Hard time getting good sleep

Benzon22s · 2024-01-29T09:40:54+00:00

The time I have my kids is the only time I get good sleep if you can imagine that as when they are gin that’s when I’m drinking and just overthinking the whole life situation….fml there days I drink 48hrs straight

Flimsy-Ad-1959 · 2024-01-29T05:53:30+00:00

Same dude. 3+ weeks and still not sleeping well. Up every night at 3 am. Even doing some CBD and THC to help.

probebeta · 2024-01-29T05:30:14+00:00

Exercise like your life depended on it. Not saying go get injured but I tried to redirect all anger and sadness towards exercise and it does wonders, especially once you start looking better. You need some wins to get you back on track and this might help with sleep too.

Apprehensive-Cost496 · 2024-01-28T23:00:26+00:00

Exercise and getting my mind focused on a punch list really helped me out. Also don't laugh, but a diffuser and essential oils has been game changing for helping me get to sleep. I used to laugh at folks trying to hock that stuff on social media but I'm a convert. I sleep like a baby now!

allendale100000 · 2024-01-28T22:26:55+00:00

Not for everyone, but my shrink prescribed me Valium. It helped a ton.

facebookgivesmeangst · 2024-01-28T20:46:16+00:00

Psychologist recommended this book that I found helpful:

Sacred Rest by Dr Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

The only https://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Rest-Recover-Energy-Restore/dp/1478921676

moveonplease45 · 2024-01-28T20:37:22+00:00

I’ve got the same issue. Nothing really works. The only thing that does is when my mind/body become so exhausted I finally get a full nights sleep.

I’m struggling to find time right now to add in any significant exercise — however, a couple times I was able to work out cardio to where I was tanked and I got decent sleep because of that.

Judge ordered a temp order and i have to find a place, with access to little money in a garbage rental market — so that’s added a ton of stress. And hence my sleep sucks.

However, I know I’ll figure it out, and once I do I plan to use the extra time to have a consistent workout regiment. And hopefully that curbs it.

Things that work better than nothing (but don’t get me a full nights sleep): - melatonin - l-theanine - therapy - just venting occasionally to someone that’s willing to listen. Eventually even I get tired of talking about it and it shifts my brain

One4All992 · 2024-01-28T19:35:55+00:00

Zzzzzquil with stress relief & melatonin. 60% of the time it works every time.

Secret_Substance_562 · 2024-01-28T18:57:32+00:00

Trazodone. Old, generic antidepressant that only succeeded in making people sleepy. Take 30” before bed. Wake up with zero hangover. Doctors don’t mind writing it because it’s not habit forming, is cheap, and works.

Academic_Mistake_751 · 2024-01-28T18:29:49+00:00

I haven’t been the same since meditation when my stbxw fucking asked for $11/000 a month for 5 years, $10,000 a month for another 5 years, 1/3 of my retirement AND a $100,000 equalization payment. It’s affecting my present relationship, I can’t sleep either. Tried exercising alot and drinking both aren’t helping

captainchippsixx · 2024-01-28T18:26:22+00:00

I’m going to try magnesium. I also say a vid on magnesium oil on your feet before bed is very effective

pooseypie · 2024-01-28T18:11:10+00:00

Youtube search jason stevenson sleep meditiation.

They help

tyyyy110 · 2024-01-28T18:08:35+00:00

Exercise and start seeing other women to help take your mind off all the sh*t. 🤷🏾‍♂️

awaythrow-8675309 · 2024-01-28T17:52:00+00:00

I wish I had the answer as I'm dealing with the same. It's hard to sleep and work is also killing me so if it's not thinking of her then it's work and it's an awful cycle. Melatonin doesn't do much for me, zzzquil kind of helped. Really the only thing was a muscle relaxer but of course I don't recommend that regularly. Sometimes I'd sleep better but I'm back now in a cycle where I am not sleeping well. She's moving out today so tonight will be my first night alone in the house empty. I'm terrified.

Particular_Car7127 · 2024-01-28T17:39:38+00:00

See a doctor or Psychiatrist for help sleeping, an antidepressant may help as well.

Capable_Luck_2817 · 2024-01-28T16:02:38+00:00

Exercise and if you still need something melatonin (but only 2-3x per week at most).

WildernessHuntin · 2024-01-28T15:41:17+00:00

I exercised during the day when I felt peak stress. Sometimes twice a day. It doesn’t have to be crazy, so what you can, even a 15 minute walk helps. I had the same sleep issues, I have read a lot of us have.

Time, it got naturally better over time. One year out and sleep is basically back to normal, aside from the occasional nightmare. Melatonin helped get me to sleep. I meditate when I first get in bed, it takes a week or two, 10 minutes a night to really have an effect for me. Headspace app has short easy to follow meditations. No alcohol. Audible books helped. When I would wake up multiple times a night for the first 5 months, I would put a book on with a timer to distract my thoughts. I would typically wake to a nightmare and immediately be absorbed by thinking about everything. I’ve read this is your mind processing trauma, often waking you when you enter REM sleep.

I feel for you, it was miserable. It sucks but you just have to do the healthy things that you can, and be patient with yourself.

IllustriousCry672 · 2024-01-28T15:37:24+00:00

Time will help; I was the same way, I couldn't sleep for months afterwards. Couldn't eat either, was part of the reason I lost over 60 lbs the first 10 weeks.

But..it gets better. You'll still have the dreams and the thoughts, (at least 2 years out I still do) but they come less and don't bother as much when they do.

Sudden_Ad_4193 · 2024-01-28T15:31:57+00:00

Doobies man, roll a joint, pack a bowl of some kind buds. You’ll sleep like a rock. It even keeps me from waking up to go pee.

CrazySanta7 · 2024-01-28T15:19:24+00:00

Losing weight, sleep, etc is normal and will take time. Don't drink alcohol thinking that will help. Melatonin does not work for me but i bought an HCI based sleep aid that did. Its OTC. Prescription sleep aids did not help at all. I was more tired when i woke up and had nightmares. Make sure and exercise 3-4 days per week. You don't feel like it....i get it, but its huge with stress, etc.

upandatom85 · 2024-01-28T15:01:05+00:00

Exercise and cut out the drugs and alcohol.

Give it some time. You're going through hell. Your brain is trying to process the shit she's put you through.

I wish you the best, man.

WartimeDad · 2024-01-28T14:43:55+00:00

Really hard exercise to complete physical exhaustion and meditation (you don’t have to do it well).

This difficulty in sleeping can be really tough to beat.

tragicaddiction · 2024-01-28T14:36:06+00:00

deep breathing, meditation are all very helpful for me

Title	Hard time getting good sleep
Author	Acceptable_Meat3824
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Date	January 28, 2024 2:13 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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