How would you rank these 3 dating choices and why?

krackedy · 2024-04-22T13:00:42+00:00

1, 3, 2.

If it wasn't for the kid it'd be 3, 1, 2.

Either way 2 is last because people who claim all their exes are toxic do not interest me. It shows zero ability to self reflect.

Legitimate_Type_1324 · 2024-04-22T13:10:41+00:00

Yea I stay single thanks

Gravel_Roads · 2024-04-22T13:10:54+00:00

It would depend on which one I was most compatible with, personality wise. Since that's what I'll be interacting with every day.

Thoughts:

Choice 1 is closest to what I'd date. I've done sex work before, too, so we'd have a lot to talk about. She sounds like she has a decent amount of hustle, since online sex is all about good marketing (for every one person that's successful, there are literally thousands of people who hardly top $100 a month due to poor marketing.)

HOWEVER: Choice 1 wants kids, and I do not want kids. So that probably disqualifies her from my list.

Choice 2 sounds like the worst. I hate when people paint themselves as the sole victim - even when you date a shitty person (and most of us have dated at least one shitty person), you have the opportunity to learn about YOURSELF, what drew you to that person (it's embarrassing how often it comes down to "I got along with them because they reminded me of my abusive parent, who I spent a lot of time LEARNING how to get along with, so I'm good at it.") When someone blames all their problems on other people, it suggests they aren't taking any action to introspect. It turns into learned helplessness.

Choice 3 would probably be a poor fit, ideologically, as I have a lot of problems with how the military conducts itself. I've had female friends that were in the military (I ran in Tough Mudder with one!), and I find it impressive when a woman can push herself. (Her having a 4 year old isn't a problem for me. Older kids are much easier to deal with than babies; I had a stepdad myself.) But it would get hard to have shared ground in a long term relationship.

Devilishz3 · 2024-04-22T12:59:01+00:00

3>1>2

Pacman124 · 2024-04-22T14:43:49+00:00

TIL I'm a volcel

Solondthewookiee · 2024-04-22T13:21:28+00:00

Guess it depends what branch and billet, but 3 is the only one I'd even consider, but the kid makes things tough. The other two don't have enough economic stability for me.

WanabeInflatable · 2024-04-22T13:26:19+00:00

3, 1, 2.

Strong women are cool. Daughter can be a problem, but properly set boundaries in relationships mitigate that.

Porn star past is not that big deal, being professional vloger is a strange occupation, I'd prefer someone who has education and profession.

2 is out of the question. If she had one toxic ex, probably he was a problem. If she had lots of toxic exes - definitely she was a problem. Women can ruin men's lives and 2 is a walking redflag

SlowEffective8146 · 2024-04-22T13:56:30+00:00

3-1-2, they all sound pretty ass though

ComfortableJeans · 2024-04-22T13:25:23+00:00

Without the kid, 3 would be fantastic. But I don't really want kids.

2 and 1 are people I could just never be with. They're about the same for me.

So I guess... 3, then 2 - 1 if I HAD to pick.

TotalTravesty · 2024-04-22T13:28:17+00:00

1, 3, 2 though I’m not thrilled about the idea of having kids. 2 seems like a nutcase though.

abaxeron · 2024-04-22T13:40:59+00:00

Choice 1. Other two both distant behind, doesn't really matter if one is slightly ahead of the other. But I perfectly understand that 1 and 3 are entirely fictional.

thedarkracer · 2024-04-22T13:41:03+00:00

3>1>2, I would like a headstrong person but I will be honest, I will end taking the lead as it happens in my own home despite me being the youngest. I am just a better decision maker. I don't want to but it always ends up like this. Recent experience 10 months worked in a restaurant in Europe during search year. In 1 month I was running the pasta section alone and a time came when waiters and waitresses would talk to me rather than the head chef, I remember one 19 yr old female colleague saying to him "Evan, niet nu" (Something like that in Dutch).

Independent-Mail-227 · 2024-04-22T15:29:29+00:00

3,2,1

3 is just the less worse option.

2 have a n count of 100, she will cheat with a 100% chance it's not even a joke. She is still invested in her exes and still search for validation, even if she stop she will still need validation.

1 is a pornstar.

berichorbeburied · 2024-04-22T13:22:27+00:00

Choice 1 is the only one I’d consider seriously

Idk why you put pornstar if she really isn’t what people would traditionally call a pornstar

And the way you worded it. It was mostly solo. And none of these hypothetical women are virgins anyway.

The other ones I’d consider maybe for casual sex?

This post made me think about a lot of things.

Like what would I actually commit to. And what does commitment actually mean. And what type of woman would I actually put effort into.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-04-22T13:17:17+00:00

I would have been ok with chilling with all three of them and just seeing who I vibed with the best.

Jazzlike_Worth_9908 · 2024-04-22T13:39:17+00:00

First one looks like a 10/10 :D serious and kinky is my type. Id be down to reopen the onlyfan and do content together

Environmental_Day558 · 2024-04-22T14:06:21+00:00

So my first inclination is 3>1>2, as I think that out of all these options 3 would be the best to start a family with as she has the most stable and high paying career. However she has a kid (my biggest turn off in dating), in the military (I used to be as well and I'm still hesitant on dating a woman in the military), and I don't like to be led in a relationship. At best I can do egalitarian decision making. That said, I'll go with 1>3>2 and hide the fact she did porn from everyone.

DumbWordsmith · 2024-04-22T14:57:14+00:00

Choice 1 is the only one worth ranking IMO, but that type is not for me.

The other two seem like shit shows waiting to happen. Choice 2 might off me in my sleep.

Edit: Whoops, I misread the third one. Since it was her husband who got busted with hookers, my ranking would be Choice 3 and then Choice 1, but I wouldn't pursue either.

Horned-Beast · 2024-04-22T15:26:20+00:00

zero, all of them, why?

option 1 - pstar, automatically no. They all tend to thought shift and think of sex, intimacy, relationships differently than "vanilla" couples. It's a side effect of the lifestyle. Most intimate moments get looked at as transactional, regardless how hard they try, it just doesn't work out to support a long term relationship.

option 2- body count too high, too much emotional damage that has never been professionally addressed.

The common denominator in all hee failed attempts is her. Not to mention she us constantly seeking affirmation and attention. huge red flag.

option 3- confirmed cheater. would never trust her in a relationship. Top thst off with behaviors inconsistent with being a partner in a relationship. It would be nothing more than a constant war zone.

lolthankstinder · 2024-04-23T02:25:16+00:00

Start out casual with number 2, wrap it before ya tap it. Or test it before you infest it? Something like that lol. Go on serious dates with 1, 2, & 3. With a clear head from consistent sex and finally actually having a choice for the first time in my life, I could be more picky about their personality and intelligence and stuff.

obviousredflag · 2024-04-22T13:06:37+00:00

A mother always ranks lowest for me, no matter what.

I don't care bout body count or income, nut claiming all her exes were toxic is hinting at problems with herself that i don't want to be part in. But i'd do the 1-2 dates sexual relationship with her.

The former pornstar looks like the best option, if pornstar isn't what her intellectual level is restricting her to and that was just an easy money choice.

gntlbastard · 2024-04-22T13:29:04+00:00

Choice 1 - Hell no

Choice 2 - Hell no

Choice 3 - Sorry, I don't date or engage in long term relationships with single mothers.

etzio500 · 2024-04-22T13:24:34+00:00

Choices 1 & 2 are both ideal, I just don’t want kids so probably more 2. And 3 last just because nothing really attractive to me in that description.

Present-Afternoon-70 · 2024-04-22T13:32:15+00:00

Literally none of the things you listed in any of the options matter at any level except for

claims all her ex partners were toxic.

This is a grey flag. It means they have a limited ability to self reflect or they cant appropriately evaluate potential partners. Still its grey because if they show they have fixed that its fine. Why is the red pill so hung up on this body count and income/leading bullshit. Its like none of you have ever been in or seen a healthy relationship.

Bouldershoulders12 · 2024-04-22T13:33:27+00:00

None of them would be viable options. The most they would be is FWB/booty call status.

The first one is automatically disqualified for being a sex worker

The second one has too many bodies and is probably short circuited alpha widowed . Plus she doesn’t have a real career.

The third one is disqualified because women with kids are out of the question.

I hate these scenario games because all of the choices have fatal flaws .

AdEffective7894s · 2024-04-22T14:28:15+00:00

Personally would take 3 but i am afraid of being in a DV situation so i would vet her for a long time.

Plus she may not like that i like her taking the lead in the relationship

3 2 1

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zoxzoxzo · 2024-04-22T14:45:30+00:00

Can't decide between 1 and 3, but 2 definitely goes to the last place

qwertyuduyu321 · 2024-04-22T19:07:01+00:00

3 > 2 > 1 (greater as in "better")

Having said that I would, under no circumstance, date any of the three ever.

Friedrich_Friedson · 2024-04-22T19:34:03+00:00

Man,they all fucking suck

Probably 2,1,3

RahLyt · 2024-04-22T21:46:15+00:00

I could fuck 1. At best The rest are unfuckable and undatable for me.

63daddy · 2024-04-22T23:14:31+00:00

I’d pass on those, but forced to chose, I’d go with #1. It sounds like she doesn’t expect to be provided for and doesn’t hate men.

SsRapier · 2024-04-22T23:16:31+00:00

1. 2.

3: I have a thing for both older and dominant women, also she seems very loyal and we can still have more kids

1: shes an ex pornstar but also seems loyal, hopefully her content would be long forgotten if we have kids.

2: a person claiming all of her 100 exes were toxic is highly likely to be lying. "If every place ypu go smells like shit, look under your shoes"

Most_Read_1330 · 2024-04-23T04:10:10+00:00

3 1 2

Da_Famous_Anus · 2024-04-23T05:30:52+00:00

Lol. None of them.

Why do the choices have to be whore, slut, or masculine single mother?

dbz___f · 2024-04-23T11:03:45+00:00

i'd literally rather date my left hand

shadowrangerfs · 2024-04-23T19:51:50+00:00

I'd go with 3 gun to my head.

Did porn is a dealbreaker. Even if it was solo stuff.
has 100 bodies is a deal breaker. Posting thirst traps is a dealbreaker and if all your exes were toxic, that means you're attracted to toxic men.
The only negative here is that she has a kid. I have no problem letting a woman take the lead as long as she's ok with a man who follows.

boom-wham-slam · 2024-04-22T13:07:44+00:00

Choice 2 for a casual relationship.
Choice 1 for serious.
Choice 2 for serious
Choice 3 is undateable, I don't date single moms no matter what. She also sounds terrible. I'd fuck her but that's it.

Choice 1 girl is the best but she only wants serious. Choice 2 girl is not as good but not in a way that matters if we can be casual, so therefore casual with number 2 is better than serious with number 1.

Title	How would you rank these 3 dating choices and why?
Author	flakybottom
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Date	April 22, 2024 12:53 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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