What advice do you give to the younger generation of your gender when it comes to dating the opposite gender

lesliecarbone · 2025-09-04T15:55:43+00:00

Always be willing and able to walk away.

Lysa_Bell · 2025-09-04T17:53:11+00:00

Never ever settle. Know your worth. Have your own money. Always be prepared to walk away. Make sure you fill your partners needs but also make sure your own are met. Always talk about the big compatibities before you get really serious: money, religion, sex, children, life goals, chores, time management, political alignment, family involvement, communication style, fights. EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION!

Lemon_gecko · 2025-09-04T15:49:22+00:00

Think about what you want and evaluate, does this person gives you that or not. Also voice what you want.

EducationPatient4622 · 2025-09-04T16:23:15+00:00

Respect yourself, forget about old school traditions.

attendquoi · 2025-09-04T16:59:10+00:00

Pick someone because you want them, not because you need them. And never settle.

Stunning-Potato-1984 · 2025-09-04T18:04:58+00:00

In no particular order.

Never send nudes. No matter how much you like him they can always be used against you maybe not even by him but they could end up in the wrong hands. If he's a decent guy he won't ever even ask for them.
Have fun date around don't commit too early. Primarily focus on friendships with women. Moving in with your boyfriend in your early 20s sounds fun until all you do is fight about bills.
Leading into that: don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy. Leave if it's not working how many years you've been together be damned.
Don't have kids if you're not married and financially well off. Birth control and plan B are cheaper than a baby.
Men perceive grooming as attractiveness (they are unaware and will completely deny it, trade secret). Not even kidding. If you feel unpretty and or lack confidence: YouTube hair and makeup tutorials, go to a good salon, get good bras that actually fit, get clothes you actually like and you feel confident in. You don't need 10 pairs of pants you are meh get a capsule wardrobe to start and just do laundry more often. He won't care if you're an outfit repeater. The sundress is a man slayer.
If he says you're so mature for your age: run. Unless you're doing it for the plot.
If you find a man you really really like: lock in. Show active interest and don't be afraid to say it. Don't wait, while other women are being coquettish hoping he'll ask them out you'll come out on top.
Make what you want clear upfront. Abort mission if you're not on the same page.
Skip OLD, it's like wading through a trash filled alligator infested swamp. You know those friends you have. Do events where friends of friends go out together. Make up stupid reasons to celebrate and do things.
Mostly though have fun. Build towards an independent future. Say yes to life.

growframe · 2025-09-04T17:06:36+00:00

I'm not that old, but I don't find dating gendered enough to warrant gendered advice.

The 3 golden rules are 1) Be attractive 2)Be social 3)Be sociable

There's more depth to how to achieve these, but on their own it's a foolproof formula for dating success.

Remarkable-Strain157 · 2025-09-04T15:49:14+00:00

Just be yourself

FrulioBandaris · 2025-09-04T15:54:03+00:00

Care about your partner's happiness. If you don't, why would you even want to be with them?

2025-09-04T15:47:15+00:00

Just be a kind and hecking decent person 😁

BlueMountainDace · 2025-09-04T15:44:33+00:00

The role models you want and need to thrive are not online. They’re in your neighborhood, your school, your place of worship. Those are real people who have gone through what you have. Go to them. They’ll help you figure it out.

jadzia_d4x · 2025-09-04T18:57:30+00:00

It takes a solid 2 years to actually know someone, and the younger you are the more likely both of you have changed. Butterflies are exciting and part of one type of love, but have very little to do with who you'll be happy with down the road.

Related, the most fulfilling relationships happen when people are compatible with how they adapt to change and communicate about it.

Grow_peace_in_Bedlam · 2025-09-05T00:54:28+00:00

As soon as you can get laid for free, just do it (safely and hygienically, of course)! Don't be like me, who was planning to save his virginity because he thought his future wife would appreciate it, and who rejected chances to fuck in high school because of a oneitis. Once you can say you're no longer a virgin, you'll loosen up, plus women don't seem to appreciate being waited for the way many men would. I lost it at 20, but I really should have taken my opportunities in high school.

Lift. It will build your confidence, and it will be easier to maintain all your life if you get in the habit early (but safely).

Don't put women on a pedestal. They're just as superficial as you are, plus unlike you, they're usually not specifically taught to be nice to you (since Western society has in large part deemed it sexist to suggest that women aren't born perfect and might need to be taught how to be kind to their future partners the way men are).

Don't be afraid to not be nice. Get rid of that people-pleasing, self-effacing bullshit you're raised with that just makes you less attractive and easier to manipulate.

Sea_Life654 · 2025-09-04T18:11:58+00:00

Balance in all things. I was raised by women in a left wing household and I was shocked that when I got out into the real world some of the “red pill” “sleazy uncle” style advice was so effective.

So yeah just don’t go too far in either direction. Sometimes it’s good to spin plates and be aloof. Sometimes it’s time to buy flowers and meet her parents.

MongoBobalossus · 2025-09-04T15:39:23+00:00

Get in shape, don’t be afraid to approach, and don’t put the pussy on a pedestal.

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DGenerationMC · 2025-09-04T19:51:15+00:00

If you want peace, prepare for war......... with yourself and others.

ImpossibleCandy794 · 2025-09-05T02:49:09+00:00

Drink Milk to be tall and take care of your skin. The rest wont matter if you dont have those two above the average

Only_Excitement6594 · 2025-09-05T05:40:38+00:00

Be sure to know the other well, new people will only show a mask.

SexCrispies · 2025-09-05T08:08:08+00:00

Don't be afraid to offend someone.

Psykotyrant · 2025-09-05T08:51:42+00:00

Don’t. You’re better off alone. She doesn’t like you, you’re only useful to her, she knows she can do better easily. By now it’s been rigorously proven that people only ever hurt each other. Embrace individualism.

Mission-Jicama-8747 · 2025-09-05T14:02:52+00:00

In todays society, she's not yours, it's just your turn.

Nothing else summarizes modern relationships more succinctly.

MichaelsAltMan · 2025-09-06T01:00:38+00:00

Rules 1 and 2.

Logical_Breadfruit49 · 2025-09-06T11:14:29+00:00

One word. Plastics.

Bosefus1417 · 2025-09-07T02:20:07+00:00

Find someone that has similar values, goals, and interests to you and be devoted to them and expect the same back towards yourself.

bellahamface · 2025-09-10T14:24:04+00:00

Divorced 40’s male.

Men, do not marry in your 20’s or 30’s until you have had experience with women. The risks are too high and you’re doomed for failure or codependency until you gain understanding and respect for yourself.

Same can be said for women, but they simply do lot have the genetics to pull this off like men. Reality.

Neptune-Jnr · 2025-09-04T15:51:19+00:00

Work on superficial and unimportant things and earn more money.

AlmostKindaGreat · 2025-09-04T16:50:44+00:00

3 things for young men

1. Decide on your values and stick to them. Hopefully they include kindness, honesty, and loyalty. Do this for yourself only, to be the person you want to be. These things help you make friends and sustain a relationship but not attract a mate. Regardless, never do this to receive a benefit. Do this because it's who you want to be. Have something that you value that nobody can take away from you.

2. Play the game and be attractive. Men and women are attracted to shallow things. Do the things that attract women. It's not just looks, behaviors are just as important. All shallow and arbitrary but that's what it takes. Almost all male animals have to do weird things to attract mates and so do you. Don't take it too seriously and have fun with it.

3. Have boundaries and always be willing to walk away. Even otherwise decent people will treat you horribly in a relationship if you let them. Sometimes the other person just needs to mature but whatever the reason it's not worth staying with someone who treats you like crap, even if you think they're a catch or you'll never find anyone else. Those things are likely not as true as you think they are.

throwaway73737828 · 2025-09-04T16:27:01+00:00

Be obsessed with your looks, especially if you are in 6th class till the end of high school.

DifferentVillage5152 · 2025-09-04T15:34:37+00:00

never trust women

IridikronsNo1Fan · 2025-09-04T15:30:01+00:00

Stop wasting your time and get to work.

Don't listen to people who say that they went to the gym and it didn't help them with dating. They most likely did some nonsense routine that resulted in zero muscle gain. You need a solid physique and then it works.

Then maximize your money and status. Those are just as important as a solid physique.

7186997326 · 2025-09-05T06:07:30+00:00

Figure out how to get your own place. In this day and age that will really differentiate you from many others.
Get it shape. Nothing crazy but be able to do at least 5 clean pull ups.
Get outside and just talk to women. Seriously, the best way to find someone that finds you attractive is to just interact with everyone that is willing until you make a connection.

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2025-09-05T08:01:30+00:00

Listen to what people show you not what they say words are easy

AreOut · 2025-09-04T20:40:43+00:00

keep bf% in low tens, dress well and be sociable

Virtual-Pilot3736 · 2025-09-04T17:27:39+00:00

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Title	What advice do you give to the younger generation of your gender when it comes to dating the opposite gender
Author	Mountain_Resident_34
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Date	September 4, 2025 2:02 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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