So many people don't want to hear truth about their lives because it hurts their feelings, it hurts their ego. But Running away from the truth creates more suffering in the long run and that's when people play the blame game. That's when they act like a victim as if they didn't have a chance to improve.

1. You don't have a stable career/job/business.

Only success doesn't get you women but it's important nonetheless. A lot of guys worry about their personal finance, a lot of guys over work just to pay the bills. Men who don't have financial security/job security always feel an unconscious fear about the future. What if this goes wrong? What if that goes wrong? But those guys who has a successful financial base and work life balance can be more non-needy, they can follow the advice be yourself, because by having a good financial foundation, a heavy stone have been lifted off their chest. That's why it's important to have a business/career/job security.

Though it is no end all be all, those guys who don't take care of this fundamental aspect of life often finds themselves in desperate situation(Specially during this time). So if that describes your situation, forget about all these "attract women" advice and take care of the fundamental problems of your life first. The advice of "Being Honest" doesn't work with guys who are broke and poor and isn't traditionally good looking. A certain amount of Success in life is needed to boost your non-neediness and it also helps you to "be yourself".

2. You're not at your optimal health condition.

You can read hundreds if not thousands of articles on "Lower Testosterone in Modern Men". Lower Testosterone leads to anxiety, depression, shitty mood and so on. Do you think you can really be your best self without having optimal level of testosterone? Do you think you can really be a guy with great enthusiastic energy when most of the time you just feel tired?

Educate yourself on nutrition, learn about the kind of foods that keep your energy level high all throughout the day. Your excellence in the field can't be divorced from your health. Show me a guy who lifts heavy systematically, eats optimal amount of healthy food and gets quality sleep and I'll show you a potential lady killer.

3. You're outer game hasn't improved much.

Consider these 2 scenarios. One guy with great vocabulary has well rounded knowledge in philosophy, psychology, history, culture, storytelling and comedy. And another guy just tries to be "cool" and tries to use some "techniques" to attract women. Which guy is gonna come off as more authentic?

I see a lot of dudes asking questions like, "How do I become a better communicator?"

And more often than not they get some very generic advises which seem like shortcuts.

But nobody wants to hear, "If you want to attract quality women, be a quality guy. Don't be a bum who looks for quick fix. Educate yourself on interesting topics. Few people are born smart, if you want to be a good storyteller, a good communicator, you MUST invest time in it."

Women will sense it if you use too much "Game" and if you're too technical, She'll find it weird. The key is to find a sweet spot in between but unfortunately most coaches focus on the "Game".

It's one thing to get lucky and it's another thing to DOMINATE the field. You may just "get laid" and write a happy field report but can you repeat that?

Finding consistent success with women requires a big shift in lifestyle. And I have just listed 3 fundamentals that can make or break your dating life.