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Classic_Vlasic_ · 2022-06-14T22:47:38+00:00

Controlling your financial habits will give you freedom in how you want to live.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-06-15T00:28:35+00:00

Martial arts and public speaking/presenting regularly

EmrysAllen · 2022-06-14T22:50:30+00:00

Do the things you love unapologetically. That is what real masculinity is. Love ballet? Or gardening? Do that shit like you own it and don't worry if people see it as "manly". You will impress the people that like those things, and not impress those who don't. Don't fake it, just own who you are and what you enjoy.

conker1264 · 2022-06-14T22:00:03+00:00

Work out

-Cachi- · 2022-06-14T23:48:44+00:00

I made a quick list for you OP:

- Chop trees with an axe

- Fart unapologetically

- Repress your feelings and never talk about them

The_Mighty_Snail · 2022-06-15T00:29:30+00:00

Most of this is garbage advice and a caricature of manliness

drink whisky, lift weights, play video games, beards, cars, guns etc.

That's not manhood. Sure those things are great, but that's not what being a man is about.

It's much more serious than that. Being a man is primarily about taking an active role in your responsibilities.

boxingprogrammer · 2022-06-14T22:35:40+00:00

Martial Arts

2022-06-14T23:12:42+00:00

Go work on a ranch in Colorado for a summer

SkeetSkeet123hj · 2022-06-14T23:05:20+00:00

Clash of clans

QuelaansBlade · 2022-06-15T01:22:09+00:00

Hit the gym with the goal of putting on weight. Being muscly and a little fat is actaully way better for your testosterone levels than being shreddded. Dress well but not like a dandy. (Girls do like dandies but noone thinks its masculine). Consider getting a haircut. Learn better more confidant posture. Speak confidently and don't be afraid of eye contact ever. Learn to respectfully stand your ground in confrentations. Finally don't go too hard into embracing your masculinity many of the best players out there have some of the better feminine traits.

azrael117_ · 2022-06-15T00:43:35+00:00

Workout - heavy weights and/or calisthenics

MMA - muai thai, boxing, bjj

Body language - might need to research this more, but changing it positively can make you more manly

Fashion - in combination with working out, well fitting clothes that highlight your fitness level

Grow facial hair. Match it with our hair and face shape

Contact sports - basketball, rugby

vocal training - to get a deep voice

waltervetrivel · 2022-06-14T22:46:19+00:00

Work out, take up martial arts, get a motorbike, buy a gun, grow a beard

7Birdies · 2022-06-15T01:11:34+00:00

Learn how to fight well

great_account · 2022-06-15T02:15:32+00:00

Being comfortable with yourself is plenty masculine.

bandsupjay · 2022-06-14T22:48:38+00:00

Working out, spending more time with men. Watching more masculine movies could help too, just manly shit lol even though that sounds so corny.

IncognitoTap · 2022-06-15T00:51:49+00:00

Combat sports. Just took up boxing. Sparring is as manly as it gets.

2022-06-15T01:15:57+00:00

lift weights , its good for testosterone

nelsne · 2022-06-15T01:21:49+00:00

Boxing/MMA

Supernatural-MnMs · 2022-06-15T02:33:41+00:00

Learn martial arts and become excellent at a trade. Hvac, plumbing, electrician, carpentry among other trades.

2022-06-15T00:32:54+00:00

What do you gravitate towards? in what way are you feminine? physically? or mentally?

depth_charge_ · 2022-06-15T01:22:20+00:00

Lift weights, do martial arts/boxing, put kittens in microwaves. Okay maybe not the third thing. The first two though

Skizznitt · 2022-06-15T01:35:46+00:00

Start building up all your muscles, working out increases your testosterone, which in turn is going to give you a more masculine attitude. Start hanging around masculine dudes more, if you are still young and in school, join the football team or the wrestling team. If you are out of high school already, maybe join an adult male sports League like for baseball or flag football, go out with the boys after your games or whatever. The only way you are really going to develop more masculine traits is to be around masculine men, otherwise how do you know what masculine is?

The other things that aren't so obvious are develop a strong sense of self, be confident in your abilities, try to think about things more rationally and less emotionally.

All that said, it's not necessarily a bad thing to have feminine traits, you just need to find a woman who matches you, sometimes men with more feminine traits tend to get along with women that have more masculine traits and it works out well for both.

testfreak377 · 2022-06-15T01:38:35+00:00

Any skill that increases your capability to survive. Meaning anything that increases your physical fitness, self defense, and financial security, among other things. Beyond that just do what you like what giving AF !

testfreak377 · 2022-06-15T01:38:40+00:00

Any skill that increases your capability to survive. Meaning anything that increases your physical fitness, self defense, and financial security, among other things. Beyond that just do what you like what giving AF !

liukara · 2022-06-15T01:52:29+00:00

Excersise! Travel

jaysucess1_ · 2022-06-15T01:57:46+00:00

REAL ADVICE ——> Martial Arts (Striking not BJJ), Basketball Pick up games, Local Football League, Barbershop, Gun Range (Mostly former military guys that work there), Live in your local downtown area, Free weight gym, Get a motorcycle / dirt bike (spikes T levels)

krispykreme01 · 2022-06-15T02:27:05+00:00

Weight lifting

MMA/boxing

Assertiveness training/trying to take a leadership role.

Meditation/journaling

Having duty/responsibility but hopefully you’ll get that by doing above stuff.

Idk man I’m a virgin.

Problems hit the gym they all workout.

javierchileno33 · 2022-06-15T02:44:19+00:00

anything that could make you feel like a hero: gym, fireman/policeman volunteer, martial arts, any challenging sport.

KShoichi · 2022-06-15T03:47:12+00:00

I cant believe this isnt a comedy thread.(yes there are proper advices but so are hilarious ones)

mangusta123 · 2022-06-15T04:30:49+00:00

Becoming a lumberjack and watching Steven Seagal movies

yupyupyuypypn · 2022-06-15T04:52:47+00:00

Boxing, weightlifting, carpentry, watching sports, sucking down beers, washing your own car in the summer with your shirt off

gucciwillis · 2022-06-15T07:55:49+00:00

Read Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. Many other books too, but this one helped me realise what it means to be a man.

GringuitaInKeffiyeh · 2022-06-15T01:23:07+00:00

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froze_gold · 2022-06-14T22:20:43+00:00

Lift, eat red meat, drink whiskey neat, play warzone and yell at it, take trt

burncushlikewood · 2022-06-15T00:03:34+00:00

Play sports!

Kevin26039898 · 2022-06-15T00:15:41+00:00

Art of manliness on youtube it will teach you a lot

Litenpes · 2022-06-15T04:14:07+00:00

Glad you asked. I've had the same problem most of my life, not growing up with girls/sisters, but without a strong male role model. Growing up with a semi-absent father really messed up the development of my masculine side. Which I had to develop on my own using the internetz and vids.

I think what I would boil it down to is this: In general, women are more emotional and want to experience the whole spectrum of emotions (get happy, watch sad movies, watch reality shows with heavy drama etc. Maybe silly examples but you get the point). Another way to phrase this is that women are more reactive in their demeanor whereas men often times have a more active/action demeanor so to speak.

Wth does that mean though? Well, speaking in terms of social dynamics men tend to have a stronger frame (google the term if you're not familiar with it). In general, when two people are having a conversation the stronger frame "wins" and the other person is adopting said frame (winning and losing is a bad wording, bc in no way is not winning a bad thing, unless you're a man on a date).

Since women tend to want the full emotional spectrum they usually hold a "weaker" frame and will rather adopt adopt others they encounter to experience this. (In the best of Male-female dating interactions, the girl is invited to his "world of fun" so to speak)

This bridges alot into the attraction dynamics between men and women, but since it's rooted in femininity and masculinity I think it's still good to be aware of.

Lastly, I wouldn't necessarily say you need to engage in what is typically masculine activities(I attended karatefor many years but didn't do much to my development). As someone in the thread said, pick whatever activity YOU enjoy and do it with your head held high confidently, if you have your things in order, your masculinity will shine through in whatever you do. Good luck!

SOMNIAT0 · 2022-06-14T23:28:03+00:00

Work out (mainly heavy lifting), listening to cool rock music, and making music in general. Honestly, being truly masculine isn’t just a set thing, it’s not really about what you do, more on how you do it.

For example, the other day I shaved my legs, which is a pretty feminine thing to do imo, but it’s not a big deal and I only did it so that my leg hair can grow longer.

Beginning-Concept-43 · 2022-06-14T23:53:48+00:00

Estrogen helps

khali23 · 2022-06-15T04:51:03+00:00

I'm assuming you posed the question because you have certain feminine qualities you would like to get rid of. What are these qualities? Find them and work on them. I think one of the things you should focus on doing is listing those qualities and simply stop doing them. for example one of the feminine qualities I used to have was that I couldn't hold eye contact with women for long and would laugh wayy too much and just have this nervous shy submissive energy. So every single day, every single opportunity I got I practiced maintaining eye contact with people, tried my best to not nervously laugh and allowed silence in a conversation, and stop being so damn shy and submissive. In convo I would pick up on when I'm giving off a submissive shy vibe and force myself to exude more confidence. Over time it became very natural and I don't have to think about it anymore.
Anyways, here's some general information.

I would say masculine energy is all about pursuing your goals. It's purpose driven. It is about drive, mission, succeeding, breaking through barriers and achieving goals. One way to cultivate this energy is by simply going after what you want. A masculine confident guy goes for what he wants and just like u/EmrysAllen said goes for things unapologetically (Great comment btw). I'm not just talking about going after that one job you've always wanted. You need to do this in EVERY SINGLE ASPECT of your life. You see that cute girl sitting across from you in the café that you would love to get to know. Go after her (as I said, GO AFTER WHAT YOU WANT) (note: it's okay if you feel scared, but for a moment you gotta put those fearful thoughts aside and just do it, go after what you want!). You look in the mirror after a shower and think to yourself "Damn I wish I had a better body.." start hitting the gym bro, get after it! Go after the stuff you want fearlessly, You don't care if the outcome MIGHT be failure.
One thing to note and it's very important you do this: Whatever you go after do it with a positive mindset. Examples:
Gym - instead of "I'm fat, it is going to take forever to achieve my dream body" say "I'm one step closer to my goal than I was yesterday, I'm definitely going to reach it someday"
Girl in the café - instead of "I'm not good enough", say "I'm a confident good looking guy, of course she'll have fun talking to me". (Note: A person that truly believed they a confident good looking person isn't going to stop believing that because one person turned them down. So if you approach her and she turns you down don't let that kill your vibe or your mindset, you're still that confident handsome guy and there's still plenty of other girls that'll love to talk to you they'll start showing up one after the other. What's important is you saw her, wanted her and went after her). Off topic but this mindset helps GREATLY in conversation (I can explain in a couple sentences later if you want).

As it relates to keeping that positive mindset...tbh just keep working on yourself, keep telling yourself the positive stuff. It'll show and people will start to comment on the things you've changed and that will heavily motivate you to keep it up. Simply tell yourself you are manly and act in accordance with that.
I find that confidence is one of the main things that cause people to be fearful and not act on what they want. Apart from telling yourself you're confident you can change your body posture. Your posture is tied to your emotions, a change in your usual posture will no doubt have you feeling differently. Practice walking with your chest slightly out (Think of a string attached to the ceiling slightly tugging at your chest). I've heard that network chiropractic care helps greatly with this. Confidence also comes from practicing and knowing that you can do things well. It comes from competence. If you've never played basketball before, you're not going to be confident, but if you've spent 1000 hours in the gym you'll confidently 1v1 anybody you come across. So if you ever find yourself in a situation where a fight may occur and you have no idea how to fight you are naturally going to be fearful and not confident. Essentially what I'm saying is become a man people describe as competent. Explore the world, learn things and develop key skills. Learn how to change the tyres on your car and service it. Learn how people think. Learn how to fight. Learn how to put on muscle.

Lastly, Traditional Chinese Medicine theorize that their are certain foods that will help to raise your Yang(Masculine energy), you can find a list of these foods online and try incorporating them into your diet and see if that may help.

Hope this message helped.

nevertextgoodnight · 2022-06-14T21:47:15+00:00

Move away from your female family members and limit contact until you got your life together how you want it

tyrant23 · 2022-06-15T02:39:20+00:00

Gym, basketball, football, cars. Basically anything on Spike TV

2022-06-15T03:01:59+00:00

definitely do some sort form of martial arts. looks bad if someone talks down on you and you don’t say anything back cause you’re afraid of violence. To be more masculine, just start taking risks and push every boundary as possible

cronasminate · 2022-06-15T03:06:59+00:00

Magic phrase is when you don't want to do something that you need to do just tell yourself, "don't be a pussy" and boom, your dick gets hard you impregnate all women within a 10 mile radius and you grow a Chad Moses beard instantly."

Alive-Doughnut2345 · 2022-06-15T03:17:29+00:00

Set a realistic, attainable yet challenging goal that resonates with you and don’t just chase it, obsess over it

Revolutionary-Egg-26 · 2022-06-15T03:50:22+00:00

Work out it will boost your confidence and will make you disciplined which in turn will high up your self esteem 🙌

Signature_law · 2022-06-15T04:28:16+00:00

Frisbee golf

2022-06-15T05:00:46+00:00

Weight lifting or team sports.

ChoppedBelAir · 2022-06-15T05:42:26+00:00

The most masculine thing is probably just being secure in who you are and passionate about your interests and hobbies

freepisacat · 2022-06-15T05:45:03+00:00

Fiddle with yer wang

auntLIITTiya · 2022-06-15T05:49:47+00:00

Salsa class or any couples dance class really x that shut is a gold mine for pick up

Off2damoon · 2022-06-15T06:19:07+00:00

Most people are talking about fighting but how about building things? Learn how to wood work, do your own home improvement projects (if you own your own place), learn to do your own mechanical work on your car, knowing how shit works, how to build things and how to fix things is the essence of man. Fighting is cool too but won't do you as much good in the real world.

nikopiko95 · 2022-06-15T06:35:37+00:00

Hunting, drinking, fight strangers, smithing helps too, punch a wall every hour and always open the door with a kick, and a masculine man needs a big beard

Einkidu · 2022-06-15T06:36:09+00:00

Make a heap of all your winnings and risk it all on one game of pitch-and-toss. And loose and stoop to your beginning and never breathe a word about your loss.

brucelee75 · 2022-06-15T06:43:43+00:00

Practice any combat sport jiu jitsu boxing or even mma

TrueBroccoli8 · 2022-06-15T07:00:12+00:00

Brazilian Jujitsu. You'll learn how to be comfortable being uncomfortable. You'll learn how to be physically dominant, and mentally flexible and resilient even when you are put in difficult positions. You'll learn how to breathe like a man, from your diaphragm. You'll develop a firmer handshake and broader shoulders because BJJ is one hell of a grip and shoulder strengthener. You'll engage in a form of male comradarie and bonding that only friends who have spent a practice almost choking out and breaking each other's bones can feel, because engaging in that level of raw physical conflict that could result in serious bodily injury but doesnt because of the caring between training partners, builds immense trust and confidence in one another that rarely exists outside of military units. You'll carry that confidence in the way you walk, speak, shake hands, everything.

AppreciateTheLight · 2022-06-15T07:54:31+00:00

Masturbate to mutilation porn.

Start a cult.

Kill stray animals.

Ignore my advice and do what ever makes you happy.

da_vic · 2022-06-15T07:57:51+00:00

anything. do ballet, gymnastics, or modeling. If you show that your interests are interesting to yourself it will interest others. You shouldn’t have shame in what you do… unless your doing something against the law… which hopefully you aren’t lol

redditor4206903 · 2022-06-15T08:07:38+00:00

Drugz, cars, guns, steroids...

Then-Compote6185 · 2022-06-15T08:20:30+00:00

Leadership skills and actions

Ok_Flounder2795 · 2022-06-15T08:39:46+00:00

Combat sports, literally any combat sport. Find one you like. joining a new club may be nerve racking at first but you’ll soon get used to it, everybody is super friendly and no one judges!! You will also see you confidence sky rocket along with your “masculinity”.

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-06-15T08:43:44+00:00

It doesn’t matter what you do but as long as you are: Asserting dominance, not backing down, persisting, winning every fight and argument you’re on your way.

AltChlo · 2022-06-15T08:50:56+00:00

I've always hung around boys, so the opposite really all my mates now are lads. We go to the beach and play football, watch football which is fun. I think activities aren't really set to make you more feminine or masculine I think it's more the people you're around.

If you go to the gym it doesn't make you more masculine it just makes you more athletic. But if you go climbing with the boys or football with the lads then I think brings out the inner lad

KapitalistBey · 2022-06-15T09:14:30+00:00

send me a message, I would like to help you

teddygangster · 2022-06-15T09:25:49+00:00

Take ashwaganda

Datingcoachcee · 2022-06-15T09:39:22+00:00

Boxing and Jiu Jitsu. You'll thank me later.

Laura2_point_0 · 2022-06-15T10:10:18+00:00

Develop a strong sense of right and wrong. Adhere to your core values. Verbally check other people if they try to shit on you or people you love. Don’t allow assholes to slide when they walk on you. Be accountable and hold other people accountable to you.

musrazeel · 2022-06-15T10:27:50+00:00

Do the things. Then don’t stop doing the things.

pdxtrader · 2022-06-15T16:45:56+00:00

Anything that helps build your confidence , wrestling working out karate meditation reading books traveling the world etc ( most people are more concerned with things that make them less masculine like smoking weed, masturbating to porn, heavy drinking etc. those bad habits KILL your T lvls)

walkinyardsale · 2022-06-15T19:01:16+00:00

Change your own flat tire. No whining, complaining or whimpering. Unapologetically do your thing whatever it is, develop an I don't give a f@ck attitude.

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