What do you think is the reason woman reject you

seduction-ModTeam · 2024-08-05T12:44:34+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

MysteriousWanderer99 · 2024-08-04T16:26:28+00:00

Im too afraid to approach so i havent been rejected yet.

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-08-04T16:34:32+00:00

My colleague is short and not good looking, like kevin hart, difference is he got no money. At work we call him kevin hart. He’s a baby daddy to multiple kids from multiple women and still fuck around literally up to now. Quick making excuses.

Lemme tell you this: if you don’t get no respect for yourself no women will respect you. You may not have money and broke as hell. You may be ugly like a chihuahua. But the least you must have is dignity. Don’t let others or even yourself destroy it. Pull your shit together. Quit talking about women rejecting you when you already rejected yourself.

RawBee-wasabi · 2024-08-04T16:23:17+00:00

I usually get rejected if they are married. I don’t go after married women but a few times you don’t know.

Some married women do not reject you so take my advice, reject them.

But a few will tell you right from your approach that they are. I take these as rejections and don’t try to work around it

But if I may. It seems like you may want to know how to work around being short with no money?

Ambition and confidence. Confidence is really fake it til you make it.

Ambition is easier, have a plan to not be broke and execute it. Sell the plan with passion. Be passionate about your amazing future with women

appolonysian · 2024-08-04T16:26:17+00:00

Reasons are nearly endless and generally beyond your control. It isn’t the lack of those externals that’s messing you up, it’s the fact you’re clearly insecure about them.

VrilHunter · 2024-08-04T17:52:00+00:00

When i try hard with women i like.

When i dont give two fucks about seeing the women i dont like for a second time, it always kind of works out magically.

Dandys3107 · 2024-08-04T17:25:00+00:00

She can’t see having sex with you.

Fauna_Salvaje · 2024-08-04T19:14:51+00:00

i give golden retriever vibes and look like a good guy, which is the less exciting thing for them to be intrigued by. I also lack of good or interesting conversational skills

mebunghole · 2024-08-04T21:14:06+00:00

Because I'm of South Asian descent.

DaygameCode · 2024-08-04T19:51:46+00:00

It can be all of these simultaneously:

Your lack of money
Your insecurity
Your looks
Your height
Your neediness
You are boring
Lack of compatibility
Lack of connection
Lack of game
You suck at sex
You have a small and thin dick
You act like a doormat
You act like a mister nice guy
You suck up to women with excessive flattery
You put them on a pedestal
You don’t strike when the iron is hot missing opportunities
You smell bad
You look dirty
You are too arrogant
You are weird.
She catches you on your lies
You kiss bad or have bad breath
You have a bad reputation
She is not available
She is not in the mood

JustNefariousness625 · 2024-08-04T17:15:38+00:00

A lot of times it really depends on the women’s deposition and mood. People go out for various reasons and those reasons can impact how your game is received. If a women is out with friends to celebrate a divorce you’ll be opening to a favorable set but if she’s out to forget about a death in the family that’ll probably be a unfavorable set despite your looks and mouthpiece. Also there’s times where a women gets fatigued with getting approached etc. so if she’s been there 2 hours after the first 30 minutes everybody is getting shut down instantly. If I’m out,to break ice I’ll usually talk to the staff and a couple of dudes(no homo)first just to get my social juices flowing then if I do some approach’s I’ll take notes of surroundings, music and general vibe. Keep it light and going in having no expectations, you can get rejected not take it personally and still be nice.

——-I say all that to say put yourself in the women’s shoes to realize why they reject, sometimes it’s a lot more subtle than being broke or short but then again sometimes it is lol

MaleficentFig7578 · 2024-08-04T19:39:11+00:00

autism

Amazondriver23 · 2024-08-04T20:30:41+00:00

I never try

Illusion911 · 2024-08-04T21:31:34+00:00

Because I'm not extroverted, hot and confident.

Every time I approach, even if it lasts some time, it always ends up in this scenario where the women find me ok as a person, but not someone they're interested in. And honestly this shit got me so tired I don't even want to talk to them anymore

MrAnonPoster · 2024-08-04T16:23:58+00:00

I do not care why she would spend time with Fluffy and boxed wine

UnwardedBush · 2024-08-04T17:16:34+00:00

Out of my control, but the fact I am not from a local Important family has been the cause of most of the times I was rejected lmao. Small city/town tho.

PD: girls from other cities don't mind that, but they have other standards for giving green or red light lmao.

TuneSoft7119 · 2024-08-04T20:40:14+00:00

I have been told a few common reasons.

"sorry but Im not attracted to you" or "your not attractive enough for me to want to date you"
"I only see you as a friend"
"Im actually not single"

shinn497 · 2024-08-04T23:04:59+00:00

I am just really awkward and full of anxiety. I also signal low confidence.

HCHDGSH · 2024-08-05T09:25:15+00:00

I don't care what the reason is. My thoughts start and end with me. If I see a woman I'm attracted to, I approach her because I'm curious about her and wonder if she's a right fit for me. As opposed to being head over heels with a woman you've known exists for all of three seconds because she's aesthetically pleasing, and wondering what you need to do and who you need to be to have her like you.

If she's not interested, I am thankful that I did what I had to do, and I'm happy to have quickly found out we're not compatible so it frees up my time to get to what's for me.

If you already know you'll get to the women that are for you if you put in the work, and at the same time you know the vast majority of approaches are supposed to end in a no, why even worry about it?

And I don't buy the "well you take the feedback so you can learn from it." You didn't do something wrong every time you get rejected. And just because you approach a girl and it leads to a hook up doesn't mean you did everything right. The point is your eyes should be open to learn and improve no matter what's going on, based on the person you want to develop into for you. But if you try to change what every particular woman that rejected you doesn't like about you, who are you but a people pleasing bitch?

Kakashi_1000_jutsu · 2024-08-05T03:12:13+00:00

A short(5'8-5'9") friend of mine, ugly and not rich at all was a master at pulling girls. Like literally he'd talk to a girl over the phone for a day and they'd be willing to do almost anything for him. I asked him multiple times how he was able to do that and every time he gave me the same answer, don't be afraid, KNOW that they too are normal human beings like everyone else and not some special unicorn. Try starting talking with them like you would with any other random stranger, in a friendly way. Try to make them feel comfortable at first and not show your cards immediately, once they've gotten a bit comfortable and opened up then you start teasing, slight flirting here and there, testing the waters. It'd give you an idea how much she is interested. I tried doing that and I got 2 dates within a week, though I had a slightly different approach to it. I'm not very good at texting and stuff so I'd try to just get her to meet me somehow and from there it was smooth sailing for me as talking to someone in person is my strength.

creeposo · 2024-08-04T16:39:00+00:00

When i fall in love, the most time

Lonely_Computer_2058 · 2024-08-04T21:40:49+00:00

Because I’m not their type or we don’t have chemistry together and I just move on to someone I do have that with.

Ok_Potential359 · 2024-08-04T23:24:11+00:00

Because I find dating to be exhausting and wallet draining. I might go on a dry spell but if I’ve got cash to burn, I can have a good time wherever I go.

Right now though I’m focused on rebuilding myself. Dating isn’t remotely a priority.

West_Hunter_7389 · 2024-08-05T00:34:22+00:00

I think the money is not the problem. Neither is the height. I'm tall, and I have the same success no matter if I work or not (which tends to zero)

RedAssassin628 · 2024-08-05T02:51:34+00:00

Mostly because they are young and still have unrealistic standards, usually becoming more realistic as they get older.

Kofuku- · 2024-08-05T09:02:30+00:00

78 times.

60 if I remember has told me they were dating someone else or married. Whether that’s a lie or the truth, no one will know.

Twice, I was told by two different girls, she doesn’t see me as dating material.

Once I was told I was too short to date. (I am 5’5) At least she was blunt.

One time I was friend-zoned and rejected 3 times by the same girl. Also said she isn’t interested in someone our age. She wanted someone 3-4 years older than her.

The other 11 times I was told that I’m seen like “a brother or just a friend”.

The last three I was told there’s a “girl code” and they won’t date me because of it. (My Sister’s friend, my friend’s sister, and a cousins friend.)

I was told I’m shooting for girls way out of my league, in terms of dating experience and looks. But I was also told to never settle for less. So, I’m just counting the years left until I hit 70 and die alone. :).

FrederickVonFanculen · 2024-08-04T18:48:40+00:00

You're right, women are terminators. They don't think "oh this guy just approached me with the usual lame pick up line "I saw you from over there and thought you're cute. what's your name". They instead have cybernetic vision that sees right into your bank account, and even your search history

Captain_w00t · 2024-08-04T21:50:55+00:00

Look and height aren’t important. It usually is because at least one of these reasons:

lack of confidence/charisma (this is where a lot of short guys fall: they’re rejected for their lack of confidence because they think height matters)
lack of self grooming
you aren’t their type (even if you’re conventionally attractive)
lack of social skills
lack of manners/style

Stop blaming external traits like height or money, they’re a problem when you make a problem out of them.

KarmicPlaneswalker · 2024-08-04T17:37:33+00:00

In my case i think is because i'm short and got no money

Same here. Those filthy sows who have an arbitrary height requirement aren't worth the time of day. Nor do they deserve to breathe the same air as the rest of us.

Bright side however, if you get enough of the second, you can buy some of the first (within reason); or ignore it completely while fanning yourself with a stack of $100 in the club.

Forsaken-Junket7631 · 2024-08-04T21:46:51+00:00

Nah, lots of short men have plenty of Rizz.

Look at Danny Devito.

Sure, he’s got money, but that’s never what women love about him.

He’s charming, funny, sensitive, etc.

Focus on the things you can fix, money & kindness, & Rizz.

The rest, leave the women who demand a 6’5” guy alone, they aren’t worth anyone’s time…let alone yours.

A lot of those women cave on the height thing.

Also, you can work on the money thing, but it’s not a deal breaker usually unless you aren’t even getting by.

Fabulous_Session_267 · 2024-08-04T17:29:30+00:00

Came off to insecure 🤷🏻

Junior-Impression541 · 2024-08-04T19:21:58+00:00

Looks maxing

Freezingrhyme · 2024-08-04T19:50:40+00:00

Never approached or asked anyone out so technically I've never been rejected.

aidsjohnson · 2024-08-04T20:25:27+00:00

For me it’s height, not much money, and skin colour.

tilldeathdoiparty · 2024-08-04T20:40:36+00:00

It’s none of my business what they think of me

BravoPUA · 2024-08-04T20:46:43+00:00

They don't

I reject THEM!

jjboy91 · 2024-08-04T22:04:37+00:00

Too small, don't fit beauty standards, minority

Romanticlibra · 2024-08-04T22:06:13+00:00

Because I think I look cool and mysterious when actually I look mentally challenged 💖

KingOnixTheThird · 2024-08-04T22:27:19+00:00

90% of women reject me on height alone. (I'm 5 ft 2)

90% of women reject me on autism alone.

There's your answer.

theonow · 2024-08-04T23:59:36+00:00

Because I reject myself for them.

RyanT321 · 2024-08-05T00:20:12+00:00

Im short and women majority of the time do not like short men

sjyler · 2024-08-05T00:52:15+00:00

Godisgoodkj142 · 2024-08-05T01:23:02+00:00

She’s just out of ur league. Straight up. Good thing is u can climb

jdaniel1999 · 2024-08-05T01:35:56+00:00

I think every woman has rejected me because our first interaction didn’t spark any immediate attraction or interest.

It’s really not that deep.

DiscombobulatedSqu1d · 2024-08-05T01:45:42+00:00

No stable job

LSATslay · 2024-08-05T02:56:37+00:00

It's for sure insecurity. I don't think I deserve shit.

It's also that I have no practice and I only date extremely attractive women who make it obvious they're into me. They blow me out because I make terrible mistakes and act weak.

I'm improving. But I really am not interested in a path paved by gaining experience with women who I'm not attracted to. I wish my standards weren't so high and I am not the guy who can meet those standards, so I'm doomed.

That being said, I have taken massive mindset steps recently. But I still lack skill at every step of the script.

Chemical_Maybe_1687 · 2024-08-05T03:51:51+00:00

Not being r8ch and extroverted

Noradonis · 2024-08-05T04:26:43+00:00

Why they reject me is none of my business and a sign that she's the wrong one. NEXT...

Xero_Darknezz · 2024-08-05T04:31:16+00:00

It's a case of the girl who doesn't want what I appear to be selling. I don't really dwell on it because I'd rather focus on the girls that are attracted to me than the ones that have rejected me.

burtmacklin-9 · 2024-08-05T05:23:40+00:00

We can never say exactly what made them reject you. It can sometimes be as basic as them being in a bad mood / u resemble of someone they dont like/ they just had a bad day.

Approaching women is a repetitive process where one get rejected 6/10 times on an average, you just have to keep going without it effecting you

All the best brother

muddymudd · 2024-08-05T05:38:18+00:00

I tell the biting truth

Truffles64 · 2024-08-05T05:38:24+00:00

Poor English

McPigg · 2024-08-05T07:14:41+00:00

Uglyness Weirdness/social misbehaviour Low status & money Needyness Lack of connection/compatibility

UVIV · 2024-08-05T07:46:04+00:00

That I am broke?

Doll_Maker_00 · 2024-08-05T07:58:46+00:00

Got too comfortable being single, now it is tough getting out of the comfort zone and even pursuing women, plus, as I'm older, I have my boundaries now..can't play along the mind games

Tldr; I don't talk.

UVIV · 2024-08-05T08:14:52+00:00

I think it’s because I’m broke.

But the fucking problem is, I can get women if I want. The problem is that I am investing into people that I am not particularly interested in. It’s like spending money and time for a dog-shit product that you are not interested in.

Another problem is I wanna be able to pick. I want pick women instead of women picking me. I find it so bullshit that they “have to” sit on the high horse and pick and choose every single ducking time! It’s so unfair!

I don’t give a shit who these bitches are. They don’t get to pick and choose all the time. Fuck ‘em! Women deserve less!

Spiritual_Word_7288 · 2024-08-05T10:26:32+00:00

The most common reason a men can be rejected today is the fact that most women are more sought after than ever.
Social media has evolved in the past few years and women get ALOT of attention from men.
A woman can post a photo of herself in a bikini and get thousands of messages from men.
This situation caused 2 things:
1- it will be harder for the average guy to find his match as he has to compete with thousands of other men.
2- women think they can get anyone they want, because they get too much attention on social media.

The way to deal with this, is to just separate yourself from the 99%. Know your worth, know how to flirt, be interesting, have confidence and high self esteem, become assertive. That is how you make them chase you and not the other way around. Because there are more like her, than men who value themselves in this world.
Feel free to follow me on instagram where i post daily about gaining confidence, becoming more assertive, and win the dating game.

Shot_Following_1679 · 2024-08-05T11:58:11+00:00

She went for the more attractive man with different life dynamics! Someone is out there for you. Be you, cheers y'all.

Silly_Randy · 2024-08-04T21:09:12+00:00

It's not because your short and have no money.

It's because you're being a pussy. Wake up.

Go gym. No money for gym. Then calisthenics.

Movies/ anime/ music/ TV shows/ social media is fake.

But you can make your own movie. How good your movie depends on how you live your life and which experiences you have.

CreativeInspector895 · 2024-08-04T22:23:00+00:00

If I was a woman I would reject someone because they are Indian

2024-08-04T20:03:16+00:00

My nose. Shit straight hair. Facial hair (i have a shitty shadow irl). Deformed tier height (5’9”). I only get rejected on hnminge first dates i refuse to approach females.

Title	What do you think is the reason woman reject you
Author	davidprado2020
Upvotes	59
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Date	August 4, 2024 4:10 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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