Have you noticed there are more snoring men than women?

hopelesscanary · 2022-01-11T18:13:03+00:00

My ex didn't do jack about his snoring and expected me to wear earplugs, which are uncomfortable to sleep in. Told me his exes would "get used to it" or even came to appreciate it because it was an indicator that "he's alive". Fuck that nonsense, I'm a light sleeper and it wasn't soft consistent snoring either. Every snore sounded like a pig struggling to breathe in a different way so I couldn't even treat it like ambient noise.

Platipus6 · 2022-01-11T11:16:25+00:00

Every guy I've dated snores like an avalanche. They also insist they don't snore and are shocked by the video I provide on my way out. Fuck that noise.

scorchedsouI · 2022-01-11T11:43:39+00:00

Why is it always implied that a man with medical issues should be tolerated even if he diminishes a woman's quality of life? I never understood that. Regardless of whether a behaviour is intentional or a medical issue, it still affects the woman, her health and her sleeping patterns, right? So why should she tolerate it?

It doesn't make any sense, unless you consider the man's feefees to be the most important thing at all times. Objectively speaking, it's of secondary importance.

bleda_princezna · 2022-01-11T11:20:05+00:00

One of the major things I enjoy about being single - actually getting some sleep.

I don't miss the sleep deprivation. I don't miss all the bitching about me being irritable after not being able to get any sleep because of an ex partner that I suspect has sleep apnea. Snored so bad even the neighbor heard him. When I said no wonder I'm not in a good mood when I had no sleep, he started to guilt trip me, about being mean over something he can't do anything about. Fuck you, my dear ex.

ewokblubber · 2022-01-11T11:48:26+00:00

I think it's down to men often taking worse care of their health. The highest risk factor for snoring is being overweight, and at least in my environment and age group, way more men are overweight than women.

I think statistics on weight in my country show that that holds true for all age groups until you get to the 60+ group, and even there, it heavily depends on socioeconomics. Upper middle class or up women are almost never overweight. Their husbands sure are, though. So depending on your environment, almost all the overweight people you know might be men, and accordingly, almost all of the snorers will be men as well.

Eli1984 · 2022-01-11T12:40:35+00:00

Urgh don't get me started on this topic... My ex was snoring like crazy and I told him I can't sleep next to him because it's so crazy loud. He told me I'm overreacting and it can't be so bad,nobody before me ever told him.... So I told him we won't sleep in the same room until his snoring stops. He thought I was joking and was always frustrated when I told him good night and told him to sleep in the living room when he spent the night at my house.

A good night of sleep is so much more worth than a man 😂.

Fucking LVM drove me crazy and I was such a Pickme I entertained this 🤡 way to long....

alpinepunch2021 · 2022-01-11T16:01:08+00:00

All of the partners I've had have slept in separate bedrooms (even during the honeymoon phase) since they all snored and I'm an insanely light sleeper. People think this is such an insane thing to do and I have no idea why - it's not like we don't have sex (which is all people care about when it comes to women in relationships anyway) and we can both sleep normally.

LonchuraStriata · 2022-01-11T11:04:22+00:00

I think it's also a cultural thing. Snoring is definitely considered "unfeminine" and "unladylike" so a woman who snores will probably be embarrassed by it and try to do something about it. Also because she has empathy and doesn't want to disturb people who have to sleep near her.

Men just don't care.

edelbiatch · 2022-01-11T13:18:13+00:00

Two of the biggest risk factors for snoring are alcohol and smoking. I regret putting up with the noise and missing good sleep so much because most men who stop drinking and smoking will stop snoring. And if they don't, they should get treated by a doctor.

FDS-MAGICA · 2022-01-11T13:43:03+00:00

My brother in law was prescribed a CPAP machine and of course he doesn't use it because it's too hawd to sweep with. Enjoy your brain damage, pal.

AmethistStars · 2022-01-11T15:03:55+00:00

Tell me about it. I have a male neighbor who snores horribly loud. He and his female acquaintance (idk what their relationship is tbh since they never act lovely dovely) moved in next door maybe a few months after I moved in with my sister (we live in a terrace house). At first he slept in the room next to my sister, who complained. Then next to me, of course that had me complaining. We contacted the landlord, and he slept downstairs ever since then. Luckily neither of us have heard him at night since then, but I don't understand why you don't try to fix your snoring if it's loud enough to wake the neighbors. I also wonder how that woman he is living with handles the snoring.

And on top of that, I also stay at hotels a lot for my current job. Sometimes I hear male snoring sounds coming from another room as well. Had to change rooms a few times because of that.

Anyway, snoring is a huge dealbreaker for a light sleeper like me. If a guy who snores wants to have a relationship with me, he should get it treated.

drowsypillowprincess · 2022-01-11T16:44:32+00:00

I had two exes that snored SO LOUD and both claimed they’d tried “everything” so I just had to deal.

Uhhh, “everything” consisted of those breathe right nasal strips. They never saw a doctor, never tried medication, never considered a CPAP machine. Nothing.

Some of my worst years of sleeping. I was blamed as being a light sleeper. But how can anyone sleep soundly when a freight train is next to you?!?

ETA: Both men didn’t start out by snoring. They started once they’d gained over 20 pounds. Dad bods and snoring…how sexy.

Sakurablossom90 · 2022-01-11T15:53:36+00:00

My ex snored so loudly he would wake our baby then turn around and blame me for the baby crying and waking him up ☹️ he used to get so aggressive with me over his Snoring and refused to do anything about it and then said that because i ended up sleeping in the other room the baby that I "didn't want to put out anymore"

calicocoolness · 2022-01-11T13:41:37+00:00

My grandma snores (at least she did) and my grandpa would joke about it but never treated her poorly for it. I snored in college but I had dorm mates and it got really bad when I went overseas and had people hear me for two weeks. That’s when I went to a sleep study and found out I had apnea. I just don’t understand how men don’t want to make their own lives better. I got it checked out because 1) I hated inconveniencing others and 2) I couldn’t stay awake past 1 pm and it was getting hella annoying. Once I learned to sleep on my side I’ve gotten much better sleep.

BedazzledSwashbuckle · 2022-01-11T19:19:08+00:00

I'm surprised at the number of men who manage not to snore when it's detrimental for them to do so (e.g. the guys sneaking naps in the workplace / on zoom calls with the camera off). My first husband was like this - turns out his snoring could be bad, but when he wasn't sick or allergic, it wasn't nearly as bad as he liked to pretend it was when I was trying to fall asleep. He also had a penchant for "rolling over in his sleep" and flinging his heavy, muscular arm right into my face ... oddly right after I'd displeased him by having friends, not cooking, or going shopping longer than an hour. What a coincidence that all was. /s

If he's a decent guy and he just happens to snore, he will be fine with you sleeping elsewhere if that's what you need to be rested.

thinktwiceorelse · 2022-01-11T16:32:47+00:00

The last time I've seen my ex, I developed catathrenia, which is similiar to snoring, but sounds more like heavy breathing/moaning in my case. It started immediately when I spend my first night with him after longer period of not seeing each other. He moved to different room, and he couldn't stop bitching about it in the morning. He sounded really angry and annoyed. It continued for week we spent together, then I went home. And it dissapeared and never returned.

poopoola · 2022-01-12T04:27:10+00:00

I once dated a very abusive man with sleep apnea. Started out with love-bombing, blah blah blah. The first night we had a sleep over, he snorted, snored, and gasped for air all fucking night. I had the worst sleep and then HE BLAMED ME. Ugh, I hate that man.

zorua · 2022-01-11T13:08:59+00:00

All I know is there are times that I snore like a bear.

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-01-11T21:28:33+00:00

Can't watch movies with my fking Dad because he always falls asleep and snores like a freaking drowning walrus.

And even if these men have sleep apnea they never get it checked out or use their damn CPAP machine!! "It's so uncomfortable!!"

They sell nasal strips too! These men don't care and deserve every stroke they get because of their incompetence.

BashRunes · 2022-01-12T05:25:23+00:00

I had an ex once who had regular night terrors. He'd swing at me, kick, and flail in his sleep. Did he get help for this? Of course not.

Snoring though, man even in my pickme days I couldn't do it. Makes me MURDEROUS with rage when I'm trying to sleep and have to try to sleep over a damned chainsaw going off all night.

Determinedblonde · 2022-01-11T14:06:58+00:00

In my relationship, I’m the one that snores. I’m a healthy weight but I have a deviated septum.

BrightIdeaGenerator · 2022-01-12T00:06:25+00:00

I have 3 exs that snored, and refused to get treated. I COULD NOT sleep at the last one's place. Now, that's not the reason we broke up, but I'll admit, I was worried about how how sleeping arrangement would eventually work out.

Constant-Wanderer · 2022-01-12T06:49:52+00:00

My bf thinks my snoring is adorable. Admittedly, I barely snore, because I’m that light a sleeper that I wake myself up immediately. He also apologizes for snoring, and wears a snore strip so he doesn’t wake me up.

Colour_riot · 2022-01-12T16:26:37+00:00

Had a genius of an ex wake me up in the middle of the night because he couldn't sleep. Apparently he felt it was absolutely necessary to tell me. Same idiot would fly into a screaming rage if he got woken up by environmental noise during a nap. So I let it fly as well.

OTOH when I was sick and in pain I left the bedroom to sit in the living room so that I wouldn't wake him up too much with the constant groaning.

Title	Have you noticed there are more snoring men than women?
Author	catsuramen
Upvotes	317
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Date	January 11, 2022 10:40 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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