Do women not realize that they are the ones who are choosing to sleep with the men that are not good to them?

Kentucky_Supreme · 2022-01-01T15:01:04+00:00

I don't think they do. They're usually coming from the perspective that anything relating to dating/sex simply happens to them rather than a choice they consciously and deliberately made. Which is pretty weird.

Vicky-3 · 2022-01-01T18:20:26+00:00

It’s about FEELINGS and ORGASMS, use it to your advantage fellas. Try being a little emotionally push/pull it does wonders.

social_mule · 2022-01-01T15:31:00+00:00

I wouldn't say they enjoy the mistreatment per se but I would say they're willing to tolerate the mistreatment because whatever pluses he brings to the table makes it worthwhile to them. And after the mistreatment hits its peak and she can't stand no more the relationship ends and in a month or two she's either in a similar relationship with an equally abusive loser or she decided to "work things out" and get back together with loser number one.

But here's the thing.

Regardless of how the relationship ends there's typically a long, drawn out pity party thrown in her honor. The social media posts, the memes about knowing her worth, the validation from her girlfriends about the abuse she suffered, the white knighting from her male orbiters about how they'd treat her so much better, the constant barrage of positive attention and sympathy because she chose poorly. That's what a lot of these women are addicted to so this cycle of behavior becomes a pattern.

First they meet the loser, ignore all the red flags and warnings, ignore the advice of friends and family who tell her he's no good and begin a relationship with him. Next the mistreatment starts but she stays with him because deep down she knows he loves her (eyeroll). At some point the relationship ends and her entire network of friends comforts and consoles her but never call her out for the role she played in allowing any of this to happen in the first place. Lord forbid anyone bring this up as they'll be accused of victim blaming. They'll throw around a few buzzwords like love bombing and maybe some astrology for good measure. They'll vow to remain single until they find a guy who will treat her right because she finally knows her worth. Then about a month or two later she meets the next douchebag with all the same patterns as the previous douchebag and the cycle begins again.

lather

rinse

repeat

Stunning-Spirit5275 · 2022-01-01T19:02:01+00:00

Dark triad personalities are attractive. Women are just cognitively dissonant about this fact

Christian_Kong · 2022-01-01T18:05:42+00:00

No they don't she felt "something special" with the 6'9" Chad whom had already slept with most of the other women she knows.

Shredddz · 2022-01-01T15:18:10+00:00

they know, they just like to blame others because nobody held them ever accountable since birth so they have zero self awareness

BoostedThrower · 2022-01-02T02:18:06+00:00

You are implying in this post that females have half of an ounce of accountability in them.

Seriously when was the last time you ever heard of a female openly state that SHE was the reason a relationship/marriage/engagement/whateverthefuckelse failed? It has always been some combination of "HE didnt treat me right", "HE was """""abusive"""""", "HE didnt pay attention to me", "HE was manipulative". Get the picture? If so change your flair from "no pill and confused" to "blackpilled and understanding".

The bottom line is females will fuck Chad then blame every guy except Chad for what Chad did and see absolutely nothing wrong with it. We incels actually see this shit for what it is while everyone else sees "women are wonderful" with layers and layers of rose colored glasses.

themostgianthorse · 2022-01-01T16:59:12+00:00

Only 3 letters are needed to explain this.

D.H.V.

Kizka · 2022-01-01T16:36:49+00:00

Do men not realize they're the ones choosing the women who "divorce rape" them? They should have chosen better.

It's shitty to blame the victim in a situation, no matter the gender. Even if you're naive ir dumb, the fault will always be with the perpetrator, not the victim.

pubgmisc · 2022-01-01T16:56:39+00:00

They give them the 50% of the dual male sexual strategy (arousing alpha seed) not attractive (beta bucks). + dark triad traits

januaryphilosopher · 2022-01-01T15:03:04+00:00

Um, if someone is an abuser, liar or cheater they're not going to advertise it. You're generally not going to figure it out until after you've slept with them.

motherseffinjones · 2022-01-01T20:39:09+00:00

My favourite was watching my toxic friend sleep with most of a friendship group. I’ve seen it happen more than once, he would leave a trail of carnage in his wake. It blew my mind that they would all go for him but I guess that’s what they wanted. The only thing that pissed me off was watching them say men ain’t shit after.

AlienFix · 2022-01-01T21:10:49+00:00

They are not attracted to normal guys. Too average

antonio_aurelio · 2022-01-01T22:10:58+00:00

Exactly. This is why I don't feel bad for women who are in abusive relationships. If he's so bad, just leave.

MyrganGyrgan · 2022-01-01T13:55:52+00:00

Congratulations, this is possibly the most original thought that has ever been had

OneDumbPony · 2022-01-01T16:22:45+00:00

Wow, ist almost as if liars LIE about who they are before women find out their true colors. 👁👄👁 Fascinating.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-01T17:51:24+00:00

But when a std ridden stripper takes you for all your money it's her fault?

Salt_Mathematician24 · 2022-01-01T15:22:47+00:00

Because people aren't mind readers. I guess everytime a man has been taken advantage of, cheated on or divorce-raped, it is also 100% his fault for not reading minds and foreseeing the future too, then.

nikki1810 · 2022-01-01T16:54:03+00:00

This is literally just victim blaming. Like such overt victim blaming of those that suffer from domestic violence.

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Abucay41 · 2022-01-01T19:45:08+00:00

Dog, do you never hear about women trying to convince their friends they are with someone who’s bad for them, and holding them to account when things go south? I don’t understand where you’re separating men and women when it comes to accountability because everyone complains about their shitty/abusive ex.

wejaow · 2022-01-02T00:58:10+00:00

They constantly reward shitty behavior. Very annoying but oh well.

quiditplomb · 2022-01-02T01:17:38+00:00

by that logic, men choose to date abusive gold diggers and shouldn’t complain when they fall into that outcome

2022-01-02T01:58:04+00:00

Didn’t you know? We’re all abusers because princess likes to fuck tattooed Chads.

DXBrigade · 2022-01-02T01:59:02+00:00

Would you say the same thing if the genders were reversed ?

KirthWGersen · 2022-01-02T11:19:08+00:00

Immature people prefer to see their own choices as something that happens to them, as that helps them avoid responsibility, play the victim, and also avoid the painful introspection that leads to real growth.

Sadly, in Western societies, this strategy tends to be more socially acceptable for women rather men; though both sexes often act this way.

Personally, I challenge my friends when they blame their relationship difficulties on the opposite sex. Even if it hurts their feelings and jeopardises our relationship. A true friend speaks the truth instead of protecting feelings.

Loud-Broccoli7022 · 2022-01-03T01:54:30+00:00

Exactly

Noob_master_slayer · 2022-01-04T18:22:53+00:00

Yup, rather than have the awareness of realising your own bad choices, many women instead choose to say "all men are dogs".

Title	Do women not realize that they are the ones who are choosing to sleep with the men that are not good to them?
Author	NICHIJOU2411
Upvotes	72
Comments	162
Date	January 1, 2022 11:41 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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