i always judge men by comparing them to my male alter ego. if i were a man, would i say/do this? the answer is almost always no. and as a bi woman, i know how to treat a woman in a relationship, and i hold men to the same standards as i do myself. 🤷‍♀️

some say it’s an unfair expectation because i am picturing my male alter ego from a female perspective whilst real men don’t live life as a female under patriarchy and therefore do not have the insight i do. i don’t buy this bullshit. it’s common sense. the female perspective is widely available in the age of social media, men simply never seek it out or take it in consideration, they would rather listen to male dating (manipulation/abuse*) advice rather than women, you know, the people they’re trying to date.

start doing this. if you were a man, how would you court a woman? how would you date a woman? how would you date yourself, specifically? it’s the easiest way to set high standards and firm boundaries.