Anyone else who's been falsely accused afraid of most women so they don't get falsely accused again?

OldEgalitarianMRA · 2022-11-01T15:49:57+00:00

I've been through a contested custody case and was accused and exonerated for years. Then a girlfriend got mad at me for breaking up and followed her threat and called the cops. Luckily her father told her to tell the truth.

I now have PTSD and don't trust being alone with a woman.

Sharing my experiences here is one way I deal with my PTSD.

About three years ago a lovely woman came into my life and we decided to live together. She stayed over one night and all I could think about was what if she called the cops on me for some slight I might do against her. She was uninvited the next morning and we broke up.

Stunning-Cost-5752 · 2022-11-01T16:22:09+00:00

Not women but kids for me, took my dog to the park to play years ago couple of kids came up asking if the could pet her saw no issue with it she was super calm and loved kids they went off to play and me and dog continued to play ourselfs. 10 mins later have three cops asking me what I'm doing at the park me and my dog where regulars at the park cause it was a few block from my house and other saw us playing there alot and vouched for me that I did nothing other then take my dog to the park.

After that we only went to the park late evenings if there were no more kids, if child came up to ask to pet her it was automatic no. Married now and sadly that dog passed on but same thing if I'm alone no interaction with kids if my wife is with me then yeah I'll interact with kids let them pet my dog but if she's not with I go out of my way to avoid kids now

denvercaniac · 2022-11-01T23:39:08+00:00

personally had 2 false accusations.

Two friends also had 2 false accusations.

My brother's ex wife has a long history of false accusations.

Suitable-Mind-8559 · 2022-11-02T02:34:26+00:00

Yes and it’s given me PTSD and made me a sexist with misogynistic tendencies because of it. In high school, my biggest bullies were my mother, my female cousin, girls I wanted nothing to do with, girls who wouldn’t take no for an answer, or friends of my exes who just wanted to hurt me. Because of false accusations, I’ve been severely beaten by my father; jumped, tied up, physically and sexually assaulted by white knights who were essentially the same people that let the me too movement aka “believe ALL women” become an actual thing. My exwife has pulled a knife on me during an argument because she didn’t like that she was wrong and then tried to file a domestic violence injunction against me lol. Luckily, it was immediately thrown without without me having to even speak to an investigator. My current gf throws things at me, which is highly triggering because this is the type of abuse I suffered at the hands of my mother. She would argue with me, I would use sound logic to debate her and she had no other response than to grab the nearest thing and chuck it at my head. My gf threw one of my son’s hard plastic toys at me recently. It hit me in the shin and out of frustration, I knocked some shit off the kitchen counter.. her 3 days old Starbucks coffee in a plastic cup and some other random shit right onto the floor and in the OPPOSITE direction of her and our son. She then proceeds to put on an act and throw her hands up in the air and scream, “aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah” (takes a breath), “aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah” (takes a breath), “AAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!” Then proceeds to walk all the way across the room to violently pick up our son to scream at me about how violent I am and how I just “attacked” her, all the while I’m calmly asking her, did you not just throw something at me out of anger… again? And she refused to admit she threw anything. Then it became a he said she said thing. My son almost immediately started crying when she started this “act”. Tried to lock herself and him in his bedroom to call the cops on me lol. I intervened and GENTLY took my son out of her arms. He reached for me and practically jumped out of her arms which immediately calmed him down and she loses it. “GIVE ME MY SON! YOU DONT HAVE PERMISSION TO TAKE HIM!” And I was just taken aback. I don’t need permission. I’m his father and you’re acting like a lunatic trying to accuse me of something you know I’m not capable of and trying to use him as a shield… something I would NEVER do. Now, I’m secretly planning on leaving her and never looking back. Gonna file with an attorney and give him all the evidence I have regarding her treachery. Save those receipts, gentlemen. Besides video evidence, which in my state is almost always inadmissible in court because of the two party consent system… text messages are the next best thing. Because even if I manage to secretly record the abuse, if it’s not in a public setting it’s inadmissible in court. Catch them in lies and screenshot. I destroyed my exwife in family court using text messages alone lol. Rant over. Thanks for letting me get that out.

angry_jotaro · 2022-11-01T17:12:18+00:00

I once got falsely accused by a girl when I was in Highschool, everyone believed her DESPITE her having history of telling lies about other people and no evidence. I was the quiet kid who didn't have any friends and people never knew me. So when someone said I was a creep people were like "totally, he doesn't talk to someone he probably is"

Made my life a lot harder, I already had social anxiety but this fucked me up. I initially stopped talking to women but than realised that it is people not gender who does something like this. I don't trust people easily anymore and maintain my distance but I'm not afraid of women, I bet there are plenty of them that are nice that I didn't meet.

Royal_IDunno · 2022-11-01T22:57:37+00:00

Yeah I don’t bother talking to most women anymore because of the fear of false accusations etc. A woman literally has the power to accuse a man of false accusations and get him locked up and even if it’s proven the man didn’t do anything people still see him as a creep and has his reputation ruined.

DeepFriedhentaiMemes · 2022-11-01T16:21:27+00:00

I can’t get over women who do this they should all go to fuckin hell

agenericusername9 · 2022-11-01T16:48:57+00:00

Yeah dude, I cannot approach women in bars or club environments, I no longer take leads in convos (might be a good thing tbh) and I do not like 1:1 time with a woman in case she gets any funky ideas.

at--at-- · 2022-11-01T15:53:41+00:00

That’s called PTSD. Anyone in this position should seek therapy to help them.

ST07153902935 · 2022-11-01T17:54:38+00:00

100%.

Weirdly the thing that helped me get over this is that I am close to a woman who was an actual victim of sexual assault. She empathized with my constant fear more than anyone else.

With that said, there are reasonable precautions I still take even though I don't live in fear (recorded student meetings, always left my door open & made sure other teachers could hear us...)

AstoriaHat · 2022-11-01T21:59:19+00:00

I deal with an abusive wife and essentially need to videotape almost all the time. She doesn't work so she essentially has all day to destroy my shit or just get ready to complain as I come home to exaustedly do all the housework. I have caught her lying and being abusive on video several times. Courts are in favor of children and our youngest still breastfeeds so I try to make the best of things and keep her happy. It is a truly taxing existence rife with misery. I definitely use reddit as therapy but usually just trolling and shitposting or just putting comentary on issues that do not relate to my life at all. This is the most honest I have been here since this is something of a "safe space" for me. It really is a shame how abusive women can be and get away with it. How vigilant men need to be in order to keep their family and lives. She doesn't look out for the wellbeing of her children unless it is completely congruent with her own convenience. She is able to abuse people for her pleasure and keeps us all from having a loving, nurturing female presence in the house. She shit talks me non-stop to the kids. Luckily they are inteligent and are learning day and day that she is full of shit because they see how she acts and they see how I act. reading OldEgaligarianMRA's post made me feel comfortable posting about my situation.

What sucks is it is almost indefinite. I can improve my health and will see incrimental goals. 10 pushups one day 15 a week later 30 a month later... 11 minute mile 10 minute mile 9, 8..;,.,,

I can advance my education and improve my work situation.

I can learn new skills, ... I can fix broken things in the house ..

I can do an array of things to improve my life but I have little to no choice when it comes to the most important part of my life.

I made a mistake in marrying a woman I felt bad for and who I knew would be alone if I left her. I made a mistake in having children with this person. I didn't respect myself to remove her from my life when I had the chance. I put her feelings above mine. I mistook my weakness for kindness but I was not kind. I was not kind to myself of my children. I forced them to be born into this situation and it is a situation I have almost no control over. This lack of control is a bit disheartening. I guess I use this place as therapy and have also taken up stoicism in order to cope. The problem is that the biggest problem in my life will defiitely be there in 5 years, in ten years, in 15 years. Its like I lost a leg or an arm. I envy those whose biggest problem is they are overweight or their job sucks because you can change that.
My wife will be selfish and pathological until the day she dies.

Sorry for the rants guys.

aerial_coitus · 2022-11-01T15:56:02+00:00

sheepishly raises hand

Yes, that’s me.

Cruxito1111 · 2022-11-01T23:15:44+00:00

Im currently dealing with this situation. Ex accused me, and my life has been a wrecked this year. I haven’t been able to recover financially, emotionally, or spiritually.

It’s a fucked up situation.

My case still in process, so i can’t talk about it openly yet. However, i’m leavening comments or answering op questions so when i’m out of this mess, i’d come on in and share my experience and the doubters or the male-feminist can go through my Reddit history.

MetallicVillain · 2022-11-02T06:13:29+00:00

Yup. Once it happens to you, you realize the REAL power of having a vagina. You need one to win in court that can change the course of your entire life.

I understand why so many people wanna be trans, or have sex changes now. They just want a fair shot in court.

SavannahOolala · 2022-11-01T18:33:57+00:00

I was falsely accused of being a sexual predator at 5 or 6 years old. A woman screamed at me and made such a huge scandal. She was livid. She yanked me away from my best friend.

My girl best friend who is two years my junior was peeing when I accidentally turned around because I thought she was done.

rocksnstyx · 2022-11-02T03:37:44+00:00

Twice with false accuations

The first time was when I was 14 and friends with an 11 almost year old neighbor kid, her parents were also friends with my parents, however they didn't appreciate how close her and I were becoming. They accused me of molesting her and forcing myself on her; I spent three nights in juvenile jail and I also was drilled with questions, they were desperate to dig something up on me. The whole ordeal left me drained and downtrodden...

The second time was when I was 22; this had occured with my psycho ex. She was a very controlling and verbally abusive woman; eventually I got sick of it and broke up with her over text, because I knew she would fly off of the handle in person and assault me. She created bruises and cuts on herself and then reported me to the police stating that I had viciously attacked her. Once again I spent time in jail, this time over three weeks, I went through a series of polygraph tests and stood before a judge just to prove my innocence. The worst part is, I was still required to pay for the fees associated with it and it was never wiped from my record...

What really put the nail in the coffin with my severe trust issues with women was my ex Tanya. I was drugged and then raped by her while she was ovulating, my seed was stolen from me and now I am paying child support in the tune of $650 a mo for a child I wasn't even ready for. On top of that, the courts refuse to enforce the custody order that I went through hell and high water to get put into place...

_Renardeau · 2022-11-02T01:19:38+00:00

After seeing so much stories i decided to tell my love and sexual life to go fuck themselves and now I'll be alone and I'm pretty sure even that because I look like a creep i would still get accused of bullshit

Necessary_Warning_73 · 2022-11-01T17:48:24+00:00

I avoid dating due to the fact that of my two ex girlfriends one was a cheater and the other was an abuser

Setari · 2022-11-01T18:12:09+00:00

Shit I avoid women just because of all the stories I've read on reddit over the years, and been in one long term relationship that was not great when I was younger.

Not worth it bros. Focus on yourselves and what you like to do.

Alternative-Bed2615 · 2022-11-01T20:05:00+00:00

I have been falsely accused before. However, I'm not too worried about being around women. If they try to accuse me, it's obvious that it's false, since I'm gay and have a boyfriend. I've been accused twice before (I'm like, the go-to target for an accusation. Apparently I just look like a sinister person, that's what the school said. Which totally means I'm the only mixed kid in the school, but I'm not concerned about that.), and the first time the accuser tried to bring it to someone and I was called in(So into the principal's office) I was DYING laughing. The principal knows I'm gay, so she's just trying to hold back her laughter, and meanwhile the accuser is just sitting there all confused. After like 30 seconds of this, I just show the accuser my wallpaper of a naked anime dude, and am just like, "This isn't gonna work out for you honey, you picked the wrong target".

Obviously for a straight man it's much more serious and incredibly scary. But for me, it always gives me a good laugh. It feels even better than just being funny as well, because now I know her accusations won't be taken seriously in the future, and I probably saved someone else's reputation.

Sweaty_Doubt6470 · 2022-11-01T19:05:05+00:00

This is gonna sound ridiculous but my step mother (who stole over 800k from us) claimed I abused her when I was 7 and tried to get me into juvie

AbysmalDescent · 2022-11-01T19:23:38+00:00

I've definitely seen a lot of women make many false projections and accusations about male attention from other men, so that has certainly kept me very cautious around women. I've also had former female friends spread false information about me, which has cost me a lot of friends, so that certainly hasn't helped either.

KoDa6562 · 2022-11-01T19:44:46+00:00

I used to be and still am to a certain extent, but it's become less prevalent as time has gone on. Likely the reason why I've slowly been able to feel better is that the original accuser admitted it wasn't sexual assault, but the friends I lost didn't care by that point.

It's something I had to work through a lot, and if you've gone through it, I won't lie, it's going to be difficult. But with the right help, you can start to feel normal again.

MetaphysicalBro314 · 2022-11-02T04:25:09+00:00

Me too brother. Dang near ruined my life smh

delocalelectron · 2022-11-02T07:17:08+00:00

Making men afraid of interaction with women is a feminist strategy, in their push for a female dominant society. Their pressure groups influence politicians, who are always chasing the interests of the female majority (52%) of the population, reaching the now quite ridiculous level that even looking at a woman can qualify as harassment.

Meanwhile, since most feminist leaders are lesbian, they get to keep the best girls for themselves. Another feminist win-win.

Gpda0074 · 2022-11-01T18:06:29+00:00

Never been accused but I'm an excessively pragmatic person. I looked at the statistics first, examined any anecdotal evidence I could, and came to the realization that every issue in the life of every man I know was started by, for, or because of a woman. Funny, I left that part out and all of them agree I'm further in life than they were at the same point (28).

EnoughTemperature627 · 2022-11-01T22:29:57+00:00

Yup, falsely accused of rape by an ex co-worker who claimed to have evidence and proof. She withdrew her accusation when they offered to pull up security footage of what she claimed, because she didn't know they had cameras in the area she claimed it had happened. Didn't stop the police from turning up at my workplace to hand me my documents in front of everyone. What's happened to the girl? Nothing. What can I do? Nothing.

I now can't talk to women properly, and have developed a stutter sometimes when speaking to women. People mistake it often for infatuation, it's not, it's fear. Irreversible, inconsolable, fear.

Don't talk to me about my privilege. I feel none.

theSilentNerd · 2022-11-01T21:03:48+00:00

I never got falsely accused, but I keep my eyes open to avoid having that happening to me.

I also work from home, which makes me feel safe from women trying anything against me.

Beneficial_Scar_4739 · 2022-11-01T18:23:38+00:00

Yeah bruh it was horrible I was side eyed by the whole school for that year. I'm not talking to any girl unless necessary again man fk them

DeepFriedhentaiMemes · 2022-11-01T19:47:22+00:00

The stories in here bum me tf out. Sorry you gotta go through that shit boys

Dan_H1281 · 2022-11-01T21:45:55+00:00

I have been charged with domestic violence thee times, all by my sons mother which would disappear months at a time show up hi af and demand visitation when I would not give it she would go to the sheriff's and charge me with dv, this happened three times on of the times she disappeared with my son for seven months while she was homeless, he got brought back beaten at least 50 bruises he was beat with a ruler it broke then they used fists he was two and a half, in three months I refused visits and she did it again all charges dropped but any time I have ever had a domestic situation and a cop shows up this comes up on my record even tho all charges were dismissed, I am on fear all the time that one of my ex's will make new charges even tho I have full custody of my kids, it makes me sick their was absolutely zero backlash for these false accusations these times I had not seen her but in my garage when she stopped by asking for visits or demanding them, most the time with track marks and black eyes from her new bf

Mindless-Spare-2454 · 2022-11-01T21:06:55+00:00

I was actually falsely accused by a work colleague. Thankfully, her very strong feminist friend actually saved me, which makes me believe some women are here for Justice and the truth.

We hooked up at a Christmas party, this woman was extremely attractive. We were both in our early 20s (21 me, 20 her) I was career driven, a manager and she was a store colleague.

The difference was she had a boyfriend and I wasn’t her “type”. She told her friends that I had forced her, she didn’t want to sleep with me Etc.

Thankfully the feminist friend decided that her word wasn’t good enough to chastise me like my work had done (was out on leave pending investigation for 2 months paid) & most of my other colleagues. So she went to the police and dragged this woman with her, the police questioned me and I told them what happened, they got CCTV from the hotel where the Christmas party was and as it turned out you can see her coming to my room, under her own violation. When the police took her statement she told them she lied to save embarrassment and it coming back to her boyfriend she’d cheated. She didn’t think it would cause so much trouble for me as she wasn’t going to go to the police.

I got a full apology from my work & the colleagues who’d chastised me. I ended up having 4 months off paid sick because it was really traumatic, they asked me to move stores which I refused as I didn’t do anything wrong. Eventually they sacked the woman who falsely accused me & I ended up leaving 9 months later for a better job.

10 years later. She is a single mother, the boyfriend ended up leaving her. I’m a regional manager & she’s tried twice to ask me out, both times I rejected her.

I actually owe my life to a woman who claims to be a feminist, however she know classes herself as a egalitarian since having two sons.

Snippychicken22 · 2022-11-01T19:44:03+00:00

no but its rediculus that if you have cameras and she does accuse you you can go to jail for having cameras

MNCPA · 2022-11-01T21:08:54+00:00

Yep, PTSD.

Neither-Ad-2475 · 2022-11-01T23:10:37+00:00

Definitely me

alexaxl · 2022-11-02T06:31:07+00:00

Get a compact pocketable audio/ video recorder with decent memory.

Or use a phone mic app.

Never hurt to record the audio, just in case and won’t kill the battery.

VaughnFry · 2022-11-02T07:21:55+00:00

Three restraining orders from high school girls calling me a stalker for clout.

Never asked out a girl since.

Poormidlifechoices · 2022-11-02T11:04:37+00:00

No, but I came close. I had a niece that I found out falsely accused two college guys, her dad, and grandfather. The collage guys were arrested but ultimately got off. Apparently she used the accusation as a way to control her family.

I found it out when I was going to pick her up from school one day and my wife's brother showed up to "help". He rushed over to ride with me. I was a little passed because they told me no one was available. We got to talking and he said hw didn't want to be alone with her because she was known to make up shit.

I started thinking and realized someone from her family always made sure they were with me when she was there. After that I got a little paranoid myself.

PeonSupreme · 2022-11-02T14:29:23+00:00

A friend of mine was falsely accused of voyeurism. He beat the charges, but he owes thousands in legal bills, his work won’t give him back pay for the months they suspended him, his social life has fallen apart and he has chronic depression and anxiety.

I have never been falsely accused exactly, but women and girls have always treated me like crap, starting with my female relatives. I guess you could say my grandmother falsely accused me, since she seemed to hold me responsible for every bad thing that ever happened to anyone.

DetailedKing · 2022-11-01T23:26:17+00:00

I was falsely accused and wether it was from sheer luck, her stupidity, or a combination of both, she accidentally sent texts to me which were meant to be sent to whoever she was trying to give the impression of my alleged sexual misconduct to. Once she realized she was texting me and knew she was completely caught in a lie, she quickly apologized and made up some excuse about how she was going through tough times and just wanted to vent and take it out on someone undeserving.

I made sure to speak clearly and calmly to her with no sign of malice because quite frankly I was bat shit scared of the repercussions she could of easily have insured on me given the current times even though the allegations were false.

I got her to openly admit she was lying and that I did nothing wrong all on text, screen shotted the texts (which I still have to this day because you can never be too sure) blocked her from everything and never spoke to her again. She tried reaching out multiple times but I never and never will budged. As far as I’m concerned, she’s dead to me, but it’s crazy how she will get away with it for free but the implications of her allegations could have placed me in jail for a very long time.

bicelikeice69 · 2022-11-01T20:41:16+00:00

Yes.

I walk on the opposite side of the street or give a wide berth as well as avoid any eye contact by looking down or in the opposite direction.

It's sad, really sad. But the alternative might just be worse. Because I'm afraid.

EatM3L053R · 2022-11-01T23:00:44+00:00

Not afraid, but hostile with a sharp tongue. When I would watch my cousins play in the park I'd have women come up and pester me. Only a handful were genuinely asking because they hadn't seen me at this particular park. They were honest about their query, apologized for the misunderstanding and typically struck up a conversation.

In university (University of California system) I was falsely accused of rape by some chick who fell asleep on me at a house party. I was drunk, fell asleep in a room by myself, woke up to this chick passed out on me. She INSISTED she was raped, but a rape kit test determined that no foreign DNA was found in, or on her.

Three years ago I was in line for a promotion to succeed my supervisor -- a woman, who had thrown my name in the hat for said promotion -- but was sidelined by two false accusations from two women who claimed I had sent them sexually harassing messages. They had iPhones and I had Samsung. They forgot that detail was hard to fake at the time. Still got the promotion though with some scrutiny.

A year and a half ago during virtual meetings this one tart would ask me to join her in private rooms to ask questions. For awhile they were plain and simple, then she randomly started going topless in the private meetings. I took screenshots of when she kept the camera covered, had a top on, then when she removed it. Like clockwork she filled sexual harassment charges but didn't know I had documented PLENTY of interactions where she had her clothes on. She also used the same fake text generator, but failed to realize she wasn't as tech savvy as she thought. She was fired, I sued her in small claims court for emotional distress -- lost that case, female judge 🤡. But the other tramps, transfered.

TempoMuse · 2022-11-02T00:23:18+00:00

It honestly seems like you all need some therapy. I was SA’d as a child by my sister-in-law (still on family because they choose her over me, would not believe me) and all it shows me is how bad and unloving my family really has been since I was a child. I learned to cut out people who will hurt, went/ go to therapy, and hold no grudges against anyone group of people for what one of them did to me. If you can’t trust or truly have a deep fear you need to seek help. The answer is not to cut off relations with half the world population.

p.s. this will no doubt be downvoted like no other, I will not delete. I stand by this advice.

ReWildingOfMen · 2022-11-01T16:14:25+00:00

I've had false allegations made against me by my narcisistic ex and mother of my children.

Apparently I'm emotionally and psychologicaly abusive (narcisisist projection on her part).

I do feel scared sometimes, one of the costs of surviving such abuse... Is that you doubt your own ability to discern if someone is a normal human or a narc-abuser....

But generally no, I have much faith in good women that are out there, and in myself.. that is stronger than my fear and hurt.

I have been being abused by men and women since I was a baby. And I have done a LOT of work to overcome my significant trauma. I do believe as a man especially, we have a duty to heal and to lead by example, to not let out pain trap us in futility.

Two things that I believe are essential to address ones PTSD from such abusive relationships.

1/ therapy, I personally recommend somatic therpay and somatic experiencing. Body based meditation and mindfulness practices.

Resources: * Book: waking the tiger - Peter Levine (understanding trauma healing) * Book: the language of emotions - Karla Macklaren (understanding of emotions and the wisdom they ALL carry)

2/ educating yourself on the nature of abusers. There's an easy hack, it just takes time to study... ALL abusers are basically the same, although some may abuse more indirectly, while others will literally chop you up into little pieces given the chance.

Study up on narcisism and covert narcisism. Make sure you understand such phenomena as:

Gaslighting
Narcisisistic projection
Triangulation
Smear campaign
Flying monkeys
Love bombing
Psychic abuse
Devaluation
Discard
Escaping the abuser
Trauma bonding

Here's my fav YouTube channels on the subject.

These two things will help you heal and recover, and perhaps to find a good woman by your side one day should you so choose.

Good luck, and much love!

baldestpianoman · 2022-11-01T18:15:08+00:00

Yeah i was And destroyed my trust to women

2022-11-01T21:47:23+00:00

I got falsely accused, and it was humiliating. Not afraid of most women, just will take more care around the stupid ones.

saleemlala · 2022-11-02T02:44:14+00:00

With the number of false accusations I've had to deal with, I've basically lost trust in humanity. The worst part, it's from the person I was closest to and opened up to. Killed me from the inside, I'm just a dead zombie now who just doesn't care anymore. After a point, it just numbs you out and destroys you, just can't be myself anymore ever again.

I'm just surprised at some men for believing everything that comes out of a woman's mouth without ever bothering to consider that there could be another side or something could just be an outright lie.

Me_Not_Dumb · 2022-11-02T03:12:04+00:00

Falsely accused of DV.. How did that turn out?

HungerReaper · 2022-11-02T03:14:30+00:00

Man at this point it's fucked me up so much that I'm decay itself. I look in the mirror and just see myself dying. I'm not me anymore, not mentally or physically. I'm down to like 130 pounds while being 6 foot 3, teeth have decayed from lack of care, and even though she's apologized for the accusations it's still burning in my mind

International-Test25 · 2022-11-02T03:37:06+00:00

I saw a post about how some men are upset that women seem to hate and fear all men and how unfair that is, I just hope those people who feel that way see this and understand that it goes both ways. If a man causes you trauma as a woman, or a woman causes you trauma as a man, it’s natural to be fearful. The lack of understanding that everyone deserves to feel their feelings breeds so much hate. 27F

2022-11-02T05:07:40+00:00

I saw one such man, but I have never been falsely accused by females. Anyway, men need to be careful. Don't approach random women and always be alerted. Wearing a body cam like officers might help (I think it is legal).

nicholascox2 · 2022-11-02T07:03:17+00:00

Oh to make it worse you can't tell girls cause then you're supporting the thing that hurts them Don't we love being forced to be locked in our heads?

psychowhippet · 2022-11-02T08:38:45+00:00

Yep.

Sirhugh66 · 2022-11-02T09:45:24+00:00

Not all women, but enough

NameIs-Already-Taken · 2022-11-02T10:18:29+00:00

I am now afraid of a sexual relationship because of after-the-fact changes in opinion. No, I'd rather go without than risk the legal, social and relational consequences of a false accusation.

princesssayu · 2022-11-02T10:48:41+00:00

Whats MGTOW?

Dandyman-GM · 2022-11-02T12:12:06+00:00

Yes, it is a terrifying world now where women can play victims for attention, ruin a man's life, and feel that their action are justified. One accusation take 3 witnesses to discredit on average, and even then the man's reputation is tarnished as he is forever watched and scrutinized.

BuT tHeRe Is A pAtRiArChY!!

Drofflies · 2022-11-02T12:45:27+00:00

Yes, absolutely

A_Gray_Phantom · 2022-11-02T12:54:07+00:00

Women are far more dangerous than society gives them credit for. I perfectly understand why many men avoid interactions with women.

Nickolas_Bowen · 2022-11-02T15:08:45+00:00

Not fear of women, just careful observation of women before trying to befriend them or get close to them so I can try and tell what kind of person they really are

LordMandrews · 2022-11-02T15:47:17+00:00

Not falsely accused, but called out publicly for alleged sexual harassment by a coworker.

It was after hours at a social gathering with other coworkers. Seven or eight of us were living in two houses while we traveled for work. We walked back from the bar to the women's house which was much closer to the bar. I was stuck sleeping in a little kids room with a tiny bed (they were furnished vacation rental places) across the hall from a woman in an adult sized room.

The woman across the hall called me into her room to talk for a while. We were introduced that night by a mutual work friend who thought we might like each other. We flirted and danced at the bar and our friend even joked that she was an excellent matchmaker after we spent most of the night talking.

The woman across the hall implied that her bed would probably be a whole lot more comfortable both of us, so I got in the bed. I stayed on my side of the bed and made no physical contact. We talked for a little while and she seemed tired. We were fully clothed, the lights were on, and several other people were down the hall. Eventually I couldn't sleep so I went back to my little kids room. We said goodnight and I fell asleep in a small bed. The next day we all went to work together.

We continued to work together and get to know each other over the next year. Then one day when a few coworkers were out drinking again, she claimed in front of everyone that I sexually harassed her by getting in the bed with her, and that I was not welcome. It was around the time of the metoo movement at the end of 2017. I was shocked to hear this from someone I considered a friend more than a coworker. She didn't want to press charges or anything, just wanted to draw attention to the fact that she felt sexually harassed by me. Our mutual friend heard both sides of the story and sided with me. They are no longer friends. Strangely I still keep in touch with my accuser in a professional and friendly way. I've never held it against her.

I've been terrified to be around women coworkers outside of work ever again, especially while drinking. Being accused that way has changed me, although I'm not sure if it's for the better.

Khidorahian · 2022-11-02T16:18:23+00:00

Im afraid of women because of this

ThumpingBump · 2022-11-02T17:47:30+00:00

Beat it once, I can beat it again

Confident_Notice975 · 2022-11-05T20:06:03+00:00

Yeah it has happened to me multiple times now..

I was in med school a few years back, partner I was with had a breakdown when we did some molly because some kids called her ugly years ago, was questioning what we took the next couple days, 3 months later she was questioning sexual shit and people in my life were talking about sleeping pills all the time

I got worried, explained what happened to the school and that I would cooperate with whatever, they just called me unprofessional and basically told me to leave, I tried to get her to explain, she now says she NEVER questioned anything and doesnt remember asking about the sexual stuff, my entire career got fucked

NOW my family is coming to me telling me they are sorry and they didnt know what happened, I was like.. I just watched you all help her, NOW you're telling me you're sorry?

A lady I was hooking up with last year was on her period and all excited to have sex, everything was good, 5 minutes afterwards we are sitting there and she quietly says to herself she wasnt sure she wanted to do that..

I just booked it the fuck out of there.

Women can straight up say whatever the fuck they want, a mob will form, then months/years later say oh oopsie nvm and your entire life can be ruined

muchachomalo · 2022-11-01T19:39:17+00:00

Yes I've been through it. There is paranoia and reasonable suspicion. You have to figure out what category your fears are in. Even if you haven't been falsely accused. I really try to take time to get to know a potential romantic partner. Don't rush into anything and don't just trust a romantic partner because they like you or are attractive. I also judge how they treat other people. Glad to report that I finally found the one but I am preceding with caution obviously. It's been over 10 years since I was falsely accused I thought I would never be happy again I thought my life was ruined. But I rebuilt it. Good luck to you too.

I'm not saying you gotta pull yourself up by your boot straps. I didn't find therapy that worked for me but maybe you will find some for you. I am not saying that us men don't face many issues. I'm just saying that despite the injustices we face individually and systemically we gotta overcome them.

FoundationFamous39 · 2022-11-01T20:28:48+00:00

I was falsely accused. I have very low expectations for females (girls and women) but I wouldn't say I'm afraid of them.

dixieStates · 2022-11-01T21:55:32+00:00

This is way before the #metoo scourge; I broke up with my girlfriend, so she called animal control (part of the Sheriff's Department) and told them that I was mistreating my cats. It was tough to convince the deputies otherwise.

I don't trust women at all.

rainbow_bro_bot · 2022-11-01T19:15:00+00:00

It makes me glad I'm married and don't have to go through the whole dating thing. Sounds like a minefield.

TheGalaSisters · 2022-11-01T20:28:30+00:00

Yeah, it’s a modern day witch hunt. https://youtu.be/VNNjtZN6ywE

King_of_Dew · 2022-11-01T21:36:41+00:00

100%. I don't even wanna be alone with a woman. Not worth the risk even when there seems to be none. I don't even compliment women anymore. Anyone can twist your words, even with witnesses. People literally take compliments as offensive hassarssment these days. I don't know where we went wrong... it makes me so sad.

Specialist_Garage_14 · 2022-11-01T22:09:17+00:00

I literally avoid women where I can just so I don't have to worry about getting falsely accused. I have a gf so its not a big deal. It would suck to be single again and have to navigate todays world.

Kp22b · 2024-05-03T22:31:32+00:00

I have ptsd from my past with woman I dont trust any now, I feel like everywhere I go on myself a woman is just waiting to make up lies and ruin my life, been single for 8 years now, if you are a single male going for a walk on yourself good luck, I am thinking of going to see a therapist this year.

TheDustLord · 2022-11-01T21:17:53+00:00

No, I’m afraid of women for a different reason- nothing is abusive when a woman does it.

Financial_Run5674 · 2022-11-01T15:33:47+00:00

Its just like being raped by a guy so you're afraid of guys.

same shit. I believe that since rape is about the mental anguish, you can define some parity between false accusations which destroy your life and beign literally raped.

Because its not the sex part of rape that traumatizes people, its the mental aspect.

ShIzZaViP · 2022-11-02T04:14:39+00:00

Wtf.. you want to be with a women and have no worries. Plenty out there with gladly take some dollars for the time together. And I don’t mean street walkers. Good stuff. Many people both men and women will prey upon people carrying baggage to exploit in the ways people talk about here. As a rule of thumb I don’t go to any park and approach other people’s children if they approach me I smile say hi and keep fking moving cause I’m not about some park Karen. You are what you eat. You go to places with clapped out bitches be warned they on the hunt for any opportunity.

DeepFriedhentaiMemes · 2022-11-01T15:32:01+00:00

This doesn’t make any sense lol

Icy-Wallaby4326 · 2022-11-02T00:32:05+00:00

I feel sorry for women. They’re hated but other women and now not rusted by men. It’s not all women but they somehow will never call out their sisters. Worst in this are the the feminist men- ew.

DetailedKing · 2022-11-01T23:24:04+00:00

I was falsely accused and wether it was from through sheer luck, her stupidity, or a combination of both, she accidentally sent texts to me which were meant to be sent to whoever she was trying to give the impression of my alleged sexual misconduct to. Once she realized she was texting me and knew she was completely caught in a lie, she quickly apologized and made up some excuse about how she was going through tough times and just wanted to vent and take it out on someone undeserving.

I made sure to speak clearly and calmly to her all on texts with no sign of malice because quite frankly I was bat shit scared of the repercussions she could of easily have insured on me given the current times even though the allegations were false.

I got her to openly admit she was lying and that I did nothing wrong, screen shotted the texts, blocked her from everything and never spoke to her again. She tried reaching out multiple times but I never and never will budged. As far as I’m concerned, she’s dead to me, but it’s crazy how she will get away with it for free but the implications of her allegations could have placed me in jail for a very long time.

CorndogSeduction · 2022-11-05T13:14:26+00:00

Yes. Same here. I wish there was a support group for people like us.

Inside-Common-8301 · 2022-11-22T03:18:40+00:00

True story… I was falsely accused by a woman of asking her if I could take naked pictures of her. BTW she was some fugly looking Hispanic woman in Corpus Christi about five or six years ago. The cops legitimately showed up and I was told to shut my face when I wanted to tell them my side of the story. I said no and I got smacked in the head with a baton which gave me a knot on my head the size of a golf ball. They told me that since I was within 75 feet of a public transportation hub they would have to confiscate my phone and I told them “Yeah… no, you’re gonna need a warrant for that” They forcibly removed my phone from me and I was punched in the face by a female officer. Five days, I got fired from my job and I had relocated about 300 miles away.

Aggravating_Sorbet_8 · 2023-01-11T23:46:09+00:00

Same I am now afraid of women because of it

rationalthinker3837 · 2023-01-26T04:56:48+00:00

Very, very afraid of women now.

Title	Anyone else who's been falsely accused afraid of most women so they don't get falsely accused again?
Author	Guide2
Upvotes	775
Comments	171
Date	November 1, 2022 3:26 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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Comments

1/ therapy, I personally recommend somatic therpay and somatic experiencing. Body based meditation and mindfulness practices.

2/ educating yourself on the nature of abusers. There's an easy hack, it just takes time to study... ALL abusers are basically the same, although some may abuse more indirectly, while others will literally chop you up into little pieces given the chance.