You cannot be both; sexist AND feminist. It is not possible.

Feminism is centered around equality of genders. You cannot be a feminist and desire for either gender to have it worse off than the other in any way for either gender.

For things that are fundamentally unequal such as reproductive rights, this can be tricky because no one can offer a way for both men and women to have equal say and equal consequences from reproduction. But for things that can be made equal - pay, freedoms, opportunities, education, dating, and so on - if you do not want any aspect of this to be equal than you are not a feminist.

Re: equity != equality, I know. But equity is a path to equality; your end goal must be equality.

With this in mind; there are no misandrists feminist. There are people that are misandrist and call themselves feminist, but I can call my self the tooth fairy and that doesn't mean I am. Broadly speaking I am a descriptivist but in this case the incorrect usage comes from abuse of the term rather than a culture shift so I oppose claims like "feminists are those who identify as feminists". This is not simply a 'no true scots' stance - at somepoint we have to use words as they are defined and feminism has objective definitions and a army of researches / authors.

The natural conclusion from this; a whole hell of a lot of the world that think they are feminist, are not.