What age range should I be dating in?

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2021-08-24T12:37:57+00:00

I would say 3 to 5, with 5 being the absolute maximum. At your age, those 5 years can make a big difference, so I would advise to stick as close to 3 as you can.

Personally, 3 has always been my maximum, and the time I stupidly strayed from that (I was 23 and he was 33) proved that I was right to uphold that rule and should stick to it. 3 up or down, although most of the time they ended up being a year or 2 younger than me. My fiancé is 3 years younger.

fak_beauty_standards · 2021-08-24T11:27:45+00:00

it's +/- 3 for me (your age) cause when he's 37 I would have to act 37ish and I don't want to strip myself off the last bit of youth that I have and pretend like I'm 37ish too

Especially that women are expected to be the more mature and understanding ones. If we're parents, we're the serious bad cop eat broccoli ones, while he plays soccer with kids, etc.

So if I'm societally the more serious one, I don't want to add 10 years to it. It's kinda no fun even the way it is.

discoveringliberty · 2021-08-24T11:57:10+00:00

I don't plan on ever going higher than +5 years. But at my current age (early twenties) I wouldn't go higher than +2 years. The +5 rule will start once I'm in my mid thirties.

daglowup · 2021-08-24T12:06:51+00:00

The maximum I’ve gone is 5 years older (26 & 31) and even that was pushing it, he seemed to think 5 years actually felt like 10. He had his life more together on paper but I was wayyy more mature and understanding. I’d be wary of condescending old scrotes who think they have some kind of power over you.

Eventually I see myself marrying either someone my age, or 2-4 years older max.

moonartemis1989 · 2021-08-24T12:41:06+00:00

2 yes older max and 5 yrs younger. Cause men die faster then women so dating way older ,even 5 yrs is too much . Good luck

Some-Air9442 · 2021-08-24T12:11:42+00:00

See, if women keep dating older men, then men will think they can wait to get married. It’s a bad idea.

pinkplatform · 2021-08-24T11:09:41+00:00

I go 2-3 years max lol

pascalines · 2021-08-24T13:27:28+00:00

Imo 24-32. Don’t exclude younger guys! We’re socialized to believe older men are “more mature” but honestly….they’re not.

In my experience there are just as many immature scrotes in their 30’s and dating a younger man can be a way to even out the power differential in het relationships.

her-vagesty · 2021-08-24T10:19:28+00:00

For me, I would only go up to 5 years older. But I prefer dating men within 3 years of my age.

sassyheather · 2021-08-24T11:02:41+00:00

If I was 27, I’d stop at 30. As for younger, I am not really interested in younger guys 🤷🏻‍♀️

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-08-24T10:19:07+00:00

30 or 31 max for a serious relationship.

LR_today · 2021-08-24T10:28:42+00:00

5 years either side. After that you are getting into problems.

vibrantgray · 2021-08-24T11:35:18+00:00

10 years is way too much of a gap. You need to consider “life experience” as part of compatibility. An older guy has had much longer to work on his manipulation tactics etc. and has probably had more experience with relationships than you. He would also be in a later life stage than you (and if he isn’t, then that would be a red flag).

I also think that the generational difference can cause problems. I feel it’s a bit hard to be compatible with someone who doesn’t share the same overall pop culture, music, TV shows and whatnot.

If you are 27 I’d say max 4 years older or 1-2 years younger.

thediverswife · 2021-08-24T20:39:50+00:00

In my early twenties I was hit on by men in their late thirties and they seemed so ‘together’ and ‘mature’ compared to me. In hindsight, they were after me for my youth & naïve self. Anything more than 5 years is a no for me, the generational gap starts to appear

DrippingWetPeach · 2021-08-24T13:34:23+00:00

It is between 2 years older and 4 years younger for me. So I date 21 to 27 usually. It is my preference, there isn't really a rule I adhere to. I just mostly think men in those age ranges are most beautiful to me.

stalient · 2021-08-24T11:54:27+00:00

24 to 30, I usually have the best experiences with my age or few years younger

glendoraza · 2021-08-24T12:45:22+00:00

I used to do plus or minus 2 years based on what my cousin told me. Said he felt icky if someone was younger than that and told me to watch out for that. He was in his mid 20s then so that might of changed

slayeroftruth · 2021-08-24T14:39:35+00:00

At 27 I would do 3 years max. Late twenties for life experience is different than man in 30's. You want to live life with someone who is on same page as you. Its a lot more fun to experience things together.

LadyKaitlyn · 2021-08-24T23:02:56+00:00

Personally I've been in age gap relationships before, and now wouldn't go higher than a few years older or younger if I was in the dating field again. A big part of it was that I was pretty young when I was dating around, and when I finally reached the age that those men were I realized how inappropriate it was and how people that age are like kids to me now, it really shook me. Of course as you get much older the range spreads out a bit, but when you're young you don't realize how much those years can count early on. I used to think I wanted an older man to take care of me, that's what I was told my whole life through movies and family/culture. Now I really like being with someone who can grow old with me, not someone who already has..

lolmemberberries · 2021-08-25T00:16:19+00:00

I've never gone out with anyone more than six years younger or older than me (I'm 32, almost 33). That being said, I have a preference for dating people my own age or 2-3 years younger.

One_Bat_2525 · 2021-08-24T12:03:09+00:00

2-3 years older or 1-2 years younger.

dancedancedance7 · 2021-08-25T21:22:57+00:00

I'd say it's case by case. Honestly don't rule out younger guys. Also look fabulous and healthy at 37 and others look like a pillsbury doughboy at 25. You need to get a match in terms of life stages.

Breesasha · 2021-08-24T22:46:47+00:00

I personally won't do more than 5 years older or a couple of years younger. The human brain doesn't fully develop until 25 so keep that in mind while dating. I prefer a male over 25 because that's going to be his mind/attitude/behavior, etc and it probably won't vary too much from that point forward.

curiousandbashful · 2021-08-25T04:32:24+00:00

My limit is plus or minus 4 years. Like, if we wouldn't have possibly gone to high school together age-wise, then nah.

BxGyrl416 · 2021-08-24T13:33:49+00:00

When I got to be in my early 20s (college age), I came to the conclusion that there’s about a 5-6 year maturity lag between men and women. That said, age matters as 18 and 24 is much different than 28 and 34 or 50 and 56.

Platipus6 · 2021-08-24T11:25:33+00:00

Do you want kids? 1-2 years older than you, and have them before 32 for best chance at healthy children.

starfighter07 · 2021-08-24T10:01:32+00:00

I would do 25 (if the guy has finished his studies/is already working) to max 35 (and I would vet "harder" after 30)

fogplum · 2021-08-24T21:42:15+00:00

Title	What age range should I be dating in?
Author	BubblyCandidate
Upvotes	183
Comments	45
Date	August 24, 2021 7:00 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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