Because women find male sexuality annoying sometimes too. A lot of the times, actually. So much so that there are entire widespread leftist ideologies pathologizing certain aspects of male sexuality.

A good example is a pair of videos that were made a while ago. In one, a woman goes up to 100 random men on the streets, asking them if they would like to have sex with her. In the other, a man does the same with 100 women. Obviously the results were quite different. Iirc around 30-40 men said yes to the woman and 0 women said yes to the man.

Now, there is a sizeable chunk of leftist gender-thinkers who would explain this as men being brainwashed by patriarchy and seeing women as non-human objects they can just collect, cause that makes other men respect them. Stuff like that. It's their primary explanation, and to me that's just a reflection of an enormous amount of discomfort with male sexuality and unwillingness to look at parts of it.

Similar deal with men liking young women. Or even just watching porn. Women's collective discomfort is so thick in the air, you can almost slice it.

And I understand that some men do some creepy or straight horrible stuff and that women are vary for a reason, it sucks that many women have bad experiences, harassment, catcalling, guys being weird and pushy. But still, if we take a step back and see the core of my above examples as largely biological differences, and if a man attempts to be in peace with his own sexuality, then all of this can be seen as more neutral. Again, at the core. Men being different like this isn't fundamentally wrong.

However, even if men's idiocy got greatly reduced, I still think women would find these aspects of male sexuality annoying sometimes. And that in and of itself is going to be somehwat two-way by definition. If it's a contrast that is partly natural and at least a little bit annoying for one side - duh - then how on earth would that not be annoying for the other side?

In my opinion, the healthiest gender relations we can achieve would NOT be devoid of gendered annoyance. That's a false societal goal. And this is actually important to acknowledge, otherwise we will forever be stuck in this endless nitpicking of the other side's "whining". Currently, I think this is something that women need to hear more. I'm not saying they should accept some edgelord's every word, I'm saying they should consider some level of male annoyance of female sexuality existing at least deep down, and if they could ever be okay with anything like that. It's not nice to throw it in random women's faces or to let it paint your behaviour when you try to interact with them, but depending on the context, these things should probably have a time and place to be expressed still.

It's very unlikely I would date a 19 years old as a decade older guy, but I think they can in fact be very attractive. What's the opposite of the annoyance every woman feels when they read this sentence? Something like... I find it annoying how un-arousing women find inexperience or weakness, how fickle their arousal can come across. Something along those lines. Is that really misoginy, or me being brainwashed? I think it's pretty straightforward, and I think accepting that would be part of accepting our differences.