Had sex on first date, got blocked immediately after

recyclablebanthas · 2022-02-20T01:15:47+00:00

I’m 23M. Me and this girl met up for ice cream, and ended up at my place for a hookup about an hour later. Everything seemed fine, then when she got back home, she blocked me on everything.

Could be a million different things, but it wasn't random. There was just something going on with her that she didn't feel like sharing. It happens. Some likely candidates:

Too insecure to handle the fact you didn't finish.
Cheating on someone and covering her tracks.
Conservative and felt bad about doing the nasty.

And so on. But there's always a reason. People just don't always have the wherewithal or desire to share their feelings.

ectbot · 2022-02-17T06:42:28+00:00

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drgreen987 · 2022-02-17T05:53:24+00:00

Embarrassment after hooking up like that

spicy_simba · 2022-02-17T06:55:11+00:00

Better to not make assumptions, and draw conclusions.

It could be anything.

Just let it be,

rrcecil · 2022-02-17T10:41:55+00:00

It sucks. I was very seriously dating a girl and she did this after like four months. First time in a long time I thought I was in love too.

ClintEasthood81 · 2022-02-17T06:26:53+00:00

Doesn't matter, had sex?

determinator94 · 2022-02-17T06:19:44+00:00

If she made a big deal because you didn’t cum, um… what?? Like… most girls will MOCK and INSULT a guy behind his back for cumming too quick! I mean did you make HER cum at least?

princelydeeds · 2022-02-17T12:39:22+00:00

Dude it could literally be anything, like anything...

It could be embarrassment, guilt, shame, remorse...

She could have completely misheard or misinterpreted something you said...

She could have a boyfriend, she could think you have a girlfriend...

She might think you are a beta male, you're annoying, have bad breath, have a little dick or that you're terrible in bed (not trying to be mean)...

She might simply be trying to ghost you before you ghost her...

I could tell you about a million different women and experiences I've had with women where they come up with the weirdest, strangest conclusions based on 100% faulty, logic and reason...

I met a woman once on a Saturday, we spent the next week together, basically every possible waking moment, When she wasn't at work. We fucked no less than 20x that week. She asked me to meet her for lunch so that we could fuck. We had amazing chemistry in the bedroom and out of the bedroom.

That Friday she told me she was going out of town on a pre-planned trip. I knew something was wrong because her energy was completely different. She kissed me and told me she was falling in love with me before she left...

When she came back, she completely ghosted me and didn't speak to me for several days. I had left something valuable at her house and I wanted to collect my shit. So I took a chance and went to her job, which was around the corner from her house, around the time she was getting off of work.

We talked, she told me that I knew she had a boyfriend (5 hours away) and that I had violated her relationship by some small, insignificant thing she claimed I did to her (don't remember what she said it was).

My take away... She was a total liar, she absolutely never told me she had a boyfriend, nothing in her actions said she had a boyfriend... She had a bunch of pictures with her and this big fat dude, that I assumed was her brother....😂 She was at the time and still is very much into physical fitness (even in her 30s she competes in fitness events). She's actually married to the guy, he weighs probably 350+, and she is literally a competitive fitness person... 🤷‍♂️

I could tell you lots of similar stories of women lying, being weird, coming to crazy ass conclusions that make zero sense, assuming things that no reasonable person would ever assume. Dont take it personal, she'll probably contact you sooner or later and if not... Of well life moves on.... Put zero thought into it...

iclap2fap · 2022-02-17T05:49:24+00:00

Problem solved itself onto the next

BestAdviceYouCanHave · 2022-02-17T12:19:01+00:00

Women sometimes have “guilt sex”. They do the nasty and then go home and cry feeling guilty. They don’t like to feel like sluts although they did something slutty.

NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr · 2022-02-17T13:05:52+00:00

Always cum. Women take it personally if you don't. (They need ego boosts just as much as men do).

kscotty84 · 2022-02-17T12:37:51+00:00

Lol this exact happened to me. The girl was super relious, even yelled at me for being atheist. We get back to my place we hook up. I never hear from her again. We are both in our 30s. This is going to happen to you a lot. Get used to it. You are probably going to do it to a lot of girls without even noticing it.

TremblingWilbury · 2022-02-17T06:39:44+00:00

Whelp, I'm looking forward to the doublex post about what you did wrong...

rickmackdaddy · 2022-02-17T12:58:18+00:00

She got home. The guy she just broke up with was on her doorstep with flowers and got her back.

Or she just wanted a one time hookup as a life experience.

Or the sex/smell/breath something was so bad she can’t wash her brain and get rid of it.

Or she’s just nuts.

Or…

You’ll never know.

creamyturtle · 2022-02-17T13:07:49+00:00

yes she was offended. some girls take that shit super personally, others don't care at all. idk

Revolutionary_Wind_8 · 2022-02-17T07:11:14+00:00

Girls get insecure if you don’t nut fam. A lot of them are downright mean… m

SpecialPowerss · 2022-02-17T05:51:56+00:00

I wouldn't fret over this. At the end of the day you won. You can't control the will of another human being.

buriedpain · 2022-02-17T13:05:21+00:00

She might have felt incredibly insecure and shameful about having had sex on the first date. It might not be anything to do with you… so I wouldn’t take it personally (this is from my own experience with similar feelings).

Minute-Lie-2287 · 2022-02-17T07:15:10+00:00

Dad's a pastor= crazy AF.

Dad's a pastor, cop, community figure....I going 20 to 1 closet ho

Guilt and reputation...that's all you have to know here.

She's built her life around this and is a pro at it, how do you think ms.random hookup got you to believe she was a goody two shoes?

Vulturo · 2022-02-17T11:54:22+00:00

She needed a hookup. Don't worry about it.

As they say: Doesn't matter. Had sex.

BridgeBurner22 · 2022-02-17T14:14:34+00:00

She doesn't want her boyfriend to know she had sex with you.

Gold_Telephone7310 · 2022-02-17T08:07:39+00:00

Hi Can I have one vanilla ice cream and a girl

ngyuhnang · 2022-02-17T06:57:39+00:00

Had that happened to me before, she probably thought she acted like a slut and got embarrassed. Don’t think too much into it.

lastlifonti · 2022-02-17T07:50:41+00:00

You didn’t pop, my bro! She’s probably thinking…”dis MFer…I give him the vag…he didn’t blast?!?!?”😳😮

learningfromlife1096 · 2022-02-17T08:18:27+00:00

Maybe it was just terrible for her. Don't overthink! Few months later, you will something to laugh about.

incognito3107 · 2022-02-17T08:00:23+00:00

Yes, both of these options may be a validate reason. You didn't smell anything when you split up?

2022-02-17T12:17:10+00:00

Childish as fuck to do what she did. If the roles had been reversed, and YOU were the girl talking about how the big bad mean guy blocked you after hooking up, you know DAMN WELL no one would be blaming you for it the way they are in this. She doesn't get a free pass to treat people like shit just because she's a female. She's a piece of shit and should be viewed as such.

hayhio · 2022-02-17T09:22:09+00:00

As a woman, my first thought is you possibly made her uncomfortable and/or she might feel taken advantage of or used. Did she seem hesitant to hook up? Maybe she's shy and doesn't know how to stand up for herself so she just froze and let you do whatever?

It’s sad to say but most younger, inexperienced women have a hard time standing up for themselves. If I had to guess I’d say part of this is because we're conditioned to NEVER be “rude” or hurt someone’s feelings or risk making someone upset. And as a result we often let ourselves get hurt and taken advantage of because we genuinely have ZERO practice in being assertive or telling someone “no, I don’t want to do that.” Then as we get older, we either learn to put ourselves first or we end up perpetually traumatized by people.

My advice is pay attention to nonverbal cues, or if you know that isn’t your strength, then learn to communicate as the act progresses instead. Even a simple “hey, are you okay?” Or “hey do we need to slow down?” is good.

And despite what some dudes think, those questions don’t “ruin the moment,” but in my experience they make the act way more enjoyable because I instantly feel safer with that person when they check in with me like that, I can relax, get more into it, and then there’s the added benefit of thinking, “Oh, this guy actually cares enough to make sure I’m into it? Damn, this dude just got 10x hotter and I’m way more turned on now, let’s have fun with this!”

And of course, learning to communicate and check in like that will help avoid potential situations where your partner is too nervous/shy/scared/whatever to object. A good rule of thumb is if someone doesn't enthusiastically respond to your advances, it’s safe to say they're not into it and you need to slow wayyy down or completely stop, or else they’ll just feel violated.

always_stay_activ3 · 2022-02-17T11:00:35+00:00

Yup don’t feel bad sometimes it happens... you were really bad! So bad she blocked you 🤣

rahhumilovedogs · 2022-02-17T09:47:18+00:00

You were not good in bed lol

DrewDaMannn · 2022-02-17T06:20:48+00:00

I read this and my jaw dropped. I’m curious now too lmao

fishmonger7 · 2022-02-17T10:16:07+00:00

At least you got to hookup. Get what you can, not everything has to be a love story.

doomer_692001 · 2022-02-17T10:52:44+00:00

Bitches come n go bruh bet you know I stay

yourlittleman01 · 2022-02-17T07:41:30+00:00

You got the sex, now move on :)

Extra-Boysenberry · 2022-02-17T10:29:00+00:00

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SteamboatHowie · 2022-02-17T05:47:29+00:00

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How safe is it for your skin?

Put chicken in it and kiss the cook.

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Burn your neck to people like me

Follow this story.

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Follow this story.

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alexmaycovid · 2022-02-17T07:35:51+00:00

What was your reaction when you didn't cum? Were you nervous or you just oh ha ha fun it's not big of a deal. Because she feels your attitude and it might be the cause. Or she just feels embraced that she slept with you so fast and think you may think bad of her for that. Or she does this with every hook ups. This varies. Don't bother just move on

CenaSmackDown · 2022-02-17T07:36:33+00:00

Yeah she probably wants to forget she was such a slut to give it up so fast and that typically she never does that. Either it had nothing to do with you, or you did something incredibly stupid to make her feel like a slut and never want to talk to you again.

caledonguy · 2022-02-17T11:23:44+00:00

Sometimes that happens. Not anything calculable. She may be going thru some shiz. Happened once to a freind. He banged a girl off tinder and boom blocked on snap.

hcarguy · 2022-02-17T11:26:30+00:00

Happened to me once. Probably she just got really embarrassed about having a ONS and didn't want to deal with it. Don't worry about it.

AnxiousLocksmith9557 · 2022-02-17T13:16:33+00:00

How are you gonna NOT tell us how it went down?

2022-02-17T13:32:16+00:00

It's strange, but you've got to take it in stride. Believe it or not, you can actually spot those who are likely to do this sort of thing. Pay attention to your chemistry.

yeahthatslifedarling · 2022-02-17T14:14:57+00:00

I read you and I can find 12 reasons I would get you out of my life.

DoctorForesight · 2022-02-17T14:19:26+00:00

You couldn't cum? I've had the same problem since I lost my virginity a year ago. I'm starting to think it's because of porn.

PanoMano0 · 2022-02-17T14:26:19+00:00

Similar story. Been messaging for a minute. She says she’s back in town and wants to hang. I get to her place. Eventually we get to her giving me head. Didn’t cum. She wanted to cuddle a lil longer but I had to get back home. She hits me up the following day but I had shit I needed done. Few weeks later I noticed she unfollowed and unfriended me on IG and FB

Paltenburg · 2022-02-17T14:50:48+00:00

Its weird, but I (as a guy) had it the other way round once as well. I showed up for the date: She was nice but didn't look at the pictures at alll. Still, she was nice and fun, and while I was there, I did want to have sex with her, which we did. But as soon as I walked out that door I had zero intention of seeing her again. (Don't worry, it was gonna be a hookup date to begin with)

keyson5 · 2022-02-17T15:00:50+00:00

It happened to me, but bot immediately after. Might not have to do with your performance, honestly. Trust me.

nbh1995 · 2022-02-17T15:02:59+00:00

Can't really tell what the reason is..anyone fuck this bitch...I was not able to finish many times and that was just due to nervs and ed nothing to do with how attractive the girl was...

kanyesbathroommirror · 2022-02-17T15:04:51+00:00

Maybe your junk tastes funny.

sonybravo · 2022-02-17T15:17:05+00:00

bro i’m 27 still a virgin i wouldn’t be bothered by it. But that sucks though

halalShawarma · 2022-02-17T15:19:41+00:00

Men , we don't know what we did !

KyleTheKing24 · 2022-02-17T15:24:54+00:00

you’ll never know you still hit tho

Sawt0othGrin · 2022-02-17T15:33:19+00:00

Bitches, as they say, crazy

Normal-Profile-3893 · 2022-02-17T15:42:57+00:00

Dude, I'm 29 and i felt what is if my dick not getting up sometime. So you problem it's not problem. About girl, maybe she have a opinion about how much time need to date before first sex. So she's ashamed, or she have a husband, or anything else.

saltamuros1 · 2022-02-17T15:56:54+00:00

Is this real?

AVGVSTVS_OPTIMVS · 2022-02-17T15:58:52+00:00

She's "finding herself"

Neil1398 · 2022-02-17T16:25:58+00:00

Maybe she had a bf or something. If everything seemed okay, it’s possible.

Or, she’s been down this road before and didn’t want to get too attached to you since it was just sex with you and not too much of a connection

rkaniminew · 2022-02-17T16:26:35+00:00

"not offended, just kinda curious"
Don't lie dude, that shit stings. It hits you in the ego, especially the first time something like that happens. And it's okay to feel that. So of course you're gonna be left with questions, and honestly there's no real answer or resolve.
If it makes you feel better as an individual though, it's very common for girls on hook up sites / apps to fuck around then block, moving on to another fuck. Because for them it's the excitement of multiples and a new person. And they're afraid if they feel attachment it'll take away from all the dick.

But, yeah no lie- sometimes guys have to fake cumming when they're done, or else the girl will start to feel self-conscious like she did something wrong. Which could be the situation here. She felt like she wasn't "pleasing" enough if she couldn't get you off, and because her internalization of it went negative, she blocked you in a subconscious respite.

Title	Had sex on first date, got blocked immediately after
Author	Extra-Boysenberry
Upvotes	306
Comments	150
Date	February 17, 2022 5:46 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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