The fool-proof way of making more connections, meeting more women, and meeting likeminded people. This is impossible to mess up.

Allgegenwart · 2019-10-16T03:58:04+00:00

In what sense can "Have a lasting impression" be considered an elementary aspect of one's lifestyle?

I do not mean to argue or deny that it is a highly beneficial trait. However, it does seem like a rather complex ability, emerging out of the sum of many other behavioral and personal traits (being sociable, being sincere, being affirmative, being emphatic, being fun, and so on and so forth).

To me this last point of "have a lasting impression" does not seem to fit into the list, as the first two steps are elementary things that can be done in their own right, whereas this last step is an outcome of multiple other traits. It's like saying, "Be an attractive person".

Perhaps I am missing something. I'm genuinely wondering.

Broke_back_cat · 2019-10-16T02:58:47+00:00

Yoga. You’ll look great, be a beast in bed, and get to hang with females with bombass bodies.

rappingwhiteguys · 2019-10-16T03:38:43+00:00

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used_npkin · 2019-10-16T02:11:34+00:00

What are some good hobbies?

australopitecul · 2019-10-16T03:51:58+00:00

Very good advice. I do volunteering which is awesome. But I need to find 2 more hobbies.

HKM00 · 2019-10-16T06:03:44+00:00

List of hobby which doesn't cost a shid load of money and full or people ?

MetalJaguar · 2019-10-16T03:26:59+00:00

MAGIC THE GATHERING

BeeeEazy · 2019-10-16T21:51:11+00:00

I fully agree.

Two years ago, I left a job a loved in the music industry because it wasn’t cutting it, but also because the woman I loved hated my job. We were on a break during my transition into my new job, and within a month or so, she left anyway.

We were living together, but before the breakup was official, I moved home to give her space, shorten my new commute, and focus 110% on my new job which was and is more difficult, but also to show her that she meant more to me than any job I could ever have.

Needless to say, leaving my dream job and the woman I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with hurt me to an enormous extent. It took me almost a full year to start feeling like myself again. When something like that happens, it totally derails you. You lose yourself in the process, and sometimes you never find yourself again.

I got lucky... I made strong connections in the music industry, and made a lasting impression on my boss who fought for me to get every penny I deserved while working in it, and almost equally strong impressions on my peers. Fast forward to current day: still at the gig I left for, I worked on 15 music festivals this summer, generated boatloads of money doing this on the side, and I’m opening a new music venue on the side as well.

All of these things together has put me at 6-figure earnings this year, reinvigorated my love of life because my passion is back, and I’m surrounded by likeminded people that understand what I want in life, know the value you I bring to the table, and have stuck their necks out for me professionally. THESE ARE THE TYPES OF PEOPLE YOU MEET WHEN YOU FOLLOW YOUR PASSIONS IN LIFE. NEVER SETTLE FOR SOMETHING. FOR THE FIRST TIME IN TWO YEARS, IM FUCKING PROUD OF MYSELF.

eddboat112 · 2019-10-16T05:49:22+00:00

I love music production, and singing.. i thought about joining a choir but i have no idea where to start looking, most are looking for experienced singers. And for music production, it's something i do alone at my house, and i have yet to find anybody that shares that passion for creating music with me quite yet

assman37 · 2019-10-16T16:16:28+00:00

I disagree. Have one hobby and maximize it. I also think social dancing is far superior to Yoga. Yoga has tonnes of women even higher ratios of women to men than social dancing but the problem is that it has no social element. During a yoga practice people don't talk to each other at all. So the only point you can actually connect is at the conclusion of the Yoga practice or before it starts...you have to come early and stay late.

Contrast this with Salsa dancing. In Salsa you have two type of opportunities to socialize:

at the socials where you will meet a wide variety of people and socialize with them for small amounts of time each week e.g. you dance with 10-15 women in one night and talk a bit during the song. There are also opportunities for longer conversations since people often need to rest after dancing for a certain amount of time. Any women you really connect with, you can extract and try to spend more time with.
In dance classes. This is best as the people here are often single and came to dance classes precisely because they wanted to meet people. Dance classes allow you to connect better with people since you are dealing with far fewer people and meeting them regularly each week.

Now the posters solution require multiple hobbites to maximize your chances. My solution is simpler...just maximize the existing hobby e.g. go to more socials, go to more dance classes. In an reasonably large city you will probably have 10 or more salsa classes going on simultaneously. And some type of social event each day of the week related to Salsa. Go to all of them. Focusing on one hobby is much easier than focusing on multiple ones and you will ascend the learning curve far more quickly...though THIS SHOULD NOT BE YOUR FOCUS. Your focus should be meeting women who are single and potentially interested. For instance, attend 3 beginner salsa classes is far superior to attending 1 beginner class, 2 intermediates...since its the beginners who are most likely to be single and interested.

jane_avril · 2019-10-16T06:41:30+00:00

r/restofthefuckingowl

NookSwzy · 2019-10-16T18:45:52+00:00

Is this sub getting flooded by incels? I swear, the number of women-hating dudes in here is ridiculous.

ImJustSo · 2019-10-16T12:02:37+00:00

Two to three hobbies? You gotta pump those numbers up, those are rookie numbers! But seriously, never stop learning. Not just hobbies, but skills. A hobby doesn't have to be fun, it can be hard as fuck and so interesting that you don't want to ignore it. Some fun hobbies, some hard hobbies, just balance yourself.

Here's a list of things I do, come back to, or have done over the years.

As a child: soccer, tae kwon do, judo, jeetkundo, tournaments, painting, drawing, reading, BMX, inline skate, skateboarding, dirt bikes, mountain biking, hiking, fishing, video games.

As a teenager: Video games and guitar.

As a young adult: Video games.

As an adult 25-36yo: College, reading, table tennis, weight lifting, yoga, personal style, personal grooming, learned to cut other people's hair/beards, learned how to use a HVLP spray gun, fishing, camping, learned to crochet, gardening, home-brewing, kombucha brewing, volunteering at nearby refugee center, I can cook like a mother fucker (chef shit, yo), guitar, harmonica, ukulele, and I can sing/play about 150 songs that I learned all since February. I hadn't played guitar since I was a kiddo, picked it up and learned to play (again) and sing.

So if you look back through my life I had a dry spell. That dry spell of inactivity is marked by depression and loneliness, signified by my minimal interests. I thought that perhaps people didn't want to be around me, or that they would never want me. Perhaps they didn't back then.

Things are different now and I am just irresistible to lots of people. What I mean is that they seduce themselves over me. All the things that I am are all things that I went through out of daily desires to change something. My hair. My beard. My clothing. My body. My food. My musical ability. My desire for women. I don't have to try to be anything more, because people just hear or see who I am or what I can do and they are seduced by it.

On top of that, then I smile. Then I open my mouth and nice things come out, pleasant things, interesting things, funny things, considerate things, sexy things.

Outside of work or school work, hobbies are the only things that give you life experiences. If you don't actively seek them, then you're not actively seeking to better yourself. If you're trying to sell a woman on the idea of you, then stop selling 5 year old milk. You're stagnant and stale, but you're still you. Go out and do stuff, freshen up everything about your life. You'll still be yourself, you'll just be much more interesting than curdled milk.

I was unattractive to people for a period of my life, I was stagnant, unchanging, unhappy. The moment I started to change things, I started becoming happy. When I started becoming happy, people started to want it and enjoy it.

UrielFrankel · 2019-10-16T05:57:29+00:00

I used to go to a dancing lessons. The girls would literally fighting over me.

FairAnalyst · 2019-10-17T12:22:44+00:00

The congruent part of these activities is tough. You can't just dabble in them, you have to be actually decent at it. Not just be decent but 'part of the scene' - like talk like a regular in it - know the big names etc. At that point they're part of who you are. Anyways, I used to do something like this, my recommendations are:

swing/blues/salsa dancing - you will get girls coming up to you to chat and dance pretty much nonstop - they'll beg you to dance with them

climbing - social atmosphere - easy to talk to people in the hobby because they're usually pretty serious about it to the point its their personality

volunteering animal shelters - you get to be with animals and girls that love them

mma/boxing training - this isn't really for the social atmosphere - but it it really makes people's eyebrows rise when you're doing a 'vanilla' social activity and you do some sort of fight training on the side. Like you've got depth. You'd be surprised how many girls do some sort of fight training such as kickboxing and on the weekends dress up in nice outfits to go blues dancing.

I'd avoid a lot of solo activities like yoga. It can be a social activity if effort is put in, but its easier to go with activities that are naturally social such as dancing is.

dengaz · 2019-10-16T02:50:59+00:00

Keeping a hobby for me is just difficult, always changing and getting bored , woe is me lol

SnapSocialGuru · 2019-10-16T02:50:38+00:00

Mountain biking, Crossfit, Rafting/Skiing!

KND_DNK · 2019-10-16T18:01:34+00:00

How would I find connections when the hobbies are done at home/single handedly? I.e. Art, magic tricks, etc?

theosamabahama · 2019-10-16T11:06:41+00:00

Playing guitar ! A classic to attract girls. Any cool musical instrument really. Also singing.

2019-10-16T16:33:23+00:00

You can lead a horse to water...

SnapSocialGuru · 2019-10-17T14:29:26+00:00

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401kisfun · 2019-10-20T17:53:54+00:00

What are some of your struggles? What is the most important thing your parents taught you? What is your favorite memory? And then what happened? If you could travel anywhere where would you go? When did you know you first loved X (hobby) Observations are also really important. A decade ago, I was in a Vegas bar. A real cute girl sat down by herself (also key, girls alone at the bar are rare, always try to strike up a conversation there) - I first talked for to the bartender, and 2 people next to me, wishing them a happy new year. I then started talking to her. She told me she was fighting with her bf, the room sucked, etc I replied ‘you seem like a good person, but you are a victim of circumstance’ Dood, her face lit up, she looked really struck by that statement. I said I was about to leave, she asked me to stay and told the bartender to get me another drink of what I was having. I did really leave after that to meet my friends for lunch. So as long as you make quick, short remarks about other people, directly speaking to their point, it really signals you are paying attention.

PieterDeGieter2 · 2019-10-27T12:27:34+00:00

All of my hobbies consist of me doing stuff by myself, my fault for picking non-group activities.

MixxMaster · 2019-12-19T06:50:22+00:00

So much bs, all wrapped up in vagueness...

SithLordJediMaster · 2019-10-16T02:11:31+00:00

Shoot! I messed up before I even got to #1. Not going to make it.

Rnexen · 2019-10-16T05:19:01+00:00

Or maybe just do what you want and seek true connection at your own pace IDK JUST A THOUGHT

SnapSocialGuru · 2019-10-16T03:51:37+00:00

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popzelda · 2022-06-26T15:04:00+00:00

While hobbies can (sometimes) be a way to meet social groups, this oversimplification leaves out some important points:

Learn how to listen to people and ask questions.
Learn how to connect with people.
Put yourself into situations where you meet new people regularly.
Keep practicing the above over and over.

Title	The fool-proof way of making more connections, meeting more women, and meeting likeminded people. This is impossible to mess up.
Author	SnapSocialGuru
Upvotes	2969
Comments	224
Date	October 16, 2019 12:11 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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