Life after Divorce

teodir · 2026-03-25T12:01:54+00:00

Honestly.....Both

Right after, there were moments of sadness. Not because I wanted the relationship back, but because I was letting go of what I thought it was.

But very quickly, peace. Real peace. No tension, no walking on eggshells, no constant pressure.

Now, most of the time, I feel calm, clear, and actually happy. I enjoy my own space, my time with my kids, and I don’t feel drained anymore.

So yeah… a bit of sadness at the beginning but, what replaced it is something much better: stability and peace.

MarkAylward13 · 2026-03-23T13:52:17+00:00

Happy and peaceful...it took a while and some simple healthy habits. It started to turn as soon as I took back control of my own shit. As soon as I stopped feeling sorry for myself and recognized that my future was up to me. No other things or people...just me

dday_throwaway3 · 2026-03-23T13:31:15+00:00

I'm living my best life. It the best revenge. Eight years later and she's still a bitter harpy.

ITCHYisSylar · 2026-03-22T10:52:33+00:00

Ill tell you later this year. Just started

AffectionateCold9 · 2026-03-21T22:08:23+00:00

Shit, sad, lonely, miserable and depressing as fuck.

KingJon85 · 2026-03-21T13:59:07+00:00

Im about 6 months post separation and divorced since late December. It was certainly rough for awhile, but it's getting better recently.

I actually had to see my ex face to face last weekend and to my surprise, I didn't feel anything. She is a habitual liar and cheater. There is nothing to miss.

Literally the only thing I miss about her is sex. And even that wasn't that great with her.

Some days I want a girlfriend but im enjoying my peace and quiet too much. The silence of an empty home was painful at first but now i see it as a blessing.

Hopefully i can find a woman to have some fun with in the future, but im not out looking, and I probably won't be for awhile. I have other things to focus my energy on.

dukeofthefoothills1 · 2026-03-21T07:05:14+00:00

Peaceful, boring, improved.

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2026-03-21T02:07:34+00:00

2 years out and it’s way better. Dating was a roller coaster but eventually found a good one. Bought a house and just work OT to offset the financial hit. I enjoy my time with kids and just feel at peace now.

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2026-03-21T01:38:14+00:00

Different. That’s for sure.

I was just like most of us, happy wife happy life, paid everything, she cheated on me and left, but not before taking half of my net worth.

“Simping” is what the kids are calling these days.

But I’m learning.

Women? Never again!

Putting myself first. I don’t even care about sex anymore. It’s not worth it. And women my age will date for life. Meaning there are some that just live in a temp apt until they find some guy they can leach off like a parasite and repeat what just happened to me.

But I’m not preaching to anyone, just telling it like it’s been.

koskesh122 · 2026-03-21T00:50:39+00:00

Mostly happier and better, but it took a lot of self work, prayer, and maturing to get here. I see my kids every other weekend, pay CS, and my ex routinely denies visitation. But I'm keeping it together and focusing on rebuilding my life. 5 - years post divorce

ChipChip17 · 2026-03-21T00:46:33+00:00

2.5 years post separation and I'm getting better. Some days I feel great while others I feel very down and miss the ex like crazy. However the relationship with my son post separation is infinitely better!

Mangrove43 · 2026-03-21T00:40:11+00:00

About 6 years. Peaceful less people but that’s fine. In control of my time

Federal_Repair1094 · 2026-03-21T00:30:32+00:00

Will be 5 years out end of April. Based on what has gone on with ex since divorce I am lucky to be out of it.

I enjoy my solitude and trying to date has made me skeptical of getting into another relationship that puts my faith in someone.

I’m upset for my daughter ultimately having to deal with divorced parents.

Terrible-Mind2633 · 2026-03-21T00:30:24+00:00

Its been terrible lol, the life I was planning on was suddenly ripped away from me. The person that I put at the center of my world and trusted left me, monkey branched, and most likely cheated on me (multiple photos on social media and going on a vacation with a another guy) and did who knows what else. And I’ve been just mourning for the last three years. Im just starting to get past the more emotional phase of things. Worst part now is I’m 34 starting over, wasted these last several years at a job because it gave me stability for her not because I like all that much. Kinda have no purpose, almost want to go back into the service just to feel a sense of identity/purpose again. I will say I have almost no drama and I live comfortably and have more money that I just save or invest, feels sorta empty though.

No-Spinach-169 · 2026-03-21T00:22:54+00:00

Five years out. I never realized a man could be this happy!!

Cheddar18 · 2026-03-20T23:54:06+00:00

Only a few months out but an absolute wreck:(

Edit: sorry am high doom scrolling on reddit, am a girl & didn't realize this was the men's page. Thank you though for being thoughtful 💕

ShaunyP_OKC · 2026-03-20T23:43:42+00:00

I'm a little over 3 years out. I'm mostly happy and wouldn't change anything, but there's definitely still some bad mood days. I think my situation was an extreme one though, so it was always going to he harder.

MarshmallowPop · 2026-03-20T23:18:21+00:00

Sad and miserable, though the process isn’t finalized yet.

I really loved her. We both messed up, I own my mistakes, but I really wanted to stay with her.

Reflog1791 · 2026-03-20T23:15:56+00:00

Wonderful after escaping cheating ex wife with the shirt on my back, a reasonable CS payment, no alimony, and a chunk of cash from the equity in the house that my ex got.

Most people that are miserable after divorce made a fatal decision along the way.

It’s your life not Reddits. A wise male counselor helped me answer this question and it worked.

IcyMycologist4837 · 2026-03-20T23:13:34+00:00

Mostly happy, definitely peaceful, occasionally boring or lonely but not much. Still need to find a good group of buddies that are close by to hang with.

sam_lathrop · 2026-03-20T23:09:53+00:00

All of the above 😂 but on the up and up my friend

Title	Life after Divorce
Author	A-aronthestar
Upvotes	24
Comments	46
Date	March 20, 2026 10:53 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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