sweet" when I read this

Guess I'm still a pick me

iceberg1an · 2021-06-17T13:48:59+00:00

That is very strange behavior. I would stay away from him.. maybe he has several women he is seeing and is trying to keep track. If he really had a memory loss condition, he would bring it up and be more honest with it. Maybe he'd have more humility or something...

Seems like a creeper who is not even trying to hide his weird quirk. I'd advise to not contact him. This behaviour would creep me out personally... Serial killer vibe here..

cryptohobo · 2022-02-11T01:43:46+00:00

I low key want to do this on dates to terrify them lmao

Title	This guy literally took notes about me while we were talking.
Author	Junior-Lion7893
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Comments	58
Date	June 17, 2021 12:25 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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