Cold approach; this always worked for me 85% of the time

recyclablebanthas · 2022-02-25T02:49:03+00:00

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I would walk up & ask her name & after getting her name id say .. “you’re cute where’s your bf at?”

She’s either gonna say “at work” at home” or “at school” ..

then thats when i’d usually say “tell’em he’s a lucky man because you’re beautiful, nice meeting you” & go about your day.

But if she says “i don’t have a bf” then that was the green light to ask for her number. So it usually went something like “i don’t have a bf” then I’d say “really? i find that hard to believe cuz you’re beautiful. What are my chances of getting your number and staying in touch with you?”

Good inner game can compensate for a lot, sometimes without us realizing it.

Let's break this opener down:

People generally like to be understood and dislike being misunderstood.
- So starting off with an assumptive statement about someone that turns out to be wrong, is putting yourself at a handicap.
People in a relationship often dislike the fact that they aren't seen as a person, but rather, as a collective pair with their significant other, or as a possession of their SO.
- Comments which react as if an unseen SO has marked territory, are a potential handicap and cringe.
Opening by asking if she has a BF and then walking off if she does, is not really "meeting" someone except in the most superficial of ways. Though the dictionary definition of "meeting" someone has been met, people generally consider "meeting" someone to involve actually getting to know at least something about them beyond their name and physical appearance.
Complimenting something specific about a person's style, fashion, behavior, or word choice would be meaningful. Complimenting someone with a one word adjective requires zero insight and is a missed opportunity at best.
Though I'm sure anyone using these kinds of openers must have standards, the only apparent ones in the opener are, "Is she single? Cool, get number." Which is inherently desperate and thirsty.

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Now with good game, someone can take this approach with all its flaws and turn it into a winning one.

But a newb just learning? They're going to crash and burn because of all the built in handicaps with this. Running practice approaches with it is not going to help them develop anything except thicker skin and apathy as they get rejected repeatedly.

And short story long, that's why the post was taken down:

It's not clear enough that it's an advanced technique for people who already have solid fundamentals.
And it's not something that will be helpful for the newbs it's seemingly pitched at.

Dmac09 · 2022-02-24T15:47:43+00:00

“60% of the time, it works every time.”

AdamL480 · 2022-02-24T15:57:04+00:00

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Perfect_War5446 · 2022-02-24T15:28:56+00:00

Hell no

pearlofwine · 2022-02-24T13:47:07+00:00

My question to you, are you hot?

BreakinLiberty · 2022-02-24T16:44:32+00:00

It makes you sound fake and tryhard, plus you’re complimenting her looks just like every other guy.

Boring and it might work but I’ll pass

ForsakenVE · 2022-02-24T16:31:33+00:00

That's wayy to much free validation for my taste

2022-02-24T15:23:17+00:00

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mellylew97 · 2022-02-24T16:49:19+00:00

Idk as a girl this approach sounds kind of creepy. it's kind of like you're asking whether or not she is alone which puts a lot of girls in a really uncomfortable situation. Also what if her boyfriend really is around, does that not put you in a weird situation??? You sound like a super confident dude, so I give you props for that. Maybe I just don't prefer direct approaches!

Erbrah · 2022-02-24T15:49:56+00:00

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yehhey · 2022-02-24T16:44:20+00:00

I find it intrusive to ask about a boyfriend in the first minute of talking to someone. It’s a turn off and they might lie immediately because it’s too overwhelming for some random to ask that. I much prefer indirect, just starting a convo, seeing if it flows, if it doesn’t then you ain’t compatible anyway if it is she’ll even give a number even if she’s seeing someone.

PaleontologistNo2785 · 2022-02-24T14:17:20+00:00

This is a bit too direct imo. She has to judge you purely by your looks for this to work.

mummia1173 · 2022-02-24T18:50:43+00:00

Asking about her bf is so common every girl has already heard it , You may think it's a Smart way to know if shes avaiable but it's kinda lame and overused, only works if You are hot , if You are ugly don't ever try this shit or you'll find out every girl in the world has a bf when You ask them lol

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-02-24T17:30:47+00:00

It's better than what most guys are doing. But, I'd think the escalation to a number close was too fast as nothing has really been established yet. Very little attraction and probably no comfort.

Your vibe is what she will be attracted to anyway, so the words are mostly irrelevant. But, if a structure helps, I'd say use it. Just be sure you know the fundamentals (establish man to woman frame, laser eye contact, 100% intent, fully expecting a positive response, etc...).

fratticus_maximus · 2022-02-24T16:37:09+00:00

You'll have a lot better success doing this if:

1) You are physically fit, dressed well, and have some style.

2) You spend a little more time talking to the woman, getting to know her, getting her a little invested, and then asking her for her number. Usually I spend at least a few minutes talking to them before asking to have the maximum success. It's a little unnecessary to ask if she has a boyfriend. If you ask her for her number or instagram, she'll automatically tell you if she has one or not. Also, direct is good if you're new-ish to day gaming. Get less and less direct as you get more experienced. A lot of times they do have boyfriends but they almost always say they appreciated my approach and that they thought I was charming/handsome/cool/etc.

delusionalubermensch · 2022-02-24T16:58:22+00:00

This worked for me. I would just ask if they have a boyfriend. Was really in a idgaf mode of living at the time. Had no patience for wasting time. Worked out well.

2022-02-24T22:10:51+00:00

These responses are insane .. Hey I can’t help it if this approach had me drowning in pussy. Let me make it clear that this wasn’t in no way, shape, or form a suggestion or even a request to say all this to someone ..

All I did was share my experience and what worked for me .. yeah i got rejected, laughed at & even brushed off at times but I didn’t let it stop me. I pushed on and the ones who loved it showed me love. No bullshit! I was surprised myself. Ive had fwb’s, ons, steady relationships it was crazy. .

Today Im a family man & shit but hate it or love it the game has been good to me & It is what it is!

neoda1 · 2022-02-24T22:38:44+00:00

did a 1 night stand like this at a club/bar this one time lol,

i shoot my shot "here by urself?"" and it worked. ubered home 1hr later

bamm

RomanH101 · 2022-02-24T16:12:34+00:00

This is awful game.

Way too many compliments. It’s not what you’re saying that gets the girls it’s probably your height, your looks or a combination of both.

The average guy needs to do more to signal value that comes from reserving his compliments.

Murfdigidy · 2022-02-24T14:19:05+00:00

Ehhh, mixed on this approach. Though I'm not dead set against a super direct approach like this, it sort of takes the mystery out of... Does he like me does he like me not. Still there are more than one way to skin a cat and that is certainly the case with approaching.

The key in whatever approach you take is to be confident in what you say and how you say it. Girls find a super sure of himself guy undeniably sexy... It exudes confidence which is the #1 aphrodisiac for all women

Minute-Lie-2287 · 2022-02-24T16:01:31+00:00

This is pretty much the approach everyone I knew used at a very young age as a first way to get numbers. It's the most basic of basic baseline approaches.

It's literally almost word for word what my mom told me to say to girls.

Does it work, yes. Absolutely, better than nothing and it's great if all you can muster is something simple.

SNTMLI · 2022-02-24T17:05:11+00:00

could’ve did all of that without the compliments

jjboy91 · 2022-02-24T20:54:45+00:00

I feel it cringe to compliment a stranger on it's apparence or it's physical traits

Elegant_Weasel · 2022-02-24T23:28:12+00:00

the replies here are kinda weird. it's not the words it's how you say them. I have no doubt op's had success with this. it's only needy if you make it sound needy. you could hook by doing nursery rhymes on your approach if you have the right swagger.

sergeiglimis · 2022-02-24T17:49:05+00:00

You’re putting her on a pedestal WAY to much “what is the chance thy peasant can receive thy number”

Artist-in-Residence- · 2022-02-24T14:57:50+00:00

Cute lol

Dean_Soja · 2022-02-24T15:50:19+00:00

He’s only gotten 1 number and she friendzoned him.

Cramer4President · 2022-02-24T16:35:00+00:00

Hey OP, what's your height?

tapsnapornap · 2022-02-24T20:25:08+00:00

Holy fuck this is cringey asf "WheReS yOUr BF?"

CATREACTIONS · 2022-02-24T16:49:38+00:00

well... i guess it's better to use this than doesn't approach at all right? If it works for you fuck it

TheRealMe54321 · 2022-02-24T17:03:21+00:00

cleetusneck · 2022-02-24T17:04:37+00:00

Simple and efficient. Like it.

alexanderldn · 2022-02-24T17:30:11+00:00

drop the compliments for something else and it should be effective.

KeepItTidyZA · 2022-02-24T19:03:20+00:00

This guy is so slick he could slide uphill.

exceedingdeath · 2022-02-24T19:26:45+00:00

I’d avoid telling her the « really? I find that hard to believe » part. Girls hear that all the time and from my experience it’s annoying

rahhumilovedogs · 2022-02-24T19:30:26+00:00

creepy

superphotonerd · 2022-02-24T19:35:01+00:00

let her tell you she has a BF. Don't ask.

TeslaNicole · 2022-02-24T19:44:32+00:00

Simp 101

poly_nerdy_panda · 2022-02-24T19:53:04+00:00

way over gamey and try hard... sounds like your just trying to pick her up. I just go with hey can I meet you real quick?(John Anthony) I'm new in town.. I even use this when meeting couples or people i think might be together,co-workers etc works really well

DeepSlicedBacon · 2022-02-24T20:02:11+00:00

Yes!!!

unfinity2 · 2022-02-24T20:19:10+00:00

I feel like you should never be that explicit about her beauty until you’re in an intimate situation to remove any doubts she may have at exactly the right time. Otherwise, just show it, don’t say it.

freethebeesknees · 2022-02-24T20:38:41+00:00

Dude, not saying you're wrong, but I've worked in the service industry for at least 15 years and I've witnessed a LOT of my female coworkers get hit on just like this and they always turn around and laugh their fucking asses off. Had a coworker just last week get told out of the blue by a guy at the bar that she "had a cute necklace on" it was literally a piece of metal cut into a heart on a chain. Nothing cute other than its a heart. She was so weirded out by it she wanted to barf. Yeah, have confidence that's fine but not this. Nobody wants to be told "they have a lucky man" or "oh where's your bf".

ProductivityMonster · 2022-02-24T20:39:04+00:00

Anything you say (within the realm of reason) works 85% of the time if you're good-looking lol. In other words, this doesn't prove anything and it's a pretty bad approach with like a .0000001% success rate if you're not good-looking.

I'm not sure if it's just ego or you're trying to sell something where you think this is actually good.

RaineHollow · 2022-02-24T20:49:10+00:00

Literal chad

isuck_atusernames · 2022-02-24T20:51:51+00:00

Gross 🤢 would immediately attempt to ignore individual

Afletch331 · 2022-02-24T21:31:05+00:00

this subreddit gets more interesting everyday

Juiceunderthetable · 2022-02-24T21:42:11+00:00

“i don’t have a bf” reeeally? Soon do something about that 🙃

Go_Brr · 2022-02-24T23:12:37+00:00

Nothing worked for you because if it rwally did you wouldn't. E spending your time bragging a out bullshit that never happened

Your not an influencer, you're a fucking idiot

Title	Cold approach; this always worked for me 85% of the time
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Date	February 24, 2022 1:44 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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