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NICE FOR WHAT?Liz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 10:20 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!Liz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:57 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?Liz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:34 AM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:52 AM
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FDS MEMESLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:19 PM
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COUCH CREATURESLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:08 PM
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QUEEN SH*TLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:21 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 03:57 AM
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RANTLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:26 PM
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NAH, SISLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:44 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 09:24 PM
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NAH, SISLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 08:00 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTELiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 08:16 AM
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LIES MEN TELLLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:30 AM
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NAH, SISLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:56 PM
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NAH, SISLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 12:42 PM
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QUEEN SH*TLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:46 PM
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NAH, SISLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:59 AM
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SEX STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 12:37 PM
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QUEEN SH*TLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:18 AM
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LIES MEN TELLLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 02:03 AM
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QUICK TIPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:07 PM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:09 AM
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MESSAGE FROM MODERATORSLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:43 AM
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FDS HUMORLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:16 PM
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QUEEN SH*TLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 02:36 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 01:44 AM
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RANTLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:43 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:04 AM
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NAH, SISLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 05:29 AM
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RANTLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 02:49 AM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:45 AM
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Liz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 10:15 PM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:02 PM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 11:17 AM
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QUEEN SH*TLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 02:49 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFELiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 11:52 PM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:37 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 07:54 AM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:29 AM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:01 PM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 12:52 PM
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SEX STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:06 AM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:39 AM
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DISCUSSIONLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 03:21 PM
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RANTLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 06:20 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 06:56 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 11:03 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:50 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 07:06 AM
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DISCUSSIONLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:41 PM
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FDS MEMESLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:32 AM
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DISCUSSIONLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 11:30 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:13 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 05:58 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFELiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:42 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 04:45 AM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 05:28 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:35 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFELiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 04:48 AM
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RANTLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 08:20 PM
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QUEEN SUPREMELiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 03:50 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:31 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:17 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:17 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFELiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:25 AM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 10:49 PM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:54 PM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 12:40 PM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:42 AM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:56 PM
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MESSAGE FROM MODERATORSLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:00 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 10:44 PM
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LIES MEN TELLLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 05:14 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:42 AM
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DISCUSSIONLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:20 AM
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MESSAGE FROM MODERATORSLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 12:47 AM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:00 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 12:58 AM
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QUEEN SH*TLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:39 PM
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NAH, SISLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 08:31 PM
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DISCUSSIONLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 05:00 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 09:37 PM
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Liz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 12:08 AM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 02:33 AM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 10:08 PM
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MESSAGE FROM MODERATORSLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 04:46 AM
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RANTLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 02:27 AM
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MESSAGE FROM MODERATORSLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 03:53 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFELiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 03:00 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFELiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 07:24 PM
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QUEEN SH*TLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 03:19 AM
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Liz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 06:12 PM
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Liz_Lemondrop/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 09:18 AM
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Liz_Lemondrop/r/MGTOW06/12/19 06:30 PM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:05 AM
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NICE FOR WHAT?Liz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 06:25 AM
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MESSAGE FROM MODERATORSLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:19 AM
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DATING THEORYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:13 PM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 01:37 AM
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Liz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:13 AM
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STRATEGYLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 06:09 PM
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Question For MenLiz_Lemondrop/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 01:47 PM
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SEEKING ADVICELiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 08:32 AM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 09:52 AM
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LIES MEN TELLLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 03:09 PM
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LEVEL UPLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 09:28 AM
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QUEEN SH*TLiz_Lemondrop/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:12 AM
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
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Imagine if every woman who has undergone mental and sexual abuse at the hands of men just used that as an excuse to abuse men with impunity. The world would collapse. Society only functions because women haven't collectively held ALL men accountable for the actions of MANY men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:15 PM
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I think there's actual potential, as in someone who IS CURRENTLY proving their drive, ambition, intelligence, motivation, and is making steps actively to pursue greatness. Then there's fake, manipulative, lazy "promise potential" of the guy who WOULD be great if not for XYZ, who WOULD get a job if not for the economy, who WOULD be amazing if his daddy hadn't yelled at him. That's the bullshit potential we need to miss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 01:28 PM
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YEP. If he could be better, he would be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 01:01 PM
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We as women have a fuckton of conditioning to unlearn. Starting with what we've been told our entire lives is acceptable loser behavior from men who want to do the least and from women who are defensive of the trash relationships that they've settled for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 11:22 AM
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YEP. And you aren't going to "teach" him to do better. It's not like he needs to learn particle physics in order to not be disgusting. He knows. Everyone knows. He just doesn't care. Because that's his best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:53 AM
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Some of them get off on the idea that it's unwanted. Feature not a bug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 10:32 PM
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I personally think he's trying to quantify how much respect she's "owed" based on his own fucked up mindset about her worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 02:41 PM
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I refused to have sex with my (now) husband until he took an STD test, and that should be considered a very normal and responsible practice. You want to ENTER MY BODY but don't want to get a little blood draw to do so? You're careless and gross and that is likely reflected in your approach to female pleasure. But I also stopped doing anything even remotely casual long before I met him because I practiced FDS and stopped providing free prostitution for losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 02:39 PM
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I refuse to count, and I doubly refuse to share that number. There is no net benefit for women to even attempt to calculate or communicate it. No woman has ever been praised for a body count unless it was zero, because our society fetishizes virginity and shames female sexuality. Let's go with my body count of good, attentive lovers: 1 (my husband).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 01:57 PM
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Those same guys struggle to empathize with women because they would give their left nut for a crumb of attention, so they can't conceptualize of unwanted advances since they get nothing because they are nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 09:20 AM
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Absolutely. Also, hypocrisy. The leaders of cults (like LVM) never follow all the rules and guidelines they expect of everyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 09:19 AM
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These days, it's more embarrassing to be weighed down by a loser boyfriend than it is to be single. I see my amazing girlfriends and their trash boyfriends, embarrassing them and wasting their time. The wrong man can really age you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 09:04 AM
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I think we have been conditioned to believe that an investment in a relationship is equivalent to an investment in our future. If he’s doing well, “we” are doing well, right? But some men are as faithful as their options and are conditioned to believe they are deserving of upgrades if they are successful enough, regardless of who sacrificed for that success 🤷🏻‍♀️ My aunt quit school to be a stay-at-home mother and to manage my uncle’s lucrative business. He left her, took the business, and got r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:48 PM
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Harder to control someone with life experience and fully formed opinions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:45 PM
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Sweet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:33 PM
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I was using hyperbole, but I also would continue to argue that the lion's share of male prostitutes are servicing male clientele.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:27 PM
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I think it's one of those things that seems like it should work in theory but is almost always doomed to fail in execution. I think the men who are intuitive/compassionate/patient enough to be good sexual partners, wouldn't expect a woman to be a FWB by leading her on with the "hope" of a future relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:14 PM
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Or if you hold out the hope of transitioning to something more serious (i.e. hanging out outside the bedroom, being involved in his life or involving him in your life) and he hits you with the "I thought you understood what this was" and makes you feel crazy for thinking it could be more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:59 PM
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I know why: insecurity and belief in the lie that casual sex is empowering and not just patriarchy with extra steps. I bought into the lie for too long and only had pain and embarrassment to show for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:57 PM
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"Indentured sextitude" - lol, love that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:56 PM
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Hmm, I disagree. I think that you are coming from the perspective that sex is axiomatically mutually beneficial. Sex is (almost) always good for men, sex is (almost) always bad for women. Hence why there are like 5 male prostitutes in the world (and they usually cater to men). "Staying true to yourself" means nothing if he doesn't respect you, and he won't respect you. A woman he respects would demand more, not sex crumbs with the miniscule promise of actually mattering to him later at some poin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:53 PM
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I used to think that FWB could be mutually beneficial, but not anymore. The potential for risk, feelings, STDs, pregnancy, miscommunication... not to mention that 99.99% of men are just truly, truly awful in bed. I tried it, I tested the hypothesis, I wanted it to work out, and it literally never did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:46 PM
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Exactly. Stop defining yourself in relation to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:56 PM
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"due to my predicament" this mfker is married lmao
/r/seduction09/07/20 02:39 PM
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The last one, definitely. When I find myself judging/evaluating/criticizing people for no damn reason, I stop myself and ask what the fuck is going on in my head that I should dare give a damn. Life's too short to be toxic, even in your own mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:37 PM
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Or they think acknowledging the trauma is the same thing as healing from it but without the actual work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:06 PM
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Quarintine aside, he sounds like a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 01:57 PM
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I'm so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 01:52 PM
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Amen. I feel like LVM use their adverse experiences not only as justifications for poor behavior, but also a sick badge of honor of some sort? Like it makes them deep/interesting/tormented, and not just weak minded trolls. You're not The Joker, dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:34 PM
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TRULY. The lack of emotional resilience is astounding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:27 PM
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Aww she got picked, good for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:58 AM
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I used to clean for men. Now I clean for me. I realized I valued their opinion and respect more than I valued my own. But my house is always spotless now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 02:45 PM
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"I want a younger woman because they don't have as much baggage" - translated: I want a woman who isn't wise enough to recognize my crimson flags, boring personality, and overall incompetence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 02:43 PM
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How a man treats women he can't get anything from is a huge indicator of his worth as a person. Observe how your date/prospective partner acts towards elderly women/unattractive women/children. If he doesn't treat them with the same respect and dignity that he treats you/men/attractive women, that's low value as fuck. And it's exactly how he will treat you when the novelty of your beauty and attention have faded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:38 PM
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Exactly. All it does is feed their ego and all we’re doing is hoping, clownishly, for them to say the right thing to make us feel better until the next time he does dumb shit and disregard us. Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:58 PM
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Fuck that’s hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 08:56 PM
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Fucking savage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 05:23 AM
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Queen shit tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 05:22 AM
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Amen 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 04:33 PM
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The only way out of it is to decide to do the work. Decide the fear of failure is worth trying, and doing the logical steps towards success. Forming good habits, addressing bad habits, making slow but daily progress. Getting out of the cycle isn't a fun and sexy adventure -- it's a lot of work and nobody will make it easier. A lot of men wait for the "perfect woman" to lighten his load and give him purpose and direction, but the same woman capable of inspiring you won't want to waste her strengt…
/r/askFDS15/03/20 04:06 PM
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Thankfully I got to my car and got in before they got to me. They kept trying to get me to roll down the window and I said "I DON'T TALK TO MEN AT NIGHT" and toodaloo'd away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:18 PM
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Gavin De Bae
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:53 PM
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YES. I have pepper spray, bear spray, a tazer, and several pocket knives. I wish a motherfucker would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 09:11 AM
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I appreciate it, but it is pretty normal. I've experienced it in NYC, Los Angeles, as well as small towns and more rural areas. Thanks for your concern though :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 09:01 AM
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Part of me wonders, why though? Why do we have to do this? Why can't we just walk around rude as fuck until someone is worthy of our kindness? I'm getting sick to death of being "appeasing".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:52 AM
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I saw them walking out of my house; they were still about half a block away and talking loud. I walked as quickly as I could to my car but they also picked up their pace, and got to me right as I was getting in. They each went to one of my windows on either side of my car and said "excuse me miss..." but I shouted "I DON'T TALK TO MEN AT NIGHT." and sped away while they yelled at me. Fuck em.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:37 AM
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YES. They act all nice and polite but they're just a hair trigger away from yelling and insulting you. Women are shamed for having Resting Bitch Face, but when we're friendly and inviting, it just makes life harder and make them think we're easier targets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:35 AM
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Best of luck to you!
/r/askFDS14/03/20 04:20 PM
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First of all, I'm sorry for what you've gone through. I have dated single dads in the past (but only ever through divorce or the mother being unfit, not from loss) so I can't speak to your situation specifically, but thinking of myself, if I were to start a relationship with a man whose wife had passed, I would need him and the children to be in therapy. There are so many concerns of transference, resentment, misplaced expectation/anger/grief and whole host of other issues I would be hyper wary …
/r/askFDS14/03/20 05:08 AM
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I don’t find the extremely direct approach to be too effective. I prefer to soften the delivery a bit, but stick to my standards. I’ll be playful but firm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 12:01 PM
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Hmm. I would probably say something like "I don't particularly like the bar scene" or "I actually don't drink, but we could do dinner?" I actually don't drink and I don't like the bar scene, but they just happen to be good excuses for me and they usually work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:10 AM
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I agree, having that conversation and asking what she would like to see would probably be good. My guess is that it's less about transforming you into anything, and more about her space and comfort in her home. But I bet you know your mom a little better than I do haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:04 AM
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He and his fame are irrelevant. You have to do the healing. You don't have to be friends with him and you can set those boundaries but you need to do the work of moving past him. Go on dates with other people (but not as revenge, because that still means he's in control), work on your hobbies, spend time doing things that matter to you. Feel your feelings when they come up, but don't let them determine your actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:02 AM
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Order take-out? Make sandwiches? Take turns trading off cooking (him bringing you meals, cooking and cleaning up before he gets there, etc)? You gotta respect mom's space, but there are alternatives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:58 AM
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Me: underemployed, live at home, shortish, morbidly obese, make excuses for my poor lifestyle, lonely shut-in, Certified Cat Boy. You: thin, short, fit, a good cook, near my location, a drill sergeant and physical therapist, long-haired, no-tattoos or piercings (despite I, myself, having one), single, under 35, with a fertile womb. I don't know where you found this person, but my god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:31 AM
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Everything about this is terrible. If someone won't change for themselves, why the fuck would they change for someone else? Most people can't even stop smoking or eating too much for their own kids' sake, why would a "beautiful woman" change him? Nah, he would grow to resent her and use her as an excuse for his choices, instead of what he's doing now which is using her absence as an excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:27 AM
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My (male) coworker told me yesterday that a client was staring at and commenting on my ass. He said it like I would be flattered. Men have no conception that sexual attention in the workplace is not a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:09 AM
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I always encourage getting to the date as quick as comfortable. No need to do the back-and-forth. OLD should be a tool to get to a relationship, not the end game.
/r/askFDS12/03/20 03:06 PM
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Yes, put yourself out there. Move closer to him to make it work. Propose to him. This isn't the stone ages, god. Nah, sis. That's not what we do here. And men are conditioned to go after what they want: if he wanted her, he would tell her. If he thought it could work, he would put the effort out there. My guess is that if he DOES have feelings for OP, like her, he recognizes that it isn't going to work right now. If he DOESN'T, then her putting her heart out there is only going to hurt her when …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:24 PM
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If OP hadn't mentioned several times that it can't go anywhere I would be inclined to agree with you. Calling other peoples' feedback toxic is unnecessary and not warranted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:20 PM
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Okay, good question. You get a lot of "DM me $5" girls or bots. We get 100x the amount of dick pics, losers who want to fuck us and dump us, or start conversations with outright disrespect or low effort. Honestly, dating apps are not for putting forth fruitful effort. The best way to stand out to a prospective HVW? In person. You're not a bar guy, I get that, but there are many interesting, articulate, fit, motivated women out there doing cool shit, you just have to find them. They're at trivia …
/r/askFDS12/03/20 01:56 PM
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Great question! Absolutely. A big part of the sub is our dedication to leveling up our own lives: spiritually, mentally, physically, emotionally. We have a whole sub dedicated to it (/r/femalelevelupstrategy) and wouldn't expect anything from a man that we haven't already expected of ourselves. How can we ask for a fit guy if we're not hitting the gym? Why would we demand a high-earner without having worked hard on our own careers? We're ambitious, not unrealistic. There are Low Value Women but …
/r/askFDS12/03/20 12:44 PM
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I honestly think men (particularly men who frequent "pill subs") equate short men with fat women. And men (particularly men who frequent "pill subs") fucking HAAAATE fat women. Their language is incredibly dehumanizing towards overweight women. I think they assume we hate short men with the vitriol that they hate fat women, and assume we just sit around and talk about how "gross" they are like they sit around judging overweight women but I'm not seeing the receipts of that in the sub tbh.
/r/askFDS12/03/20 12:39 PM
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Done. Sorry, we get so much mail :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:54 AM
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I can tell he feels the same but because we live so far away from each other, I don't see the point in confessing my love for him...But I do. We can't really be together because of distance but I've never verbalised to him that I wish we could be together. I think you have answered your own question. Being emotionally vulnerable for a relationship that won't work right now just seems like you're needlessly opening yourself up to rejection or complicating a long term friendship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:51 AM
3

I've never seen men called "manlets" and frankly have seen more women saying they are indifferent or have no problem dating short men than I see actual body shaming. And I literally have never seen short men called "bad", that's crazy. Some women prefer taller guys, just like some men prefer shorter women.
/r/askFDS12/03/20 11:49 AM
1

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskFDS/comments/fhb4gq/a_question_from_a_short_guy/
/r/askFDS12/03/20 11:30 AM
11

My thoughts are this: most women don't care much as long as they're not taller than the man. In fact, some women don't even care if they ARE taller. I can think of a handful of my girlfriends who are with guys that are shorter than they are, but the guy never uses it as an excuse or a reason to be angry or ashamed, even though I see that attitude a lot among guys "online". I think the bigger turn-off than the height is the mentality of "nobody will find me attractive because I'm short". Fuck tha…
/r/askFDS12/03/20 10:54 AM
75

No wonder men hate us, we possess magical transformation powers. "If men find out we can shapeshift, they are going to tell the Church"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 03:19 PM
195

I've gone from a "beautiful princess" to a "stupid ugly bitch" in the span of one "no thank you" before. Pretty impressive tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:29 PM
2

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ew4u1p/fds_therapy_tool_the_johari_window/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 11:47 AM
8

The scarcity principle. Classic economics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 04:29 AM
36

Exactly! The cost-benefit is (usually) not worth it. The people that matter will know you're in a relationship/married/whatever, and everyone else doesn't need to know your business. Sorry this happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:10 AM
35

Territorial. He was digitally peeing on you to claim you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:43 AM
58

You wild woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:53 AM
23

She's gorgeous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:52 AM
312

I too have a kink where I want to enjoy sex and can't rely on a man to make it enjoyable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:27 PM
83

I think this attitude is part of human/adolescent development. Figuring out how to stand out and differentiate from your peers is a very high school/teenager thing to do. I think it had benefited men to destabilize us and keep us pining for that feeling of being different and they reinforce it by acting like we're "all the same" and saying we're "not like other girls" when we do shit specifically to please or impress them. It's childish behavior, reinforced and multiplied for approval well into …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:42 PM
5

Delete his number and take away the temptation. Sometimes being strong means recognizing the areas we are struggling and setting ourselves up for success.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:26 PM
8

You got this!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:22 PM
13

Lots of lessons!! Relapse is part of the growing process 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:20 PM
10

I used to think casual sex was feminist and liberating. I also used to think FWB or hookups were fun and worked for me. I even wrote an FDS guide to FWBS (lol). Now I realized that what I thought was empowering was actually just free prostitution services for men who probably couldn't remember my name if they tried and had zero interest in my enjoyment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:02 PM
5

Part of the problem is, the lib fems have decided that calling a spade a space is "slut shaming", so we can't address the behavior for what it is. And we've been conditioned to think sex is mutually beneficial when it sure fucking isn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:39 PM
17

About the brother: reinforce positive behaviors. Don't be overt about it because men are resistant to being told what to do (especially by women), but praise him when he does something high value and go stony when he does something shitty. Don't rescue him from his shitty behavior, either. The most important question, tho: What's the cool novel?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:28 PM
25

My ex lost his birth certificate. lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:03 PM
3

Same, girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:55 PM
10

Just start taking pictures of them, overtly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:45 PM
35

I find most guys get WORSE in a relationship. Like they’re no longer trying to impress, just get off. But I’ve only dated LVM for the most part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 01:51 AM
65

They also just don’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 01:42 AM
112

In the article they thought of going down on women as “girlfriend privs” 😂😂😂😂 Whereas all dudes think a woman should blow them before the appetizers are served at dinner. Make it make sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:19 AM
89

How many straight men have made y’all come? My number is zero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:06 AM
14

Your most loving and affirming relationship should be with yourself <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:20 PM
3

What are you going to start on? :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 09:56 AM
9

Just a regular coffee pot. I bought sugar free syrups on amazon and have a little coffee corner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:56 AM
62

I’ll start: I’m building up my freelance career and portfolio, I’m completely out of debt and have saved more money than I have ever had in my life, I’m teaching myself coding and am researching going back for a CS degree, and I’ve completely kicked my Starbucks habit and I make coffee at home almost every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 02:37 AM
6

I think the community is what you make it to be. Want to see a change in the content? Make that content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 02:26 AM
31

A-fucking-men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:21 PM
30

Most guys I’ve dated have been tall for some reason and it’s actually a drain. They talk about their height CONSTANTLY and it actually limits what they can do physically, like skiing and and not complaining about their backs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:17 PM
81

YESSSSS. I fucking HATE that. It wasn’t clever on MySpace and it isn’t clever now, all it tell me is that you’re too stupid to realize how incredibly cringe that phrase is. Sorry you didn’t graduate from high school, but damn. Or when they do dumb shit like “Work at work” or “don’t worry what my job is”. Brah, just leave it blank. It makes you sound less like you’re employed part time at Walgreens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:10 PM
13

But I also dearly want to laugh at them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:44 PM
37

Whenever a guy makes a “daddy issues” joke I always go “well my dad’s dead and there isn’t an app for necrophiliacs yet” and they never find that funny 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:43 PM
32

They all lift the same bits from /r/tinder too. Copypasta dating. Gotta love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:41 PM
25

And every time you answer them and ask them back they go “nm bored” and it reeeeeallly fuckin sucks lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:39 PM
52

“I said in my bio what I’m looking for so I guess I’m looking for someone who can read.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:37 PM
25

I feel like I’ve matched your uncle on tinder lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:37 PM
49

I don’t care about height, but it does warn me how they view themselves when they hyper-focus on it. Being tall isn’t a personality. Being short doesn’t give you free reign to be a dick. No woman cares about height as much as a man does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:33 PM
100

“If my wife finds this, I want plausible deniability”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:31 PM
63

Just like “I’m not into politics” - “my conservative political views aren’t getting me laid but I hope they take your reproductive rights away”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:47 PM
85

Some of us are too busy to wait around for men to disappoint us in the wild
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:40 PM
112

6ft tall, because apparently it matters = passive aggressive, and actually 5’10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:23 PM
20

Sometimes. But most of the time there's just SO MANY of them waving SO MANY red flags that I just report & delete. They're not going to learn any lessons and ya girl is a tired teacher.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:13 PM
39

"I'll say it's weed but I can only afford spice, please don't check my court records"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:10 PM
31

Or one message in, as I've seen lately. I have like 3 Justins in a row whose messages all say "add me on snap, I never check this".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:09 PM
119

OMFGGGG I see this so often. To me it also means: "I want to barrage you with dicks, make inappropriate comments on your pics, and not get reported to Tinder" hahaa Or "I don't want to keep messaging all you hoes individually, let me blast y'all at once"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:21 PM
58

He tried but I dumped him before it actually happened :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:06 PM
129

This was me who thought "our love" would change the fact that he admitted to cheating before me. Bitch if Beyonce can get cheated on, it proves low value men have no limit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:58 AM
10

I LOVE THIS. I also feel like giving a time limit to your fucks-giving neutralizes its power over you and when I do something similar to this, I often forget about the thing that causes me distress long before the arbitrary timeframe I decided.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:05 AM
6

Your intuition is your best defense. Just based on this limited information, I know you did the right thing and I think you know you did, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:45 AM
9

I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:52 AM
55

"The best revenge is living well"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:21 AM
16

A pro bono roomba ho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:57 AM
4

Welcome to FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:55 AM
96

When we’re not lining up to cook and clean for their crumbs of approval, they get big mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:09 PM
30

Love it ❤️🥳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:48 PM
19

Not to downplay what you’ve been through, but good on you for recognizing it at 21 and not 41.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:47 PM
30

And the rage we experience when we ask for common decency is absolutely vitriolic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:27 PM
22

Giving men the benefit of the doubt has not worked out for me sis, but you do you and report back :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:26 PM
29

I regret nothing! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:20 PM
45

UGH that makes me so fucking mad. And I know it's true -- come tax return time you see it often: people who have no money to waste, wasting it on giant TVs and stupid toys when their kids aren't getting their basic needs. Ya hate to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:59 PM
66

Thanks for the silver! :D Also I agree. I would rather spend my life traipsing across the globe, working at my career, being super choosy with my partner, than shackle myself young and be unhappy. I think to the men who proposed to me over the last 10 years and cringe at what my life would look like had I gone through with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:58 PM
79

GIRL. I legit I thought I was the only woman who didn't actually orgasm from sex with men. I honestly thought something was wrong with me, because sex is ubiquitous and everyone talks about how much "fun" it is, right? So I must be the problem. But now I'm realizing, nah, men are universally shitty at sex and most women are sexually unfulfilled by their partners. Like damn, we all just accepted that? K.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:41 PM
60

I absolutely agree with you. We are conditioned early to feel the need to settle down before our looks fade (eye roll). But so much of that is going by the wayside as we no longer have to financially depend on men to, you know, live and this will become less and less of a problem as time goes on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:40 PM
53

HELL YES. Queen shit. I'll never forget my first time living with a man and truly learning what "skid marks" were. I was absolutely HORRIFIED. I still am. Men are vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:38 PM
99

YES!! And you only start to recognize shit behavior for what it is, when you don't feel like you NEED to put up with it. The amount of men I laugh at, block and report on OLD now versus before, when I felt like I had to put up with it for validation? Insane. But before, I was so scared of losing out on "the one" or felt like I "deserved" to be treated like that. Nah. Not anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:29 PM
48

Relative to men? Idk. I feel like if a woman is taking care of herself, still has badass hobbies and good people in her life, she's seen as more accepted in society than the weirdo old man who creeps everyone out. But I'm sure it's just a matter of perspective :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:27 PM
120

I love this. But thankfully, in terms of social stigma, the stigma for aging single women is wayyy less than for aging single men. Aging single men are often seen as creepy, weirdos, hermits, dangerous leeches. Older single women are seen as kinda goofy cat ladies and tbh I'm fine with that haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:02 PM
93

I've out-earned every man I've dated, and the ones that made close to my salary wasted all their money on dumb bitch shit. I'd rather invest early and often than expect a realistic two-income relationship with a man who isn't a financial drain on me :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:49 PM
140

GIRL, YES. I was thinking about this yesterday. In every relationship I've been in, I've gotten lazier, gained weight, given up hobbies, spent too much money on dumb shit, stopped hiking and exploring as much... This wasn't their *fault* necessarily, because it was my choice to compromise. But for me, relationships have not enhanced my life as much as they have taken from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:47 PM
16

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:27 AM
20

Yes! I love all of this. The stoics have a practice called "the view from above" where you consider the importance of stressors based on their context within the entire world and it contextualizes criticisms/difficulties/anxieties, and it really helps me to remind myself that most of the things in life don't matter and worrying about them doesn't benefit me and my short life. Also, when I start to get upset about someone's criticism or judgment of me, I ask myself "will this matter in five years…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:08 AM
126

That was my first thought too. Seems like manipulation tactics trying to make her "earn" his approval. WE DON'T DO THAT ANYMORE BRAH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:41 PM
14

I could pursue it legally and did look into that, but he also threatened to send my nudes to my friends and family if I pushed him for the money and you know that law enforcement doesn't give a fuck about pursuing/preventing revenge porn :) It's almost like they just don't care about women? This situation is also the reason I take a hard stance against sending nudes. Even the person you think is your best friend could use them to absolutely fuck you over down the line. Thanks for the tip though …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:36 PM
309

Seems like he was trying to make you jealous, or he's a fucking idiot. Either way, next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:49 PM
13

This is cheesy but fuck that’s a good quote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:09 AM
2

I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:39 AM
16

Is fuckin someone else? Doesn't respect her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:03 AM
15

I did it all the time before. I do it never currently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:08 PM
10

Of course!! And I firmly believe nobody will ever decide when another person is ready for change. The more you try and force it, the more defensive the person becomes. All you can do is tell them you love and support them as they work through the process. And some people never do, and it's their life to live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:21 PM
83

The gift to him could be absolutely gushing over his effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:09 PM
33

To add: this is also true of things that "define" you. I left a toxic, controlling, dangerous religious community after being in it my entire life. In doing so I lost my entire support system, all my friends, and the bulk of my identity. It was the best decision I ever made and it allowed me to become the free, loving, open person I was always supposed to be. Don't stay with the man who doesn't respect you because you've been together for a long time. Don't stay at the job that treats you like y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:05 PM
51

My ex tried to get back together after cheating. I kicked him out the night I found out, he supposedly slept on a park bench that night, cradling his Xbox (which is why your name should ALWAYS be on the fucking lease). He called me the next day and cried about being homeless. I told him this is probably why he should have been focused on making friends and not fucking 21-year-olds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:31 AM
9

I could do a little series on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:13 AM
18

I’m happy to share what I’ve learned :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:06 PM
24

Sadly I’m such a fucking badass with money and being the most independent bitch, nobody that knows me would believe this. I gotta stop being so fucking capable 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:43 PM
27

But he’s encouraged some neckbeards to clean up their cum sock caverns so that’s cool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:19 PM
45

I read his book. The false equivalency of women = chaos/bad and men = order/good was so opaquely shitty and obvious bait. He literally primed his book with “the feminine in the world should be controlled if not eradicated”. He lays the framework of women = chaos and spends the book justifying hatred of chaos. A lot of people are also turned off by his obfuscating pseudointellectual doublespeak that is just white boi pretension with leather elbow pads. I didn’t dislike him at first but I’ve grown…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:18 PM
16

I want one! I just hate spending money, mine or others lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:47 PM
30

Okay but how’s the GoPro tho?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:21 PM
94

We’ve exposed our wounds to these men and shared our experiences and they refuse to believe it. All we can do is refuse to fuck people who lack empathy. Watch how quick men join the #metoo train when their sex life depends on them seeing womens’ experiences as human experiences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:07 PM
147

Also, accepting* cause ya girl loves emotional reparations and grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:46 PM
48

I try and approach with as much empathy as possible. I recall vividly the days when my self-esteem was non-existent and I desperately wanted approval, anyone's approval, because I had so little intrinsic self-worth. That being said, it is still hard to be around. The selfishness and lack of awareness can get grating. I limit my interactions with those people and just remind myself that people, even men, can smell the insecurity and that performative "coolness" doesn't *actually* fool anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:38 AM
14

Curse my spontaneous pregnancies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:19 AM
2

Absolutely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:37 PM
3

I really appreciate that. It makes me want to keep writing. Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:37 PM
3

Likewise <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:36 PM
9

I used to be all for it. Not anymore. We’ve both learned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:15 PM
7

I love Mark Manson!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:14 PM
3

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:14 PM
5

That’s so sweet ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:14 AM
4

I had never heard of “cuo bono!” I like it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:05 AM
6

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:43 AM
6

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:34 AM
14

I hope to one day! I recently started freelance writing actually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:30 AM
18

NO, THANK YOU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:03 AM
12

PPD is TRP Lite. I don't fuck with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:11 AM
9

I love the work y'all do over there. It's amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:10 AM
3

Okay so, I’m not sure why you were banned. We have zero problems with people with neurological disorders, and never have. You gave us zero time to look into it before you started hitting our inbox with threats of “causing drama” for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 05:43 PM
1

Not at all. I take a strong “if it doesn’t apply, let it fly” approach to life. We don’t see eye to eye and I’m not going to lose sleep over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:15 PM
3

Then don’t read it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:12 PM
4

Maybe not. That’s your choice. If having a woman address a man’s question anonymously once a week and allowing other women to provide insight as well is distressing to you, this might not be the place for you. FDS doesn’t pretend like men don’t exist or think they’re the enemy. They’re not. Low value men and low value behavior is the enemy. It is, after all, a dating subreddit 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:07 PM
8

I'm quoted and I'm fine staying anonymous. If this sub were less controversial, or if I used my actual name, I would agree with you. But the nature of this sub and the already fragile safety we have as contributors means the less any one person stands out, the better in my opinion :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:54 PM
5

That's a reductionist binary. "Why are we teaching LVM to be better at being scrubs", why can't we give insight so they can level up? If a man is asking a good faith question to a community of strong minded women, odds are he's open to leveling up if not already actively doing so. The more HVM, the better for all of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:17 PM
14

When isn't twitter mad tho?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:46 AM
3

We tried something similar in the past and not doing it anonymously went... poorly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:33 AM
10

Absolutely. And the point is leveling up - gender irrelevant. I wish there were a male equivalent of FDS that wasn't just about hating women, but sadly I'm not aware of one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:17 AM
29

It'll be interesting, if nothing else! I've already received a good number of interesting, well-intentioned questions from male readers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:08 AM
6

Yessss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:11 AM
26

I love YOU for making it happen tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:35 PM
27

Same 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:35 PM
30

Or terrorists!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:23 PM
27

Fun fact: Vibrators almost never give you herpes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:49 PM
16

YAAAAAAS QUEEN!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:23 PM
16

I made a few designs a while back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:04 PM
43

Maybe they'll even get five views this time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:41 PM
74

I don't know why, but I feel viscerally angry when I think about this. This is why we've put up with such bullshit for, literally, thousands of years. I've had exes (back in my PickMe years) who would remind me in subtle, maybe even joking, ways that physically, I wouldn't be able to realistically defend myself. Looking back I realize how actually threatening that was. Thankfully the tide is turning and men legally can't just get away with physically harming us because they can, but this issue o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:36 PM
1

Thanks for the safety tip 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:17 PM
32

It’s the whole thing! Thanks to /u/turquoiseblues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:42 PM
48

How did you get this photo of me from 2018?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:08 PM
37

Welcome to reddit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:20 AM
103

You gotta look at who benefits from your ideology. Slutting around in the name of empowerment still means a bunch of fuckboys get their dick wet, you just have to pretend like you're happy about it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:57 AM
376

“Part of being a bad bitch is leveling up: professionally, emotionally, physically, spiritually. We don’t ask anything of our potential partners that we haven’t already asked of ourselves ten times over.” That was in my FDS Therapy Tools about the Johari Window. I didn't recognize it at first and then I was like, "wait a second..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:02 AM
53

One of us! One of us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:01 AM
108

WE ARE OFFICIALLY THE MOST FAMOUS INCELS! And not because someone in our community committed an act of terrorism! Hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:51 AM
512

OMG I was quoted in the WSJ. Edit: reminding y’all to join us on Discord!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:50 AM
62

Holy shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:44 AM
18

Absolutely. In addictions counseling we talk about the importance of "internal motivation" (wanting to feel better, wanting to save money, wanting to be proud of yourself) versus "external motivation" (probation, family pressure, shame).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:01 AM
14

Thanks <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:56 AM
2

Queen 👸🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:07 AM
18

Like he talks about in MDLWLY, you're either a "place holder" or a "game changer" and you'll know which one you are to him by how hard he works to keep you happy. Don't waste your time being someone's "for now".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:47 AM
24

Men Don’t Love Women Like You
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:15 PM
59

Men Don't Love Women Like You is really helping me recognize all the bullshit <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:13 PM
37

Ugh, such an awful lesson to learn. Don't shit where you eat, don't take men seriously before they make their intentions crystal-fucking-clear. I'm sorry you went through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:12 PM
59

When he says "we can do dinner" you can ask him what he's making, or where he's getting take-out to bring home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:11 PM
14

That's so sweet, thanks :D I'm just trying to spare people the awful shit I went through with my bad choices
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:53 AM
15

I'm glad we're all growing 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:56 AM
47

I just started it and it keeps punching me in the face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:49 AM
55

Hmm I see your point. I also speak from a place of embarrassment. I spent so many years doing too much and working too hard to get crumbs of approval from men who probably spoke about me in this same way, if they spoke about me at all. I spent unknown amounts of money and ridiculous amounts of time working to impress people who didn't deserve it, and doing so in a way that just left me foolish. So yeah, I do believe that "wifey" shit is embarrassing and debasing when it's done for people who don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:39 AM
55

I mean, if she's cooking elaborate meals for a dude and his bros on the regular with literally no reciprocation, I'm sure somethin was sparkling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:16 AM
226

Most men put in little to no effort. The ones that do put in effort expect to receive 10x the effort in response, AND praise, AND get pissy if their efforts aren't acknowledged (with sex, usually). Imagine being a man who was raised to believe everyone would do everything for him because he's a man. Imagine being a woman and thinking your value is in what you can do for a man. Imagine blushing because he shows the mildest gratitude and affection because of all the effort and time and money you p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:14 AM
81

Sometimes the truth hurts. Is it better to learn it after years of debasing yourself for men who don't care, or learning it secondhand from a book that refuses to hold back?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:07 AM
25

You lost 175 pounds of ass when you dropped him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:34 PM
3

Oh heck, you're right. Thanks for the correction :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:11 PM
24

The capacity for women to suffer the abuses we have and still interact with men surprises me on a daily basis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:51 PM
23

Once I found someone I know IRL on reddit and was shook at the contrast between their real life and their online life. I knew him from church and couldn't believe the hateful, vile things he posted. Ya hate to see it, but I definitely steered clear from there on. I think that's what those subs do -- they show us the reality of how men view the world, and we are empowered to use that information for our safety and overall wellbeing. A lack of knowledge only benefits them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:49 PM
36

It is mildly satisfying but I worry it'll radicalize them, as "persecution" often does for those whose victimization is self-imposed. My hope is it'll go the way of incels and TRP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:39 PM
21

I don't know. I feel like there will always be a man willing to sleep with a woman, regardless of how she looks. A relationship might be trickier though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:06 PM
46

I also wonder if some of these men think of the women in their lives as extensions of themselves, and don't recognize them as "women" in the general sense. Like, he would defend and protect the women he actually cares about but still treat women he doesn't know poorly because he isn't "connected" to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:01 PM
137

"Point to me on this sub where the mean girls hurt you"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:48 PM
45

I agree and we've made a concerted effort to move away from "incel" language. It isn't consistent with our ideology. I also personally don't believe a female incel could realistically exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:32 PM
21

First of all, that's really cute. It sounds like a good time. It would have been better if he asked more directly but, you're both young and modern dating is a nightmare. I think you're both putting a little too much pressure on the idea of a "relationship". A date isn't a relationship. You can date many people and never start a relationship with any of them. If I were you, I would step back and let him make the next move, especially if you felt him pulling away. Next time he asks you out, graci…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:30 PM
24

That's a good point. I seek to address the false equivalency between us and them, and to remind us to maintain high standards. That being said, a lot of us have received hateful messages from those men, and we should address as a community how we plan to handle that kind of thing (with, like you said, doing our thing and disregarding the trash).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:26 PM
0

I imagine that's coming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:23 PM
26

My grandma is based but would still like me to breed at some point lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:22 PM
55

Reddit admins aren't stupid. They know when communities are dangerous and when they aren't. PPD is also a known extension of TRP so that surprises me 0%. Honestly we shouldn't waste our time with PPD. They just want a chance to indoctrinate men who don't hate women under the guise of civil discussion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:22 PM
87

That's a really good point about HVM and one I think we should definitely keep in mind. I get a ton of hate PMs but I also get some really good, kind PMs from good men who thank us for being strong and I even had one guy link FDS to his teenage daughter because he knew it would help teach her things he wasn't equipped to teach her directly. I think it would be cool to have the inverse of /fdssuperfans, for the wholesome messages we get from HVM who appreciate what we do here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:05 PM
167

It must kill LVM that we have options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 12:50 PM
82

AHH so relatable. I lost 75 pounds before meeting my trash ex. He literally made fun of my progress and told me he was going to sabotage me. The pickme version of me thought he was being loving & accepting of me, but now I look back and realize he wanted to control me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:49 AM
14

I do a few things in this instance. First of all, I have never EVER been asked to pay. In fact, even during my PickMe days when I would offer, most of them turned me down. First of all, I make it clear that I'm a feminist but I also believe that men and women play different roles in society, and that I respect men who take initiative and show effort in relationships. I also inflate his ego when he demonstrates generosity because that's a characteristic I'm attracted to and "paying" gives him an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:51 AM
6

They got Q'd because one of their idiots was caught planning a terrorist attack and his browser history indicated he's a prolific MGTOWer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:55 AM
26

It's a false equivalency. They think that because they call themselves "Men Go Their Own Way", they aren't engaging in offensive, dangerous, toxic, hateful rhetoric. But calling yourself something doesn't invalidate the actual product of your community, which is hate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:23 AM
19

Right? They have (wellllll, had) 3x the subscribers that FDS does but they act like the marginalized and victimized? Please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:07 AM
21

Where's the damn lie?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:53 AM
6

I think people think you’re a guy :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:03 AM
68

I’m a minimalist but it’s not an excuse to be a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:55 PM
41

I would frame it as a general concern about internet privacy. Phones get hacked daily, accounts broken into, etc. Tell him you’re worried and tightening up your personal security and deleting anything that could be used against you. Tell him you’re deleting any sexy pictures you have of him and ask him to do the same. Tell him you’d like to double check for your peace of mind, and start to act scared if he gives you any pushback. I would even pretend to panic, it’s worked for me in the past with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:54 PM
13

I came here to laugh, not to feel!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:44 PM
50

Exactly. And they would be required to heal the damage they've done instead of blaming women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:42 PM
10

I see what you're saying for sure, but I think seeking feedback is not the same thing as seeking validation. Of course you would weigh that feedback against what you know about the person and how they perceive the world, and would take it with a grain of salt. It's interesting that you say people tend to be more critical because in my experiences, I find that people are less critical of us than we would assume. I see all my flaws and faults and failures and weaknesses and generally, people are m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:06 PM
12

You're 100% right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:03 PM
30

Well thank god their belief or lack thereof has absolutely no bearing on your worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:59 PM
3

It's exciting to hear other people who have experience with the Johari Window! That's so awesome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:38 PM
11

I asked coworkers, though take that with a grain of salt because my field is therapeutic so we are more versed in this language than most, so even coworkers I'm not close to were able to give me insight. I also went through a phase where I would explain the Johari Window to casual acquaintances or at parties or gatherings and almost play it like a game. I would go over the concept briefly, and usually people would be pretty interested, and it would open the door for us to give each other gentle …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:36 PM
189

Also men are attacked by other men. Men are raped... by other men. They always leave that part out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 11:38 AM
3

Yay!! I'm excited to hear it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:43 AM
152

"His house was disgusting, he had dirty dishes all over, didn't bother cleaning up for me. Clearly low value." - All of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:15 AM
14

I like the concept of this but only a man would say he felt unsafe because the girl he was casually talking to was uglier than expected lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:14 AM
13

Good for you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:12 AM
53

My new hobby when they ask my N-Count is to lie my ass off and say 2. Idk why but it cracks me up. They don't want to hear the truth and I don't want to tell them :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:10 AM
218

I said this in the discord earlier today, men are more scared of putting forth effort than women are of being assaulted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:07 AM
1

Good catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:37 AM
67

I'm not crying, you are crying. But seriously, being a good man is so devastatingly easy and so infrequently done. If a girlfriend stepped in and helped her boyfriend's siblings, compensated for a missing piece of the family, or picked up familial or domestic slack in some meaningful way, it would be nice but not surprising. Definitely not applauded or even unusual. The bar is on the floor fellas, do some good shit once in a while and blow peoples' minds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:08 PM
3

Like I mentioned in the post, I sent them to my LTR live-in boyfriend who cheated on me and when I dumped him, threatened me with the only thing he still had over me. Use your judgment, but you'll never catch me making that mistake again. I don't care if we've been together 2 months or 40 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:48 AM
13

I always laugh really hard while I’m doing it. The worst part is I can’t show anyone because it goes against my moral code to redistribute nudes, even gross dicks. But sometimes my works of art are too good and I really want to be like “look I added this dude’s chode to The Last Supper”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:26 PM
3

I’m glad to hear that and I hope she reads it! I’m putting down “mentor to the youth” on my resume now haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:49 PM
6

I’m sorry that happened, that’s so awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 04:45 PM
23

While I agree with you that you should have the right to do that, I don't believe that exercising that right is to your benefit. Being proud of your body is a wonderful thing, but it's that pride in your body that should determine its exclusivity. When you entrust a man (or anyone) with the power to take something that you take pride in and give him the control to manipulate it? You're setting yourself up to fail. Maybe you don't care now. But down the line, you'll want to be able to control you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:45 PM
33

Learn from your mistakes and make better mistakes next time :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:38 PM
47

I legit cackled at this. Loudly. At work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:52 PM
71

They absolutely should and in some places they're starting to recognize it as a legitimate crime, but it's extremely hard to enforce and it's not like law enforcement cares.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:35 PM
63

ESH. Trashy behavior all around!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:34 PM
128

Sounds like patriarchy with extra steps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:40 PM
96

I photoshop the dicks into embarrassing scenarios and send them back. Clown wig and suspenders. On a horse with a cowboy hat. Dick in space. They get mad and I'm cackling cus I made that shit hilarious. They think I'm mocking their manhood and they are correct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:25 PM
42

Oh my god. That's horrible, I'm so sorry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:59 AM
46

EXACTLY!! No good can come from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:38 AM
110

Everyone will say "you're being paranoid!" until shit happens and then they'll say "why weren't you more careful?" Good for you, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:31 AM
53

I also think it sets a poor precedent for youth when this shit is normalized. Children shouldn't be sexualized, and they shouldn't be sexualizing themselves. I'm glad you've grown since then and no longer feel the need to put yourself at risk :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:29 AM
9

Wait, if you're going your own way shouldn't none of them get your attention?
/r/MGTOW23/01/20 10:44 AM
130

EXACTLY. "Could you ever look into your grandma's wrinkly little eyes after she saw you twerking with your ass out? The answer should be no and you should act accordingly."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 10:12 AM
34

I appreciate it <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 10:10 AM
178

The guy who threatened me? We lived together. We were together for a very long time. We had sex twice a day. I did gross kink shit I hated to make him happy. And he still cheated. If he is going to cheat, he's going to cheat. If he's going to watch porn, there aren't enough nudes in the world to satiate him. People don't make choices because you engineer their behavior, they make choices based on their character and belief systems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 10:04 AM
18

Walmart Seth McFarlane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:55 AM
1

It solves all the problems!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 04:30 AM
2

https://discord.gg/2qhPNHm 🥳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:20 AM
4

You asked her, you pay.
/r/seduction22/01/20 05:32 AM
36

Girl, you can be high value with tattoos! I'm sure yours are beautiful. I think it makes a man LV if he has an Everlasting Jobstopper tattoos, i.e. neck or face. Tattoos are hot. I have six and want many more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:28 AM
374

If you had given him the wifey perks, he would have kept you on longer because it benefited him, which would have resulted in more hurt for you down the line. You did the right thing. We have to remember, most of the people we date are not "our person". I'm sorry this hurts but I'm proud of you for sticking to your boundaries. It would hurt a lot more if you had "given up" more to him and wasted more time, only to come to the same conclusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:21 AM
33

If you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:17 AM
69

I worked at Home Depot one year while I was doing an internship. I've never worked somewhere with such toxic, backstabbing, bitchy gossip as a workplace with 95% men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:21 AM
15

I do this 100% of the time and thanks to being a woman raised by the internet, my sleuthing skills are 5000. I've told so many women that their husbands/boyfriends are cheating. And I live in a decently small city so finding these lowlifes is not that hard. Often their SO's are hurt and sad but grateful to know. And then there's the crazy bitch that blames ME for their dude being on tinder. Like okay lady. If I were being cheated on, I would want to know. We have to look out for one another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:50 PM
18

Your post was deleted before it could be seen by anyone. Stop wasting your time and go read a book or lift weights or whatever you need to do to stop being such a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:13 AM
39

Yes! Wake up and recognize that how they've been treated isn't what they "deserve" or what is even acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:40 AM
141

That isn’t hatred. It’s self care. Exactly. It's also a response to a pattern of behavior. We as women didn't just wake up one day and decide that we perceive ourselves to have been undervalued and mistreated, and it isn't isolated to just one or two of us. It's literally millions of us, over generations. It's systemic and FDS is a natural response to systemic mistreatment and poor behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:38 AM
10

Hmm interesting. I wouldn't assume that for a "text me you're safe" request. I also never, ever, ever text first but I would send a quick "I'm home!" Now you got me thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:36 AM
12

Yes!!! I love this. Shameless plug for the Discord!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:27 AM
50

Eh. I think it's considerate. Of all the low ass value shit men are doing, I think this is not one of them. I see where you're coming from but respectfully disagree <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:24 AM
13

Likewise. You're a survivor <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 11:04 AM
24

100% agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:43 AM
2

Guys, does being rich and super handsome give you an advantage with women? I'm super handsome and rich and I was just wondering.
/r/seduction15/01/20 04:44 PM
7

Stoic philosophy has helped me with this so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:42 PM
66

Fucking yes. To all this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:24 PM
1

Aka if they have money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:25 AM
59

I'm bi! But only for male attention!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:17 AM
128

"Oh my God I love sex so much. I would have sex with my boyfriend every hour. Moms love me too. I like cooking. In fact, if I could do nothing but have sex and cook for a man and play video games all day I would be so happy lololol. Why am I single 🤪" the worst version of me in a former life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:11 AM
8

Lol no this is wrong. The exception is not the rule. People in the service industry are literally paid to be nice to you. Free drinks doesn't mean shit, I get them all the time because I'm friendly and they happened to make extra. Doesn't mean anything. Don't hassle people who are trapped in a location and paid to be nice to you because you're too chicken to strike up conversations with people off the clock.
/r/seduction14/01/20 10:42 PM
47

Block. Delete. Don't try and get anything more substantial out of this walking penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:39 AM
3

Hope it goes well for you 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:38 AM
8

Well stated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:57 PM
26

I truly believe they see girls they aren't as attracted to as lesser humans, as if less attractive girls exist to please them for little effort and don't have their own full lives/hobbies/interests/desires. I mean, even on subs like TRP they talk about using overweight girls like cum rags. The depravity makes me want to vomit and also never talk to another man again :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:56 PM
30

Well, first things first, be normal. Do your normal thing, go over as much or as little as you did before. Date other people. You're not rebounding, but you are getting back out there. You'll make things weirder for yourself and the potential romantic situation if you're putting all your eggs in his basket. Plus you'll care too much what he thinks if he's your "only" dude. So date other people. And don't, for the love of god, make the first move. If he's going to ask you out, he needs to do it d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:49 PM
117

My best friend married a guy with a strong beard game, and he recently shaved for the first time in years and, my god, it's a nightmare. He should put that beard back and then keep it until he dies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:44 PM
21

"He/They would never hurt me because they love me and they're my family." WRONG, some people will not even consider your familiar or emotional relationship to treat you right or wrong. Some people even feel entitled to treat you poorly BECAUSE you are family and they "love" you. These are the truly fucked up people who treat everyone else better than the people closest to them because they know you'll stick around and you're easier to manipulate. Thanks for sharing your experience. Glad you're i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:18 PM
168

I often feel like I need my own spouse to deal with my crazy work weeks and I just take care of me. Eternal respect for single mum's who do all that shit on their own when they shouldn't have to <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:56 PM
68

Maybe in the past it was safer, but these days, that's a hard no, sis. You don't want anyone knowing where you live for at least the first few dates. For starters, it gives him ideas. But more importantly, it's a safety thing. I was seeing a guy and he asked to come see me at home. I told him no, in part because I was starting to collect flags (this was before I learned to cut them off fast) but I also just got a sketchy feeling. Next thing I knew, he was sending me snaps of my car, my apartment…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 04:00 PM
14

I think at this point if the plans are already made, you should just drive as long as you're confident you'll stick to your limits. That way you're guaranteed not to over-consume and make poor sexual choices. Just make sure you have a backbone and don't end up being HIS DD. If he wants to get white girl wasted on your first date and act like an idiot, that tells you all you need to know about whether he's high or low value and whether or not he respects you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:01 AM
12

Hahahahaha okay, I love that very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:28 AM
29

I love that book. It's so charmingly outdated but a lot of the principals are still really solid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 04:11 AM
50

I think you're kind of setting yourself up from the get go. First of all, you accepted a "drinks date". Second of all, you are accommodating his need to excessively drink by going to an inconvenient location without your car. Third, he expects you both to drink a bunch and likely have sex, because he's male. I think at this point your tactic may work, but it wouldn't be completely surprising if it didn't work because he hasn't shown (at least based on what you've said) that he's interested in re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:45 AM
13

I'm good. I've lived it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 08:01 AM
25

Nononono
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 05:45 AM
44

Thanks, I hate it. Throw the whole man out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 05:39 AM
11

I had no idea they were together. Beautiful couple 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 05:09 PM
14

Not to mention sex work is often illegal and they rarely go after the men paying, they go after the woman providing the service. Getting help from the police if something goes wrong might make things even worse for the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 04:30 AM
11

Yeah I used to think sex work was empowering, but now I see it as degrading and an extension of capitalist patriarchy and nothing makes me less sexually satisfied. I’ll never criticize another woman for her hustle but its definitely not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 04:28 AM
31

I have a part time job in customer service to make extra money in addition to my full time job. I agree with you. I think being a Sugar Child or whatever you call it seems good in theory but when you commodify sex and intimacy, it leaves you hugely up for exploitation. Men already have deeply toxic levels of entitlement, but add money to the mix? They feel like they own you and in a way, they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:27 AM
42

I used to do all the cooking, shopping, cleaning, laundry... Now if a man were to tell me "we're running low on milk" I would counter with, "well thankfully the store sells plenty".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:16 AM
1

Cross stitch this on a pillow for me please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 04:40 AM
1

Kind of. It’s more real-time than a message board and operates similarly to a chat thread based on different communities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 04:38 AM
7

This made me laugh so much I shared it with my coworker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 04:37 AM
21

Because they don't think of us as equals so our existence is up for critique
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:52 PM
8

That's why you date 25 year olds 😉 they're all stupid anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:51 PM
3

I need this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:50 PM
33

Cuddle means fucking 100% of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:42 PM
15

Omg is he single? Jk jk happy for ya sis 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:41 PM
48

YES. Their jobs are "real jobs" and ours are... supplemental income? Optional? Supplementing what? Nobody has ever paid a red fucking cent for anything that I have but me. The idea that my job is more disposable than theirs is stupid, since I out-earn most men anyway #justsaying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:47 PM
88

I hate to say it, but are men just stupid? Like at some point in history did they just stop developing their brains because they didn't have to, and we're left with these troglodyte remnants of prehistoric garbage? I genuinely feel like half their OLD profiles are written by an insane psychopath idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:45 PM
44

A friend that would drop you for that is not a friend who had your best interest in mind, or is projecting her own devastating insecurities on you. Thanks for your kind words. I literally cannot fathom the audacity of not one but multiple men thinking it's acceptable to ask me to leave my place of work so they can pump one out. Truly, the absolute toxic levels of entitlement. We gotta stay vigilant lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:17 PM
8

Its his choice to ask me out. He's asking me out for how I look (usually) and the effort I put into my appearance. He could ask out a girl who wears Walmart shirts and covergirl eyeliner. But he asked me out. And in the same way that I hold myself to standards, I will expect the same. He doesn't have to pay for me, but I won't go out with him again. Men value what they earn. Idk how many times I have to say this. If I made it super easy, have extremely low expectations, and devalue my time and e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 06:39 AM
7

No. The social cost of being a woman means we don't even break even when women and men are paid the same (which still often does not happen). Women have to dress nicer, wear makeup, wax, get their hair done, pay for various cosmetic services and treatments, not to mention clothing and services are inflated for women vs men. Women could STOP doing those things and go au naturale and see how quickly they jump at the chance pay for dinner when we all have unibrows and wear sweatpants like they fuck…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 06:08 AM
21

I believe in things becoming equal down the line but early in a relationship (first three dates or so) he should put forth effort. Men invest in what they value. If he wants to “hang out” he’s wasting your time. If he wants to “get coffee” he’s seeing how little effort he has to put in for your attention. Paying for dinner is a good litmus test for how he feels about you and your time. If he can’t fork out $40 for a dinner with you, then he’s not trying to impress you. It’s not selfish, it’s rec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:29 PM
123

This happened to me yesterday. A guy wanted to “hang out”. I told him he could ask me on a date. He said “I’m broke”. Motherfucker why are you dating then? You should be working. I’m not broke because I work hard and manage my money. Why would I want to be with someone who can’t do basic life skills like that? You don’t have enough in savings to take me to Outback Steakhouse? What is you doing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:22 PM
10

Damn I didn’t get to that chapter yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:14 PM
3

The hottest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:17 AM
3

💕😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 04:48 AM
10

I hope my face haunts his dreams lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 04:53 PM
112

I kept my hair long even though I hated it for my ex. I took out my septum piercing for my ex. I stopped listening to podcasts because he was too stupid to understand them. I watched anime for my exes. I cooked and cleaned for people who would rather die than do likewise for me. I gave money to my exes because I thought, eventually, they would pay me back. They didn't. Don't do SHIT for NOBODY who hasn't earned it. Don't have sex, make meals, watch movies, go to football games, don't do NONE OF …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:32 PM
7

While I agree with the spirit of this, email hacking or even reading is a crime in most places. Do your digging but be safe and don't break the law in the process, or that vindictive piece of shit will be "legally right" even if he sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:24 PM
30

Yeah, I'll mostly do it when I'm bored or exceptionally disrespected. Otherwise I agree, too much work :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 02:47 PM
21

Yep. A lot of shitty people doing shitty things. A few times when I contacted the wives and girlfriends of these OBVIOUS cheaters, they would blame me. Like lmao sorry about your life, gl with your trash husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 02:05 PM
19

Hell yes. I agree. And it's not even so much "revenge" as it is "slightly inconveniencing". I'm all about slightly inconveniencing these pieces of shit :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 02:01 PM
14

I'm sorry that happened to you. That fucking sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:58 PM
64

I have guy friends that are like "it's none of your business!!11" And I tell them, when they attempt to use MY BODY to endanger their wives, it IS my business. Plus, 99.9% of the world isn't "my business" but getting involved in things that are clearly right and wrong, when it costs me nothing, is just the right thing to do. I don't badger the wives to leave their husbands, I don't pressure them to confront him, I just say "sis, is this yours?" and drop the screenshots. She can do what she wants…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:50 PM
42

I have a personal rule: never send a text that, if not responded to, would cause me duress. I have anxiety and I'll agonize over not getting a response if I don't ask myself first: "does this text require a response for me not to feel stupid or embarrassed or pathetic?" This has helped me cut down on double texts because I'm not agonizing over a response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 09:40 PM
8

Yes! Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 04:43 PM
37

Damn. Does he have a brother? I like his tenacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:57 PM
187

To be fair, I wrote it as much to myself as anyone else. I gotta look in the mirror and tell me not to be a dumb bitch on the daily lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:25 PM
8

I mean, YMMV. Every person is different. If he communicated "hey, my sleep schedule is fucked up, I'll do my best" and then does his best, cool beans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:22 PM
13

Just some useless man thinking we care what he thinks because the idea of an all-female space makes his tiny head explode. I believe Ruthless Strategist is for mods soooo keep participating and become a mod! :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:48 PM
53

lmao literally me. I would cook, clean, drive scrubs around, bend over backwards to do wifey shit, and if they even did a fraction of what I did I glowed for a week because it was proof that he valued me. My eyes rolled back into my head at my past self and they got stuck there forever :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:37 PM
40

I think your mileage varies. I think responding within the day or a few hours is reasonable. This whole "I didn't text you for a week, u up?" bullshit has got to go. But besides that, I don't think a "timeframe" is always reasonable. You'll know when you're being shelved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:25 PM
62

Most definitely. Unless he's high clearance military where they have to relinquish their phones for national security reasons, he has no excuse. And the dudes we be thirsting after who work at Verizon are... not that. lmfao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:06 PM
22

That's just my opinon, I'm no expert :) But I think stable mental health should be the cornerstone of any new relationship. There will be times to support one another through the highs & lows, but the very beginning of a relationship, in my opinion, is not that time. You should get to know one another when you're both "well" and grow from there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:01 PM
51

Idk. That's sketchy. Could have have messaged you on facebook, snapchat, insta, whatsapp? Had a friend text you? If I'm dating someone I'll figure out how to get ahold of them. It could have been true but I would be concerned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:33 PM
30

I suggest learning how to text before start throwing around big boy words. You're just mad that you're not welcome here, and we don't care what you think. What's the real god complex, forcing your way into strong female communities where you don't belong, or encouraging women to better themselves and stop wasting their time on sad little losers like you? I do not, and never will, care what kind of women you are interested in because I'm specifically looking for high value men. Maybe you should j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:24 PM
129

This is going to be an unpopular opinion & I welcome feedback but I honestly think, if your mental health is so bad that you can't even be texting someone you're interested in, should you be dating at all? Should that be your priority? Are you ready to be in a partnership that will require your time and energy and effort? I have mental health issues too (as many of us do), and there have been times in my life where I was just holding on. I was not ready to be in a relationship. I was not ready t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:18 PM
39

Hell. Fucking. Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 12:32 PM
3

Hell yes. Women in marriages can still level up. My grandma is an example of someone who takes no shit and has leveled up only in the last couple of years. And my grandpa stands at attention when she snaps her fingers lmao. You love to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 12:16 PM
4

YUCK. Glad you saw that for what it was and didn't internalize it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 10:39 AM
8

I also feel like, WHY would you want to be with someone who isn't EAGER and EXCITED to be with you?? Like if some dude was like "okay, I guess I'll sleep with you..." I would be deeply and utterly repulsed. I just don't understand how they are okay with a lack of enthusiasm. Probably because they love themselves so fucking much that we are just background players in their own self-love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 10:39 AM
7

Good for you 👏🏼👏🏼 You don't owe anyone shit. I had a male coworker the other day say "you look sad, do you want a hug?" I said "no thank you". He paused and said "...can I have a hug?" and I said "no." I was grateful that he asked but I wasn't comfortable and I'm 100% over making myself uncomfortable to be polite. We won't be shamed into hugging or touching people, even ones who mean well. Gender irrelevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:45 AM
15

"I deserve perfection but your attraction is negotiable"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:25 AM
37

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:29 PM
3

I’m liberal too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:18 PM
9

I'm sorry for what you want through. I'll be honest, I have no experience with non-hetero relationships and straight relationships is exclusively where my rant was coming from. I wouldn't presume to speak for gay/lesbian relationships because I don't understand the dynamic 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:52 PM
21

Hey girl. You do you. I'm more speaking to the women who feel like they need to participate in these relationships in order to get approval or think they have to date married men out of some wokeness obligation. For many, many women, sex and intimacy are completely connected and the notion that they have to share or lose their partner is a big drain on them emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:50 PM
36

This sub makes me feel less crazy lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:47 PM
112

It's sad how many straight women (myself included) wish we were gay so we didn't have to deal with men. Not to fetishize lesbianism and I know they have their own struggles but if I could be into women, I would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:44 PM
5

I'm glad you found a partner that's great for you! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:42 PM
4

You do you, girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:51 PM
7

Very interesting. Hey, I'm glad you have something that works for you! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:50 PM
9

That's fair. I concede that it can work and obviously it does work for some or it wouldn't be as prolific. But I also think it trends towards maximum male benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:49 PM
18

You're 100% right, my experiences are exclusively hetero and my frustrations stem from what I view to be LVM who just want a pass to ethically cheat on their partners who have been socially conditioned since birth to be accommodating and view their worth in terms of the maximum pleasure they can give their partners regardless of their own feelings. I know very little about same sex relationships and wouldn't begin to think I have any room to make any statements about what works for them :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:39 PM
12

What part do you get bored with? The man, the routine, the sex? I'll be honest, I found my previous LTRs very sexually unfulfilling because I didn't think to articulate MY needs. In part because I didn't know what they were, but also because I felt it was more important to be open to what they wanted and disregarded what made me happy. Maybe that's part of it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:21 PM
31

I agree with your differentiation. Polyamory infers equality, which is not what I see 95% of the time. There's always the "main" couple (often married or in a very LTR) and "branches" off of their relationship, with those branches existing in various states of disposability. There isn't mutual respect or adoration, it's not an equally beneficial dynamic. They'll ALWAYS still have each other and you'll ALWAYS be looking inwards from the outside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:12 PM
35

Because in many ways, it IS play for them. Men don't have the same risks as women when it comes to casual sex. When they call sex "play" we should be reminded that for them this is a game, and they think you're just a pawn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:09 PM
28

Uh huh but who benefits? So other dudes can use you as a fuck toy without intimacy while your husband uses other women? That's again that libfem nonsense that reconstructs the narrative that women somehow benefit from promiscuity. And if more than .1% of men cared about actually being good sexual partners, I could possibly see that. But they don't lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:53 PM
95

GIRL. SAME. When my live-in boyfriend cheated on me and I kicked him out, he wanted to get back together and said he would "do anything". I (lacking any self-esteem) said we could try an open relationship because then at least it wouldn't hurt my feelings so bad when he inevitably cheated again. He told me, GET THIS, "I don't want you sleeping with other men." This motherfucker. He didn't care about our relationship, he cared about control. He didn't care about me, he cared about control. Cheati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:51 PM
11

You have my permission, audiovisualhoe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:46 PM
41

Until more women peak and learn that their whole existence doesn't revolve around pleasing men, they sadly will find someone who wastes their damn time playing their games. I dealt with this just two days ago. A married man repeatedly asked me to "play" (vomit, I hate that term) with them, or just him. Repeatedly. I told him no, repeatedly. He felt like he just had to find the right string of words to convince me, as if my disgust and refusal wasn't valid enough reason. I fucking hate that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:41 PM
20

I'm glad you came to those realizations. And I agree that OLD is trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:38 PM
53

Wow. Very good points. I agree with you. Thanks for breaking that down for me, I hadn't considered it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:36 PM
104

Oh yeah. Gross. A few times out of curiosity I've said "could I meet your wife to confirm it's legit" and they backpedal real fucking fast or just block because, like I said, half the time they're not actually open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:35 PM
1

Yeah I'm not sure what the deal is. But I approved it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:28 PM
23

Hey, that's awesome. I think one of the most empowering things a woman can do is manage her finances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:21 PM
36

It's whatever. I wouldn't do it, but I won't judge other women for being sugar babies if it's a mutually agreed upon thing and there are no toxic or abusive power dynamics, which those types of relationships tend to be rife with. I'm addressing committed relationships, not transactional ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:19 PM
18

Books are good but your brother is trash. No book will stop that from being true. You gotta learn to set BOUNDARIES and then stick to them. I have very antagonistic family who constantly criticize my politics, my beliefs, my (lack of) religion. I finally told my mom that if she doesn't stop, I won't talk to her anymore. And she didn't stop, so I stood by what I said. We didn't talk for 9 months before she finally apologized and I laid out ground rules: - No politics/religion - When I say I'm don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:14 PM
10

YIKES lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:10 PM
3

The audacity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:04 PM
147

LMAO this success story warms my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:03 PM
46

Yeah it's super judgmental. I agree. But I'm also de-conditioning myself from just accepting things because of how they are, and looking at the net cost/benefit to women. I personally know zero women in my real life who benefit from this arrangement, both as the partner being ethically cheated on, or the "other woman". If I can help just one woman re-evaluate her standards so she recognizes how she actually feels versus how she's told she should feel, then I'm good with being a little judgmental…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 01:56 PM
10

Very true. I agree. I guess in her cases (being an older lady) it helped her contextualize her needs not getting met because her husband (who happens to be a man) doesn't want to wax poetic about why Ethel is being such a bitch (or whatever). That being said, I think there are pretty commonly accepted differences among the genders, with exceptions and allowances. In my experience, men TEND to be more actionable whereas women TEND to be more emotional/talkative. Not all of them, but to say this i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 01:36 PM
37

Yikes. LV people all around. I'm glad he got out of there. I personally know people in poly relationships and I don't see any of them being happy. Either one person has rampant insecurity issues but they're "trapped" in this situation because they agreed to it, or one of the people is still "cheating" (which apparently happens in open relationships! Who fucking knew!), or one person has way more "success" with others, causing jealousy... I just don't get how it is a healthy, sane, rational idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 01:27 PM
61

My grandma talks about this all the time. She used to resent my grandpa because he's not a "talker", he's a "doer". He doesn't want to empathize, he wants to FIX. And it made her so frustrated because she is a talker, she wants to work through her issues by discussing them. Then she realized: men and women are different. She was looking to him for needs she should get met from her girlfriends, not her husband. She relied on him for something he isn't wired to give her. I am with you 100%, no one…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 01:05 PM
86

100%. It's like when liberals jokingly say things like "blowjobs for Bernie!" or some shit. Like, that's what the patriarchy wants you to do, you're just packaging it like it's empowering instead of demeaning. It benefits men for us to think of promiscuity and being sexually open as empowering because they still get what they want (commitment-free sex), but we don't feel as shamed by it as we used to. We gotta look at the net result of these things, not just how they're packaged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 01:01 PM
5

DAMN, I NEEDED THIS. Holy shit thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:55 PM
2

He was already in a hotel. Motherfucker isn't even paying for it, his work is 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:23 AM
12

Because I'm a damn fool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 05:20 PM
6

Insane psycho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:50 PM
27

Hahahahaha omg that's quite the switcheroo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 01:54 PM
26

I'd like to think he wouldn't pull this shit with a woman he wanted to impress, but who knows these days
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 01:16 PM
108

The other day a guy asked me to dinner and then said "So dinner? Your place? What are we having?" Hahahahahahahahatheaudacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 01:15 PM
1

Right???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:39 PM
12

Benefit of the doubt lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 08:20 AM
11

Women with independent thoughts and feelings have "baggage" in ManSpeak(TM)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:21 AM
39

Yikes. No wonder guys demand them if this is happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 07:35 AM
15

YES GODDESS. I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 04:05 PM
44

NVM - he takes your value from you 🤣 love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 01:27 PM
17

You're not alone :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 01:26 PM
47

Well-fucking-stated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:38 AM
26

100%. I can either be ashamed by it, or I can learn from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:37 AM
34

Nah, they gotta heal their own shit. We don't make excuses for the "trauma" of men anymore. No man thinks about how it'll affect ME when he abuses me, why are we taking that bullshit on for THEM? He can journal about it, idgaf about wasting a man's time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 08:44 AM
114

Or even worse, he has potential!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 05:26 AM
33

Damn he's hot. Oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 05:29 PM
47

They bait-and-switch. Went on a tinder date with a dude who was wearing a suit in his picture, and he showed up in an anime hoodie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 03:58 PM
35

She just keeps getting hotter and he has melted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 03:57 PM
70

Fucking goals. Holy shit, they're both successful AF and they look great together <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 03:56 PM
87

He's 6'5 for starters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 03:56 PM
4

Done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 11:52 PM
16

I fucking love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 05:13 PM
92

These are the same guys that hit you with the "what are you looking for? I just want something lowkey right now" so they can use you for emotional/sexual gratification and gaslight you when you think it's going anywhere lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 01:04 PM
54

Right? I've never seen anyone--much less a grown ass person-- do this and thought "wow, they are so deep". A male, 40-something coworker of mine did this recently and I was like, get the fuck out of here lol. It's so childish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 12:37 PM
7

I'm sorry you went through that. I'd rather stay single than deal with that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 11:43 AM
27

Yeah but low value losers aren't typically engaging in sex that's, ahem, mutually beneficial. If he's not a worthwhile partner, he's trash in bed. I'll die on this hill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 11:40 AM
40

I'm so sorry for your loss. Take your time. You don't owe anyone anything and grief has its own time frame. You are allowed to dip your toes in the dating pool and jump right back out until you're ready. Don't let anyone tell you differently, especially not a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:16 AM
30

I love this, and you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 05:59 AM
3

Yeah I don't see why not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 06:12 PM
25

Sounds like you lost a winner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 05:32 PM
11

It started out as a gaming discussion platform but now there are loads of communities dedicated to a bunch of interests. I love it, it's a fantastic program that has great apps, voice channels, good person-to-person DM capabilities. It's good lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 04:12 PM
36

Yes, I'm the stupid one here. Watching one show isn't going to prevent me from crushing my goals, being active and working harder than you do. I don't need to be lectured or moralized at, thanks though 👌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 01:29 PM
69

Right? Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:32 PM
177

Oh yes. "Talking a big game" is one of the major plays in the bum ass loser handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:22 PM
26

I'm sorry. Hopefully you have time to just be yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 11:50 AM
63

I'm glad your babies have one good parent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 11:45 AM
151

SERIOUSLY. Don't lead with money, flash wealth, promise you'll buy things for the women you're courting and then act SHOCKED at the kind of women you attract. If money is all you have to offer and you don't even actually have money, what is you doin'??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 11:45 AM
155

Aren't kids free??? You absolute money obsessed wrench! But seriously. My ex who owes me money (from before I stopped dating trashcan couch creatures) acts like I'm money obsessed because I expect him to pay me back the money he owes me. "All you talk about is money!" UH YEAH why the fuck else would I be talking to Oscar the Grouch, King of the Trash and Small Dicked Losers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 11:40 AM
22

There’s like a million red flags here. Cheating is amoral, he’s treating you like a hooker or side piece and you’re not even getting dinner? Girl. You’ll never be his priority and he will never take you seriously. You need to respect yourself, find your own job, and get out of that dumpster fire situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 08:35 AM
10

I personally think it matters less as you get older, due to the fact that you're past that vulnerability stage. He's not dating you as a fetish or novelty. But together with someone a year and haven't discussed marriage and kids? He's almost 40, that's a problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 05:51 PM
1

You look the same
/r/seduction09/12/19 04:33 PM
35

Yep. Younger age is objectively desirable, they gotta make up for a lack of it somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 05:50 AM
25

Goddess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 04:11 AM
16

Yep. I got way more street harassment when I was a teen. Presumably because they look like easier targets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 04:04 AM
2

The phrasing is also lecherous as fuck. "More of me"? Like I don't give a FUCK what you do and don't want to see. I want to see six figures in my bank account but I don't go around telling strangers that because it's not their fucking problem.
/r/seduction09/12/19 03:45 AM
-3

This is stupid and leads me to believe you have little to no experience with actual women.
/r/seduction09/12/19 03:32 AM
13

Ugh they were fucking losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:43 PM
13

Hell yes girl! You got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 04:06 PM
18

There should be no difference between our happiness when single or in a relationship. Well put :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 03:37 PM
2

I love all the McElroy's :')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 03:36 PM
22

I see your point, but I'm going to keep dating. I like getting to know people, even if it isn't going anywhere. And I'm also not going Monk Mode and limiting my future. Plus dates are fun and I'm being forthcoming with my intentions so if they want to buy me dinner knowing I'll leave soon, that's on them :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 03:34 PM
10

No. You do you, but that's not for me. I personally believe men are repelled by being "chased", and they value the effort they put into someone. Later down the line I will ABSOLUTELY text first (and often) but in the first few dates? Nope. I chase no man. I initiate with no man. He works for my attention, or we don't communicate. You can find that toxic, I find it biological.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 03:32 PM
34

Absolutely. Ego and validation. Real "love" is respect and commitment, in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 03:30 PM
1

Me too!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 06:06 AM
3

Lmao they act like they don't care but the time they spend spewing vitriol at random women screams "I care very deeply"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 05:39 AM
17

There's been a push to control women's preferences since forever. No man would ever be shamed for not liking anything, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 12:41 AM
3

💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 12:34 AM
11

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:42 PM
51

"How can I fuck you with minimal effort" is what it really means. Obvs I'm on a DATING APP. FOR DATING. Don't act like this is a surprise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:35 PM
50

I find bi men attractive. But your personal preference and attraction has zero relation to your ability to be accepting of other orientations. That's literally bullshit. Don't let anyone shame you for your preferences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:28 PM
67

Men are stupid, but their actions are obvious. If he wanted your time, he would work for it. If he wanted to be around you, he would make it happen. Their deeply entrenched sense of entitlement means they are more willing to go after the things they value. If he's not putting in effort, that's the answer. None of us will convince them otherwise, all we can do is read the signs and value ourselves enough to practice rational detachment and find the man who will see your worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 11:25 AM
3

I'll be making more soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 04:37 AM
10

Well said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 04:01 PM
12

Ohhh haha. Good. Live it up, girl :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 02:09 PM
57

Uhhhh, no. lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 01:40 PM
4

Take the L. She hasn't responded to two messages. She's not into you.
/r/seduction06/12/19 11:55 AM
10

“sorry, I’m not looking for a long distance relationship” FUCKING LOL. What a savage and beautifully executed move, holy shit. Also, rofl at the dudes who go from flattery to vile at the slightest provocation. I feel bad for whoever has to put up with that bullshit 24/7.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 11:32 AM
117

Yep. So many women age so beautifully. Plus, we have it in our minds that if we're dating at 35, we won't look 20. But we also won't be... dating 20-year-olds? Any age appropriate man will be attracted to you at whatever age you happen to be if you're a quality woman who lives well. Plus if he's chasing 20-year-olds when he's 30+, he's emotionally infantile anyway and the trash took itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 11:30 AM
12

Oh yeah. I was a Pick Me for so many years. I gave every man the benefit of the doubt, assumed the best, and was destroyed time and time again when they would take my time, my money, my body. Don't waste your pretty years giving them the benefit of the doubt. Most of them don't deserve it :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:47 AM
12

I'm not much younger than you, so I get it :) When I get bummed out, I just remember that: my mom is awesome and found a great guy, in her late 40's we have more options to find men than ever. we're no longer limited by geography like other generations. the pressure to shack up young is pretty much gone. guys in their twenties are mostly trash anyway, and the "good ones" that marry young are likely "good" because their wives/gfs support them and taught them not to be trash creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:31 AM
14

I don't feel like he's being inconsistent lol. He's being consistently shitty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:28 AM
19

If I can be super honest, if he were into you he would have texted earlier. My guess is he's trying to plate you. PLUS he sounds entitled and stupid if he's bitching about other women on your first date. Don't even respond. Block. Delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:24 AM
17

"My age and the way people date now"? My mom is 52, she met her husband online (on a video game of all place) a few years ago. They started chatting, became best friends, and now she lives with him in NYC as a housewife. He makes $250,000 a year and spoils her rotten. I understand the struggle, but there is no "I've aged out". You have plenty of time. Not all of it is fuckery, there are legitimately HV men out there, we just have to make sure we're our #1 priority so we're open to seeing the qua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:22 AM
42

Eh. He sounds like he's laying the framework to push polyamory further down the line. I would make it clear sooner rather than later that you're not into that (if you aren't) so he doesn't think he can bait-and-switch that later by whining that "he told you before" that it was something he would want. Yeah he framed it nonchalantly but my guess is he was putting feelers out and gauging your reaction (as we often do in early relationships). But that depends on your approach to monogamy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:13 AM
20

It was a revelation for me, too. Nicole Byer (whomst I stan) describes texting as "false intimacy", it feels like you're "building a connection" but you're actually just learning rote facts with no sense of who the person is. It's a facsimile of a real connection and it shouldn't take the forefront of adult relationships. Ever since I came to that realization, I don't do the whole "sibling-listing, long, deep paragraphs about my childhood and hobbies and etc, etc..." That shit happens in person,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:09 AM
36

Dude. Me too. It feels like most of my single friends are so willing to settle for bullshit, and then are SHOOK when a guy slings bullshit. Like, you've put up with this for years and now you're mad about it? Drop him. He's done. Move on. Be better, and the next one will treat you better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:05 AM
57

"IF ONLY IT WERE A CHOICE", I scream daily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:03 AM
2

I like her vibe. Confident for her age. The pick me sexual bullshit will fall by the wayside when she realizes how exhausting and unproductive it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:02 AM
40

I've noticed this too! A lot of men are perfectly content getting their emotional needs met through texting and their physical needs met through porn. It opens up their time to do whatever they want, while vampire-ing your energy and effort and not actually having to do the hard, vulnerable work of building a relationship. Exhausting AF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:00 AM
48

I came here to say, don't. Just don't. Maybe he's great, but statistics don't lie. If you do in insist, watch for latent signs of aggressiveness. How does he react when things are difficult? What is his response when he's annoyed, frustrated, rejected? Basically, is he fussy or throw a tantrum when he's unhappy (because sometimes men have to be treated like the big ass babies they are). Any small indication of a hot head or a bad temper, multiply that times a thousand. Then add years and years o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 09:58 AM
79

To add to this -- a man will sabotage your efforts at health. At one point I lost a lot of weight and started dating a rugby player who looked like a lot of local rugby players do: kinda fat. He laughed at my diet progress and said he would try and sabotage me. I was dickmatized and didn't see that for the huge red flag it was. And he was right, he would make fun of my meal prep, complain about me cooking "rabbit food" at home (he would rather eat out every meal), and basically made it doubly di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:42 AM
1

Did you ask her where to go?
/r/seduction06/12/19 08:04 AM
20

All the comments "you don't owe her anything!!!!111" So fucking bitter lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 06:46 AM
88

Thousands of years of abuse, control and a still male-dominated society that conditions us to believe from birth that our usefulness and worth is determined by our ability to please and satisfy men, for starters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 05:58 AM
78

Maybe you're just not that attractive lmao.
/r/seduction05/12/19 01:43 PM
69

I had a guy that I was talking to on OLD who was obsessed with his ratty ass beard. I eventually told him to stop texting me. Having a beard is not a personality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 01:40 PM
37

He had an ego that was not corroborated by reality lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 11:46 AM
83

The date before the last date I went on... We met at a decently nice restaurant. I showed up in a dress, heels, makeup. He showed up in an anime sweatshirt. I was humiliated. Mine you, he's like 30. There was no excuse. There was no precedent. He also, shockingly, didn't have his life together: entry level job, no car, no friends or hobbies besides online games. But y'all saw that coming from the fucking anime sweatshirt. Needless to say, I dropped him fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 11:20 AM
46

They think height is a personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 01:37 AM
4

I see your point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 09:26 AM
9

I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:18 AM
6

I would say "it's fine" and not engage anymore. It's NOT fine but diplomacy in the workplace is important and bad vibes will wear you down. Just don't engage him anymore after the "it's fine". And learn the lesson that you shouldn't shit where you eat again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:19 AM
1

Then what is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 11:05 AM
3

That's true, I haven't.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 10:49 AM
3

I guess it just feels like a losing game for women. That's where I get sad. I'm constantly approached by men on OLD and in person just for sex as if that's all I'm worth, and then told I'm a slut for it. It's like I'm told my worth as a person is reduced to my ability to provide pleasure to a man, but then he'll reject and be disgusted by me if I do what he wants because if I give into him, I'm just a "used up slut" even though he pressured me into it. That gets so old. Which is why I'm drawn to…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 10:41 AM
3

Well stated opinion. I don't like it, but I do understand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 10:16 AM
2

And how does your n count factor in?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 10:07 AM
6

I see what you're saying and I almost feel like men want us to... lie? They want into an exclusive "club" of only a few partners, but don't want to hear about the reality of modern dating. Every man wants to fuck a bunch of girls, but nobody wants the girls to actually be fucked?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 10:00 AM
22

Is actually 5'10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 09:49 AM
33

The best part is, it doesn't even get posted. Literally almost nobody sees it lmfao. And the ones that do see it, laugh at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 09:48 AM
8

I guess it just seems like a big ask for the woman to be expected to know within the first couple weeks that you're "into him" enough to decide to sleep with him, but also be extremely judicious about who you actually sleep with. It seems like the expectation is that women can't/shouldn't enjoy sex outside of monogamy (low n count) in order to be considered ideal but still sleep with YOU (not you specifically, but "the man" in this situation) as quickly as possible. I guess I just don't care abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 09:43 AM
1

Right. After the first date, most men in my experience are already trying to shack up/plan the future/be in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 09:38 AM
2

Or puts out with no effort and expectations of mutually beneficial sexual experiences. amiright boys?? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 09:37 AM
7

Sooooo you want a girl who doesn't sleep with anyone but is a slut for you? How does that make sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 09:32 AM
3

In my experience, third "dates" almost never happen because the guy just wants to "hang out" after the first one, i.e. act like we're in a relationship and only "chilling".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 09:30 AM
1

HAHAHAHAHAHA damn it ino.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 09:19 AM
21

OR the fact that TRP took like 7 years to get quarantined (not even deleted) despite having a kill count. They're so stupid lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 08:55 AM
3

how can he afford to make you dinner if he can’t afford to pay for your dinner? Easy, the dinner is you. Holy shit, I legit laughed out loud. I know you're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 08:53 AM
41

A mod in another sub found out I'm a mod in FDS and proceeded to be extremely *ahem* biased in his moderation. And then he proceeded to PM me and tell me to stop downvoting comments in his sub lmao. Like, I didn't. And your bias is showing, sweetie. Sorry not sorry, you can't play with us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 08:50 AM
6

That's beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 12:27 AM
20

I know you're right, I just hate it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 12:07 AM
1

Women would put out more if the average man cared about her pleasure and not just getting off.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 11:24 PM
3

Same with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 11:20 PM
2

Nope. That's not correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 10:06 PM
2

Low quality men, maybe, but they're not our focus 😛
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 10:00 PM
85

They'll see women supporting each other and expecting better of men for the first time in history. I hope they do lurk and learn. Maybe they'll develop some empathy. Probably won't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 10:00 PM
12

With automation, men are becoming obsolete and will eventually be worthless by your logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 09:56 PM
2

Lol in no way
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 09:44 PM
1

I agree with you. FDS also hasn't been linked to domestic terrorist attacks and if you actually read the content of the sub you'll see that most of it is just women supporting one another. Most men just see they can't participate and assume the worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 09:44 PM
2

TRP isn't just sexist, it's dangerous
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 09:39 PM
3

So does FDS. We talk about being high value and support each other. You just don't see that part.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 09:36 PM
16

And a man can't give birth and very few are sexy so most of them are worthless? Why do we allow them in society?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 09:35 PM
4

Have you tried staying mad about it? There are still a bunch of male centric subs where the main topic is manipulation and abuse of women. TRP is still there. We have one sub and everyone loses their minds lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 09:34 PM
18

Hahahahaha. Hopefully you at least got a good meal. Delete. Block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 09:18 PM
13

Right? We're autonomous people independent of our relationship to others. We have hobbies too. Tf.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 09:10 PM
5

I've never wanted kids, not for one second. I can't even imagine wanting kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 09:09 PM
1

Seriously, so fucking gross
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 08:56 PM
7

Thank you 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 08:55 PM
43

Yep. I live in a small town. It's a running joke that the venn diagram of sex offenders and tinder users in my community is basically a circle. Story time, once time I was talking to this guy on tinder. He happened to put a reference to his last name in his snapchat that we had exchanged. I looked him up for kicks: 4 protective orders, 2 DV charges, sexual assault of a minor charge. Monsters in plain slight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 08:40 PM
2

No that's ABSOLUTELY rape and you have no facts backing up how often that happens (news flash: almost never).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 08:21 PM
16

Ppd is a fucking joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 08:04 PM
19

FuRtHeRmOrE They're also ganging up on me to defend their shitty lack of arguments and wonder why we need places like FDS where we can actually talk lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:53 PM
15

Against. All. Evidence. Fucking yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:52 PM
2

Oh it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 05:35 PM
1

The issue is parents killing their kids. You're being pedantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 05:35 PM
2

It absolutely does not lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 05:32 PM
4

The issue remains parents killing their children. Men do it statically more. That's not negotiable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 05:30 PM
2

OP provided no evidence but I need receipts? K. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_differences_in_crime Do some reading. It might be fun for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 05:28 PM
6

Yeah I'm the biased one. I'm not debating an aggressive person who has no interest in hearing what I have to say because you're already emotionally invested in disregarding any opinion that I have that doesn't align with yours so 👌🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 04:58 PM
11

A very very simple Google search will show that women are wired to be more empathetic. https://www.google.com/search?q=are+women+more+empathetic&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en-us&client=safari
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 04:56 PM
9

Biological. Imagine all the dead kids that would result if women abandoned their kids at the rates men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 04:52 PM
12

I ignored it because I looked it up and found no evidence that supports your assertion that lesbians have higher rates of DV so I'm not going to speak to something that I don't know or believe to be true based on someone attempting to make a point without facts. https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.cnn.com/cnn/2017/07/07/health/filicide-parents-killing-kids-stats-trnd/index.html 57% of infanticide incidents were committed by fathers so you're just wrong. So much of what you're saying is just incorre…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 04:50 PM
8

Women can absolutely rape men. Rape and assault isn't just penetration, it's all unwanted sexual contact. Women do rape, just much less frequently. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, I'm saying it doesn't happen nearly as often. The rest of your point is incoherent. Men commit violence against women CONSTANTLY. Ask the women in your life if they've been hit, assaulted, raped, molested or harassed by a man and I bet the number is near 100%. I'm sure you won't though because that's something most m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 04:31 PM
37

So we're too weak to attack and too stupid and afraid to use weapons to act out our aggression. That's a lot of mental gymnastics to disregard the reality of who perpetuates violence. You think most men naturally know how to use weapons, like it's innate? Or do they gravitate towards aggressive hobbies and then use those hobbies opportunistically? Do any basic research and you'll see that men are more prone to violence, and not only violence but devestating and deadly violence. Women aren't too …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 04:02 PM
42

Thank goodness men never have mental health issues that cause them to act erratically
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 03:51 PM
39

You're not factoring in weapons. Men aren't commiting murder and rape with their hands. Often they use guns and other assault weapons. The weakest man with a gun will overpower the strongest woman. Women have the same access to weapons that men do, we just lack the disposition to cause harm to the extent that men do, historically, biologically and emotionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 03:47 PM
29

That double standard though. As reddit has multiple subs dedicated to rape fantasy kinks. But yeah, you're the problem. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 03:41 PM
31

Murder, rape and assault statistics disagree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 03:40 PM
14

They act like they do but the reality is that they're more hung up on women than almost anybody. Nobody in that sub is healthy and/or actually going their own way lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 03:44 AM
181

And then she will realize it, leave you for someone more worthwhile, and you'll find yourself drawn to TRP and MGTOW complaining that all women are bitches. Tale as old as time lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 03:06 PM
50

If I could add to this -- block & delete. Nothing derails "moving on" like texting them in a moment of weakness. Don't give them free rent in your head or on your phone. They're done. You can't move on if you're always waiting for a text :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 01:22 PM
5

hell yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 11:43 AM
20

I'm fucking doing it. GET IT GIRLS. START THE NEW YEAR OFF ALREADY WINNING! ​ We stan u/ino_y in 2020.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 11:23 AM
38

Yes. You are being a mommy to a lot of people, and only some of them are your actual children. The affair dude? Cut him the fuck off. He sounds miserable. The cost-benefit ratio in that relationship is trash. Your husband? His days of freeloading need to end. He needs to get a fucking job. You're doing too much and it's eating away your entire life. I don't care how morbidly obese he is, he needs to get up and contribute to his fucking family. Tell him it's an ultimatum -- he gets a job or you d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 11:17 AM
3

High Value Man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 09:48 AM
38

Nobody that comments on YouTube videos are ever getting a first date much less 3/4
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:25 PM
11

Keep in mind that you're still really early on. I'm super stoked that he seems so great, but a lot of other guys seemed great early on, too. Remember that he's just a person and he will have flaws. Prepare yourself for that reality now so it doesn't kick your ass when you find them. And as always, don't lose yourself. It may work out and it may not but either way, you are your number one priority. Don't lose sight of what you value and enjoy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:13 PM
3

Lol that's hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 04:48 PM
50

"Did you try Sara" like you're a fucking appetizer or something. Block that dude, dont give him one more second. Gather a paper trail for harassment charges. He's a lunatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 08:32 AM
50

That's a shitty friend tbh for letting him talk about you like that. My guy friends give me shit but they would never, ever let some fucking prick talk about me like that. They both suck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 08:31 AM
17

Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 06:55 AM
28

Oh my fucking God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 06:19 AM
53

I'll die on this hill idgaf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:53 AM
4

Hey, that’s awesome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 04:31 PM
2

You know it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 04:30 PM
19

Traaaaash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 08:38 AM
204

Got me... confused with someone who finds that hot lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 08:10 AM
285

Ask him to take the picture until he's your husband lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 01:43 PM
3

Calling her out is a good way to get blocked
/r/seduction24/11/19 01:42 PM
10

Oh I got you. I don't think it's a huge deal. Sounds like a little mistake, I would just play it cool and don't worry too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 01:38 PM
9

I would wait for him to ask. I know you don't care about asking but let him do the work. Your job is to be charming and fun, his is to work for your attention. Plus he'll appreciate you more if he puts forth effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 01:25 PM
5

Girl what. Have you paid for every date? Why did you give him your card for the drinks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 01:23 PM
19

They're too old for all that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 10:57 AM
25

Way to value yourself 👸🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 05:56 AM
233

Oh my GOD the stupid, scary, insane shit I've put myself through out of being "polite". Fuck polite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 12:39 PM
71

Girrrrlll yes!!! A man who doesn’t respect you will still get his dick wet. A guy who isn’t attracted will still smash because “didn’t matter, had sex”. Don’t give it up for a dude who hasn’t earned it because you’re literally borderline meaningless to a man who hasn’t invested and he will DEFINITELY treat you like it the next day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 01:53 PM
2

No clue! It might be a US thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 06:38 AM
65

I, as a 30-year-old woman, don't want a man over 30. Checkmate, losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 06:40 PM
112

Fucking gross. STOP BUYING SHIT FOR MEN, LADIES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 10:53 AM
1

Right and that can be fixed by making her dinner going out to eat 99.9% of women find men pushing them to come over (much less pressuring them to cook for them) and will not feel safe or okay with that. Every time a man has pushed to come to my house, I delete his number. It's unsafe. Once a guy pressured me to come to my house for a first date and when I said no he found me on Snapchat map and took pictures outside of my house. Another guy when I told him no to coming to my house, he called me …
/r/seduction19/11/19 10:42 AM
1

You can fix it by saying "suggesting you cook for me was weird in hindsight, let me cook for you" Literally the least weird thing you can do. And you can't tell me where and when to post, sorrryyyyy
/r/seduction19/11/19 10:35 AM
1

Yes I'm so bitter but I don't ruin shit and run to the internet for validation when I fuck up 😉
/r/seduction19/11/19 10:31 AM
2

It is helpful in the fact that I'm telling you, as a woman, if some dude told me I should cook for him as a first date, I would laugh in his face and legit never go out with him. Super loser and tone deaf move. "Serve me for our first date" lmfao so dumb. That's when you blew it, not your weird chili photo.
/r/seduction19/11/19 10:20 AM
39

For your sanity, just unmatch. You'll be happier in the long run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 10:12 AM
7

This is gross and stupid
/r/seduction19/11/19 10:10 AM
1

Why wouldn't you cook for her? What the fuck?
/r/seduction19/11/19 10:08 AM
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You do you. I’m not in support of it as a practice and don’t think it benefits women, I also think the kink community at large is damaging towards women (including me, deeply, in the past) but I’ll never tell another woman what to do 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 10:09 AM
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How do they think that’s attractive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 09:31 AM
4

Sex and intimacy are different. Each partner is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 09:27 AM
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Not everyone that drinks is an addict. But addiction is progressive and chronic. It may not be an issue now but it could in the future. Like all things done in excess, it rarely starts a full blown addiction before it becomes one. I also think porn is something that disproportionately affects and targets men. Degradation, in my mind, only benefits men. And abuse is abuse, even if you tacitly or directly approve of it. Some people think women who stay in relationship where men hit them are “tacit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 09:18 AM
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Porn, like anything, can become addictive. Porn, for most men, is a habitual daily thing. Based on the DSM5 definition, a large amount of men are psychologically if not physically addicted to it. Like many addictive things, porn has incredibly toxic side effects, i.e. misogyny, female degradation, pain towards women, etc. Additionally, like most addictions, they need more and more depraved shit to get off. It also means they have a harder time connecting to real women and can lead to erectile is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 08:22 AM
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Amen 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 08:17 AM
0

Wahhh nobody cares
/r/AntiFeminists18/11/19 01:47 AM
34

This is the best thing I've ever read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 10:04 PM
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He literally starts the book with this hypothesis and spends the rest of the book justifying his hatred of the feminine and justifying the power of the masculine. You have no idea what you're talking about. I'm not debating someone who hasn't read the source material and doesn't know what they're defending. It's a waste of my time and makes us both look stupid, instead of just you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 03:37 PM
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I'm not going to PROVE myself by going through my YouTube history and itemizing which videos I've seen. He is misogynistic. In his book (have YOU even read it?) he starts the book by explaining his hypothesis that chaos is feminine, order is masculine, chaos is a destructive and deadly force and order is meant to control the force. If you don't think Jordan Peterson is overtly sexist, you're not paying attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 03:09 PM
4

I actually read 12 Rules for Life and watched about 10 hours of his YouTube videos so I KNOW he's the worst, but nice try lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 01:33 PM
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"Try, even a little bit, to not be disgusting. Also women are the problem." - Jordan Peterson Makes millions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 02:05 AM
4

Feel free to recommend any that helped you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 11:06 PM
2

Can I ask how you got into being a sugar baby? I feel like that could come with a ton of risk. And like I said I'm not opposed to it (get yours, girl 👸🏻) I'm just curious how that kind of relationship starts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 11:05 PM
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Nah girl you did great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 11:03 PM
2

And by your grammar I can tell that you're stupid but okay lmao
/r/seduction15/11/19 10:56 AM
3

Lol you're wrong but okay
/r/seduction15/11/19 10:06 AM
10

And men just want a sex slave or maid. Sweeping generalizations are stupid.
/r/seduction15/11/19 09:29 AM
3

Love this, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 09:18 AM
4

Added!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 08:01 AM
3

Added <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 07:59 AM
5

Added!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 07:55 AM
14

Added it to my TBR ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 06:56 AM
18

That's a sweet little ritual, your mom sounds cool lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 06:45 AM
11

You do you, boo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 06:27 AM
25

I'm just going to copy and paste this every time we see this standard shit. If it doesn't apply, let it fly. Not everything in FDS is going to be relevant to you, and we don't need a post every time someone disagrees with some of the standard philosophy. I'm a mod and I'm not always 100% along party lines, and that's because everyone has unique feelings and circumstances that lead to where they are today. So honesty is your best policy? Cool beans. Honestly has worked for me, and it's also compl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 06:19 AM
4

Right? He's a great guy and we're still good friends. He's married and I'm happy for him even if we didn't work out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 03:21 AM
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Yes. Or look for a man who is stable and generous without needing to flash his cash or make it the cornerstone of his character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 02:11 AM
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Added! Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 02:00 AM
4

The cost-benefit ratio. They put out very little and feel the validation of a woman's time and energy. Sure it's less satisfying than a more substantial relationship, but costs almost nothing for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 12:47 AM
19

Guys who moralize sex work just to engage in it anyway are truly the fucking worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:47 PM
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And money is only a tool used to facilitate effort. Some of my best dates weren't expensive, but they were specifically catered to ME. Off the top of my head, one of the best dates I had ever been on was when a guy knew that I'm a homeless rights advocate, so he bought the materials and we made about 30 sandwiches and toiletries packets and went around handing them out to local homeless people and then went and had dinner ourselves. It took some money but more than that it took planning and thou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:46 PM
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Another thing that upsets me about guys who find women on OLD to pay for sex... There's entire billion dollar industries with actual sex workers available 24/7. They don't care about the sex work, they want the thrill of making sex workers out of women who haven't chosen that for themselves. It just feels like an extra layer of degradation. Am I wrong in feeling that way?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:41 PM
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I see your point and I guess I'm torn on the issue. I would never shame someone for engaging in sex work, but I also think it has psychological, emotional and physical ramifications for the women engaging in it. Rarely is a super normal, attractive, well-adjusted dude offering money for sex. And it can also create toxic power imbalances that can be exploited against the woman. I'm open to changing my mind on this but every time I've been offered money for sex, my gut reaction has always left me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:23 PM
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Yep. They want to get the attention from a pretty girl who is likely out of their league? Okay, pay up. A lot of times we don’t talk about it but guys LEAD with their money. They entice women they couldn’t get otherwise by flashing cash and then we are gold diggers for taking them up on it? Lmfao ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 10:56 PM
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Yep. Someone laughed at me for calling texting emotional labor but it is IMO. I have had guys vent to me about their days, their families, their mental health, their depression and I hadn’t even met them yet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 10:52 PM
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I respect that. You do you, girl :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 10:49 PM
1

Agreed!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 10:48 PM
12

They also tend to think that engaging through text and knowing rote facts about you entitles them to sex earlier in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 05:22 AM
8

His ego was bruised, he was into you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 05:11 AM
11

The ultimate need 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 05:03 AM
6

Yeah the dude I went out with was clingy x10000 even though I told him I wasn't looking for anything serious. Not good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:56 AM
5

I'm reading the book It's Just a Fucking Date and it's really good lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:51 AM
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I see what you're saying and this was my philosophy too but I ultimately realized that most men are really good at projecting an image without actually delivering. For example I was talking to this guy from OLD for like a week. He was funny and interesting and seemed like a good match. We met and he was, I'm not sure how to say this kindly, but super terrible and awkward. He took no cues, was extremely rude to the waiter, and the whole date was horrible and awkward. But because of our texting, I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:50 AM
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Sounds like you're both getting your needs met from someone and using it as a crutch. I've done that in the past when I was too busy to actually date but it's ultimately kind of a waste of time :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:45 AM
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I would say know the basics about him, find him attractive, and that's all you need. The rest can be found out on the date. And remember, it's just a fucking date. You're not starting a relationship, you're meeting a stranger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:37 AM
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It's kind of part of of the tinder game, but doesn't have to be. Hint early on that you'd rather talk about this stuff over dinner and 99% of the time he'll get the hint and ask you out. Make sure you avoid the "let's talk every day until then" trap. It's false intimacy and low effort. Make a date and tell him you'll see him there. Besides, you find out almost nothing about someone over text. In person is the way to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:28 AM
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Love this post. I'm adding all these reqs to a master book list for FDS wiki :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:22 AM
3

I'm working on an FDS book list for the sidebar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:49 AM
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Its an ego boost but more than that, they're just not into you. Stop wasting your time (I have to remind myself of this too).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:48 AM
1

Yeah watch that he's investing in his future and not using the surplus on video games and weed. I would stay in family property if I could, shit. But I'm also extremely frugal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:46 AM
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I can't wait to hear your thoughts! I need to reread it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:23 AM
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Their core principals are still incredibly good and universal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 11:31 PM
3

Its a few years old and doesn't adequately address the ubiquity of online dating. It does some though, just not enough :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 11:27 PM
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I have that one on my iPad but haven't read it yet. Might do that one next!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 11:26 PM
4

Power of Habit is literally life changing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 11:24 PM
4

I'm reading It's Just A Fucking Date right now. It's great, a little dated but solid principals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 11:24 PM
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You won't change him, you'll just stay unhappy. That would be a deal breaker for me, I'm very physical and need that affirmation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 07:04 AM
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I like it. Sometimes it gets taken down and I have to use mirrors but it’s simple enough. I’ll try and remember to send you my mirror websites when I get home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 08:05 PM
3

Honestly I don’t use one bc I only torrent books and they pursue book torrents way less aggressively than movies and TV shows and even music. It would be safer though. I’ve used Nord in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 01:45 PM
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Thepiratebay.org. Use a VPN and a torrent downloader (I use utorrent) :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 12:09 AM
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Me too. It's real talk shit and I live for it. They don't beat around the bush and pretend like men aren't shallow opportunists lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:21 PM
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I got mine on The Pirate Bay because I'm a frugal bitch who torrents. That's a little unethical for some but I donate directly to the authors I like 🤷🏻‍♀️ You can buy it on Kindle here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:20 PM
5

Most definitely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:14 PM
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Culturally conditioned insecurity instilled by a capitalist patriarchy that benefits from women not valuing themselves. Women are taught to hate themselves and expect as little as possible. Men who are culturally conditioned to value themselves highly exploiting our insecurities and lack of self-love to provide themselves maximum male benefit in the forms of amorphous "hang out" dating, easy access to sex, low effort quasi-relationships with women who were taught to make themselves pliable and c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:10 PM
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The real talk, too is so refreshing. “The point of this book is to redefine how you date if you’re looking for a serious relationship. Rare is the couple that turns the hookup into a fifty-year marriage. Common is the couple that turns the hookup into a six-month relationship that fizzles out because one of them realizes they never really wanted to be in the relationship in the first place. It is the most common outcome of the relationship started from anything other than absolute intention—one …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:02 PM
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Do this ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 10:46 PM
11

Dude murdered prostitutes and gut dogs. Dressing as him doesn't make you deep it makes you cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:28 PM
8

I'm reading It's Just a Fucking Date right now, highly recommend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:24 PM
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If Patrick Bateman is your aesthetic, you're a fucking idiot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:18 PM
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Yep. Plus I'm just deeply uninterested in adolescent things. I like talking about my 810 credit score and my personal research and my career 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 10:34 AM
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Teens, even legal ones, are in vastly different life stages than mid-twenties and thirties, which isn't bad or condescending, just a fact. If you're finding yourself only connecting with people much younger than you, there's a reason for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 10:31 AM
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He's also into something called "face of pain". Damn I wish you could send some dude to jail just based on his trash ass reddit history, I swear to God, the women and children we could save...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:35 AM
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Post history indicates he fetishizes young, fragile, small girls. He literally called a girl "breakable, fragile" and mentioned it was sexy he could see her bones. Dudes a psycho and probably wants a girl he can shatter. The depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:26 AM
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I'm reading a book right now called It's Just A Fucking Date and it does a good job of reiterating that you should be going on lots and lots of dates. Dating isn't about finding a partner, it's about getting to know people. We put so much pressure on such a simple thing. Plus the amount of dudes out there dating and "not looking for anything serious" is illuminating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:22 AM
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I'm 30. No disrespect to you younger sisters but I wouldn't date a 25 year old, much less a teenager. Men who do that shit just don't want to grow up. Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:19 AM
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I say "lol" or "ew" and block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 08:24 AM
3

I would love to learn how. I'll look into it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 11:55 PM
8

Hahahahaha can't forget those stank balls!!! Literally. I literally cannot forget them. 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 10:37 PM
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I love this. Plus, Incels are toxic and hateful and FDS is empathetic and empowering. No need to package ourselves like them, especially when we have the intelligence and humor to be more poignant and descriptive in our language. Liz AKA Couch Creature Repellent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 09:47 PM
5

I do love that they hate us. I wish there was a way to view the idiocy without adding to his view count
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:27 PM
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Deleting the number is HUGE for me. If I can get a hold of them I’ll want clarification, to ruminate on what happened, to “understand”. But they never, ever, ever helps. Block & delete. You’ve got nothing left for one another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:20 PM
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Girl I’m the same damn way. I enjoy a good argument but it’s not a fair, logical playing field. They don’t give a flying fuck about facts, coherence, or universal standards of decency. They want to unravel you. Plus I get such a thrill when I block knowing that their little brains explode from lack of acknowledgement and validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:18 PM
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100% agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:09 PM
8

This dude is gonna set someone's house on fire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 09:24 PM
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This is autobiographical af btw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 08:32 PM
2

Sorry about your stinky balls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 08:21 PM
16

Lol they won't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 08:20 PM
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They want us to pick up where their parents left off. They trap us with children and promises and lies. I've experienced it firsthand and I've seen my friends saddled with lazy loser stoner idiot couch creatures who provide nothing and are worth nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 09:08 PM
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Lovely ❤️ what a lucky little girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 08:06 PM
18

"Don't send me or anybody else this" lmfaoooooooi
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 06:33 PM
14

Me too girl. We're stronger and we make other women stronger now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 06:30 PM
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They feel entitled to hot girls but they'll play "ugly" (read: normal) girls like little dolls until they find the girl they think is worthy of them to trap (and then later cheat on).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 06:29 PM
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It's emotional sleight-of-hand. If you expose their cheap magic tricks, you see them for the weak and feeble pathetic small men they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 06:28 PM
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Honestly I was shocked at how effective it was to me. I could intellectually identify the bullshit, but it hit me on a visceral level. It's literally evil and needs to be treated as such. Thankfully I'm stronger now :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 06:27 PM
2

This legit made me lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 12:09 PM
5

You stayed strong, right? 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 12:07 PM
3

Like I said “if it makes you feel empty afterwards”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 03:31 AM
36

"No hug?" Fuck offfffffffff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 12:37 AM
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"I like video games and chilling" Fuck off you're so dulllllllllll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 12:37 AM
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I wanted to respect myself internally but still get my validation from men. It doesn't work that way, it's diametrically opposed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 10:02 PM
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Reported.
/r/MensRights06/11/19 09:59 PM
10

Cheating is never okay. If investing in another person emotionally/sexually is more important than the person you're with, end it with the person you're with so they're free to invest in someone who values them. Which is not you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:27 PM
15

FUCKING GOALS. They're both lucky and I've NEVER seen him look so happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:17 PM
4

Same, love her. Any others you'd recommend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 08:49 PM
10

Also @femoiselle is a fire IG 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:40 PM
3

Because you value his opinion of you more than you value your own opinion of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:00 PM
3

I don't like it! How did it change your life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 06:55 PM
2

Thanks ❤️💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 06:54 PM
8

I hate hate hate hate hate this. Men on OLD or text who think they are owed an immediate response and act like passive aggressive little bitches if you get busy. I don't ever have to respond. Not ever. And if you're pushing me to text you back, news flash, I probably don't want to and shaming me into it will never make me like you more. Great response. What a fucking loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:42 AM
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Yeah. I hope she sees him for who he truly is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 08:25 AM
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He's with his high school sweetheart and they're trying to get pregnant, but they're both lazy losers and it's super unhealthy. I've thought about reaching out to her but I know if I do that, he'll release my pictures. He still owes me a ton of money lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 08:16 AM
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Because women are inherently more valuable than men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:50 AM
30

Or more like, "do you not have basic life skills?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:47 AM
3

If he has those friends, that's the problem. You being around them is details. If that's who he spends time with, that's what he is like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:46 AM
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In hindsight, 100%. Reading Why Men Love Bitches was a personal attack lmao. I was such a mommy because I was so desperate to be loved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:44 AM
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I agree 100%. Platonic relationships are more valuable to me because they are based on mutual love and respect, not "emotions" or societal expectations like relationships are. I've been through several relationships in the last few years but my friendships are stronger than ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:41 AM
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Yep. I've had men in my life that now that I look back I see how they actually hated women. It took hindsight though and a lot of education on my part. I always assumed the best in everyone, and now I realize that most people are at least slightly depraved.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 07:32 AM
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Men think they can compartmentalize. Be Red Pilled privately but operate "normally" IRL. They don't realize their toxicity is ubiquitous and their entitled, hateful thinking will come out eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 07:27 AM
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Just by being in this sub, you're armed with way more knowledge and support than I was. But that being said, we're emotional creatures and want to assume the best, so you just have to stay vigilant and use your higher level processing and not let your heart be in charge :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:25 AM
4

Well, we're not the same, but we are deserving of equal rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 06:57 AM
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My ex, after HE CHEATED ON ME and I dumped him, threatened to send my nudes to my Facebook friends list because I upset him. Never ever ever ever trust men. You benefit in no way from sending nudes. It's 100% only for male benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 12:28 AM
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I'm a feminist. I think women should be treated equal, have equal access to resources, and have equal safety and autonomy in public spaces. I differ from some feminists because I don't think men and women are the same. We have different psychological and emotional drives. We excel at different things. I don't want to be a feminist by acting more masculine, I just want equal pay and safety. You'll see that we run the gamot in FDS. The only real commonality amongst us is maximum female benefit and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 10:52 PM
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I love you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 09:13 PM
4

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 09:12 PM
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Yep. "Don't share your emotions, it's weak" "Don't act gay (feminine)" "Don't be a sissy" The worst thing for a man to be is weak and they view women as weak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 08:17 PM
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I was feeling some type of way 😛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 04:15 PM
36

Right??? Nobody said "steal their wallets". 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 04:15 PM
6

This is great. Good for you 👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 03:03 PM
31

Not once has any post advocated violence or abuse. We wouldn't allow it even if anyone had tried. That's the key difference between us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 03:02 PM
23

Literally this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 02:26 PM
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A-fucking-men. Male subs have never been “brigaded” because women aren’t insane entitled vengeful psychopaths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 02:26 PM
33

He’s one of the hottest men in the world and is aging ... not great. Most men as they get older just start to all look the same as they get old lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 02:02 PM
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Right? Let’s discuss that Wall lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 01:59 PM
3

I love this ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 01:55 PM
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Aww she’s hanging out with her father, that’s sweet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 01:54 PM
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Yep. At the end of the day, even the saddest/maddest man has bodily safety and autonomy, as well as axiomatic respect in society and the workplace just because they exist as a man. Anyone that says men experience sexism are just whiny little bitches who don't get most of the resources and power in society, AND the hot supermodel they always thought they deserved. Die unfucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 01:07 PM
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She's gorgeous and wonderful and I love that she's taller (even if she's in heels) #tallgirlclub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 01:03 PM
7

Its also none of their business until you get to know them. The right person will learn about it too support you, not assume the worst because of it. I know that one thing that helps my mom and BFF is having a sounding board (often me) to run communication past when they're worried they're overreacting or becoming manic. Might be a good idea to have a few people in your life who can be that for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 03:19 AM
13

Yep. They can call us ugly sluts and bitches and virgins but if this sub inspires even one woman to better herself, we will be doing our job 💕💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 03:06 AM
8

My best friend and my mom are bipolar and they're in incredibly healthy relationships. It took them longer than average to find the right person for them but they literally could not be in happier marriages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 03:04 AM
30

For me it's the "I chuckle at your pathetic jokes because you know my address" zone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 02:57 AM
20

I used to be like this. I wanted him to love me for me that I tried so hard to be accommodating while he disrespected me in front of everybody. Being okay with this comes from such a deep sense of worthlessness, I feel so bad for her, hopefully she takes the advice she's getting and recognizing the disrespect for what it is It would be cool if women weren't so conditioned to get all of their security from Instagram and men were taught basic impulse control, as well. But that's just crazy to assu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 02:56 AM
10

Don't take it too easy, dont make yourself too available. Men value what they earn. If you're initiating, texting first or texting back super quick they'll assume your time isn't valuable and keep you on the backburner and focus on girls whose time seems more precious. Never seems nudes. It's cheap and degrading and he could send them to your friends and family if he gets mad at you. It's happened to me by someone I lived with, it could happen to you. Maybe have a sounding board you can trust wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 02:49 AM
6

You deserve commitment, even if it's not from the person you're seeing. You're not a plaything. Way to go 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 02:41 AM
15

Block him forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 02:39 AM
10

The coolest omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 02:19 AM
9

I love that we’re both sluts and virgin/femcels. Pick a lane lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 02:03 AM
5

I’m here for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 02:02 AM
6

Al-anon is amazing, good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 01:32 AM
7

I need to journal, I’m so inconsistent with it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 01:31 AM
6

That's awesome! I'm following, thank you 💪🏼😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 12:41 AM
10

My gym, no matter what time of day I go, seems to be filled with guys and it’s so intimidating, I hate it. Like they act as if I’m in the way when I’m doing weights. I spend the whole time trying to remind myself that I have every right to be there while they stand in a group and act like I’m in their way with my 10 lb free weights 🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 12:35 AM
12

What does your workout routine look like? I’m getting back to the gym in a couple weeks but I mostly just do cardio bc the gym intimidates me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 12:25 AM
25

I’m interested in what books you’re reading. I’m reading 12 Rules for Life even though I hate Jordan Peterson so I can understand the opposing view more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 12:23 AM
8

It sounds amazing. I love sympathetic villains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 12:09 AM
9

That's so awesome!! What's your book about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 11:56 PM
46

She's not like other girls!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 11:41 PM
14

Good for you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 11:38 PM
0

What does the last part mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 11:37 PM
43

I'll start. I'm: - Working on my website/portfolio and learning web development. - Reading books on stoic philosophy and Cognitive Behavior Therapy - Casually seeing a couple of respectful men even though I've deleted all of my OLD apps to focus on other things - Saving for specific personal goals while working two jobs to afford to do so - Working with my doctors on addressing some chronic pain issues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 11:33 PM
48

Tell me about it 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 09:17 AM
46

Girl what the fuck? he's not being supportive during a hard time he took an insane amount of photos and got too mad when you went through them his virgin comment and how he would treat you was bonkers and very antagonistic What the fuck is his deal? You need a break from him. Take a couple days to yourself, he needs to chill
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 07:07 AM
0

Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 06:37 AM
237

Yeah, I still catch myself doing this. "Oooh, full sentences! He's so smart!" "He remembers basic facts about me! He really cares!" 🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 04:37 AM
6

Riiiiiiight?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 04:13 AM
46

Typical. Ass. Moid. It drove him wild that you didn't engage and you've been on his mind ever since. Textbook badass, nice job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 03:45 AM
7

Feel free to pm me if you need help finding the words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 02:18 AM
1

Hopefully it gave you the confidence to trust your own intuition and not the man's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 02:15 AM
19

They're going to do what they want and you can't control them, sadly. It's so ingrained in most men and they don't care who the porn industry hurts or how it affects their relationships. You can share your thoughts on it, but I don't really see any change coming from it unless they see it as a problem themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 02:04 AM
2

What do you mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 01:55 AM
11

Why do any of us date the terrible trash we've dated? Low self-esteem, a desire for love, naivete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 01:55 AM
40

Be direct and honest or indirect and ghost. It's as simple and as difficult as that. "I'm too busy for a relationship right now" or "this isn't working for me". You don't owe him an explanation and it's not up for negotiation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 01:29 AM
36

I had a guy block me after we hooked up. It was humiliating, and I never would have hooked up with him if I had respected myself. Move on. Delete your chat thread with him so you're not tempted to contact again. I'm sorry that happened but nothing more will be gained from hoping he might reach out, my dude 💕 it hurts but you'll be okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 01:23 AM
49

It introduces a toxic power dynamic. He owns your body and can use it to threaten or intimidate you. He might not send it to your friends and family and workplace, but... he could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 12:18 AM
1

How often are you spending time together?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 11:08 PM
2

Hell yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 10:38 PM
5

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 09:44 PM
10

If he won't get therapy for himself, he will never do it for her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 09:19 PM
9

Online dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 07:19 PM
20

Love this 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 07:16 PM
24

I would have saved so much time, energy and money if I had realized this sooner tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 07:15 PM
3

Yep. The simplest example is cleaning your room. Having a messy room is "easier" but wears you down mentally and emotionally, and makes every start and end of the day feel like a failure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 06:58 PM
23

You can love someone and recognize that they're not good for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 06:36 PM
12

That is my guilty pleasure show. I live for that messy drama. And you're right. They often speak whole ass different languages and make it work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 06:23 PM
13

Damn, good fucking point lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 06:08 PM
21

We always want to make excuses for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 05:35 PM
24

Good for you, girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 05:35 PM
25

Yeah of course. But ideally they would communicate that and not just leave you guessing which I see happening to my girlfriends way too often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 05:34 PM
30

“I didn’t get useless internet points, guess I’ll lower my IRL standards”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 05:06 PM
45

Very stupid especially considering all the amazing mods and anti-brigading efforts we have in place but okay lmao. So pathetic. Maybe they should use time to go to the gym or read a book?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 04:58 PM
5

I'm so happy for your progress!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 04:39 PM
8

GIRRRL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 10:30 PM
2

This is great
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 09:55 PM
1

Agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 05:59 PM
9

Even worse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 12:35 AM
3

Glad you liked it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 11:38 PM
3

I like that too lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 10:53 PM
25

While I agree with you, I enjoy sex and want a release. But I respect that it's not for you :) I'd rather women do it safely if they're going to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 10:48 PM
7

We don't have one where I live 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 09:58 PM
1

Go for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 09:55 PM
41

"Me cavemen get good food" Uh bitch, I have a Kroger. You posting with a dead dear just makes me sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 09:54 PM
53

Chefs or cooks. They're all drug addicts of alcoholics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 09:52 PM
1

What the fuck, where do you work? Get him 86'd. Your employer is responsible to protect you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 07:21 PM
11

Who knows?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 07:18 PM
7

Men on dating apps are consistently under our standards :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 07:11 PM
8

Everything’s Trash, But It’s Okay by Phoebe Robinson. It’s okay so far, I don’t agree with everything but I’m pushing thru
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 06:42 PM
16

Girl if it doesn’t apply, let it fly. You don’t have to follow every FDS technique to get insight from the community. Love coffee dates? Drink up. Feel like a man not paying for the date isn’t a dealbreaker? Pull out your wallet. The issue is about EFFORT. We are so conditioned from birth to not take up space, to apologize for our existence, and to be grateful for the bare minimum from men. You can split the bill, nobody is going to have a coronary. But just keep in mind that men value what they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 05:40 PM
6

This is that real shit 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 05:31 PM
3

They’ve been allowed to be lowest common denominator for generations, and celebrated for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 05:11 PM
9

A HV man won't settle for a LV woman. People tend to gravitate to like minded people. If you're into financial, spiritual, mental and physical health, why would you spend your time with someone who isn't?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 04:31 PM
2

Great advice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 04:30 PM
184

Yes ma’am. If you think for one second that these fuckers wouldn’t ruin your life if they could, you severely underestimate their hatred for women. Don’t post photos, work locations or even occupations, name, social media handles, identifiable locations near where you live. Remember that japanese pop star who was raped because a “fan” saw the reflection of her subway location in her glasses? These. fuckers. are. crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 03:14 PM
2

Nobody cares
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 03:01 PM
22

You’re getting any pleasure? Must be nice lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 02:55 PM
9

Fucking love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 11:41 AM
26

Shit dude that’s TRUTH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 11:49 PM
7

Queen 👸🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 11:14 PM
1

That makes sense. Thanks for explaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 12:39 PM
48

BuT tHe WaLl lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 12:18 PM
5

Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 12:12 PM
9

"My biggest fear is being with a fat woman" Why? Over a shitty personality, a stupid woman, a user? I'm genuinely curious why you'd rather ANY skinny woman over an overweight one
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 12:00 PM
21

They deleted their post bc internet strangers deal with his shit less shit than IRL women do apparently lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 11:55 AM
10

I'm the same way. The best ways I've found are to do things you enjoy and find others that do, too. Having a starting point for conversation is good. A good way I've met people: Work (obviously, this is one of my biggest ones) Politics (local groups related to whatever political/social views you have) MeetUp Groups (there are walking ones, science ones, social ones, dating ones) Classes/book clubs/trivia/religious communities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 11:52 AM
2

<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 11:41 AM
33

ITT: Pick-Mes Lol but in all seriousness, the red flags are as follows for those still learning to recognize these things for the women who think this guy sounds like a catch for some reason: Bad grammar. If that's ON HIS PROFILE he's going to text you like a fucking idiot, I guarantee it. He's leading with a "dad bod" which means he's insecure but you can't challenge him on it because he was "honest" Boring ass hobbies. Calls himself "average". I'll admit, fishing is decent enough. Kids. Sorry,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 11:34 AM
6

Holy shit I hadn't thought about that. You just blew my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 11:28 AM
30

My standards have been so low with the grammar of the average man, they all text like monkeys on morphine, but that's his profile, dude. Like, that's him spotlighting his best features. It's just going to get so much worse lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 11:25 AM
3

Getting woke is so illuminating lmao. I feel this way with my friends, when they put up with the most weak ass behavior I'm like GIRL NOOOOOOÖ and just want to shake her until she stops being dickmatized and sees her worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 11:23 AM
3

Hmm, I guess I can see that actually. I think she's still a good self-advocate. She's outspoken and stands up for herself against men who feel they can de-value her. Even guests who have been on who criticize her, she does a good job of not being abrasive while still being herself. Plus she isn't out there dating bummy guys just because she's plus size, over 30, a strong woman, etc etc. But I do agree there is some pickme-ism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 11:13 AM
7

Girl, what. That’s still not good Edit: my bad, I thought it says he DOESNT have deep feelings for you lmao. Good for you 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 10:27 AM
11

Or "wyd" 😡😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 05:30 AM
4

My friend and I are considering starting one lol. The only one that's close that I can think of is Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer. She's hilarious and talks a lot about dating. She's in her 30's, black and plus size and absolutely refuses to play by anyone elses' rules. Love her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 05:20 AM
19

I think about this a lot. I have wonderful, funny, supportive, goofy guy friends. I almost never, ever, ever meet any funny, supportive, wonderful goofy guys on OLD. It's such an odd disconnect between the men in my life and the men that I've dated. Are my guy friends shitty towards women when they date?? Do they pull this same low effort shit on other girls, and only treat me well because we're friends? I really don't get it. That being said, I'm very quick to call out my friends when they demo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 05:16 AM
2

They'd probably think that was stimulating conversation lmao but I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 03:06 AM
-2

Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 03:06 AM
7

Agree with both sentiments, but just to reiterate, a lot of men don't actually realize how bad it is. Bringing light to the vitriol is eye opening to men who would otherwise think we were being dramatic or hyperbolic about the treatment women receive. Some trolls may feel vindicated, but some well meaning men may be informed 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 02:13 AM
4

r/banned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 11:21 PM
64

Girl, no. You deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 09:53 PM
71

I had an ex threaten to send my pictures to my friends and family after I broke up with him for cheating on me. That was the very last time I ever sent pictures, even though I get asked constantly by bums on dating apps. When they ask I say "I don't do that" and they inevitably whine about it but that's not my fucking problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 09:53 PM
52

Yep. He still owes me money, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 03:53 AM
28

RPW: wait, we don't? lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 02:45 AM
50

I threw up in my mouth reading that. I used to be that girl so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 12:18 AM
17

Me too, girl 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 11:58 PM
6

Same though. It's so good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 11:42 PM
201

This was me. I paid most of the bills, cooked, cleaned his nasty underwear, went to all his rugby matches, had sex with him twice a day... ... and he still fucked 21 year olds behind my back 🤣 Whatever, his dick is tiny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 11:42 PM
27

In the US, snapping, whistling, or even raising your voice a little to get a waiters attention is seen as very rude and elitist. Usually you try and get their eye contact, wave a little if they see you or wait until they come by. Anything else just makes you look like you're a pretentious and very rude and demanding asshole. I'm sure it's different in other places :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 11:33 PM
33

I literally refused a second date once because a guy was rude and SNAPPED AT A WAITRESS. WITH HIS FINGERS. I don’t know people like that existed. Nope. Also looks at how he treats other women, i.e. women he’s not trying to fuck, or anyone he can’t benefit from (homeless people, disabled people, etc). If he mocks or needlessly mistreats anyone, DROP HIM. He may seem nice to you but that’s a huge fucking red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 10:27 PM
8

Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 10:15 AM
8

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 04:01 AM
33

I'm criminally sick of this shit haha. I'm sure that came out in my rant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 03:03 AM
3

💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 09:38 PM
3

Oh I see. I misread your post intentions, sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 09:12 PM
31

Try it, but expect it to not work. You've shown him time and again you won't need effort, and he views you as a low effort person. I think if a man cheats on you, he'll always cheat on you. Because you stayed. And he knows he can do it again. I think the same principle applies. If he got away without respecting you, he's not going to start now. He might make partial efforts for a little while. But I don't expect long term change. I think you should tell him "this isn't working for me. We're not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 09:04 PM
6

What's the source of your passivity? Do you lack confidence, or feel like they're better than you? Therapy, self-help, increasing your confidence, may help :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 08:41 PM
3

You're lucky. It's a toxic moid community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 07:53 PM
1

TheRedPill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 07:46 PM
22

Your grandma sounds badass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 07:45 PM
220

100%. Men who don't respect women won't learn to respect them because they don't listen to them. Other men need to be the example and call out problematic bullshit when they see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 07:35 PM
33

Good for you for calling it out. Men are fucking disgusting on OLD apps. They truly see you as a body to masturbate with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 07:33 PM
3

I think attraction is personal but people don't always express their true attractions because of societal pressures. For example, I'm incredibly attracted to big guys and nerdy types. And by big I mean, not muscular just larger. The typically handsome look doesn't do anything for me. That being said, everyone is extremely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 06:55 PM
69

Thanks for your openness. We want to be our best selves, and hope men do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 06:31 PM
22

They don't get down vote brigades, doxxed and literally abused for their hatefilled shit because the only people hurt by what they say is women, and women don't do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 05:06 PM
42

The difference is, men have thousands of years of privilege to their advantage. Their quality of life, in almost every culture and every generation has been vastly better. So the fact that they have subs about taking advantage of women is laughable to begin with because gestures broadly at society. The other key difference is they don't view women as people, let alone equals. We want to find a high quality man and be high quality women. They want to sexually assault and control women with minima…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 04:51 PM
36

FUCKING. YES. THIS BULLSHIT RIGHT HERE. Such a HUGE pet peeve of mine!!! Him: You want to go out? Me: Sure, I'm free this day and this day. Him: Cool, what do you want to do? FUCK OFFFFFFFF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 04:40 PM
8

Nobody is going to throw you into the sea for going on a coffee date 🙄 but just be aware of guys who use this tactic to waste your time, plate you or see if you will be easy to keep on the line without much effort 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 04:33 PM
6

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 04:26 PM
12

Every person and every relationship is different. No two women have the same upbringing, expectations, experiences... The only thing that's universal is respect. If you meet a man that values you, treats you well, puts in effort, makes you a priority, everything else is just details. The concern, though, is falling in love with potential. You're not dating someone for who they promise to be, because that may never happen. I've dated guys who promised the world and never delivered. If his life is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 04:26 PM
3

That's confusing. Could you rephrase it to be less general
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 04:18 PM
39

Those are the same guys who say they like girls with no makeup. They are the first ones to turn around and call a girl ugly if she actually doesnt wear a ton of makeup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 04:16 PM
23

You do you. Everyone is different. Just remember that a lot of dudes are going to take advantage of that and not respect you because you've shown early on that you are okay with that. It's actually an extremely common TRP/PUA tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 04:14 PM
13

This was a screenshot from Instagram 👌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 03:26 PM
1

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 03:20 PM
2

Itchy and prickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 03:08 PM
81

For lurker moids who think it's about money, it's not. It's about respect. Would you feel respected if she showed up in sweatpants and no make up? No. So if you expect her to try, why can't you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 03:07 PM
3

We're here for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 02:48 PM
6

Yeah you sound pretty young. Become an interesting, well rounded person and you'll attract them. Read books. Focus on school. Have fun with your friends and be patient 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 02:42 PM
7

Yeah the grow out from waxing is truly a nightmare unless you get it done crazy often and life is too short for that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 02:40 PM
6

They're garbage at all ages. That's why you have to really do the work to find the good ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 02:39 PM
7

Work on advancing your education and career, bettering your physical and mental health, and participating in high value activities where you can meet interesting people. You're only meeting heavy drinkers and partiers? Well where do you spend your time? What else could you be doing to meet people with more social potential?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 02:36 PM
17

Focus on yourself and your confidence, not some old dude who will treat you like an object and disregard you if you age out or bore him. You're worth more than money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 02:33 PM
3

I get that! I usually give low effort when I don't care about the person long term, which is selfish of me and unfair to both of us (should just cut it off instead of wasting both of our time). Low effort is never a good basis for a relationship. But it also made me realize that a low effort guy would probably not be low effort for someone he actually wanted to be with, and not to put up with that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 02:01 PM
7

I don't give a fuck about how you think I responded, moid. Banned piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 01:58 PM
1

I'm going to try this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 01:57 PM
1

I love this lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 01:56 PM
25

Context: one of the guys I'm seeing was regularly asking me "wyd" when he would text me. Honestly he's way too old to be saying it and I'm too mature to be hearing it. Plus I realized setting boundaries and communicating needs is a good way to vet quality men, because a lot of guys I've talked to in the past would have gotten defensive or dismissive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 09:31 AM
13

I've been the girlfriend to support her man while he gets his career going and becomes stable while I build him up, to find he was fucking 21 year olds behind my back. Now I support ME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 09:20 AM
5

Damn girl when you’re right, you’re right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 08:07 PM
1

Nobody ever said men were bad. Why would we have a sub dedicated to dating them if they were all bad? What is bad is subjecting yourself to problematic men and their equally problematic behavior for years. Or not setting high standards, for towel yourself or them. Or not recognizing the signs of toxicity. Men aren’t bad. But bad men exist. And we need to fine tune our bullshit-o-meters to weed out the bad ones. If I had found this sub in my teens or early twenties I could have saved literally ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 07:55 PM
41

Beyoncé and Jay-Z is a great example of this. No woman, no matter how perfect, will be good enough for a man not ready to be faithful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 07:35 PM
15

YEP. Just like change, it only comes from within and when someone is ready. You’ll never be enough for a man that isn’t ready to take a woman seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 07:26 PM
17

Queen shit. Applies to men IRL too. #blockhim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 02:50 PM
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100%. Tenant #1 in this sub is be your best self. Have value. Find a man of (emotional, physical, mental) value. They're just big mad that pussy isn't free for them anymore because women have self-esteem lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 02:44 PM
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You should never compromise on your values and your self-worth. That's non-negotiable. Nobody ever once said in this sub that relationships don't require effort and compromise. But a relationship that forces you to be less than you could be? Nah. Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 02:42 PM
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Borderlands 3 came out. I said Borderlands 4 ;) But I agree with the rest of what you said. Depravity is strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 02:38 PM
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Because a strong woman is a powerful thing, and women have never, ever, ever been allowed their own spaces throughout time. It's male entitlement, it's pathetic and it will eventually blow over when the moids get distracted by Borderlands 4 or what the fuck ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 02:30 PM
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I don't trust men who are too affectionate too fast. Love freely given is freely lost. Plus, super needy men often don't have their own lives, hobbies, friends, etc. This happened to me recently: a guy was really really into me. Like, way too much. He texted me constantly, wanted to make things super serious super fast and I had even told him I'm not looking for anything serious right now but he had the puppy dog "but maybe some day??" attitude. Nah. I would keep your guard up. He may just be a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 02:27 PM
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Also, in hindsight, I apologize for taking such a harsh tone with you. As a mod of this sub who has been dealing with some incredibly aggressive and hateful brigading lately, I'm definitely on the defensive and should not have assumed the worst of you. I respect that you're asking questions and formulating your own opinions on difficult topics at a young age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 01:30 PM
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Honestly, I can relate to that. Being a teenager in general is hard. I was one, and I work with them now. I spent a lot of my teens/early twenties preferring male company because it was "easier". That being said, I wasted a lot of time that I could have spent building lifelong friendships with strong women that lift me up. Thankfully I have those friendships now, but Younger Me could have really benefited from a shoulder to cry on. Keep looking for your tribe, little sister :) Women will always …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 01:28 PM
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Research rational detachment. It's good to be able to get your physical/comfort needs met, without giving your heart to every guy you cuddle. I'm learning a lot about it now, and it's been so so helpful <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 01:21 PM
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Daily. Sometimes more. But, that's in a committed relationship, and varies wildly from woman to woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 01:17 PM
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Not all men are evil. A lot of them are. And even seemingly "good men" take advantage of women they don't find fuckable. Also if you can't find and keep female friends, you're the problem. Sounds like you hate women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 01:16 PM
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Honestly, get your emotional needs met from other women. Friends, female therapists, strong female role models. Relying on a partner for that is going to keep making you feel vulnerable, even as you try and be strong. I'm sorry for what you've been through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 01:09 PM
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I think a man remaining financially challenged is indicative of his character in many circumstances. Of course there are exceptions (areas of abject poverty, physical limitations, etc), but a man who isn't willing to work hard isn't going to be a good partner. I don't make much, but I work two jobs. I won't respect a man who wastes his money, is underemployed, or doesn't value bettering himself. Not just financially, but as an issue of work ethic and self-esteem. Honey, I've dated the poor guy w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 01:02 PM
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Nobody is saying only date rich dudes. I've dated some low-earners who were still generous because they didn't waste their (limited) income and prioritized me over whatever video game/cigarettes/weed they would have bought anyway. That being said, if he's not career minded and doesn't have plans for financial stability in the future, baby girl what is you doin'?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 01:00 PM
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Guys are always going to push sex asap. Why wouldn't they? Here are a few tips that have worked for me: Don't keep condoms in the house. You'll NEVER (ever, ever, ever) have sex without condoms (RIGHT?) and they are always too short sighted to bring them, so that helps Set firm boundaries. "I'm not ready yet" is a complete sentence. "No" is a complete sentence. If he pressures you, he's not a good person. Fucking NEXT. Keep dates in public spaces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 12:58 PM
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Eventually, of course. I believe in equality in relationships. But I think women are empathetic and often are put in a position to be taken advantage of by men. Especially early in relationships before monogamy, when men are often "spinning plates" and wasting a bunch of womens' time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 12:52 PM
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No. They don't want a mommy or a maid. Nobody wants to fuck their mommy. They want a woman who has value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 12:50 PM
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Uh. Yeah. If you're a woman who doesn't take shit from men, they're going to may you pay for it. I have been harassed, threatened, stalked, and literally assaulted by men I've rejected. So yeeeeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 12:50 PM
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Searching post history and inferred by context. Usually they're calling us slut whore cunt bitches, so it's easy to tell ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 12:46 PM
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Men being generous shows effort. I've been the woman that fronts for her man for years and he learns to disrespect and use you. A man doesn't respect a woman who takes care of him. Generosity will vary from man to man based on what they can afford, but if your man doesn't carry his own weight in the relationship, he's not high value and shouldn't be dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 12:46 PM
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YESS! Good job, girl. Don't be any man's mommy. He won't respect you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 12:37 PM
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Yep. They'll get distracted by something else in 2 seconds and we'll be back to focusing on strong, female-empowering content. TBH my favorite thing is that they're trying convince us all that men aren't evil by calling us bitches, cunts, sluts, whores lmao. The mod queue is truly a fetid nightmare. Keep moiding, moids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 12:19 PM
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Nobody has ever cared what you think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 11:44 AM
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Worthless man makes useless post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 10:30 AM
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What's funny is he DEFINITELY opened Tinder to find more plates and was just butthurt that she was doing the same lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 10:26 AM
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You should still work on them. Anything worthwhile takes time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 10:22 AM
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