What are your discovered preferences?

funlightmandarin · 2021-11-12T10:09:36+00:00

Intelligence.

I dated an honest to God, stupid man before and it was impossible to discuss anything with him that wasn't anime or gaming related.

Will never ever go back.

And vocal timbre.

Potato-Swing · 2021-11-12T09:43:15+00:00

A discovered preference would be about musicians, or at least music lover men. My 3 LTR, included the current one, have been with such men. What I mean here is extended musical culture, daily hobby to listen and play, preference for concerts and live music over other types of night outs.

I play and listen a lot of music, I need to share it with my partner. I don't know how we could have fun together otherwise. So that's pretty important to me.

Apprehensive_Boat_70 · 2021-11-12T09:54:29+00:00

I didnt care about a woman's past until I met one with a "colorful" one if you get what i mean, after that, my perception of the dating world wasnt the same anymore.

HilariousHeathen · 2021-11-12T10:45:10+00:00

I am subconsciously attracted to overachieving/hardworking severely depressed women.

I don't seek them out whatsoever but its a pretty safe bet, that if you put me in a room, the woman I'm most attracted to probably deals with depression.

This isn't something I like or am happy about myself. They all come across as pretty well-adjusted and have all been in decent shape and they'd generally be considered conventionally attractive.

But after getting to know them better I find most are emotionally troubled. I have no problem dating someone else with mental health issues as long as they have them under control and don't allow their condition to dictate their lives.

fakingandnotmakingit · 2021-11-12T09:34:36+00:00

Olive/tan skin

Didn't thi k skin tone mattered but looking back all my relationships had a tan. Probs cause I like outdoorsy people so a farmers tan seems to be part of the package

rosesonthefloor · 2021-11-12T12:50:38+00:00

Apparently I have a preference for men with ADHD lol. Come to think of it, it’s come up a decent amount. I think also a mischievous sense of humor.

I also seem to attract guys with less experience.

wtknight · 2021-11-12T13:29:20+00:00

I seem to attract masculine brunettes who are just a bit shorter than me (I’m only 5’8”). Shorter, more feminine women usually want nothing to do with me. M

I’ve never even dated a woman with a high-pitched voice. I have nothing against short, feminine “girly-girls”, but as an average guy who doesn’t attract most women I just have to choose from the small number of women who are attracted to me, and of course if a certain type of woman is more attracted to me, then I’m going to be more attracted to them.

quabbicoo · 2021-11-12T15:21:39+00:00

I like soft men. I’ve dated very masculine “macho” men who were aggressive, I’ve dated very politically Conservative men, I’ve dated very fit men. I prefer intelligent men who are emotionally sensitive, men who aren’t afraid to be soft and loving, men who aren’t afraid to discuss their thoughts and feelings with me. I love that my husband wants lots of affection and cuddles to be comforted and loved. I love that he doesn’t get agitated or aggressive with other people and try to fight people. I love that he’s just a well liked, calm man.

DOSGAMES · 2021-11-12T15:23:52+00:00

LoL most commenters don’t understand the question and are like “I date hot girls with big tits.”

That said, it is a tough question.

For me, the only unintentional trend I can think of is that I always end up with elementary school teachers. I’ve had long term relationships with three different educators.

No sure why! Maybe it’s because they are generally bookish while also being extroverted?

Or it worked out because they were good at dealing with immature children.

Apprehensive_Boat_70 · 2021-11-12T09:54:10+00:00

I didnt care about a woman's past until I met one with a "colorful" one if you get what i mean, after that, my perception of the dating world wasnt the same anymore.

Mobrowncheeks · 2021-11-12T15:21:10+00:00

Women who were probably known to be Tom boys growing up,

AlienFix · 2021-11-12T15:59:53+00:00

Short, feminine, shy woman.

Nerdy ones a plus.

I like innocence …

confusedfrenchnut · 2021-11-12T19:38:56+00:00

I’m attracted to artsy girls who dream about living in Paris or New York and go to cocktail parties for some reason, even though I’m not artsy AT ALL and therefore cannot sustain a relationship with an artsy woman. I love older women (“MILFs”) too.

As for men, I do like when they are good at something that I value. I like horseback riders, woodworkers, farmers, boxers... who are also kind and calm. Physically I’m more into short and thick or muscular white country guys.

Orange_Paisley · 2021-11-12T21:52:04+00:00

I recently learned that I have a thing for men with expressive eyebrows. It’s one of the very few things my first husband and second husband have in common, and I suspect I’m the only one who would notice.

Important_Ad736 · 2021-11-14T02:40:58+00:00

Physically - big lips on guys 😹 (girl here)

Whisper · 2021-11-15T05:49:41+00:00

The overwhelming majority of women aren't funny.

But every woman who has ever lasted more than three months in a relationship with me is.

NoMarriageNoKids · 2021-11-12T09:16:51+00:00

Long natural hair for sure. No funny colors. Generally health conscious and eats well. I won't date a daily drinker again. No, I don't care that it's just a couple glasses of wine. Too much bullshit involved.

Also, introverts over extroverts. I don't want to be dragged around to a million places. And, I'm an extrovert.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-11-12T11:24:58+00:00

I prefer uninhibited and naughty women in the bedroom.

akathewilyfox · 2021-11-12T10:23:40+00:00

Hmm...looking back over mine. Maybe them having standards lower than my self esteem?

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CFinCanada · 2021-11-12T12:02:00+00:00

Men who love alternative music.

If a guy did not understand on a visceral level that music is better when actual instruments are involved, the initial attraction would just not be there.

Hardcore__Troubadour · 2021-11-12T12:03:53+00:00

Jewish women. Over time most women I’ve dated, hooked up with, and eventually married, were Jewish. All looked different, different personalities, etc. I’m not Jewish and can’t say I went out looking for them specifically. Not sure if it’s really a “preference” if it’s not a physical characteristic you can be conscious of, but there it is apparently 🤷🏼‍♂️

resultsmatter1 · 2021-11-12T14:19:22+00:00

White, blonde, educated, at least passable shape.

goneaway2thewind · 2021-11-12T15:03:58+00:00

Perhaps I don't even like women? I have dated literally all kinds and none of them were good enough to put up with

metropolisapocalypse · 2021-11-12T18:49:18+00:00

Non-american, dark complexion, less educated than me but street smart/self sufficient.

The first part was always obvious but the second part took some time. I'm definitely more attracted to opposites than I realized.

driftydabbler · 2021-11-12T19:28:40+00:00

Effeminate men. I’ve started saying it out loud after I (and all my friends) discovered it.

Nyanu · 2021-11-12T22:09:28+00:00

That I primarily prefer to date women of a different race from mine and accepting that it's okay to have preferences not not feel guilty for that.

pokemin49 · 2021-11-13T00:05:55+00:00

I like Irish women, even though I don't really find gingers that appealing. I believe it's because Ireland has a long history that is steeped in the occult(druids, fairies, etc..) , and I hope one day an Irish girl will teach me magic.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-11-13T00:08:37+00:00

Manly men. White muscular country guys that can build things and have nice jaw lines. Blue collar, no fuss, traditional, old school.

beesfrees · 2021-11-13T00:51:59+00:00

Tall men.

I used to think that I could live with short men, but at this point, I want my man to be at least 5 inches taller than me (I’m 5-9)

tryingmybestatm · 2021-11-13T03:56:02+00:00

the girls i am attracted to are always women with past trauma or women who are very weird.

1 had been raped as a kid by her own brother, 2 were secretly dating their first cousin, 1 had childhood trauma becoz of her dad and the same continued becoz their parents never stopped fighting.

yungthrowaway97 · 2021-11-13T04:10:56+00:00

Outside of my known physical preferences, every girl I have got along with was a sensitive feeling type, and more outgoing/social than me.

SyllabubQuiet2482 · 2021-11-14T06:25:48+00:00

I noticed I prefer someone tall thin and athletic. I thought I didn’t mind height until I met my bf who is 6,3.

Title	What are your discovered preferences?
Author	majani
Upvotes	5
Comments	57
Date	November 12, 2021 8:53 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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