37YO who has dated mostly jerks found the perfect man...but still thinks she can do better.

Typo-MAGAshiv · 2021-09-16T08:57:56+00:00

WATGM-ITM posts like this are normally weekend only. However, I'm making an exception for the following reasons:

1) this is a particularly good one,

2) lots of good comments already.

slipkid223 · 2021-09-16T00:18:52+00:00

37 years old and still looking for the tingles. That poor bastard has no idea he is gonna get either dumped, cheated on but mostly likely both.

redditradishman · 2021-09-16T00:26:32+00:00

Funny she didn't need reddit's approval for the toxic guys.

TheSigilStone · 2021-09-16T00:20:11+00:00

Her brain and ovaries are fried. She should leave and let the guy find someone who actually cares and hasn't ran through the carousel.

AHappyWooloo · 2021-09-16T00:16:08+00:00

She really means "I think about other schlong for at least an hour every day".

Buchwild · 2021-09-16T00:40:37+00:00

Damaged goods, when you think about it she's no different than a prostitute. She's been with so many guys that she can't value a good one.

KoloGupta · 2021-09-16T00:31:19+00:00

She's trying to force herself to stick things out with this guy because she doesn't want to be alone (her words), and the Chads no longer return her calls.

She knows she doesn't have options. Women who are in season are not on Reddit complaining about some dude they're with, who doesn't give them tingles.

Women in their prime are not on dating apps. They're not feminists. They're not running around demanding attention. They're too exhausted from being turned inside-out by Chad and his friends, while simultaneously getting free meals and attention from orbiters, to be worried about sparks and tingles.

sapdahdap · 2021-09-16T00:32:11+00:00

Damn like he should leave. Sounds like he’s straight up the prize like a 9 or 10 vs a 3. Holy I get sexual chemistry is important but like if everyone around you is saying only but good things about the partner and she feels this way….she’s really the problem at this point. If she wants to settle for someone a bit less, then she should. Why drag someone into your mess and view, just because you want best of everything? So you’ll prob end up cheating on him. That’s bs and fked up.

Mundane_Worldliness7 · 2021-09-16T00:40:28+00:00

Those ex’s who she deeply loved could have her back with a text. When you love somebody, you don’t focus on their flaws, you actively focus on their strengths. Hopefully bro finds out about this and leaves her, lest he end up raising some other dude’s kid.

plz_say_sike · 2021-09-16T02:17:29+00:00

I highly doubt all the guys she dated were jerks and toxic. These types of women completely destroy their pair bonding ability in high school/college and then label anything that isn’t 100% satisfactory in their relationship as toxic/manipulative/controlling/abusive/insecure.

Why? Because they got bored. Bored of normalcy. Bored of the same routine. Bored of fking the same guy no matter how good he is in the sac. You can’t expect someone that’s been fucking different people every week to be satisfied with just being with the same person for the rest of her life. She’ll look for an excuse, any excuse to end the relationship while still trying to be the victim. She’ll never have long term sexual compatibility with anyone. At 37, it’s over for her.

SoulKeen · 2021-09-16T01:10:23+00:00

Harry Potter and The audacity of this bitch...

A_Walt_Whitman · 2021-09-16T01:38:01+00:00

She still belongs to the streets

Joaquino7997 · 2021-09-16T00:47:39+00:00

I truly hope this man finds another woman. A better one whom will adore and love only him without her having to reminisce about the wild sex she had from most (if not all) of her 'toxic' relationships.

kidruhil · 2021-09-16T02:39:27+00:00

Imagine being with a woman that secretly feels this way about you. JFC

This is why it's better to fuck than to be fucked. Be the bad boy. It's that or be cheated on. Smh

Bob_and_Virginia · 2021-09-16T02:48:02+00:00

There's that crap again about how "I love you, but I'm not IN LOVE with you". Fuck outta here with that mumbo jumbo nonsense. Why can't they just be honest and admit they are hypergamous?

AlextheHun24 · 2021-09-16T02:02:45+00:00

She’s 37 yet behaves like 21 year old sororistute.

manfrom-nantucket · 2021-09-16T01:59:16+00:00

Another innocent man standing on the edge of a cliff with a woman looking to push him off.

PopularBug5 · 2021-09-16T01:51:35+00:00

"I deeply loved them"

"relationships were toxic"

It's only toxic when those relationships end. Otherwise they are hawt.

HLFML · 2021-09-16T02:30:35+00:00

I really hope she breaks up with him and he marries her sister so she can watch the life she could have had happen while she stays alone.

OracleofFl · 2021-09-16T02:21:06+00:00

....and she want kids! So she is 37 and is willing to go back to the well to find someone just as perfect plus tingles. If she dumps this guy tomorrow, how soon does she think this guy is going to come along? She has gone 37 years and exactly one suitable guy has come along but she thinks she still can find a guy and rope him into marriage AND have viable ovaries AND the guy is going to want to rush to have kids with her. Yeah, that will work.

AmbitiousHornet · 2021-09-16T07:54:36+00:00

"all of those relationships were toxic" Anyone she the pattern here?

Natriumzyanid · 2021-09-16T00:49:47+00:00

Ladies and Gentlemen, the pinnacle of evolution in the milkyway!

Vikingbeard1 · 2021-09-16T04:23:04+00:00

"My job pays well and is located nearby but I fucking hate it and could easily find another; should I stay there the rest of my life?"--A woman.

"My boss made unreasonable demands so I told him to go fuck himself with a broken beer bottle and got another job, even though I had to move 3 states away for it."--A man

p3ngwin · 2021-09-16T06:24:22+00:00

As usual one of the requirements is "he's generous".

it might seem innocent, but if something is earned, it is not then generosity, to receive what you have earned, be it respect, attention, love, money, etc.

No, they want "generosity", in the sense they don't earn it, which becomes entitlement.

unshak3n · 2021-09-16T03:30:00+00:00

A whore will never be a lady.

YouCouldBeBetter · 2021-09-16T04:03:29+00:00

Should I waste this man's time and life for selfish gain? Should I stop him from finding someone who actually wants him, because maybe I can settle for him? Is it okay to be this vapid and narcissistic?

anykah_badu · 2021-09-16T10:05:00+00:00

I doubt he would talk about marrying her if they never had sex so I'm left wondering, is she faking it? This whole time? Pretending like she wants to fuck him, pretending like she enjoys it etc? This is the real horror story here

She's not attracted to him (which is highly subjective and absolutely malleable long-term) but brings him around to family, let's him talk about marriage, goes "hm yeah sure babe" or something

That's so fucking creepy to me. Again, I'm getting narcissistic vibes from this one.

The question "is it okay" plus the assertion someone can be "so perfect and wonderful but oh so flawed" are pretty telling. She can't help but brag about netting him but also of course he is not good enough. She'd have to "settle"

StevenStooch · 2021-09-16T02:21:17+00:00

She’d “LOVE some advice”, but she’s not in LOVE with this guy who is “thoughtful, smart, romantic, and kind.” She has no fucking idea what love is.

unshak3n · 2021-09-16T03:28:24+00:00

Classic alpha fucks beta bucks.

alienmuseum · 2021-09-16T09:28:33+00:00

When a woman describes her husband or boyfriend as " thoughtful, smart, romantic, kind..." and so on. I knew something bad is about to happen to this unfortunate bloke. It usually follows with but <insert her bullshit reason>. Guess he's not such a great guy to her after all, huh? Clearly she's not happy with him. Maybe she wants a thuggish, violent guy to keep her guessing about his "love and commitment" to her. She wants that drama and chaos to keep her happy.

LouisVILeGro · 2021-09-16T04:23:55+00:00

She belongs to the street until she belongs to cats

Mission-Document5257 · 2021-09-16T11:22:57+00:00

FDS would simply tell her to cheat.

chesty666 · 2021-09-16T02:13:49+00:00

Kiss of death right there. NICE.

OwenWentFullMGTOW · 2021-09-16T02:48:41+00:00

When she thinks she can improve upon perfection...

NameGiver0 · 2021-09-16T03:11:19+00:00

Yes. Yea she should. So the poor fool is spared her bullshit.

throwawayeastbay · 2021-09-16T05:41:05+00:00

Muh tingles strikes again

He deserves better

Flashy_Glove6208 · 2021-09-16T06:43:02+00:00

A poor man. Hope he starts seeing red flags and takes off rose tinted glasses.

This 37 YO single female has more red flags than a communist party parade.

Her post proves she's an alpha widow with baggage and CC rider. She's settling for him and it will backfire via cheating and/ or divorce.

If he's got his life together he should be looking for a good woman in her 20ties or stay single forever.

No sane good man in Western countries would consider LTR/ marriage with a woman like this.

PristinePudding · 2021-09-16T06:53:20+00:00

I kind of love how she formulates the question in the topic. 'Is it OK...?'. Like you have to ask fellow women if its okay to do something? What level of brainwashed do you have to be to ask others what is and isnt okay in the modern day dating scene. Is she that scared other likeminded independent women would criticize her? Insane that relationships are a group project these days.

meerita · 2021-09-16T07:41:05+00:00

Poor lad. He will be lurking this forum and others soon. Make sure you welcome him!

InevitableOwl1 · 2021-09-16T08:37:47+00:00

I assume she has posted this to a dating or relationship advice sub. Those subs ban and delete all sorts of red pill / mgtow type messages - usually in the replies

The crazy thing is that this story is note for note a red pill / mgtow recruiting story. Any average guy reading this would be horrified even if they weren’t already down the red pill path

Yet it stays up because it isn’t using terminology and jargon. But tells people all they need to know

(And no - this isn’t fake and I don’t for one second think this is)

Balefirez · 2021-09-16T22:16:50+00:00

She says she was in a string of toxic relationships. Seems to be what most women say. Either there is a large percentage of men that are toxic and these women then choose to date them, there is a small percentage of men who are toxic and women just get extremely unlucky and gravitate to them, or toxicity is becoming a word that is being used to describe actions they don’t like. I’m beginning to think it’s the third option.

Bob_and_Virginia · 2021-09-16T02:44:31+00:00

37 is VERY OLD, grandma!

Better start hoarding pets.

Ok-Hamster5571 · 2021-09-16T05:40:12+00:00

Why did she start dating this guy? “No” chemistry is obvious.

ruck_my_life · 2021-09-16T09:01:55+00:00

I don't want to be alone.

And that's why all your relationships have "been toxic on some level." You are a codependent mess right out of the gate.

Unfuck yourself. This is broad advice for people of all shapes, sizes, colors, and creeds. If you can't be comfortable with and by yourself you won't be comfortable with and by someone else.

redditfelosifer · 2021-09-16T10:03:54+00:00

There is no good outcome. She leaves, he dodges a bullet he didn't realize existed, but he gets utterly heart broken and all her friends and family will be disappointed.

She stays and he gets the love of his life, a marriage he thinks is blissful until the day she hands him divorce papers because she's "unhappy" and thereby divorce raping him in court.

Society is screwed.

SmallHandsMallMindS · 2021-09-16T04:13:40+00:00

Someone should warn him, not that he'll listen. In about 20 years, he should tell his story to warn the next generation

ChrisPTY507 · 2021-09-16T15:03:19+00:00

This is a classic example of HYPERGAMY. It’s a biological behavior of women so at this point in life I’m not even mad about it.

It’s actually a survivor mechanism women have since ancient times: you always want the best possible man for you in order to produce offspring of good quality and health.

If there is a lacking of sexual chemistry then it must mean that this guy might be seriously missing something important or she found someone potentially better, hence she might be more than likely to cheat if she chose to settle down with someone she doesn’t really love despite the guy having qualities worthy of a LTR…

GracenandGracen · 2021-09-16T16:15:04+00:00

She's too old to have kids and has no accountability (all those other relationships were toxic and not her fault) but yet this guy for some reason wants to get married? Also the sex is an easy fix, she just needs to communicate better and if she acted like an adult the sex can improve since its a learned skill

Harry_Teak · 2021-09-16T22:52:17+00:00

I get it. Why would someone want to be in a LTR with someone that they weren't sexually attracted to? But she's 37. She at least subconsciously knows that her days of riding Chad are over or she wouldn't be even dating poor clueless Brad.

At this point her best course of action would be to stick with this Brad and stock up on whatever the currently popular mother's-little-helper soccer mom drug of choice is to numb her to the future that her life choices have given her.

But she probably won't do that since she's already hitting the Internet looking for someone to tell her that it's A-OK to pull the trigger on her current relationship. This Brad is about to be handed his walking papers and I hope he's not enough of a dolt to not see it coming. This type of woman tends to communicate her dissatisfaction in myriad ways. Her future will consist of increasingly even "less worthy" Brads as she rockets towards 50 and beyond. One can already smell the cat litter.

BluepillProfessor · 2021-09-16T23:07:37+00:00

100% of the time a description of 'kind' and thoughtful and smart is followed with...BUT....I don't want to screw him...should I settle?

We may have identified a pattern gentlemen!

autoeroticassfxation · 2021-09-16T08:29:45+00:00

Nobody should ever settle. If you feel like you are settling, you'll only torture your partner. People who feel they are always better than their matches should buy a dog and die alone.

peguy2000 · 2021-09-16T10:12:19+00:00

I kinda feel bad. Its like watching a chicken without its head. Anyone else feels that way?

bryonwart · 2021-09-16T11:10:17+00:00

Two words...future spinster.

Blogginginvicecity · 2021-09-16T11:23:04+00:00

She needs to reword that second sentence into the following

I have had a series of long-term toxic, relationships. In the 7 years since then I have only had casual relationships. Me and everyone around me really likes my boyfriend but I do not have a lot of sexual chemistry with him. Lord, why do you punish me with consequences of my actions as a drama addicted sloot?

NeuroticPanda · 2021-09-16T12:34:28+00:00

Like a meth addict, always looking for the high of the tingles.

Paulutot · 2021-09-16T13:57:43+00:00

I hope she leaves him alone and doesnt ruin his life.

gfgdhj5784yu8 · 2021-09-16T17:56:36+00:00

"I think about this for at least a combined hour every day"

She has too much time on her hands and apparently any spare time she does have is spent plotting against her nice boyfriend. Female Nature 101

Warm_Tap584 · 2021-09-16T23:24:39+00:00

The wall calleth, but the Chads and Tyrones aren’t….

Noob_master_slayer · 2021-09-17T13:26:06+00:00

This is what happens when a society becomes oversexualised and the only thing that matters is putting your dick into a hole or vice verca for women, taking a dick into your hole. The person around that hole or that dick literally doesnt matter. Old age companionship doesnt matter. Only moaning and squirming in the current day matters. Love doesn't matter, only smashing matters.

Yggdrasill4 · 2021-09-16T06:57:30+00:00

This is the eventual self inflicted mental damage they come by in their 30's. The spirits of their pass haunts them. She felt sexual attraction for the people in her pass and cannot redirect it anywhere else. She needs to seek it forever.

PaulMurrayCbr · 2021-09-16T11:43:19+00:00

Oh, fuck no - it's not ok for a quean like yourself to settle. You should totally dump this guy without a moment of regret.

RG1527 · 2021-09-16T12:19:28+00:00

I want a simp to feed me icecream and rub my feet when Chad and Tyrone don't call me back.

Poor guy is about to get blindsided...

NakedlyStripped · 2021-09-16T12:45:11+00:00

There is that generic TOXIC word again. I blame Britney Spears for that catchy ass song that made that word super popular. Lol

Aldabruzzo · 2021-09-16T12:45:15+00:00

I was right, I am right, and I will always be right.

Women are marrying men they aren't sexually attracted to.

Ignore me at your peril. I. Am. Right.

NeverNeverLandIsNow · 2021-09-16T12:46:02+00:00

That poor bastard, I hope he wises up and dumps this POS.

2021-09-16T12:47:11+00:00

Well, good for her, she's gonna end up sooo bitter

JYoungSocial · 2021-09-16T12:49:43+00:00

Sure, it's ok... as long as you are open and honest with him that you aren't attracted to him.

Tell him that there is no sexual chemistry. Then let him decide what he wants.

But, I bet she never will because she's a dishonest person.

bartbitsu · 2021-09-16T13:44:16+00:00

She should break up with him.

He deserves better.

fuckinusernamestaken · 2021-09-16T13:55:28+00:00

This is why you can never turn a 304 into a housewife. No matter how hard you try the call of the streets is too powerful for them to ignore.

Lord_Kano · 2021-09-16T13:59:25+00:00

She needs to let that man go find someone who isn't quite so screwed up in the head.

Jeviok · 2021-09-16T14:20:00+00:00

"Why don't I love someone that I love?"

Swole-Dedede · 2021-09-16T15:02:30+00:00

i feel bad for that man.

PS2Errol · 2021-09-16T17:22:20+00:00

A long way past the wall. It's over.

Dariusjen-medd · 2021-09-16T18:59:31+00:00

Hypergamy has entered the chat*

Responsible-Car-7455 · 2021-09-16T20:26:48+00:00

And she's 37?

MrMcpizzza · 2021-09-16T20:38:49+00:00

If you don’t feel sexually attracted to him then he has a right to know and he should decide to continue or terminate the relationship on spot.

kyucel_ · 2021-09-17T18:11:51+00:00

Darktriadmaxxed Chad ONLY

FloydWesleyIII · 2021-09-16T13:21:54+00:00

Yeah, this isn't going to end well.

withrowsprings · 2021-09-16T22:31:41+00:00

Gina tingles are helluva drug - Jean Claude Van Dame.

AggressiveProblem654 · 2021-09-17T06:58:49+00:00

I hope this is how the story ends but I know it won't. That poor bastard is going to marry that girl.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xLnTWxpTQt4

BobGnarly87 · 2021-09-17T18:57:10+00:00

I’m here to OD on cope. inhales deeply

Ag0120pty · 2021-09-19T07:53:11+00:00

She’s looking to settle with this guy she does not love, get pregnant and consequently end up in an unhappy marriage for the guy will probably be very miserable about in the short term. They will divorce and she will then demand to GET ALIMONY FOR HER KIDS. LIFE IS SETTLED FOR HER. The guy will be miserable. She will hide her kids and she will ruin his life. Whoever is her boyfriend RUN AWAY!!!!!!!

Jessni082104 · 2021-09-19T12:04:11+00:00

Instead of robbing him of his life, tell him how you feel and let the choice be his. But you already know that.

Njume · 2021-09-20T21:31:02+00:00

Got to the middle of the second paragraph before I knew what was coming. I am ashamed it took me that long.

Manoj109 · 2021-09-21T07:23:17+00:00

You will know as a man if a woman feels for you sexually. It comes out in the sex Any experienced man knows when a woman wants him sexually.

If there is no sexual chemistry this guy of he has sense he should know. Yes I know women can fake it but they can't fake it too long eventually it will show that she doesn't want him sexually.

If a woman doesn't want you sexually or desire you sexually dump her. She will be with you and thinking about tyrone and Chad. Fuck that shit.

Manoj109 · 2021-09-21T11:47:43+00:00

I am so happy I am not in the game anymore. Fucking happy. Good luck to you fellas out there you are going to need it lots of it.

There are good women out there but they are rare as hens teeth

88Double · 2021-09-22T22:11:01+00:00

Jesus Christ, why do these women do this….just leave and let the guy not waste his time. Seriously just fuck off, plenty more women out there

2021-09-25T13:08:47+00:00

multiple time alpha widow can't stand beta simp saviour

WalnutManTrader · 2021-10-02T03:23:42+00:00

Pairbonding is gone

MelkorHimself · 2021-09-16T00:13:26+00:00

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Manoj109 · 2021-11-06T10:32:59+00:00

The so called relationship is doomed to fail before it even starts.

Poor guy.

Title	37YO who has dated mostly jerks found the perfect man...but still thinks she can do better.
Author	MelkorHimself
Upvotes	716
Comments	298
Date	September 16, 2021 12:10 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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