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TL;DR Woman meets perfect guy with a good job. Sees a meaningful relationship with him so what does she do to set a good impression? Sleep with him on the first date.
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we have one intellectual conversation after another. i majored in something kind of cool in college, and he wanted "to pick my brain" (his words).
Yea..he was just interested in getting in your pants and did what he needed to do so.
he didn't seem like someone that would think something as close minded as "hit it and quit it."
end of the night rolls around, and i mention to him that he could stay the night, since we had been drinking, but instead, he jets out of the door
Is it really a surprise that he wouldn't want to see someone that would give it up on the first date?
i've never slept with a guy and thought "ha, got what i wanted..... BYYYYYYYEEEEE"
Because most women don't go out looking for sex. They're usually looking for a relationship.
O AM I STUPID FOR THINKING THAT IT WAS OKAY TO SLEEP WITH A GUY I WAS PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY ATTRACTED TO ON THE FIRST DATE?
Yes. But the comments tell her otherwise.
It's ok to sleep with someone on the first date if you're feeling it (and being safe). Maybe he wasn't feeling it, maybe he got nervous, etc. If he doesn't contact you, you will find someone else.
Please don't worry about it too much. Maybe you being okay with sleeping with him after the first date did scare him off, but that doesn't mean it comes off as desperate or that its not okay.
Don't blame yourself for anything here. You can't expect to know how someone will react to anything you do on a date, the best you can do is be genuine and that's what you did.
there is nothing wrong with having sex with another consenting adult if you want to. No matter if you just met them 5 minutes before, or 5 years before. Do what makes YOU comfortable, as long as they are also comfortable with it. Period.
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