CMV: If a woman gives blowjobs to other guys but not her current guy, she isn't attracted to her current guy.

V_GMan · 2018-02-09T20:50:46+00:00

People are getting focused here on the blowjob thing, and omitting a far more frequent problem that raises up every now and then at /r/sex and at /r/relationships , which is the case of women unwilling to do sexual things with their Husband/Boyfriend/SO, sexual things that they willingly did with previous lovers.

If a woman is "sluttier" for another man than she is for her BF/Husband/SO, then she is (unintentionally) telling him "hey, you are not as good as a turn on as the last guy". For a man, there is no feeling more emasculating than that.

carefreevermillion · 2018-02-09T21:26:10+00:00

Or maybe he won't go down on her :P I love giving blowjobs but I'm not doing it for free.

SmurfESmurferson · 2018-02-09T19:52:10+00:00

Where are you finding women who are withholding BJs?

MercedesBenzoAMG · 2018-02-09T22:14:54+00:00

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alreadyredschool · 2018-02-09T19:50:54+00:00

It's because she is too comfortable with him.

Electra_Cute · 2018-02-09T19:56:00+00:00

What if his penis has an odor, but other than that she is attracted to him?

FairlyNaive · 2018-02-09T19:50:41+00:00

I mean, dont make such quick judgements, her jaw could be broken.

Naya3333 · 2018-02-09T22:58:32+00:00

Not all dicks are created equal. Some dicks are easier to suck and some are harder. Small dicks are easier to suck, for instance. Also, some men finish fast from a blow job, anf some men never finish from a blow job. There's also the question of hygiene, of course. No one wants to suck a smelly dick.

shoup88 · 2018-02-09T20:38:49+00:00

Sometimes couples get into ruts where do the exact same thing over and over again because it (mostly) works. It might not be that she's unattracted to him, but that they're both too comfortable in their routine and blowjobs are something that fell off the radar.

My partner went through a slump where he stopped going down on me until I was like, what the fuck. He was just in the habit of doing the same old thing and didn't realize until I pointed it out.

But honestly, I've never heard of a woman irl who doesn't give blowjobs.

glassangelrose · 2018-02-09T21:16:04+00:00

people's tastes change. It's possible they used to like it and now don't. Or they never really liked it and are finally speaking up for themselves.

VoidInvincible · 2018-02-10T03:42:30+00:00

If her current guy has a monster cock, I could see why she wouldn't. Monster cocks are overrated, by the way.

newName543456 · 2018-02-11T23:56:49+00:00

Or she could've been an escort.

1UPZ_ · 2018-02-12T09:06:53+00:00

lol

or she's a whore, who is excited by cheating on her partner.

She's obviously attracted to her partner, but its the excitement of being with others make her very sexual.... you dont get into relationships with these people.

pinkgoldrose · 2018-02-10T03:08:25+00:00

Women don't "lust" and don't "crave to devour a dick" because women aren't men. Women give blowjobs to please their partner and if they act like they like it it's because porn brainwashed them into playing the part and believing it themselves. There are two reasons why she could stop giving blowjobs: 1) she became a bitch who doesn't want to do things for other people anymore or 2) her new guy said he doesn't like blowjobs that much.

RockinSocksII · 2018-02-09T20:06:45+00:00

What if he's way bigger than the previous guys she has been with?

Edit: Common courtesy is to not downvote in this sub unless you don't think it contributes to discussion.

reluctantly_red · 2018-02-09T23:31:41+00:00

Also, if she stops giving you BJs you know there's a problem.

Littleknownfacts · 2018-02-09T19:51:13+00:00

A) this doesn't happen. What actually happens in real life is that she gives him plenty of blow jobs at the beginning of the relationship, when attraction and lust are high, and as lust gives way to familial love, blow jobs fade away.

B) If blow jobs are so important to a man to feel loved, don't date/marry a woman that doesn't give you blow jobs and you will never have this problem. If you are fine living with this particular woman that doesn't give you blow jobs, why does it matter that some guy in the past got blow jobs?

kandyapplez · 2018-02-09T20:20:38+00:00

I don't know anyone who "doesn't give blowjobs" in my urban under 30 crowd.

I agree with the person who said its just simply as women get older they are less lusty for their long term partner after years of watching him shit with the door open and just don't see him as an object of desire anymore.

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rebeccarouge · 2018-02-10T01:47:44+00:00

I gave them to previous bfs. I didn't with one of them because he had poor hygiene due to the foreskin not pulling back. I'd only let that thing near me if it was inside a condom and even then. It was rare. Mostly hand stuff to keep him happy followed by a quick hand washing.

AstuteBlackMan · 2018-02-10T03:28:57+00:00

Nothing to change here. There are plenty of women who get married and turn down sex or blowjobs.

GoldPilot · 2018-02-10T05:29:32+00:00

That's certainly possible, but there could be other reasons from person to person.

Maybe in her first relationship her boyfriend pressured her into it, and she never liked it. Maybe she felt she had to do it to keep her boyfriends around. Then, she meets you; a guy she clicks with, and is so comfortable around that she doesn't need to put on airs, so she stops doing something she already hated doing because she doesn't know you like it.

Maybe it's possible that this hypothetical woman loves you so much that she doesn't feel the need to suck your dick.

Probably not, though. I'm just ~~snowballing~~ spitballing here.

VDKay · 2018-02-10T11:06:27+00:00

When a girl does sexual acts with a guy who is not her BF (or husband), this is called cheating. It means that at some point she wanted to perform that sexual act. It does not mean that she is not attracted to her BF, it does not mean that she likes the other guys more. It simply means that at some point, she thought it was a good idea (with whatever that means for her relationship)

Would the answer be more obvious of we flipped the genders? I don't think there would be a man who would not fuck the brains out of Megan Fox if given the chance. Would he stop being attracted to his GF? Probably not. But it is still cheating.

Priene · 2018-02-10T12:44:34+00:00

Maybe he has a big cock. Do you know how uncomfortable it is for a woman to suck a big cock? Especially if he doesn't orgasm fast and she has to be there using her jaw like a marble sculptor using his hands and tools for hours on end.

How about shaving? Does he shave his cock? Nothing a woman loves more than a mouhtful of pubes to clog her throat.

[deleted] · 2018-02-10T20:29:21+00:00

I mean... I don't give blowjobs to my current guy because he's too big for my mouth (he's just massive, guys).

I miss blowjobs, but unfortunately, he likes my teeth far away from his cock. :/

Willow-girl · 2018-02-10T22:07:09+00:00

There are a lot of variables in this equation ... size, personal hygiene, length of time to ejaculation, whether the guy tries to face-fuck her and makes her gag (if she's not into that).

[deleted] · 2018-02-09T23:39:19+00:00

What if his dick is too big and hurts her jaw? What if the guys she gave blowjobs to in the past where abusive assholes who forced her to? What if she's had surgery on her mouth and is now no longer capable of comfortable giving blowjobs?

I don't understand this idea of comparing your partner's behaviour with you with the way she was with her exes. Would it really matter if she never gave blowjobs at all? IMO, she'd still be incompatible.

Title	CMV: If a woman gives blowjobs to other guys but not her current guy, she isn't attracted to her current guy.
Author	zarmock
Upvotes	30
Comments	270
Date	February 9, 2018 7:46 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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