Women are emotional geniuses—and most men are stuck pretending not to feel

anonymousppd123123 · 2025-05-20T07:43:54+00:00

You're making a really dramatic description of a first breakup which happens to almost all people. New things outside of your comfort zone are scary. By the 3rd it's like pulling off a bandaid

Superannuated_punk · 2025-05-20T07:33:13+00:00

Yeah nah.

Women tend to be more emotionally literate on the whole, but there’s a fairly big crossover in the bell curves. I’d hardly describe most of them as geniuses.

Clean-Luck6428 · 2025-05-20T22:56:37+00:00

Collective emotional intelligence of all genders has nosedived in the past 15 years

Schleudergang1400 · 2025-05-20T16:17:40+00:00

Men, by nature and survival, often become emotional strategists.

Because men and women are different, have different roles, they evolved different strategies that are best suited for the roles they fill.

Female survival strategies in ancestral environments did favor greater emotional intelligence, especially: Sensitivity to infant cues (necessary for child survival). Ability to form and maintain social bonds (kin networks, coalition-building). Skill in empathizing and reading social context, including the emotional states of mates, rivals, and allies.

Women typically score higher in emotional empathy and social cognition. These traits would have adaptive value in caregiving, mate selection, and intra-group cooperation.

Men also evolved emotional regulation and strategic behavior, just often in different domains. Emotional detachment in battle or hunting. Risk-taking and status competition. Emotional self-control in leadership or coalitional aggression.

This means the ability to suppress or regulate emotional responses, especially in high-stress or high-stakes situations. This includes:

Inhibiting fear or panic during conflict
Suppressing impulsive anger or sadness
Delaying emotional gratification for strategic goals

In ancestral human groups, males who rose to leadership positions (within hunting bands or tribal hierarchies) needed to:

Appear calm and in control to maintain status
Mediate conflict without escalating it
Make strategic decisions without being clouded by fear, grief, or emotional volatility

It's a FEATURE to be able to suppress intense emotions, not a bug. There is a reason why men are less neurotic on average than women. It is beneficiala to men and women select for it in men.

ExcelsiorState718 · 2025-05-21T20:38:58+00:00

They're only good at emotional manipulation and using sex as a weapon that's it

Before dealing with a woman rub one out actually two,then see how well her genius works on your post nut clear mind.

Men are horny all the time women take advantage of it that doesn't take a genius.

A genius woman would have waited untill after Shannon Sharp got his 100 mil contract to sue him.

A genius Cassie wouldn't have had to get dragged beat and degraded to get the bag.

They are not genius they just know how to use men's primal desires against them but most of the time they barely get anything a lot of women ate in cold Graves from thinking they where some kind of genius and messing with a man's emotions

Stop gassing them up you gonna get someone hurt.

caption291 · 2025-05-20T10:49:19+00:00

I think it's actually the opposite. Women don't do a great job of separating good from bad emotions and just chase an emotional payoff RIGHT NOW without much consideration for well anything besides their current emotions. They aren't playing the long game. By example, a lot of women seem to be super careless about pushing men to a breaking point...that's because they aren't emotionally mature enough to understand "The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth". Instead women will interpret that statement as a threat and keep watching propaganda like Adolescence to FEEL better about themselves at the cost of an accurate understanding of reality.

Also no, Women manipulate because they want to win, not because they are poor little damsels in distress trying to survive the big bad wolves after them. If they were they wouldn't manipulate "offensively" as much as they do.

Southern_Source_2580 · 2025-05-20T07:20:15+00:00

"emotional geniuses"

I'll bite if women are emotional geniuses then why are there too many single mothers? Also evil behavior is present in both sexes but unless you know what per capita means then we can never convince the other to change.

Whiskeymyers75 · 2025-05-20T07:23:14+00:00

Why do posts like this always dismiss the benefits of going to the gym?

Jello_Vivid · 2025-05-20T13:42:41+00:00

The problem you have is that men are judged harshly for showing emotion especially by the opposite sex as typically women want a leader. I actually agree with the red pill talking point here that it's better to open up to other guys than it is to girls as they seem to judge you negatively and not consider you as a partner if you seem too emotional so it's best when dating to keep a stoic front and be grounded with women but find those male friends that got your back.

LumpyCorn · 2025-05-20T07:25:27+00:00

If you say so bud.

Shinta85 · 2025-05-20T13:35:20+00:00

This just feels like "woman good, man bad".

Hot-Impact-5860 · 2025-05-20T07:52:02+00:00

But what does he do? Does he cry? Process it? No.

Bro, it literally does not work. I can process all I want, if I'm hurt, I'm hurt and will stay hurt, until I move on. Then I have a new life and I emotionally bury the old one. We are very different creatures from women.

Outside-Travel-7903 · 2025-05-20T08:43:44+00:00

Have you ever considered that men do feel just as much as women, they've just learned that voicing it to anyone doesn't ever solve the problem? We don't air our dirty laundry because men just end up ridiculed. Why would a man under hardship do something to invite even more?

You say he doesn't cry, or process it. How do you know? Just because you have never been a good enough person that a man would ever want to open up to you about that info, says more about you than them. Your post has the tone of being the exact type of person emotional men would avoid.

Slow-Narwhal486 · 2025-05-20T09:33:32+00:00

There are plenty of emotionally stupid women in the world. The reality is, it takes time and effort to develop emotional intelligence. It’s typically not a skill set that people are just naturally born with, it takes work. It’s possible that women are able to do so a bit faster than men because it’s not quite as socially acceptable for men to express emotions. However, if there really is a difference of average EQ between the genders, it likely wouldn’t be a big difference.

I think women may potentially be more comfortable outwardly acknowledging their emotions, but that’s far from being able to legitimately understand and process their emotions. Most women I know have no problem identifying when they’re upset, but getting at the root of their issues, and overcoming them, is a completely different story.

wtknight · 2025-05-20T12:03:21+00:00

There are a lot of potential partners out there. There’s no need for either men or women to be that hurt. These relationships often don’t work out due to incompatibility. Not getting too emotional about them is, in fact, the healthy thing to do.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-05-20T14:21:36+00:00

Nope. The evidence says that male stoicism is both biological and conditioned

ChadChasingBReturns · 2025-05-20T15:30:00+00:00

None of the men in my life are this way. They have boundaries for themselves and they put their emotional needs as a priority too. Shock of all shocks, but they’re generally happy too.

AnotherHumanObserver · 2025-05-20T15:31:53+00:00

TL;DR: Women are emotionally ahead of most men—not because they’re manipulative in a cruel way, but because they’ve had to be.

Meanwhile, many men are emotionally dishonest, hiding heartbreak behind fake confidence and meaningless sex. The real tragedy is how men lie to themselves and each other, turning pain into performance instead of healing.

It may also be the case where men been that way because "they've had to be," since that's what is expected of them.

I'm old enough to remember back during the time when the "sensitive male" was kind of a thing - although it never really caught on in the long term. They'd say men "need to get in touch with their feelings," along with a lot of other pop psychology of the day.

I don't think men should lie to themselves about how they feel. To be aware of one's emotions gives one the ability to control them better. The real question is whether it's actually beneficial to share one's emotions with others.

One can simply be aware that there is a thing that one might feel bad about, and come to terms with it and learn to coexist with it. It's a matter of rational analysis and mental discipline.

It doesn't mean that men aren't in touch with their emotions or that they're lying to themselves or others, but there's no point in blubbering about it either.

And men are also good at the whole idea of using emotion to manipulate others. That's how political parties and armies are created (not to mention football teams).

sugmanutz13 · 2025-05-21T16:47:02+00:00

The imbalance is slowly becoming equal. With less need for gender roles, there is less of a gap between inherent male and female emotional intelligence. Many recognizable founders of modern thinking requiring very deep emotional intelligence have been both male and female. If I were to put your example into perspective, I would say that this specific problem has more to do with societal pressure and culture than emotional understanding and can be changed by teaching the next generation to be open and honest with themselves and others about what they feel.

AnxiousPeggingSlut · 2025-05-22T11:58:48+00:00

The commenter above literally said, essentially, to just turn the page

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Nephilim8 · 2025-05-27T23:37:44+00:00

Women are absolutely not emotional geniuses.

I've talked to women who openly admitted that their ability to pick men is exactly backwards: ignoring the good guys and picking the bad guys. But eventually, the fact that they're bad guys eventually catches up to them.

They understand how to use love, affection, and emotional presence in ways most men don’t even notice. Not because they’re evil or manipulative in a malicious sense—but because they had to learn emotional nuance to survive in a world that devalues their voices.

That is manipulative, and don't give people a free-pass because of some hypothetical "survive in a world that devalues their voices". That's like saying that the guy who robbed you isn't bad - he had to do that "to survive". Sorry, but that's a cop-out, and women have far more power than people admit. Men like women a lot more than women like men, and that gives women a lot of power. Women abuse power just like anyone with power abuses it.

Also, what a man says to your face about whether a breakup hurt has nothing to do with whether or not he acknowledges it in his own head.

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BobtheArcher2018 · 2025-05-20T08:32:58+00:00

The emotional aspect of the Male Burden of Performance isn't to be dispensed with. It needs to be re-articulated for the 21st Century and then culturally re-enforced. The genders are meant to be complementary, and each has their burdens. If men don't cultivate and re-enforce what they can bring to the table, why would women sit at that table?

Nobody likes 'weak' men in this way. We all get more icked out when a man acts weak emotionally than when a woman does, and this is never going to change. Stop trying to lean out and lean back IN. Feminizing men didn't help anybody. It produced a generation of men women don't want to fuck. There are ways to properly deal with male emotions and 'mental health' that do not involve trying to turn men into women.

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Dapper-Suggestion462 · 2025-05-20T15:00:41+00:00

Men- we want the bare minimum to be really low in relationships

Women- we want to be better than bare minimum

Nobody is a genius, we are all going with the flow

Title	Women are emotional geniuses—and most men are stuck pretending not to feel
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Date	May 20, 2025 7:17 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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