My husband is ready to divorce me over TRP beliefs

spiraldinosaur · 2023-01-15T17:27:15+00:00

Honestly from this conversation alone this whole relationship sounds toxic and I'm not sure why either of you married each other. There's a hell of a lot more going on here than this one little exchange tells us.

-AlwaysBored- · 2023-01-16T02:10:14+00:00

I promise you, divorcingbhim will make your life so much better. He does not think of you as an equal, do you wabt to be with someone like that?

Classic-Tomatillo-64 · 2023-01-15T17:42:54+00:00

He may be using the TRP advice for 'dread gaming' your relationship. A form of coercion and manipulation essentially to trauma bond you to him and make your self worth so poor that you behave like you worship him and never leave. Look it up - its terrifying and organised into stages

081890 · 2023-01-15T18:19:35+00:00

It definitely wasn’t for money lol I married him because I loved him. We had v similar views on life and where we wanted to be. But he changed and started insulting women as a whole but would say if I found out you were like this I would leave you or divorce you. It was a quick change in the summer of 2020

domitori3 · 2023-01-15T17:21:50+00:00

What he was like before getting into RP?

dharkanine · 2023-01-15T17:29:44+00:00

Hot take: a high body count looks bad on anyone outside of sex work, myself included.

But to be insecure about it after marrying someone with one... well that's just dumb. What happened to "to have and to hold from this day forward" or however the line goes.

lilycamilly · 2023-01-15T18:21:53+00:00

Good for you tbh, you'll be better off without him

tawny-she-wolf · 2023-01-15T18:40:06+00:00

I mean… good ? Who wants to be married to a redpill dude ? 🤮

demodawgzz · 2023-01-16T00:22:28+00:00

What an ass. Red pill dudes always blame the women (I.e him calling you rude lol). Later bro!

DeepHouseDJ410 · 2023-01-16T05:59:30+00:00

Lol does he think he’s going to go out there with his new-found balls to conquer and slay 🐱? Because if he’s got anything less than great game and a great body that he works at every day to keep those abs looking sharp and has the package that hot young women want these days then it won’t be red pill forums that he’ll be posting to a month from now but most likely black pill / inc*l forums where he’ll be talking about how much he hates hypergamy and chad because he can’t get any.

beansmuch · 2023-01-15T18:05:32+00:00

You didn't engage well in that conversation. You indirectly called him a “incel, loser, misogynistic, immature man". Insulting someone, that's not going to solve any problem; that's not going to disabuse him of certain views. All that's going to do is add more fuel to the fire.

Also: it takes strength to "agree to disagree". Getting hellbent on a view like, "I think such and such genocide is justified", alright, maybe that's something you never want to "agree to disagree" on... but, "women with high body counts are hoes"... that's the hill you're going to die on, with your husband? That's where you want to start insulting him?

I see you have a baby with your husband. You need to be better. You can't control him. He probably has to be better too. But you control yourself. Everyone has stupid views now and again. Get over it. Find a different way to vent emotionally release that doesn't damage the relationship.

Naus1987 · 2023-01-15T17:31:20+00:00

One of the thing red pill sorta gets right is calling out bad relationships.

You make your husband seem like an absolute tool. So why did you marry him? If his personality was garbage, was it for his looks. Was it for his money? WHY?

I'd say most relationships don't fail due to any pill nonsense, but simply people get together who aren't fundamentally compatible. I've seen guys (and gals) see a pretty face, and think that's ALL THEY NEED to sustain a healthy relationship. Oh, they're hot, better marry them, and 'pray' I can change their personality later.

Otherwise, if he was an A+ personality before the shift, ask him why he changed? And if he did change, ya know -- you're allowed to divorce him too.

But seriously, 9 out of 10 times I see posts like "my spouse is going crazy" it's because they married them for looks, money, or other resources. And sadly, red-pill tells you to look out for that.

Xx_SwordWords_xX · 2023-01-15T17:38:25+00:00

Let him. Start documenting all his blatant misogyny, as this will benefit you in the divorce.

sadgal999 · 2023-01-15T18:10:12+00:00

Was he involved in RP / MGTOW when you met him or is it recent?

AssistTemporary8422 · 2023-01-16T04:00:39+00:00

You should probably contact a lawyer too and run this toxic loser out of your life.

meisterkraus · 2023-01-15T17:21:25+00:00

Did you ask why he felt those things or just attack him?

Dehydrated_Jellyfish · 2023-01-15T18:38:19+00:00

You did call him an incel loser so that is offensive. Your response is emotionally dismissive of his feelings, regardless of the subject. I bet you could get a real conversation going if you ask him to talk more about how he feels. Or you could just let the marriage crash and die over a social media trend.

funnybillypro · 2023-01-16T03:08:08+00:00

congrats!!!

IMP2K20 · 2023-01-15T22:43:54+00:00

He's totally right about the high body count. Afaik, seems like you dont respect him.

chchazz88 · 2023-01-15T17:31:14+00:00

It’s never your job to educate someone else and whether you are willing to take that step for him or not, he might not be ready to listen. People leave redpill because they’re ready to leave, not because anyone else asks them to. I think if I were you I would evaluate the relationship you have with this man and start asking yourself who he has shown himself to be and whether that’s what you want or not. Divorce is not necessarily the worst option.

mynameisburner · 2023-01-15T17:31:55+00:00

If this was a an AITA, this gets an ESH (Everyone Sucks Here)

Cebarsmod · 2023-01-15T21:09:25+00:00

Sounds like both of you have issues

vcreativ · 2023-01-15T21:16:41+00:00

Based on the situation you describe here, that appears to be a reasonable course of action. Neither of you is really acting particularly loving with the other it seems.

In terms of the literal issue at hand, that of numbers of sexual partners. I think it's ok to be open about what sort of histories one is comfortable with and which one is not.

That, though, shouldn't include insult.

Lapatik · 2023-01-16T04:58:37+00:00

Good riddance

True_understand · 2023-01-17T10:55:38+00:00

Guarantee he did it because he feels disrespected in his relationship

qonqu · 2023-01-15T18:30:11+00:00

a man is a dumb human being. when he talks about body counts, tell him “yeaah, the girl I know is really a hoe, yes I had a neighbor like this, I hate hoes etc.” he will be distracted 😁

domitori3 · 2023-01-15T19:24:18+00:00

People on the internets are quick in the advice to call it quits. This is not the best option, and considering that you have a child together - definitely not the best.
Seems you two have jumped the marriage bandwagon too quickly, before knowing each other properly. I don't believe that one could be immersed into RP without being somewhat"compatible" with it.
Before doing the rush decision - cool down and try to understand each other better. Go to a couple's therapy.

Appropriate_Cattle44 · 2023-01-16T05:25:25+00:00

Yea.. and he has every right to have standards, just like you ! Equality. Clearly how childish you handled the situation , even if you wernt a raging 304.. which you are. He deserves better , you can continue to be practice

fireyfarzam14 · 2023-01-21T06:20:06+00:00

But he's right tho. Evidence and studies say that women with high body counts divorce way more so he probably dodged a bullet

TeaEarlGrayHotSauce · 2023-01-15T20:24:06+00:00

It sounds like your values aren't aligned, were they when you were dating? Just curious how it got to this point.

Turbulent-Ad3703 · 2023-01-16T21:11:06+00:00

I dont know abt you but i dont want the mother of my kids to have AIDS

Waratah888 · 2023-02-10T20:42:22+00:00

I'm guessing he's divorcing you for your emotional insults, rather than his RP beliefs.

EthericAssassin · 2023-02-12T03:35:28+00:00

Spade is a spade

Title	My husband is ready to divorce me over TRP beliefs
Author	081890
Upvotes	62
Comments	187
Date	January 15, 2023 5:06 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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