Why dating/marrying older women is bad deal

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2023-01-14T09:44:51+00:00

Certain activities already out of bedroom as she tried them with earlier guys and apparently didn't like it

I don't get this. If you tried out some butt stuff (your butt was used) with an ex girlfriend and had a bad experience and figured out you don't like it, do you now have to do butt stuff with every future girlfriend? Even if you don't like it?

You people cry all the time about not getting sex and you don't even want sex to be enjoyable for the other person. Just jerk off at this point, it's probably going to feel better than being with a person you're basically using as a fleshlight.

MarBitt · 2023-01-14T09:07:20+00:00

Or you will have a woman with a great income and a career who will not mind in the least spoiling you financially and investing in you, and at the same time she will be all hot for sex with a good looking young man (you).

And in sex, she has already figured out what excites her and admitted all her kinks, so you'll be surprised at how dirty sex she wants to have. But because she likes your enthusiasm, she will gladly try everything with you so that you don't have to look for other women. Because when you're young and pretty, you have potential and she's in love, she wants to keep you.

Also, some people have more emotional baggage when they are young and fresh out of home (damaged be parents) than ten, fifteen years later, when they have been working on themselves all along.

In addition, if she is for example 30+ years old, she can be really excited that you in your early twenties want and can have sex with her almost all the time, while her 40+ year old ex-boyfriend gave her a dead bedroom because he just didn't have much of an erection anymore and was stressed and tired from work. Plus, of course, you have a lot more energy and she wants to keep up with you and also show off, so with you she will start to feel mentally rejuvenated, blossom again...

It may not be a lifelong love story, but it can definitely be a pleasant relationship that will benefit the young man and be fondly remembered.

So it's all case by case and it doesn't make sense to generalize like that.

RocinanteCoffee · 2023-01-14T03:26:47+00:00

As a reminder, May/December relationships are pretty rare (though they work out for some people), but almost all people date and marry within five years of their own age, regardless of gender.

Joelypoely88 · 2023-01-14T07:24:04+00:00

(Referring to dating but not marriage) My experience has been pretty much the complete opposite of what you mention. If she's very attracted to you (and fully trusts you), you won't get any of that dead bedroom stuff and she'll want you to try anything with her. She's very happy you make her feel younger, and she may spoil you too.

Gravel_Roads · 2023-01-14T03:15:13+00:00

Dating isn’t shopping for the best deal. When you really like someone, the fact that they had a life before they met you isn’t a detriment, their experiences are part of what makes them them.

gymbro718nyc2 · 2023-01-14T03:54:19+00:00

Shouldn't you worry about being able to get ANY woman before you can choose?

MistyMaisel · 2023-01-14T03:48:59+00:00

One of the things I don't get, if a girl tells you she doesn't like some sexual thing because she did it with another guy and it was awful....why do you guys want her bad experiences to be with you?

You're basically saying you wish she had her bad experiences with you? But bad experiences like that can kill a relationship stone cold dead so fast. Like a traumatically bad sexual experience is a quick libido killer. Especially if the guy keeps pushing to "try it again".

I find this particularly confusing. The rest I can at least understand even if I still think you creeps should stay away from much younger girls. But this one just baffles me. This has to be the one time her having other guys did you a favor.

Barneysparky · 2023-01-14T03:28:21+00:00

Before I met my husband he had a year long involvement with a 50-year-old French woman who owned a beautiful bed and breakfast in the heart of Montreal.

I've never met this woman but I am indebted to her in many ways, from his sense of style to his bedroom skills. I did see her in a movie once, a stunning woman.

Once at a jazz gig husband was talking to a younger socially awkward guy, and they started talking about traveling. He told him about her bed and breakfast and said "she will make a man out of you".

I think that's a solid recommendation.

AcanthocephalaNew947 · 2023-01-14T04:03:06+00:00

If a 35 year old sexually unsuccessful beta bux can pull a 21 year old wife to love him for him more power to him honestly. I don’t see too many unicorns in the wild so I’m sure it’s special and should be encouraged and celebrated for the magic it would be.

StupidWhiteBoi · 2023-01-14T05:46:24+00:00

The crazy thing is promiscuous older women make the "bare minimum" argument. They always say since they have a job, no stds, and don't cheat, (which they know that's not true) that an individual man should date them, it's the nice guy argument. If we flip the genders and a guy says, "Women should date me, "I have job, car, no stds, and doesn't cheat we would laugh at the guy, a dude is supposed to do those things.

TLDR: High N women have issues, debts, trauma, and baggage. If all they offer is they might not cheat on you then it's pointless, just go for the less broken/argumentative women.

Paragonne · 2023-01-14T04:12:53+00:00

Why dating/marrying older women is bad deal

You will pay for mistakes of other guys Some new set of standards/rules which never existed for earlier guys Certain activities already out of bedroom as she tried them with earlier guys and apparently didn't like it which actually means she doesn't like it with you Lots of unattractive emotional baggage Her older self Dead bedroom 'due to low libido"and other bullshit

??

So, you aren't marrying her, you are only marrying her historical-record & -habit??

I consider it morally-criminal for "me" to marry anyone, at this point in this life ( you don't inflict harm-karma on anybody, to that degree, for sake of mere "feelings" ).

However, back when I still was interested in close-relationship through shared living .. I wanted relationship with woman who was the same internal-age as me .. and, in adulthood, that always meant about 2x my calendar-age.

The last person I spoke-with, who understood the perspective life put in me, was about 105-ish years old.

From the words in the post, inner-age has no place in considering the value of someone, for marrying.

Yes people will argue younger women will probably use you for your money but what makes you think that older women is not in it for same? And older women is more sensible and mature which actually means she is good at hiding . If you are going to be used anyways its better to be used by young one. If guys have enough money or other qualities which younger women might find attractive go for younger women. Any guy I know who married a older women full of emotional baggage is deeply regretting it

you aren't looking at people who have the same inner-age, then, are you?

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anima_and_animus

is important to consider, when considering what a given mind is "marrying".

Any person who doesn't understand those unconscious-mind stages, & how they define possible-relationship, simply isn't marrying, but rather is only "marrying".

Safinated · 2023-01-14T04:16:27+00:00

Uh, do you think women don’t know that men want sexy, subservience, and babies?

2023-01-14T09:24:07+00:00

Here's my experience as a fuck-man working from home from suburbia, surounded by stay at home gals and working moms that are undersexed.

They just wanna get laid. Most of them are screaming for a chad-type that can keep them fed the caviar or at least pay half for the childrearing - because they reached a plateau in their earning capacity but for some magical reason costs of raising kids just goes higher and higher.

They will comfort test and want to trap you - especially if you show the slightest human emotion or fatherly traits. There will be promises of sexual deviancies you can only see behind paywalls. And unlike the 20 year old - she is likely to do them - because she stopped having any illusions about how much of a whore she is... sorry how much of a sexual being she is. (it's empowering if you use the right words)

But honestly - as long as you do not let yourself be a emotional support pillow - they are solid. The reason we don't recommend it is because TRP is very self conscious about it's audience - low experience soft balls that break frame even if a wierd chick with a bad eye smiles at them. And when I say TRP i mean the old pre trump TRP, the current state is just bashing women for the clicks - nobody is having sex over there, not the blackpillers and certainly not the goofballs that "create content"

2023-01-14T13:54:40+00:00

You should go one step further, don't date any women at all.

meangingersnap · 2023-01-14T14:19:22+00:00

It’s so funny when men talk about not wanting an older woman with baggage, yet they’re perfectly happy being the ones that are taking “young girls with no baggage” and then being the one that turns her into a woman with baggage. Then of course it’s time to move onto another 20yo bc now that woman with baggage is now very unattractive to them

trickyreds66 · 2023-01-14T17:13:52+00:00

You sound fucking deranged. Oh no a woman knows what she likes and doesn’t like so I can’t force her to do some freakish sexual act for the sake of my pleasure, woe is me.

Maffioze · 2023-01-14T20:20:32+00:00

Nah this doesn't have much to do with age. My girlfriend is 6 years older than me and she is amazing.

No-Rough-7390 · 2023-01-14T23:55:11+00:00

In my late 20s I had a plate who was a fit 42 year old doctor treating burn victims. I have to disagree. She spent thousands of dollars on me (which was never asked for by me. Always gifts and trips that she booked herself for us) knew it wasn’t going anywhere, and she was awesome.

Just don’t marry them.

Mobrowncheeks · 2023-01-14T03:56:49+00:00

Just to monkey rench this, my grandparents weee together for like 50 years before my grandpa died, and they got married while I was alive lmao

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2023-01-14T05:07:23+00:00

Men and women's general preferences are asymmetrical to each other which is why there is so much confusion about the topic. Women want experienced partners, men want inexperienced partners. Women want masculine men, men want feminine women.

If women looked at men's preference for younger women objectively rather than emotionally than they would see why it makes sense logically to choose a younger woman over an older woman.

DrinkItInMan11 · 2023-01-14T03:48:45+00:00

They're a bad deal because most of them just aren't as attractive as they used to be.

Simple as.

Anykindofland · 2023-01-14T09:13:41+00:00

You will pay for mistakes of other guys

That is a very, very good point. When dating older women, you are already on the defence, needing to prove that you are not the same as the last guy. I'm not their therapist, yet they expect me to protect them from their bad choices.

Also dating older women is simply not fun. I've had dates with women of all ages and one trend I noticed was, that older women treat dates more like a job interview. Its less about getting to know me and more about checking if I tick of all of her requirements. Don't get me wrong, younger women also have insane standards but I always had the feeling that they go on dates for fun and see were the evening goes.

James_Cruse · 2023-01-14T03:24:22+00:00

Agree

The more “experiences” a woman has (without you) = the More Emotional/Mental/Character damage she has endured

For women = Experience is Negative because failure/rejection/hardship ruins, scars and damages them.

For men = (Success after) Rejection/Hardship/Failure Builds and Strengthens a man.

Why? Because men and women deal completely differently with Hardship and (many) Rejections. It destroys women and builds men.

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mugdul · 2023-01-14T13:09:36+00:00

Wow, thanks for the valuable advice. Because clearly, all older women are just emotionally damaged gold-diggers and all younger women are just innocent little angels who would never use a guy for his money. And let's ignore the fact that guys can also be used for their money or status, and that people of all ages can have emotional baggage. But sure, let's just base all our relationship decisions on age and ignore all the other important factors. That's a recipe for a happy and fulfilling life, right?

snsjsthrowj · 2023-01-16T19:46:42+00:00

Not necessarily. I wouldnt settle with a woman 5 years out of my age range personally but there are pros and cons that come from dating younger and older women. I have friends that are with women in their 40s and 50s and these women are 8's, 9's, and 10's with emotional intelligence. A lot of younger chicks don't know what the hell they want. Thank God I found a girl in my age range that knows what the fuck she wants and is easy on the eyes

Lol I thought a woman that has her kinks figured out was a good thing.. To each their own I guess lol

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-01-18T06:09:56+00:00

“Oh no, she’s going to know what she wants, boundaries and be able to recognize abuse”

Lol your ego is bruised up

Usual-Fix-3938 · 2023-02-02T07:19:45+00:00

I want to know if I date a 31 year old female to old for me I’m 25

Playful-Builder-5995 · 2023-03-12T16:23:37+00:00

All down to personal experience. My wife is 10 years older than me. Best decision I ever made.

Flightlessbirbz · 2023-01-16T20:22:19+00:00

Or a woman can have a lot of baggage from her parents and first relationships at 20, as well as sexual hangups, and learn to let some of these things go by 30. Or reeling from a divorce and bitter at 30, and happy and ready to enjoy life at 40. Baggage and sexual taste is not always linear.

Nobody is forcing you to date older women. But this isn’t a good reason not to. The only thing older women generally will not be is naive and stupid. So I’d say it’s less about “baggage” and more about looks and easy manipulation.

Title	Why dating/marrying older women is bad deal
Author	suj1290
Upvotes	16
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Date	January 14, 2023 3:12 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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